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never let the fact that you were born a girl stop you from being the gayest man alive
A question that I've been wondering about on and off for a while...
How do most people define the word "cruel"?
It's a word that gets used a lot, in both real life discourse and character analysis, and often as part of arguments, where one person will say X is cruel, and another will say of course X isn't cruel, what are you talking about? But I'm not sure people are actually all defining the word the same way.
For a long time I had it in my head that "cruel" was basically defined as "hurting other people for the fun of it; someone who enjoys hurting people"--a synonym for "sadistic", essentially, but without conflating kink in with malicious harm.
Looking it up, I see most dictionary definitions don't specifically mention enjoyment, though some do, but do define it as something like "intentionally causing pain to people or animals" or "inflicting suffering without pity or mercy", or other definitions that imply intent, malice and a lack of remorse.
In discussion more generally, though, I often see the word used in ways that seems contradictory to those definitions. "She had good intentions, but it was still cruel", or "they were being cruel even if they didn't know it". If "cruel" is defined as "going out of your way to hurt people just because you want to hurt them" or something similar, then it's not something you can do unintentionally, but it seems a lot of people believe someone can in fact be cruel unintentionally.
I wonder if this is part of why discourse can get so heated--if one side of an argument is saying "X [a person or character] is cruel" meaning "X has caused significant harm" and the other side of the argument, who might even agree that X has caused significant harm, thinks the person saying "X is cruel" is saying "X kicks puppies for fun."
How most people on Tumblr define a word and how most people in general define it might be different, of course, but I thought I might as well do a poll:
What does "cruel" mean to you?
Extreme sadism, causing harm purely to enjoy the suffering of others
Deliberately hurting people, not necessarily for fun, but without regret
Knowingly harming someone, even if you regret it
You can be cruel even if you didn't know you were causing harm
Nuance in some other direction (like whether it's for selfish reasons?)
See results
Interesting to see a few people in the notes talking about it needing to be unnecessary/you could have chosen to do it differently.
Meanwhile sometimes I see discussions bring up the idea of "it was cruel, but it had to be done" or similar.
But also what's necessary is itself very divisive quite often. Sometimes even if a story clearly intends to present e.g. killing someone as necessary, there will be people in the audience who react with "actually I don't think it was"--sometimes it can even feel like the author is insisting something is necessary when it really isn't because they're being edgy (for instance all the stories that frame torture as "but it was necessary because it was the only way to get the information they needed" when it's actually known that torture very rarely produces accurate information and so is never "necessary" for that purpose because it tends to actually be counterproductive).
Then on the other hand you get characters who 100% believe their actions were necessary and the only way, but they're wrong--either because they genuinely didn't know, or less sympathetically because they're fanatics of some kind... And then there's stories that leave it deliberately ambiguous whether it really was the only way or not.
I've definitely seen characters described by the fandom (by fans who dislike them) as "cruel" who 100% believe their actions were necessary for a good cause such as saving the world, and I don't know if that's because those fans disagree that it was the only way, or if they think that the fact it was necessary isn't relevant.
A question that I've been wondering about on and off for a while...
How do most people define the word "cruel"?
It's a word that gets used a lot, in both real life discourse and character analysis, and often as part of arguments, where one person will say X is cruel, and another will say of course X isn't cruel, what are you talking about? But I'm not sure people are actually all defining the word the same way.
For a long time I had it in my head that "cruel" was basically defined as "hurting other people for the fun of it; someone who enjoys hurting people"--a synonym for "sadistic", essentially, but without conflating kink in with malicious harm.
Looking it up, I see most dictionary definitions don't specifically mention enjoyment, though some do, but do define it as something like "intentionally causing pain to people or animals" or "inflicting suffering without pity or mercy", or other definitions that imply intent, malice and a lack of remorse.
In discussion more generally, though, I often see the word used in ways that seems contradictory to those definitions. "She had good intentions, but it was still cruel", or "they were being cruel even if they didn't know it". If "cruel" is defined as "going out of your way to hurt people just because you want to hurt them" or something similar, then it's not something you can do unintentionally, but it seems a lot of people believe someone can in fact be cruel unintentionally.
I wonder if this is part of why discourse can get so heated--if one side of an argument is saying "X [a person or character] is cruel" meaning "X has caused significant harm" and the other side of the argument, who might even agree that X has caused significant harm, thinks the person saying "X is cruel" is saying "X kicks puppies for fun."
How most people on Tumblr define a word and how most people in general define it might be different, of course, but I thought I might as well do a poll:
What does "cruel" mean to you?
Extreme sadism, causing harm purely to enjoy the suffering of others
Deliberately hurting people, not necessarily for fun, but without regret
Knowingly harming someone, even if you regret it
You can be cruel even if you didn't know you were causing harm
Nuance in some other direction (like whether it's for selfish reasons?)
See results
We know that we cannot take the current President's statements at face value. But in light of Trump's recent speech where he claimed that he's "saved" NASA and always supported them (which isn't true), I wanted to elaborate on some of this.
He's slashed the budget, forced removal of DEI history and contributions at NASA, and caused many NASA workers' unemployment. I have worked closely with people in these spheres and know that the budget cuts have deeply jeopardized the future space missions, space exploration, and space science.
My close friends and colleagues, especially those relying on DEI programs, have had such a difficult time during this administration, and we still are. This program found some success with Artemis II and beyond in spite of the current administration's lack of support and lack of funding.
You can read more details here.
This is all the more reason you guys have to stop circulating shit about Artemis II being “US army propaganda.” Along with that it just isn’t, all those arguments are various forms of associating this with Trump “but leftishly.” In fact I don’t think he should get credit for a program from an agency he’s done everything he can to kneecap at every turn. You don’t have to give it to him!
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I boosted this on Bluesky, but I'll do so here as well.
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If you guys were on here at 11 years old what would you be posting about
Doctor Who. Dragons. Werewolves. Probably with a mad-science-core/mad scientist roleplay sideblog.
What’s a stereotypical food from ur culture that u absolutely love.
ok chat I got another question for you.
my coworker recently told me "it's normal for your bedroom to not have a door lock".
to which I looked at him with abject horror.
Were you allowed to lock your bedroom door growing up?
Not even allowed to have it closed
No. parent's house, parents rules, etc.
This wasn't a problem for me
My privacy was respected (yes)
I did not have a lock and for a number of years in my teens I didn’t even have a DOOR.
Bedroom doors typically don't have locks, in my experience. They don't where I live now, they didn't when I lived with my parents, either on my door or on theirs. The only inside doors with locks at my parents' place were the bathrooms, and as they had a tendency to get stuck I was advised not to use that so as not to get locked in (no, no-one ever walked in on me, if the door was closed there was someone in there and you didn't go in).
My privacy has always been respected, not because of locks, but because if a door is closed you don't enter without knocking. I've pretty much never seen a bedroom door with a lock, or any non-bathroom with a lock on the door, in any house or flat I've been in--maybe once or twice but it's not common. And if you have to lock your door to keep your own family out of your room like they're burglars instead of knowing that they won't come in unless you say they can...well, they don't sound pleasant, certainly.
Hi hello! I don't know if you're still into willsker but do you know in the Chinese willsker fandom, the moment when they part ways is called the elevator divorced scene.
I did not know that but that's perfect.
do you think you'd ever update ur riff raff whump fic, I just found it and its so good omg
I want to! I've just been quite focussed on other things, and also I want to edit (not change anything major just polish the prose a bit) the earlier chapters because I was trying to write them in a hurry for an event.
But yes, one day I will.
And thank you, I'm so glad you like it, that encourages me to want to go back to it!
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At a certain point during watching a bunch of Dracula adaptations, you ask yourself: Is it me? Am I crazy? Did I miss the subtext? Am I bad at reading Dracula? Am I the world's greatest fraud?
And then you go back and reread some sections and feel immense relief.
tfw "popular" fanon becomes so embedded in a fandom & discussions within fandom spaces that people just start treating it as the default and all interactions with others are coloured by this interpretation. have you considered that I actually don't subscribe to this take, which is nowhere in the source material? wait nvm, clearly not.
I'm never muting this post I love learning about fandom beef I'd never ever considered before
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Hot take (semi-serious) : game in which humans have a Con penalty as they're the fragile mortals, elves have neither a bonus nor a penalty to Con and dwarves have the usual bonus to it