people talk a lot about how mortifying it is to be in the early stages of a romantic relationship with someone when you have to inform them about your whole mental health deal, and that’s all very true, but there’s a new realm of mortifying you reach when you’ve been together long enough for your partner to start informing you about your own mental health deal. today my partner was like “you know what? i think you have trauma from when you were [SENSITIVE INFORMATION REDACTED]” and i was like “i mean i wouldn’t call it [SENSITIVE INFORMATION REDACTED], or not enough to traumatize me, i mean i was just kind of chilling and then i moved on” and she was like “that was one of the most classically traumatizing things that can happen to someone and you still have a fucked up relationship with [SENSITIVE INFORMATION REDACTED] so maybe we should consider that it’s trauma” and you know what? goddamnit she’s right. so embarrassing to find out this way
ETA this 100% can and often does happen with non-romantic relationships. my personal example was coming from a romantic relationship formed through pretty normal structures but i would be remiss to claim that that’s the only way it can occur


















