Whip One Out

I am not a functioning member of society

[embrace-your-earth]

I despise everything about Donald Trump

Reblog if you’re in agreement

[duskenpath]

Guys I just realized the last supper was the first murder mystery dinner!!!

[duskenpath]

My Roman Catholic parents did not find this as funny and thought provoking as I did

[geekdawson]

one of the more valuable things I’ve learned in life as a survivor of a mentally unstable parent is that it is likely that no one has thought through it as much as you have. 

no, your friend probably has not noticed they cut you off four times in this conversation. 

no, your brother didn’t realize his music was that loud while you were studying. 

no, your bff or S.O. doesn’t remember that you’re on a tight deadline right now.

no, no one else is paying attention to the four power dynamics at play in your friend group right now.  

a habit of abused kids, especially kids with unstable parents, is the tendency to notice every little detail. We magnify small nuances into major things, largely because small nuances quickly became breaking points for parents. Managing moods, reading the room, perceiving danger in the order of words, the shift of body weight….it’s all a natural outgrowth of trying to manage unstable parents from a young age. 

Here’s the thing: most people don’t do that. I’m not saying everyone else is oblivious, I’m saying the over analysis of minor nuances is a habit of abuse. 

I have a rule: I do not respond to subtext. This includes guilt tripping, silent treatments, passive aggressive behavior, etc. I see it. I notice it. I even sometimes have to analyze it and take a deep breath and CHOOSE not to respond. Because whether it’s really there or just me over-reading things that actually don’t mean anything, the habit of lending credence to the part of me that sees danger in the wrong shift of body weight…that’s toxic for me. And dangerous to my relationships. 

The best thing I ever did for myself and my relationships was insist upon frank communication and a categorical denial of subtext. For some people this is a moral stance. For survivors of mentally unstable parents this is a requirement of recovery. 

[steaktalk]

This is so great

I saved it and you should too

[guy]

someone: what are your plans for the weekend

me: who knows

me: (i know)

me: (i'm not leaving the house)

[realmymelody]

i just wanna have soft glowy skin, long eyelashes, pink lips, rosy cheeks, lots of cash and no responsibilities

[taquito]

tomorrow is a day

[yassmines]

allegedly

[wormtitty]

“what the fuck is wrong with me?” i ask, fully aware of the mood, personality, and anxiety disorders i have

[friendly-animals]

Follow me for more cute animals! (:

[geltoothpaste]

Fuck the system also I love making out

[theweightofbeingme]

“Recovery? What? I’m not even underweight” A novel by me

[sacredspiral]

a slow start to spring means a nice snow day spent in the kitchen ❄️ earl-grey infused London fog cupcakes w/ a honey buttercream & poppy seeds! ☕🍯

my body and my spirit deserve nourishing, warm, and lovingly made foods. food is not my enemy, it is my friend and tool to connecting with the world around me. food brings magic into my life. to create and share food is a divine act.

[itzbatz-deactivated20240722]

i hate making tea cuz i feel bad for throwing out the teabag. i’m always like i should eat this

[goodbyedearfriends-deactivated2]

i’m a bitch who loves lavender everything

[perkwunos]

Many places have a “forest that shouldn’t be entered.” Even people who are used to working in the mountains feel there is something there. They are suddenly overcome with fear and it becomes the custom to avoid certain places. These places exist. I don’t know what is there, but I think they are real. I’m not a believer in the occult, but the world is more than we can fathom with our five senses. This world doesn’t exist just for humans. So I think it’s all right to have such things. This is why I think it’s a mistake to think about nature from the idea of efficiency, that forests should be preserved because they are essential for human beings …

I am concerned, because for me the deep forest is connected in some way to the darkness deep in my heart. I feel that if it is erased, then the darkness inside my heart would also disappear, and my existence would grow shallow.

Hayao Miyazaki, “Totoro Was Not Made as a Nostalgia Piece”, Starting Point: 1979-1996

[thefinalgrl]

me two hours after i should have gone to bed: time to solve the jonbenet ramsey case

[thursdaytgirl]

Me: I’d like to phone a friend

Game show host: I haven’t asked you a question yet

Me: I know I just miss them

[the-memedaddy]

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