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Just in Case

I created a PillowFort account. If my tumblr blog does happen to get shut down, I’ll probably take a much needed break from social media before becoming active on PF.

I’ll reblog again before the protest tomorrow. Otherwise, enjoy my random nonsense per usual.

fai7hl3ss

Just in Case

I created a PillowFort account. If my tumblr blog does happen to get shut down, I’ll probably take a much needed break from social media before becoming active on PF.

I’ll reblog again before the protest tomorrow. Otherwise, enjoy my random nonsense per usual.

evilwickedme

it’s amazing to me how unaware culturally christian people are of… the fact that they’re culturally christian like

they really just. don’t know. and won’t listen when people tell them that like

even if you’re an atheist, the way you talk about God and religion is christian af

y’all truly believe that you can celebrate christmas completely secularly, devoid of any connection to christianity

y’all just have no idea and it shouldn’t shock me anymore but it still does sometimes

evilwickedme

From @littleoceanbabe

You are exactly proving my point.

Why is it that your family gathers on Christmas in order to celebrate peace? Why not Eid? Why not Rosh Hashanah? Why not a million different holidays from the literal thousands of existing religions?

The reason you’re celebrating on Christmas of all holidays is because you’re culturally Christian. It’s not something to be ashamed of - you just need to be aware of it.

ex-libris-craux

Huh. I’d never thought about it that way.

vaspider

I know, right?

To be honest, I hadn’t either, not on any bone-deep level, until I started seriously considering converting, and it was only when I started realizing it on a personal level. But, then, I am also lucky in that we live in a school district where Yom Kippur and Rosh Hashanah and several other non-Xian holidays are given days off, which is just not the norm anywhere but in those gosh darn liberal enclaves on the coast. :P

gnollgirl

This feels really relevant to me too. I stopped being Xian over a decade ago, and I felt…annoyed, honestly, that I was still expected, by family and friends both, to celebrate all of the major Xian holidays even despite being at that time an atheist/pagan. And that’s only increasing my discomfort now that I’m converting to Judaism.

I don’t even know if I can keep having conversations about religion with my parents anymore, our views on faith and holidays and deities are so different now.

vaspider

My parents basically just ignore the fact that @dadhoc and @mistresskabooms and I all converted. I hoped right up until the last second that they would show up to our Adult B’nai Mitzvah, especially knowing I was giving the sermon, but, welp, they didn’t.

Our class has gotten close though so it was okay. My mispacha was there, and one of the other converts in the class, her dad came, so that was good.

Off topic, so anyway.

vorpalgirl

I’d also like to add (for the fellow Gentiles out there) it’s NOT just the “obvious” things like Celebrating Christmas, either. It is so, SO many “little things” that you don’t realize ARE Christian-influenced, that you might not even if you stopped and thought about it, because they’re SUCH a part of “secular” culture that you just assumed That’s The Way It Is For Everybody. I had no idea for example, that the idea you had to have a witness in order for a marriage between two people to be “valid” was something not all religions and systems shared, until a Jewish person over on the NaNoWriMo forums corrected me and said “actually, you can do it just by the two agreeing if they’re above a certain age, in Judaism; it’s still considered religiously valid”. In the USA, for a marriage to be LEGALLY recognized by the State? It HAS to have both an Officiant (not necessarily a Priest or Pastor of your own religion; sea captains, judges, and anybody who gets the right piece of paper, can do that), and a Witness. I know this, because I am Legally Married and it was part of the process; I had to get a friend to Officiate and a second friend to sign off as Witness on the paperwork. And I knew on some level this was partly from “religions” “traditionally” requiring it…but I had NO IDEA this was really a Gentile thing, a Goy thing, in specific! I just….assumed that since verifying it happened was “logical”, all religions would naturally require at LEAST an Officiant OR a Witness if not both, “though I could be wrong” I (very thankfully) admitted. Which in hindsight, is a big Assumption, thank goodness I left myself open for correction lol. And see, I wasn’t even RAISED going to Church; my parents were ~liberals~ who basically raised me Agnostic. But I was raised by a dad whose parents were Protestant, and a mom who went to Catholic school as a kid. I grew up in the American South. I grew up in America, and America is so darn Christianized, that it doesn’t matter that such things aren’t a requirement in Judaism, because they’re a requirement in Christian practice, so they become a requirement in the secular realm as well. Even the very definition of “religion” is often mistaken for REQUIRING a “belief in the supernatural or a literal higher power” - not because this is in any way anthropologically accurate (not only does Judaism technically allow for the opposite, so do some variants of Hinduism; There’s posts on that blog that covered it better actually but you might have to dig for them; at least those both mention it), but - ding ding! That’s still how many people in the West think it’s “defined” because that’s the requirements of the Christian religion. A belief in a literal higher power. Like, I have seen Culturally Christian atheists INSIST that you cannot possibly be “religiously Jewish” AND an atheist/not believe in a literal higher power, only to be corrected by actual Jewish people that “uh, no? That’s not how it works, you’re thinking of CHRISTIANITY?”. Because they were so entrenched in the Christian Definition of Religion, it never even occurred to them that there was such a thing as a “religion” that did it differently than that. Because even “secular” society in the West usually defines it that way, because Christianity does.

Heck, the idea of “Judeo-Christian” is…heh, well. Ask a Jewish person or two and if they have the energy you’ll probably get a nice rant on why that term is a serious misnomer; but it’s VERY common to treat Judaism as if it was just the “precursor” to Christianity, as if Christianity is just an extension of Judaism with an extra set of Books, and it’s…it’s not. It’s REALLY not. That thinking stems from Christian cultures trying to simultaneously erase actual Jewish culture (where it actually differed from theirs), and pretending that theirs ~supplanted~ it and ~took its place~ like the New and Improved version, which… of course, being that most Christian sects insist that Christianity is The One True Religion, of COURSE they did.

Even the idea of weekends is pretty much derived from the habit of most Christians to make Sunday a Sabbath and “day of rest” (some Christians do actually use Saturday instead - much like Jewish folk do - but Catholics and a majority of Protestant sects use Sunday).

Even some Really Big “little things” are more Christianized than you think though. The gender binary, and even the idea of “physical sex” being binary, is a social construct that mostly European Christians inflicted on everybody via colonialism and its influence on “science” and culture in general. Turns out it’s not the “natural default” for societies at all, oops (warning, that link is a LONG read but very handy and enlightening, if at times depressing).

There’s…I mean off the top of my head, that’s it, but there’s definitely more I’m not even remembering and I’m sure quite a few that I’m not even personally aware of yet. Personally, I’ve found that the more I learn about other cultures, religions, history, etc, the more I realize how very insular and Very Specific and perhaps even culturally weird in the grand scheme of things, my own upbringing was. That’s not a bad thing though! As far as I’m concerned, it’s just helping me learn what my biases and assumptions are, so A+ 10/10 recommend expanding your awareness of this stuff. <3

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‘Dildo’ in english is a sex toy, but in Urdu ‘Dildo’ means ‘give me your heart’ and i think that’s beautiful

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the-exercist

how can i lose 20LBS in 20 days?

Why?

There is absolutely no reason to lose 20 pounds in 20 days.

It can’t be for your health, because that extreme form of weight loss is going to be detrimental to your body. It is going to cause you significant damage, both in terms of your metabolism and your body’s ability to heal itself. Losing weight so quickly is going to make you extremely susceptible to gallstones, malnutrition, dehydration, heart attack, seizure and stroke. Extreme weight loss like this is outrageously dangerous.

It can’t be for your appearance, since there is nothing intrinsically more appealing about weighing 20 pounds less. Even looking past the All Bodies Are Beautiful aspect of this, you don’t actually know what you’ll look like when you lose 20 pounds. You don’t know where the weight will come from, where the fat may disappear, or how your body will feel. There’s never a guarantee. Idealizing weight loss is often a matter of romanticizing a concept and feeling unfulfilled by the reality. Even if you believe the myths that a small body is inherently better than a larger body, you have no way of knowing that your smaller body will fit within this mold. And I can practically promise that you won’t feel satisfied even if you succeed.

It can’t be for your self esteem, since it takes much more than a physical change and 20 short days to truly tackle your self-image. If you are genuinely uncomfortable in your body, the problem isn’t weight - It’s really necessary to reevaluate your self-esteem, your values and how you feel about yourself as a person. Changing your body is not going to change your self-image unless you actually begin to attack the feelings that are causing this problem: Your weight is just a scapegoat.

It can’t be that you want to establish healthier habits, because weight loss is not inherently tied to healthy living. Dropping so much weight in only 20 days isn’t a guarantee that your diet or exercise routine are any healthier. It just means that they are more extreme. If you are living healthy, then there may not be any direct ties to weight change.

It can’t be for a specific event or outfit, since you’ll still be you in 20 days. You’ll still be the person you are, whether or not you’ve lost weight. There is no reason to represent yourself differently or feel that you have to outwardly change your body. There are a million outfits out there for you to wear, and a million different ways for you to look your best while still accurately and legitimately portraying yourself. You do not need to conform to a specific appearance, because you’ll still be you. That isn’t changing in just 20 days.

So why? Why intentionally hurt yourself this way? And why think that I would help you do so?

bert254-deactivated20230616

Wow so incredibly incorrect. Normally I don’t like to butt in on these conversations, but sometimes well intentioned people are wrong. To lose 20 in 20 days is dangerous if done by yourself at home uneducated. To go to trained professionals who know what they are doing is for a lot of people life saving. Many people who are close to death due to morbid obesity, or who need to drop weight quicky in order to be able to have a life saving surgery are great examples of people who benefit from rapid weight loss. The clinic should only do so in conjunction with an all encompassing nurtitional education program and close at least weekly monitoring with qualified staff with a physician trained in bariatrics overseeing the treatment.

I could tell you many miracle stories. Please don’t be so militantly judgemental without truly looking at both sides of an issue. You could be scaring somebody away from a life changing opportunity.

Hard to find great reputable clinics. Do your homework!

the-exercist

Losing weight does not address poor eating habits - If a doctor wants you to improve your diet, then it is best to consider manageable, long-term changes in order to ensure that you are eating better. Weight loss may coincide with this change, but no benefit will occur if the focus remains on weight instead of food intake.

Losing weight does not address inactivity - If your doctor wants you to be active for a certain number of minutes per day, engage in cardio exercise or increase muscle mass through strength training, then it is best to work with a professional trainer in order to develop an individualized workout plan that addresses your needs. Again, weight loss may coincide with this change, but no benefit will occur if the focus remains on weight instead of activity level.

Get where I’m going with all of this? Weight loss is the scapegoat. Weight loss is the easy out. Weight loss is the blanket-statement, low-effort, don’t-think-too-hard advice that doesn’t actually address any of the sources that a person’s health problems may be stemming from. A doctor who advises weight loss instead of actually treating the patient is not a doctor that you spend another minute talking to. Correlation does not equal causation.

If you are ever put into a situation where you are required to lose 20 pounds in 20 days in order to receive some form of life saving medical treatment…Oh god, I’m sorry. I’m so sorry. You should never be put in that kind of situation. Someone, somewhere along the line massively messed up and you’re the one paying the price. This kind of thing should never, ever happen, but knowing the American medical system and the sort of discrimination that runs rampant, I would not be surprised.

Because losing weight does not address whether or not a surgery will be successful - If a doctor wants to schedule you for a life-saving surgery, then they need to find a way to get you that surgery as soon as possible. Your life is not going to be more valuable just because you have put your body under significant stress in order to lose weight. This is why so many fat people die from lack of medical treatment.

70% of fat people report that they have experienced prejudice or discrimination from a doctor or other health care provider.

Fear of medical discrimination stops many fat people from seeking medical attention

Many doctors even believe that non-emergency medical treatment should be denied to fat people until they lose weight.

Doctors spend less time with fat patients, and many healthcare professionals are reluctant to even touch a fat patient. Doctors are often even uncomfortable performing pelvic exams on a patient who is fat.

The number of deaths “caused” by fat is vastly overrepresented in the media. In a 2005 re-analysis of a CDC sponsored study, only 25,000 deaths per year are related to being “overweight” or “obese.”

The truth of the matter is that fat people do not inherently need to lose weight in order to safely undergo surgery or get anesthesia. The concerns that are often expressed over fat people getting anesthesia are correlated with fatness, not inherent: Not every fat person has sleep apnea, for instance, nor does every fat person have diabetes. These are the concerns most often cited, but they do not apply to every person who is prescribed weight loss. Not to mention that there are significant medical concerns across multiple cohorts when it comes to anesthesia. Red heads are at significant risk of complications, as well as smokers, the elderly, people who take anxiety or sleep medication, people with COPD, and those who are underweight. Different bodies process anesthesia differently, and it is the job of trained anesthesiologists to work appropriately on diverse bodies. Of course there’s risk! There always is! Losing weight does not inherently negate that risk! And if a surgery is life-saving, then there is no legitimate reason to force a person to wait longer in order to obtain that benefit!!

Fat people can (and should!) benefit from life-saving surgeries. The sad truth is that they are often overlooked due to bias within the medical community.

As quoted from @bigfatscience, on the subject of kidney transplants:

Fat and thin people with kidney failure experience similar benefits to health and longevity when they receive a live donor kidney transplant. Yet fat patients are routinely denied kidney transplants until they lose weight, a delay that can increase the risk of serious complications like graft loss by as much as 68%.

Fat people have an approximately 20% to 40% greater risk of death in the eight years following a kidney transplant compared to thin people (although we cannot know if that increased risk was caused by a delay in treatment, weight regain post transplantation among patients required to lose weight, or another confounding factor). But that risk is far outweighed by the survival benefits of transplantation, leading researchers to conclude that “obesity should not be a contraindication for transplantation.”

Do not let doctors simply prescribe weight loss for you. You deserve better. Also quoted from @bigfatscience, Dr. Jon Robison offers this excellent advice:

If you have a health condition commonly considered to be “weight-related,” (most likely candidates are hypertension, abnormal cholesterol, abnormal blood glucose) and a health professional recommends weight loss as a solution, ask [them] the following questions:

What is the long-term success rate of the approach you are suggesting? What is the likelihood I will regain the weight I lose?

What is likely to happen to my health condition if I lose the weight and then regain it?

Is there any way to treat this condition that does not involve a focus on weight loss? (How would you treat a thin person who had the same condition?)

The answers given by your health professional to these questions should look something like:

The success rate is no better than 5% and it is quite likely that you will gain back all of the weight that you lost and perhaps a bit more.

It is quite possible that your health issues (high blood pressure, diabetes, abnormal cholesterol, etc.) will get worse when you regain the weight.

All of these conditions can be helped through lifestyle changes with little or no weight loss. (A Health-Centered Approach) The best treatment for a fat person for any of these conditions is the same treatment that would be recommended for a thin person…

NOTE: If you don’t get something like these answers, consider seeking help elsewhere.

Women are the ones who suffer the most from fatphobia within the medical field. The treatment that fat people receive from doctors often pushes women to either learn not to seek medical help, or they are left without the kind of life-saving treatment that could have made a significant difference in their health:

So listen, man: I am not the one who is “scaring somebody away from a life changing opportunity.” The medical system already does that. Because if you think for one second that fat people haven’t already been pressured from all sides to lose weight as quickly as possible? To their own detriment? You’re wrong.

Bias toward overweight individuals is evident in children aged 9 to 11 years. And considering that 54% of people in a 2012 poll by Esquire stated that they would rather be dead than fat, this is not something for us to just brush aside.

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sandandglass

President Obama tries to get a driver’s license

emotions-are-dangerous

this is funny

king-emare

his face in the last one 😭😭😭

bestnatesmithever

I don’t care about your political beliefs, but just compare Obama’s sense of humor to Trump’s fat shaming and jokes about disabled people and goddamn I miss Obama.