My gosh - Perceived isolation
I just wrote an essay that disappeared...:(
Lets see how much of what I wrote that I remember.
Perceived isolation also known as loneliness is 4x more lethal than obesity. It reconstructs your brain, and can cause inflammation to your nervous system. In essence it kills you.
We are social, that is how we are wired. When we perceive ourselves as being isolated from others it sends the brain to high alert, a state that it assumes regularly. Relaxing, calming down is thought to put you in danger, it therefore promotes your brain and behavior to self preserve.
This make lonely people very wary - of new situation and in particular people. In fact, perceived loneliness can alter your genes and memory which triggers an even more intense perseverance.
It also makes you more selfish. In experiments with lonely participants, their response was more self directing when they witnessed harm occurring to other people. They were more aware of the one immediate threat and therefore acted less empathically towards others.
They are also more to the perimeters. They are usually found on the outer perimeters of many different contexts, geographical location, parties etc. What is interesting about this is that even people that once were social and become lonely have a tendency to migrate to the outer perimeters and now also socialize with people that are less social.
Loneliness makes you more depressed, hostil, less socially adept, fear negative evaluation and puts you in a more negative mood.
I always thought of loneliness as a symptom of what was wrong with you. Me being less than I am supposed to be and feel. Being lonely biologically triggers you to feel weaker, and socially it is strongly associated with feeling unworthy, loser or 'mobbad'. But you can also think of it like this:
Attend to your loneliness as you would hunger, thirst, sleep. It is a symptom not of who you are but rather what you need. Don't be discouraged go and get it.
What has helped me it a somewhat counter intuitive concept. Surrender to the perceived threat or fear. By reading this you should know, your fears are often intensified and not objective. So by surrendering to what seems like a threat, you are actually just facing a real situation. Honor you ability to choose to be vulnerable.
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