afraid to fuck around but i wanna find out

Bead lizard • in my 20s • e/em/eirs

[firecatwashere]

pinned post tag directory! bc the search function is shit, i want to find my own reblogs on these topics, and maybe it'll benefit some of yall too

[dumnslut]

[waytoomuchinformation]

why the fuck are you teaching kids while wearing a chastity cage key around your neck. like not to sound like a purist but that *is* weird.

I’m not teaching kids lol

I am a fitness instructor for adults and if I’m wearing a chastity cage key it’s either under my shirt so no one can see it or in my damn pocket if I’m wearing a shirt I can’t have it under.

Also, you do sound like a purist prude. The person actually in chastity isn’t there, no one is seeing their cage and lots of people wear all kinds of keys as necklace pendants and you’d have to really be in the know to KNOW.

Get your panties out of a bunch. You’re not saving anyone with this kind of puritanical view point you’re just trying to alienate a queer kinkster.

[waytoomuchinformation]

Okay, I cannot yet move on from this ridiculous anon question.

I may have some alarming news for you.

MANY people are wearing things related to their fetishes EVERY DAY. Everywhere. With their own kids, around other kids, and everywhere tbh. That doesn’t mean they are interacting with those children or people as part of their fetish. People can and do compartmentalize ALL THE TIME.

Do you think women with a panty fetish shouldn’t wear panties while otherwise fully clothed around kids? Should men with a panty fetish not wear panties while otherwise fully clothed around kids?

If you said “no that’s fine” to the first one but “ew of course not” to the second one you’re not actually thinking about protecting kids, you’re actually just pushing puritanical viewpoints that have been used to oppress queer and kinky people for decades.

Most grown ass kinky adults can register that yes this piece of my fetish is on me, or with me or in full view of me *cough* shoe fetishists *cough* without imposing that on others around them.

[waytoomuchinformation]

And another thing, I AM weird. I do weird things. Weirdness does not cause harm.

Dear anon, look within at your basic ass way of looking at the world and realize that we are much more complex and nuanced beings than you’re making us out to be with this viewpoint.

[covington-shenanigans]

okay you know what i've already reblogged this once but i have more to say. even if OP was teaching kids and they saw her key necklace, so fucking what? the most likely scenario would go something like this:

kid: "what's your necklace?"

op: "it's a key!"

kid: "why are you wearing a key necklace?"

op: "because I like it!" OR "because it's pretty to me!" OR "because someone special gave it to me!" OR "I just like keys!" OR "it's the key to something I own and I don't want to lose it!" OR literally whatever other answer she wants to give, because she's kinky, not creepy, and is presumably smart enough to give an age-appropriate answer that will satisfy the kid's curiosity without revealing her adult private life to a 5-year-old

kid: "oh okay!" *goes off to play*

kink does not equal abuse. existing as a kinky adult around children does not equal abuse. wearing something related to your fetish around children does not equal abuse.

christ alive. if you can handle the concept of grown adults doing any activity that is not for children, you can handle this. I super prommy. just because you, idk, skydive with other adults on weekends and wear a t-shirt about skydiving around a child does not mean you're in favor of throwing that child out of a fucking airplane. jfc

please be serious, you fucking losers. stop pearl-clutching long enough to recognize how weird you're being about someone else's life and do anything to get a life of your own.

[depsidase]

[datadegroove-deactivated2026042]

I will NEVER deactivate. and how DARE you

[mobjack878]

and on the pedestal these words appear: "i am Ozymandias, King of Kings. look upon my works, ye mighty, and despair." nothing beside remains.

[canonkiller]

I just think everyone should take a moment to consider the question "what is your visual shorthand for cruelty?" and then follow it up with a critical "and who taught you that?"

specific examples include but are not limited to

why is an evil timeline character design disabled? (why do the heroes go through equally punishing battles and never lose an arm, a leg, an eye?)

why are the futuristic scifi terrorists uniformly darker skinned? (why are the heroes so much lighter?)

why is the greedy boss fat? (why are the heroes skinny?)

why is the criminal mastermind heavily scarred? (why is the brooding, traumatized hero unscathed?)

why is the predatory creep a bearded person in a dress and makeup? (why are none of the heroes trans women?)

who taught you that this is how things are?

how long do you plan on repeating it?

[canonkiller]

guys the point is "reflect on how you have learned bigotry through exposure and you parrot it in your own works and in the fandoms you engage with without self awareness" not "tell me, specifically, what random motifs you think are evil"

[canonkiller]

on the flipside, to everyone adding notes about hooked noses, turbans + headscarves, nonwhite features and cultural clothing in general, mental and physical disorders, and surely others I've missed in recollection: you are entirely right and should say it.

[distinguishedbaloney]

[eilooxara]

Non cooking spray stick

[eilooxara]

Non spray stick cooking

[that-house]

Non cooking stick spray

[yeahokayillreblogthat]

yeah okay ill reblog that

[autism-official]

[byjove]

I’ve gotten to the point where I’m beginning to understand what certain Welsh words mean but I haven’t the faintest idea how to pronounce them without sounding like a fool, which is how I feel about many words in my native language of English because I’m from the American south.

[byjove]

It’s also quite difficult to do the whole ‘watch a show with subtitles to understand the cadence of the language’ thing that you could do with Spanish or French. Yet another reason we need a show about King Arthur entirely in Welsh. Until then, do any of you have any recommendations for Welsh language media or media where characters speak Welsh?

[byjove]

Also, fun fact for people on this post: Welsh is more similar to Cornish and Breton than it is to Gaeilge. They’re all Celtic languages but Welsh is a Brittonic language, descended from the language spoken by the Celtic Britons while Gaeilge, Scots Gaelic and Manx are Goidelic languages, descended from the language spoken by the inhabitants of Ireland. Two languages that branched off from each other at least 2,500 years ago and developed on two different landmasses. So, the Gaelic resources are really lovely and some of the root words and grammar are similar but they’re not exactly mutually intelligible.

[yesterdaysprint]

Thames swan shares a treat, 1958

[elodieunderglass]

Thank you @chiropteracupola !!

[montereybayaquarium]

Fish as fluid as the ocean. 🌊

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While male California sheephead are largest and easiest to identify at a glance, a closer look at the lively waters of our Kelp Forest exhibit reveals a variety of female sheephead swimming through these fascinating life stages. 

Stream our Kelp Forest Cam and find peace in the beauty of a thriving underwater community. 🫶🌈 

[gentlewordsdaily]

There is a very specific kind of sadness in realizing your parents loved you, and still did not always know how to meet your emotional needs.

Because it is confusing. It would almost feel easier if there was no love there at all. But sometimes there was love. In the way they tried to protect you. In the sacrifices they made. In the ways they worried about you, cared for you, wanted a good life for you.

And at the same time, there were still things missing.

Maybe comfort did not come in the way you needed it to. Maybe your feelings were not always understood, or noticed, or handled gently. Maybe you learned to keep certain parts of yourself quiet because it felt easier than trying to explain them.

That kind of hurt is difficult because it does not always come from cruelty. Sometimes it comes from people who loved you deeply, but did not know how to emotionally connect in the ways you needed. People carrying their own wounds, limitations, fears, or ways of surviving.

And you are allowed to acknowledge both truths at once.

You are allowed to recognize their love and still grieve what you needed but did not receive. Those things do not cancel each other out.

Forgiveness, for a lot of people, is not pretending nothing hurt you. It is slowly accepting that someone can love you and still fall short of understanding you completely.

That does not make your pain dramatic. It does not make them monsters either. Sometimes it just means everyone was trying with the emotional tools they had, and some of those tools were not enough.

And I think many people quietly carry guilt for still feeling hurt by parents they know tried their best. But being loved imperfectly can still leave wounds. It makes sense that it affected you.

At the same time, you do not have to stay trapped only in anger forever either. Sometimes healing looks like understanding that your parents were human before they were parents. People shaped by their own experiences, their own upbringing, their own emotional gaps.

That understanding does not erase your feelings. It just softens the sharp edges around them a little.

You deserved emotional safety. You deserved gentleness. You deserved to feel understood, comforted, and emotionally close to the people raising you.

And if they could not fully give that to you, it is okay to mourn it.

But I hope you also know this: the love you needed is still something you can experience in your life. Through other people. Through chosen family. Through the way you learn to treat yourself now.

The story does not end at what you did or did not receive growing up.

You are still allowed softness after all of it 🤍

[firecatwashere]

if it takes my doctor an hour past the scheduled time of my appointment to come into the exam room i am going to bite him

[firecatwashere]

it did not take a full hour to get seen but it did take a full hour for my doctor to come in (he had a resident today). he's very punctual when he doesn't have residents so what the fuck is up with that?

also i'm going to bite him anyway, that was an uncharacteristically dismissive experience.

[firecatwashere]

if it takes my doctor an hour past the scheduled time of my appointment to come into the exam room i am going to bite him

[duckbunny]

your twenties are not "late" to start hrt. that is a normal time to start hrt. your thirties are also a normal time to start hrt. your seventies are pretty late to start hrt, but not too late. like, statistically, that's at the end of the curve. but if you are not dead, it is not too late for hrt.

[longsightmyth]

I bring a real 'actually people who are pregnant do deserve some special consideration because they are effectively at least temporarily disabled if not permanently after some complications' vibe to the party that a lot of people don't seem to like

[netscapenavigator-official]

You should be starting a recipe book. I don't give a shit if you're only 20-years-old. The modern web is rotting away bit by bit before our very eyes. You have no idea when that indie mom blog is going down or when Pinterest will remove that recipe. Copy it down in a notebook, physically or digitally. Save it somewhere only you can remove it. Trust me, looking for a recipe only to find out it's been wiped off the internet is so fucking sad. I've learned my lesson one too many times.

[orteil42]

given the current climate this pride especially i feel i must mention that i love my trans friends, i stand with trans people in the fight against transphobic legislation and those who would enforce it, and this blog is not a good place for you to be if you do not vibe with that