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i use this blog to reblog random shit and put my silly little thoughts on the internet 

[sithprincex]

I am sad and nonverbal at work. Someone tell me I’m cute.

I took these last night 💕🫠

[grimmfitzz]

Anyone else out there just accidentally conflating gender envy and attraction only to be thrown into a gender crisis once you heard it explained out loud?

[lacefuneral]

male femininity and female masculinity and androgynous swag in general makes the world go round btw

[spoonie-living]

Add “distress” to your pain scale

Pain scale? More like pain in the booty. No two people seem to read it the same way, and chronic folks tend to downplay their pain.

So here’s an idea: when asked to rate your pain, provide a number to rate your distress levels in addition to your pain levels.

Some examples:

“I’m at a 5 on the pain scale, but my distress is basically a 1 because this is my usual.”

“I’m at a 3 on the pain scale, but my distress is a 7 because this is new pain and affects a part of my body that’s very important to my work.”

It’s a great way to consider how your pain is impacting you—and to get a doctor’s attention where it’s actually needed.

[adizzycollegekid]

OP is a genius

[heademptynothoughts]

Hello, I'm aroace as well, but I've also been questioning my gender lately. I've questioned it off and on in the past, but lately it won't leave my mind.

How did you know you were nonbinary?

Hi nonnie :)

There wasn’t an “aha” moment where I just knew. It was kind of a “fuck it” moment actually. I had always thought gender was stupid. It’s this made-up thing with arbitrary rules, and even though it works for some people (which is great) it’s never worked for me. It always felt like a box I could never fit into properly or like a too-tight shirt. So I’d been questioning it for a while before I just decided to go with it.

I think my last straw was the dysphoria I felt about my body. I gained some weight and being afab that meant my boobs got bigger too, which threw me for a complete loop. My chest started really bothering me and I kept wishing to be completely flat.

So then I just decided “fuck it” and I broached the subject with one of my friends who I knew would be supportive, told her I thought I was nonbinary, she was awesome and helped me get a binder.

I experimented with different pronouns too before settling on they/them.

The thing is, like with sexual orientation, if you’re questioning it then it’s probably because you are queer in some way. And just like with sexual orientation, gender is a spectrum. Deciding on a label doesn’t mean you have to stick with that label if you discover that it doesn’t fit anymore and something else works better. There are a TON of gender identities within the nonbinary umbrella so maybe you’ll find a micro label that fits. I thought I was a demigirl before I realized that I’m agender, but I still use nonbinary to identify myself with most people.

I hope this helps and I’m here anytime you wanna talk or have any more questions 💕

[amethysttheanarchist]

Drew this is biology

Give me more flags to draw

I plan on drawing the agender,aromantic,asexual,and gynosexual flag but I want more

[tristanginger]

Hey baby, wanna see my garden of earthly delights? 🌺🌿🔥

[moriartyyouwhore]

on the one hand,,, I am queer and trans and autistic and disabled and mentally ill and would absolutely be dead in any other era

on the other hand. regency era pirate

[faendan]

Do you guys know the saying 'A woman who wants to be equal to men lacks ambition'?

It might just be me, but the correct word should be 'imagination', or 'independence'. A woman isn't EQUAL to a man, and shouldn't try to be. Now, before you guys are on my ass, I'm obviously not saying that women don't deserve equal RIGHTS AND SOCIETAL TREATMENT, but 'men' shouldn't be the settling point, because every gender is a different role (or 'performance', like that @just-gay-thoughts post).

Your 'gender role' is defined entirely by you, not 'men', because that in and of itself is a sexist statement - ironically, to everyone.

A woman, or an enbie, or a man, or any other gender identity, that is attempting to be EQUAL to any other one isn't just lacking ambition, but confidence in their own identity.

Be yourself - that's the best thing you could possibly be.

Along a very similar line is this post of mine:

I'm assuming everyone knows the quote: 'Just be yourself, everyone else is taken.' I understand the mission behind this quote, but I think

although I am making 2 separate points in these. The point is, be you, and don't measure yourself against other people.

[sweaterkittensahoy]

My post-surgery bras arrived today. Here's one of them on top of my current sports bra.

I laughed so fucking hard when I took them out of the package. Like, five minutes of howling laughter. I couldn't handle it.

[feelingfaceless]

Before & after my surgery. 4 weeks post op today! Same dress 😳 g cup to b cup

[nebulaniggatry]

I’ve been wanting a breast reduction literally forever bc mfs are just so fucking HEAVY I got like constant back pain and other issues uuuuggghhhh.... but also like...I’m scared lol. Sorry to ask a personal question but is there anything u didnt know abt breast reduction going in that you wish you had? Like, any tips for somebody considering it?

I feel u 😭😭I was scared at first too but it literally went by so fast & the pain isn’t too bad. Just annoying. My doctors were very sweet and informative so I believe I was prepared for it. But I can tell you some things ahead of time if u ever get it ! Just a heads up tho not all doctors do it the same in terms of treatment. Mine didn’t wrap my chest afterwards (hes against dressing the breasts) and he doesn’t believe it’s necessary to give his patients drains/pumps to remove fluid for his procedures. So I’m basically just dealing with the pain and have gauzes taped to where some occasional blood leaks from

Gonna b a bit long so sorry abt that!

Here’s some tips/heads ups:

Ok I didn’t know this but 🤣 you will have to get naked and just stand there awkwardly (your gown is probs draped around your waist) while your doctor draws on your breasts with a sharpie. It lasts a good fifteen mins but it felt like an hour. At least some female nurses will be in there w/ you if your doctor is a man. So mentally prepare for that bc YES it’s very awkward 1/10 😭

You can’t eat at midnight before the surgery and you can’t eat the next day either before the surgery. This includes water - cant drink anything either, but they’ll most likely give you pills to take for that night and morning

You’ll have to give them a sample of your urine before surgery.

Surgery lasts like 2-3 hours. you’ll be awake in no time but you’ll be drowsy ofc. Might be talking nonsense as well lol but you will remember nothing

Buy button down gowns - plenty of cheap ones at Walmart. Waaay easier for you & raising your arms is an absolute no. No shirts unless they have buttons in the front (all the way down) and can be easily slid off. Can’t stress this enough: do not raise your arms

Buy wedged/reclined pillows and stack some regular pillows on top of it! You’ll have to sleep on your back so it’s important you are elevated + for your breathing. & trust me lmfao don’t try to sleep on your side. You will be doing a LOT of sleeping tho & get drained pretty quickly.

Don’t try and pick up anything you dropped. Get someone else to do it I promise it’s not worth it! In general do not pick up anything remotely heavy.

No running, jumping, etc. just stick to slow, casual walks. Take your time getting places

Your medicine might cause food to make you feel unbelievably nauseated with just one bite. I’d say invest in some graham crackers on the first day back to snack on if you can’t stomach anything yet

You might vomit depending on the medicine. Keep a vomit bag nearby.

Drink plenty of water + eat plenty vegetables. Some of these medicines cause constipation.

Your breasts might look strange at first but they’re just swollen so don’t worry about that & freak out lol

Your doctor will (most likely) shrink your areola, lift your breast, and possibly move your nipples to even them out.

(Edit) You might not be able to breast feed in the future depending on the procedure, BUT you now have a significantly lower chance of getting breast cancer bc you got the reduction !!

The pain isn’t unbearable. It feels incredibly sore, aches, and might have an occasional sharp sting from movement. You’ll feel this way more when you’re trying to reach for something or maybe adjusting yourself in bed.

Get some wipes and gauzes for any potential leaks. You most likely won’t be able to shower for 48 hours.

Using the bathroom sucks lol

It’s all worth it tho!! My back feels so much better & I think I can fit into my old shirts again. I can finally see my stomach 🤣 can’t wait to heal

[emma-d-klutz]

For a long time now I’ve been sore about those posts that go, “Don’t draw your transmasc characters with big, rough scars from their top surgery. Top surgery these days will leave little, faded scars no worse than if a cisgirl got a breast reduction.” I thought they were misleading and kinda mean, because I am a cisgirl who got a breast reduction, and I have ugly scars from it to this day. Plus it wasn’t like the doctor didn’t know what he was doing; he was a great surgeon that loads of people in my family had gotten reductions from before. So why would anyone be downplaying the big, jagged scars these surgeries leave and spreading that lie and changing people’s healthy expectations?

And then it clicked for me: 

I was sent to wilderness therapy almost directly after getting breast reduction surgery. I was out in the woods! 

Other people healed

[artdunk]

[sweaterkittensahoy]

I regret to inform you that my tits are unnumbing, and I am discovering new sources of post-surgery pain that I previously could not feel.

This is biphobic.

[yearningbird-deactivated2025012]

My breast reduction consultation is scheduled for next week! I'm so excited.

I've been waiting for this for twelve years, since my first consultation at 18 did not go very well since they considered me too young.

Hopefully someone will be drawing reduction scars on me soon, instead of the other way around.

[sabertoothwalrus]

I see lots of pretty art of transmascs highlighting their scars, but I often forget that even though I'm not transmasc, I have those scars too! I don't think I've ever seen art of someone with breast reduction scars?? so I took it upon myself to make something! :)