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romeo/fats | mexican transmasc butch | 24 | he/him

[afronerdism]

Hey, if you’re not black and can’t get out and protest but want to know how you can help black people, consider donating to the Black Covid Relief Fund which goes directly to black people who’ve been affected by this pandemic. Black People are being disproportionately affected by this virus and anything you can give helps.

[afronerdism]

Lots of notes, not a lot of donations. Imagine if you all have just one dollar. Reach in them pockets.

[afronerdism]

As an update for people, my dear friend @celestialmoonmoth has kindly agreed to handle the PayPal aspect so we can now accept donations via PayPal!

Paypal.me/gabehellerud

Pay Sarah Hellerud using PayPal.Me

Go to paypal.me/gabehellerud and type in the amount. Since it’s PayPal, it's easy and secure. Don’t have a PayPal account? No worries.

That’s the link.

Donations have slowed down a lot so if you’re reading this, send some over for people in need. Thank you all so much for your energy and support. I think we’re really making a difference.

[nunporn]

they try to poach me for my fur

[yknowdat]

Art by SBR Animation Director GrandGuerrilla

[jelitou]

go my gyjo! go! go! 🐎

[zwm8604]

Shooting star

[leslekieuart]

Jojo peak is finally here

[dnines]

[tamsywindsup]

Choujin X official colored bonus illustration by Sui Ishida-sensei, from Melonbook 🔥

[chilewithcarnage]

I'm in the war on fatness on the side of fatness

[donnerpartyofone]

It's hard to say this without sounding like a right wing dickhead, but the thing about progressive spaces is that they may naturally attract people who are always on the lookout for excuses to start a fight. Like you can find yourself faced with someone whose political outrage is totally justified, and whose humanitarian ideals are right on the money, but simultaneously they are carrying a ton of psychological baggage about being wronged and getting revenge, and they will exploit literally any opportunity to live out this psychodrama with anyone in their line of vision. I have thought of several related anecdotes since I started typing this post, but I'll limit myself to the thing that inspired it, which is that I just visited this ultra-lefty cafe/bike shop/community gathering space where I've heard that the proprietor is constantly in a fight with everyone around her. When I paid for my stuff I noticed that there was no tip option, but I thought I had heard something about this, so I snuck away to look at the website and it made me really glad I didn't ask! I think there should have been a really enticing and exciting way for her to say "I've decided to be the change I want to see in the world, so I'm paying my baristas a full living wage, I'm making sure EVERYONE feels welcome and comfortable here, and I'm selling products I believe in!" -- but instead all the web copy sounded more like "You're either with me or against me, you're a fucking piece of shit asshole if you can't handle the inclusive atmosphere here, and by the way tipping is for fascist cavemen and if you ever try to tip someone you are refusing to relate to them authentically and you are enforcing a dangerous and evil power dynamic that should be purged from human society (so therefore I pay my staff well)." Like everything she stood for was totally agreeable, but why did she have to put it like it was directed at her worst enemy, rather than at the kinds of people she wants to attract? If the word on the street is to be believed, the reason for this posturing is that she spends quite a lot of energy making as many enemies as possible, and she probably likes it that way. I guess I'm just reminding myself, and perhaps others, that while one might think of "politics" as being broadly social and theoretical, no individual can fully separate the political from the intimately personal. Even somebody who seems to want to uplift and protect their fellow humans may be getting some perverse inner satisfaction out of that valiant crusade, and you may never realize it until you find yourself in a confusing fight with them.

[author-by-night]

I ran a LARP for a few years explicitly aimed at being queer friendly and accessible, and eventually cut it short mainly for this exact reason. You wouldn’t believe the amount of abuse my staff and I took for reasons that felt genuinely insane. I got called ableist for telling someone they couldn’t be invincible in my game of make believe, more than once. Defended myself, multiple Jewish players, and a conversion student from accusations of antisemitism based on alleged lore we’d never written / suggested / that simply and plainly did not exist in game. Had a staffer try to talk to someone about how a joke she made was uncomfortable only for this person to retaliate in epic proportions full white woman crocodile tears style, trying to get this staffer removed and eventually escalating into a full public hate campaign when she didn’t get her way. All that’s still just the tip of the iceberg.

Progressive spaces are naturally populated by traumatized people, and unfortunately trauma makes people more difficult. (I’m not excluded in that. No one is.) Running a progressive space is doubly difficult because a lot of left-facing trauma was inflicted by authority, so you’re setting yourself up to be the windmill that someone tilts their displaced rage at. I don’t really know what the solution is, but I do know that this is one of the huge reasons it’s so hard to find community: the people with a bone to pick can’t reach the ones who actually hurt them, but they’ll sure find you along the way, and the safer they feel around you the safer they’ll feel coming after you.

[iamonlyhereforthefreefood]

When Everything Everywhere All at Once said “The only thing I do know is that we have to be kind. Please, be kind, especially when we don’t know what’s going on" 

When the Good Place said “Why choose to be good every day when there is no guaranteed reward now or in the afterlife… I argue that we choose to be good because of our bonds with other people and our innate desire to treat them with dignity. Simply put, we are not in this alone.” 

When Jean-Paul Sartre said ”‘Hell is other people’ is only one side of the coin. The other side, which no one seems to mention, is also ‘Heaven is each other’. Hell is separateness, uncommunicability, self-centeredness, lust for power, for riches, for fame. Heaven on the other hand is very simple, and very hard: caring about your fellow beings.“

[quasi-normalcy]

Love that we’ve elevated the conversation to such a degree that, if you’re going to be grimdark nihilistic in fiction, you need to argue philosophically against 4 seasons of The Good Place.

[lightofraye]

From the comments and other reblogs:

When Kurt Vonnegut said, “Hello babies. Welcome to Earth. It’s hot in the summer and cold in the winter. It’s round and wet and crowded. On the outside, babies, you’ve got a hundred years here. There’s only one rule that I know of, babies—God damn it, you’ve got to be kind.”

[calware]

Where can I find your pronouns? --

lets find out together

[puthy]

[thehandsomedevil88]

Still not what I want

[puthy]

What is it that you desire?

[orlandobloomers]

i skipped class today after having a panic attack and then got an ominous email from my professor titled “maggie simpson” with only a photo of maggie simpson attached. this is a nightmare to me. 

[angrykatnoises]

theres this idea that i was sort of pressured to accept that "T rage" is something i'm going to have to deal with forever now that i started taking testosterone. and what ive found out is that a LOT of the time, its not just "T rage," its emotional deregulation. it puberty and most cis men dont get taught how to handle their Big Feelings during this time of their life. so yeah, makes sense where someone might get this conclusion. it was MOSTLY cis men warning about "T rage."

before i took T, i was running on a system predominantly (at least, this is the science as i understand it currently) running on E and i was raging damn near constantly. having therapy has helped in through both puberties when it came to regulating my feelings but internally, the thoughts were angrier, the build up to the anger was bigger, the feelings were more overwhelming, i was struggling to feel sane. now on T for several years, i can safely say ive mellowed tf out. its not that im not angry anymore or that i havent noticed a change in my emotions, i absolutely have. what im saying is that i am Not more aggressive. im saying i Dont feel significantly angrier. [im also Not saying that E will make you more emotional/aggressive/dysregulated. this is My experience having started an E and T based puberty.]

and my irl trans men friends have reported a very, very similar experience. its just something to keep in mind when we're talking about hormones and how they affect people.

[thelilylav]

Thesis of the entire story in two pages

[buildanaltarwhereitswells]

nobody is doing it like mcr.... they're too woke. they're not woke enough. they're sellouts. they're not selling out enough. it's a nostalgia bait tour. where's my nostalgia this is too weird.