To some kids who dont know they are in a toxic household. You’re in a bad home when:
No one allows you to express anger or sadness.
Everything is monitored
You are not allowed to have a social circle
“It’s not what you want, it’s what I want”
“Your vote counts as one vote and mine counts as 10 votes”
“I pay the bills so I do whatever I want!”
“I dont care what you like. I dont like it”
Security cameras in the house to watch you. That’s not normal.
Ripping up artwork you spent so long to draw.
Prioritizing cleaning the house over your schoolwork.
Cleaning for 8 hours while your family does nothing.
Hypocritical behavior. Being judged for spending five minutes on your phone while they spend 2 hours.
Feeling relieved when they leave the house.
Having your door police banged on because you didnt wake up at 8am.
Not allowed to have your door shut.
Being beaten to hell and five minutes later being caressed and saying “It was for your own good.
Being forced to show love for them.
Wearing what they want you to wear.
Destroying anything you love just because they dont like it.
Being actively told that they want you to die.
Being beaten for coming out gay.
“No one will ever love you as much as we do”
All of these combined will give you Stockholm Syndrome. As a survival tactic your brain might feel attached or even affectionate toward your abuser. Just to cope with the overwhelming amount of stress. And you will reason with the abuse and blame it on yourself. You need to understand that what your parents tell you about life is not 100% true. Life is fair in all aspects.
If you plant a seed, and water it and take care of it during the harsh months, Life will give you a flower in the spring.
It’s the toxic people that will stomp on it to kill it.
