Flightbound.

disability-focused blog. hEDS/DID/Autism posting mostly probably. idk. im an adult

[romanceyourdemons]

people talk a lot about how mortifying it is to be in the early stages of a romantic relationship with someone when you have to inform them about your whole mental health deal, and that’s all very true, but there’s a new realm of mortifying you reach when you’ve been together long enough for your partner to start informing you about your own mental health deal. today my partner was like “you know what? i think you have trauma from when you were [SENSITIVE INFORMATION REDACTED]” and i was like “i mean i wouldn’t call it [SENSITIVE INFORMATION REDACTED], or not enough to traumatize me, i mean i was just kind of chilling and then i moved on” and she was like “that was one of the most classically traumatizing things that can happen to someone and you still have a fucked up relationship with [SENSITIVE INFORMATION REDACTED] so maybe we should consider that it’s trauma” and you know what? goddamnit she’s right. so embarrassing to find out this way

[romanceyourdemons]

ETA this 100% can and often does happen with non-romantic relationships. my personal example was coming from a romantic relationship formed through pretty normal structures but i would be remiss to claim that that’s the only way it can occur

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

I wish it was possible to have any conversation about hygiene online without 500 people climbing out the woodwork to rant at length about how disgusting anyone who doesn't have the 50 step routine they personally consider obligatory is

[ramdaughter]

your bare minimum isn’t actually that bare or minimum. my dad once told me that there’s nothing in this world that’s easy and that’s true tbh. everything we do takes energy, time, and effort. even the little things. if you feel like you’re not doing enough please try to think about your circumstances and what’s currently available to you: chances are, there’s something that’s diverting or otherwise draining you. and to pull away from that and get something done regardless? well, i think that’s really admirable! please try to take pride in the things you do accomplish in a day, no matter how small or trifling you perceive them to be. you can’t be proud of your growth if you don’t notice where you already are!

[ramdaughter]

no offense but this conversation was literally a major turning point in my life

[disabled-dyke]

one of the most frustrating things about being disabled and chronically ill is that everyone around you is allowed to be worried or scared for you. but the second you yourself say you’re worried or scared, suddenly it’s “you can’t be so negative, think positively, you might be totally fine in five years”

but i have to placate everyone when they’re telling me multiple times a day that they’re scared for my health??

[uwillneverknowwho]

Literally always take headphones with you. If you decide that you probably won't need them today, that's the devil talking. You will. You will

[dragon-in-a-fez]

does the body ALWAYS have to keep the score? maybe we could just have a friendly game this time. maybe we can just have fun without putting numbers on it

[chaumas-deactivated20240115]

tbh the first step of recovery is to stop feeling kind of proud about how fucked up you are. your martyr complex is not an endearing quirk it’s the fatal flaw that makes your friends feel like garbage and will sabotage your whole life.

[heartattackinblackdye]

i do think we need to detach hygiene from value as a person. as someone who has dealt with not being able to shower or brush my teeth due to depression and executive dysfunction, it usually is not a choice. sometimes there are situations in which you CANNOT care for yourself properly and that shouldn’t mean you can now be stripped of your worth. physically disabled people who have trouble with hygiene i love you, mentally ill people who have trouble with hygiene i love you, neurodivergent people who struggle with hygiene i love you, people without access to adequate hygiene products i love you. it’s going to be ok

[leucisticollection]

This is EXACTLY what it feels like announcing a headmate has gone dormant/won’t front anymore

[scooplery]

"it's just growing pains" -> "you're too young for that to hurt that bad" -> "you just need to get in better shape" -> "welcome to being old, everyone is in pain"

[mangosmangosmango]

chronic illness sucks. i was a dreamer who believed i could do anything. i was a kid with so much potential for greatness. i promised myself i'd never let anything break me but being in pain every day for years on end breaks you. It breaks you over and over no matter how many times you reshape yourself to something new. a dreamer is all i have ever been. who am i without the dreams that keep being stolen from me

[sosashawtyy]

I lowkey do be having obsessions and compulsions

[disabled-bug]

Idk what person with chronic illness needs to hear this, but you can do things to make your responsibilities nicer for yourself. You can get an ice cream after a blood draw. You can sit down for tv time after an injection. You can pick out the bandaids that have cartoon characters on them instead of the plain ones. Being an adult doesn’t stop you from benefiting from encouragement. Go for whatever fits with your routine/abilities/budget and makes life a little better. A spoonful of sugar helps the medicine go down etc etc

[cutecipher]

i think its funny when people are like "you cant blame your parents forever" because like. im permanently disabled because of them. am i allowed to be mad about that?

[faintlyhauntedsanctuary]

Leftists will be like "acab fuck the police they use their position of power to abuse people" but will wholeheartedly bootlick doctors and support the psych industry even though they do the exact same thing

[whereisthesun]

I HATE MORAL OCD. well i shouldnt say hate thats a strong word. and i dont want to sound like i hate people WITH moral ocd because i dont of course. i just hate having it. but i shouldnt think that, i do like having morals, its just stressful to be thinking about them so constantly and scrutinizing every little thing i do or think. but really thats the least i could do so i should at least try, right? just because i suffer from— no, struggle with moral ocd doesn’t mean i should just stop thinking about things all together, thats not what im saying and i should make that clear, but i

[andhumanslovedstories]

via @kamil-a

[swagpaws]

god i hate how normalized diet culture and shit like bmi and calories are. bmi is based on eugenics. calories are a measurement of how much energy something gives u and not at all of how much weight or fat ull gain. diets have been proven to be harmful and ultimately unhelpful in actually losing weight. fatness has been largely proven to not be inherently unhealthy and doesnt inherently cause health issues.

if anyone has more good links to add on then please do and if anyone knows more on this stuff than me then dont hesitate to correct me!

[more-beanies]

FOOD IS GOOD. FOOD IS GOOD. FOOD IS GOOD!! if you’re eating, ever, and even/especially if it’s hard, know that i am personally SO SO proud of you

[normal-horoscopes]

The BMI was invented by Adolphe Quetelet, the 19th century statistician who invented phrenologist anthropometry. He wasn’t just a eugenicist, he was one of the founding fathers of racist pseudoscience. Please do not listen to anything he has to say about your body.

[uglymelon]

“And get this: While epidemiologists use BMI to calculate national obesity rates (nearly 35 percent for adults and 18 percent for kids), the distinctions can be arbitrary. In 1998, the National Institutes of Health lowered the overweight threshold from 27.8 to 25—branding roughly 29 million Americans as fat overnight—to match international guidelines. But critics noted that those guidelines were drafted in part by the International Obesity Task Force, whose two principal funders were companies making weight loss drugs.”

Source: https://www.motherjones.com/politics/2014/08/why-bmi-big-fat-scam/

Why BMI is a big fat scam

Body mass index is used to sell weight loss drugs, set insurance premiums, and counsel patients. There's just one little problem.

[bogleech]

I always thought everyone knew this by like the early 2000s but instead I see more people than ever believing this stuff is real medical science

[whatbigotspost]

Man if y'all folks up thread thought this situation was bad back in 2021 (as I did too) you won’t BELIEVE what the 2026 cultural convo on these topics is like.

[amjustgoose]

Reading one of the linked articles and fucking hell

I knew that it was made by a turbo racist pseudoscientist but the fact that he didn’t even make up his made up bullshit for health reasons is insane