Rajat Jain

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Own Your Life’s Journey!

Nisha has always been an extremely pampered child, she always had everything she wished for at least that’s what people surrounding her used to think. 

She belonged to the middle-class and busy family, where her parents were busy and they were allowing everything she asked for. 

This led people to think that how lucky she is though they were not knowing that Nisha was suffocating inside. It was hard to imagine for many people.

Nisha has been working in a multinational organisation as a software engineer though she doesn’t like her job. This only time her parents also do not allow her to leave the job as she has been coming from middle-class family and family has seen ups and downs in their life. 

She herself is not convinced to leave the job and pursue her passion of writing.

Like Nisha, many of us are suffocating for some reason or the other. Nisha is lucky that she knows why she is suffocating, though there are a majority of people who don’t know why they are suffocating inside. 

Soon people see their grey hair at a young age, breathing problems, diabetes, hypertension, obesity, stress. This has become a norm as one-third of people who they interact with are also suffering from above diseases and strangely these diseases are not called as ‘diseases’ by our society any longer.

We are locked with the prying of others and their judgements. 

Nisha was seeing the stress, breathing problems, all so called lifestyle diseases. She has done the higher studies, traveled the world, groom her appearance though if you ask her ‘Is she happy?’. She would deny and blame the environment. Is the environment really responsible as Nisha is not finding her happiness? 

I don’t think so.

My belief is that if someone cuts your hand also, It's you who are responsible. 

You need to take control of your life instead blaming the society, environment, people you are surrounding yourself with.

The good thing is Nisha knows that she is not happy. There are a majority of people who are utterly unhappy though they keep convincing themselves that they are happy. Everyone can see they are sad except them. It’s hard to accept. 

A person needs to introspect that, ‘Am I really ‘feeling good’? and Do I aspire to ‘feel good’ the whole day? Is there anything really bothering me? and making me unhappy?

We are living blessed in the eyes of the world, partying with friends, studying for exams, watching IPL at Hot star, Netflix series over series, completing office deadline work, attending kid’s school parent teacher’s meetings. We look satisfied from outside though it’s required to give a PAUSE and do a reality check. Am I really HAPPY? 

We need to ask this question multiple times, till we get really the answer that is affecting my emotion. What brings me happiness, sadness, anger, disappointment, anxiousness. This is a journey, you need to keep working on yourself as life and existence is itself changing every day.

Nisha wasn’t happy as she wasn’t enjoying her job, she wanted to pursue her passion as a writer and this thought was affecting her emotions and affecting her job, life and all other physical, emotional, spiritual, financial aspects.

Once you know the reason why you don’t feel so good, learn to say NO to the things that don't match to things you value. You only need to do the things that add Value. Value to YOU!

Nisha tried to understand that what she doesn’t like in her job and realised some tactical stuff and taking instructions of not just her boss though many other people led her day passed without the feeling of satisfaction. It brings frustration at the end of the day.

Many times, we don’t want to disappoint others, we think we need to sacrifice our choices that will make others happy. Well, this is not the case. It makes the matter worse and makes your life miserable. 

This is what happened to Nisha and stress started mounting till she realised that she needed to start saying NO.

You need to gather all the courage and tell the world what you like and what you do not like. You are living your life and you have all the rights to make choices for yourself.

Nisha’s stress was mounting each day and she realised that she needed to break the pattern. Nisha took a three weeks vacation from office, went to hills and agreed to enjoy nature and introspect.

Sometimes you have made so many sacrifices that people start thinking that this is what you enjoy and want in your life to be and you slowly lose your identity and become something what other people would like you to become. 

Remember, you need to Own your Life, Own your Time, Own Yourself. You are your own Sculptor, Others are busy sculpting themselves and will be least interested in you and more busy helping themselves. 

After coming back from vacation, Nisha opened her journal and built her life’s roadmap for the next 5 Years. She realised she needed to do few things and few things really well. Less is More!

The list of activities mounting on all aspects viz. Physical, Spiritual, Mental, Emotion, she invested her time, energy, focus, money into it. 

This time difference was that she was her own sculptor and was working on her own choices. Nisha started feeling satisfied at the end of the day.

Was it easy for Nisha! No, it wasn’t easy saying NO to your peers, to your seniors, to your family members though she understood it is good for her, for them, for organisation, for family.

People will give you a hard time when they find that you are not doing the way they want you to do the things. They will judge you, will try to hurt you, hurt you though if you are living and proud with your choices, you don’t need to be afraid of those judgemental people. 

Do not be afraid of anyone, if you are proud of yourself, people will understand you and start accepting as you are.

Today, Nisha knows what she needs to do. She has a vision board for the next 5 years and these 5 years are cut into years, quarters, months, weeks and days. She every time plans her next two weeks based on her 5 years vision board.

Few years ago, I read a quote ‘Leaders know what they need to do and they Do it’. 

I can say Nisha has transformed herself into a leader and what can I say, she is immensely happy and satisfied every day.

Life will go on and your time is running out. It’s time to Own your Life Journey!

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Conversation with my Yoga Trainer

Lately, I spoke to my Yoga Trainer, and he shared a beautiful story. A story of a monk who lived in an empty house with minimal things in his place. 

Once a person visited a monk’s house and asked him, ‘Where’s the furniture?’, the monk responded, that he is a traveller and travellers do not carry furniture or heavy luggage while travelling.

Monk continued, Imagine yourself sitting in a train station waiting-room. After a few hours, you will leave the place, then why hold the furniture? Why hold the past grudges, anger, guilt, disappointments and fear with near ones? 

What is important is to ‘live in the moments’ for the few hours that you spent in the waiting room. Visualize yourself sitting in the waiting room laughing, sharing, singing, playing games or meditating, whether you’re alone, with friends, family or strangers.

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FEELING BORED - NEED THE MAGIC PILL?

Each day we wake up, perform the daily routine activities, head towards work. As we sit down to our workplace table, we see yesterday’s emails and emails pop-in, back-to-back meetings and soon the day gets over. We get surprised how fast the day is over and that's how days, weeks and years pass.

Some point of time, we ask, ‘Why am I doing this?’ and then we get the answer, to pay my bills, food on the table, fulfil my desires of shopping, vacations. 

As per the statistics, 90% of people dislike their job and job environment. It's the monotonous routine that makes people less productive, dissolve their passion, start seeing the health issues and then the stress creeps in.

Few leave jobs and try to start something of their own, take a sabbatical or try to live the offbeat lifestyle (Mid-Life Crisis) though the question is Does this really help?

We know 95% of entrepreneurs ventures fail, those who take a sabbatical or leave job many a time repent on the decision taken and those who are still in the job are in withdrawal and isolation state. They are not productive as they are in Stress.

So what is needed? What is the Magic Pill?

Well, I was in a similar state few years ago. All these thoughts of taking a sabbatical from a job, leaving a job and start ‘something of my own’ came to my mind. Also, for a long time, I was in the withdrawal state in my job.

Then one fine day, I sat and started speaking to myself. I told myself that this will not work and I have to make a few changes. I made a list of the things I like the most. 

One of the prominent thing that came to my mind was to write a book. I always wanted to write a book. Per the statistics, 80% of the people like to write a book, though less than 0.5% are successful.

Now, I needed to pursue my passion. Right then, Mind started giving the objections as that’s mind’s role. Few Objections viz. Do you really have time? Do you really have depth in writing? Are you good enough? And more...

Well, my biggest objection was time, and I needed to create time without changing my routine. 

I was not in a hurry and wanted to pursue my passion. I started waking up 30 minutes early. Instead of sleeping for 8 hours, I started sleeping for 7.5 hours and realized that I created 30 minutes extra time. 

I didn’t change my routine. My office hours, my family time, my Netflix time all was necessary though, 30 mins writing time was the addition in 24 hours day cycle.

Just the slight change in my routine .i.e. working on my passion project took all the stress out. I have spent the best of my time already in the morning and I feel good, motivated the entire day.

This has made me successful in my job as well and whatever I have been pursuing. Today prominent companies like Google Microsoft, other companies also understand this. Employees get a few hours in their regular working hours where they can work on their passion project. This works for both parties as companies will get productive employees and employees will feel happy too.

I didn’t make the big changes viz. Leaving a job or Sabbatical. Just a little tweak in my routine rejuvenated me and today I am doing the best in my job. Also, already the Author of two Best-Selling books and Author Coach. All this by spending 30 mins. In a day, working on my passion project.

Yes, working on your passion project is the magic pill.

So, What’s your passion list and what are your objections. If you resonate to me and like to write a book, then you can reach out to me at [email protected] and my team will reach out to you.

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Rajat Jain is the Best-Selling Author and Author Coach, Speaker, Trainer. Rajat Jain is an Author of the book titled ‘Floating Happiness’ that unlocks the secrets of the joy of living available at Amazon, Flipkart and other Offline stores.

Rajat Jain is Author Coach and is helping 1000+ people becoming Authors.

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Messy To Classy

Beth wakes up at 10 AM, crawls to the bathroom, wash her face and by the time thinking what to eat it’s no longer a Breakfast though a Lunchtime. She orders junk from outside, watches the idiot box and feels life is good though something is missing. She is unsure of what is missing!

Cough, Vomit is a regular issue that comes with this Kicking lifestyle .i.e eating junk, going to parties tonight, Booz around, making some jokes and expecting people to laugh. She keeps telling this to herself, I am so funny.

Beth fails to understand that people live in relationships and there are people who have healthy eating habits. The philosophy is simple, we only live once and let's live fully. Her friends keep changing, and can't be friends with one person for long. Always judge others, always see people are not talking to her but commenting on her failures.

Beth cries like crazy at solitude times as she is 25 though she looks 35 years and has no boyfriend. Well, life is boring when she is not in front of the TV or boozing around at a party or eating junk.

Her uncle happened to be a doctor and visited her apartment, did her checkup and warned her of fatty liver that may kill her. Well, this is the last thing she needed to hear as she wasn’t ready for this. This calls for another junk food trip, visit the outlet, eat lots of junk and think about what to do next.

Ah, junk was tasty, who cares what to do next. It's ok if she dies early, who needs her anyway. No one loves her, she doesn’t love anyone. In the last 35 years of sorry 25 years, not made a single good relationship with anyone. She could recollect all the phony relationships, material, selfish beings who only think of themselves and that’s where she counts herself into as well.

Beth is a store girl. Her job is good enough to buy junk food, pay one bed-room rent, watch TV, cheap beer in the refrigerator. Day in Beth’s life - Wakes up at 10 AM, Store job from 2 PM to 10 PM, Party till 2 AM and Repeat. On Weekends and Holidays, the Store Job is replaced with watching Idiot Box (TV).

Beth’s parents died early, with no distant relatives except Doctor uncle, who is busy with his profession. He meets her once every 3 months and sometimes in 6 months. Beth had one crush at college, though the guy dumped her after a month of the relationship. She is not god-fearing or god loving, no dreams, no goals, can watch anything on TV lately liking horror movies & episode series. Her weight is gaining every day as she hates exercise.

Life is Good! That’s what Beth is feeling though sometimes at her solitude, she does feel something wrong.

It’s like everyone's life is running and her life is stopped. Well, this thought comes and then she sleeps over it and then back to the next day.

Beth has heard herself ‘Looser’ from so many people that she started believing herself as ‘Looser’ and does not object or get hurt if someone is saying so. She is emotionally weak though she does not show her weakness to anyone. Her parents were poor and never had intentions to let Beth do higher education.

Beth hates Rich people and she hates God too because she couldn’t understand how God can make some people live a rich life and few poor. She hates this partiality. In a nutshell, Beth was quite insecure about her life and hated herself. She was hopeful that someday she will love herself.

Beth had a colleague in store. Her name was ‘Kate’, she was the only one whom Beth could speak her mind out. Kate was a social media person, she every day used to post her pictures, brag about her, look for likes, appreciation and was hoping to hook with her prince charming.

One afternoon, Kate told Beth about Store restructuring. The store is firing people and is blaming the economy, the same business going down reasons.

This freaks her out. Well, money was the only thing that was coming month over month and helping to pay for her junk food, apartment rent, etc. Beth didn’t have good health or great relationships and It seems ‘Money problems’ may join the bandwagon.

As they say, What you focus on expands and Beth’s name was listed in ‘firing list’. She was out within a week with the little severance package. She was shattered, broken completely, got sick and was hospitalized for a week. The money she saved and the little severance package was taken by the hospital in name of hospital fees.

She approached her friend ‘Kate’ though ‘Kate’ isn’t in a mood to help her nor anyone else, in fact, few people insulted her. They told her that they wonder why the current situation has come so late to her. They told her that she should have killed herself and they wonder how she still exists.

It was 14th Dec. morning, when she woke up and felt different. She got thought of turning around her life. She had seen the lowest part of her life and had a belief that whatever will happen will be good only.

People’s comments didn’t frustrate Beth any longer. She found a new ‘Ray of Hope’ in her life. She got the urge to ‘Create a new and beautiful life’. She needed to gather all her life’s broken pieces and build a beautiful story around it.

This was the day, she wrote an email to herself, that irrespective of the people's judgments, her self judgment, her fear, her pain, her weaknesses she has no right to live a mediocre life. She will not let her pain overrule her life. She will no longer let life run her though she will run her life.

The next set of emails were sent to all the critics, old friends, family members. The body of the message was a Sincere Plain Thank You Note. She thanked them for thinking about her. Beth put her intentions that she has no grudges, hatred with anyone, and she also asked for forgiveness. This requires guts and beth did it.

Beth was clear that she needs to take responsibility for her life. Enough of seeking sympathy and giving reasons why she can’t be good. These were all the thoughts coming to her when she was drinking coffee at the coffee shop. She was thinking about how she could turn around her lazy disorganized life and suddenly saw few marathon runners pass by the coffee shop.

She got a strong urge to do a marathon. She knew she needed a GOAL. A Big Audacious GOAL and marathon qualify a Big Audacious Goal knowing she was heavy built with the extra pounds and had to work on her Health as a Priority.

She built the Priority List right there at Coffee Shop:

Run a Marathon

Get the Job at Store (Contract)

Get Married

Have Beautiful Kids

Make good friends you can die for and they can die for you (Loving relationships)

Well, now she had a reason to live and love herself. She took out the newspaper and looked at the classified section and started searching for the job. Within 3 weeks, she had a job and a nice one-bedroom apartment.

It’s so true when you decided you need to achieve something then all the cosmic world’s energy conspires you to achieve it.

Beth has turned her life from Messy to Classy!

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Chitradurga - Hidden Treasure

Chitradurga - Hidden Treasure

It was December last week and it was a holiday time. Schools and Offices were closed and we as family were wondering where to visit. 

We didn’t want to visit the far areas, spend time waiting at the busy airport lounges and drive to the airport. We felt, It will be too much of a hustle knowing everyone would be traveling during this period.

Then, we thought of a short road-trip and stay at a place for 2 nights. I contacted my brother in law and made a program that both mine and his family can visit to place called Shimoga (5 Hours drive from Bangalore)

Well, I heard a lot about this place especially because of the ‘Jog Falls’ is near to this place though this post is not for ‘Shimoga’. I will write another blog on that experience.

It was our last day at Shimoga and we were sitting at the breakfast table and were wondering if there's any place on the way between Shimoga and Bangalore. I went to the Hotel reception and checked. 

They told me two or three places, out of that one place was called Chitradurga Fort. The hotel reception person said, that if you like to visit the historic or a heritage place. 

The first thought in our mind was ‘No’, I would not be interested to see the old fort though we googled and found it was detour of extra 7 Kilometres only. All of us thought of dropping an Idea. Well, why to go extra 7 kilometres also.

No one was interested except my brother in law ‘Sudeep’, He already googled and found about Chitradurga Fort’s History. He convinced us to visit the place and spend some time over there and leave early from the place. 

Sudeep loves to drive and his point was, that it will be sort of a break for him to stop at Chitradurga. We will see the place, eat something and then head towards Bangalore.

So, We all went to Chitradurga with no hopes and no interest on this place. Well, we have never heard of it and no one ever talked about this fort. 

It took us less than 2 hours from Shimoga to Chitradurga and we reached the place. Now, the question was to either give the priority to ‘Lunch’ first or enter the fort. 

I asked the ticket counter that how much time it would take to visit the fort and she mentioned 3 hours. I repeated back - 3 Hours and then she said, it depends upon you, if you would like to return back in 30 mins, then you can come back. We took the tickets as we realised that there is a small food shop inside the fort also. The ticket cost was quite low - Rs. 25/- for adults and Rs. 10/- for Kids.

As we entered into the fort, we found few inscriptions on fort and one such inscription was a Cobra snake picture. We wondered why cobra’s picture is drawn on entrance of the fort, though no one was there to help clear our curiosity. 

We moved further. The fort walls were built with the height around 40 to 60 feet and strong granite stones structure. 

We could find the inscriptions written on walls. Sadly, no one was there to answer our questions. The fort is maintained by ASI - Archaeological Survey of India and their were direction boards all over that did lead us further. 

We happened to meet Mr. Chandrasekhar, who introduced himself as a Guide and he is at Chitradurga fort from past 14 Years. 

He was god sent to us as we wanted someone to come over who could help answer our questions. 

He charged Rs. 400/- though I tried to negotiate, considering I was born and brought up in Delhi and feel it’s my right to negotiate though negotiations didn’t work. He showed us the standard rate-list and we agreed to pay and hired him.

Chandrasekhar asked where are we coming from and we told him that we did drive from Shimoga though we are from Bangalore. 

He mentioned this fort is 200 kilometre (3 hours drive) from Bangalore and it’s located at the southern part of Karnataka.

He continued, did you see the cobra picture at the fort entrance and wondered why it’s drawn there. We all nodded our head. Well, that’s why we hired you to get the answer to this question. 

It’s like he read our mind, when he asked this question.

He said this fort has seven entrances and this entrance is in a ‘ZigZag Wavy’ like the snake’s movement. Then, the next question asked by my 9 years old son ‘Shaurya’, that why entrance is made in a wavy format. Very Good question, Chandrasekhar was delighted to hear the question, This time was son read his mind.

Chandrasekhar continued, The reason why the entrance is designed and made like this was to stop the enemy to enter the fort. The way is built in such a way was to confuse the enemy, so they can’t come with the big armoury, weapons and elephants at the war time. 

This was an ‘Aha’ moment for us, just by realising the kind of planning the people did to stop the enemy into the fort. The fort is reported to be in 1500 acre area and it's the 2nd largest fort in India, UNESCO Heritage site built in stages between 11th and 13th century.

It was interesting to hear the amazing stories especially the planning and design thinking used by the people. We need to learn the ‘planning’ and ‘strategic thinking’ used at this old heritage site. Few examples, if I shared, that our guide told us include

Each wall has a gate with ascending access through winding narrow corridors which would make it difficult to use elephants for attacking the fort or to use "battering rams" to break down the gates.

Rainwater-harvesting structures were built in a cascade development, which ensured large storage of water in interconnected reservoirs. It is said that the fort precincts never faced any water shortage. If there is no rains for 12 continuous years, then also there will be no water shortage because of the reservoirs.

There are multiple such ‘design thinking’ elements, you would find at each piece of this built-up of 1300 acres hidden fort straddle between hills. You would find the rocks are in the shape of animals, plants and other pictures and that is the reason, why this fort name is Chitradurga (Picturesque) Fort.

The Fort straddles several hills and a peak overlooking a flat valley lies in the midst of a valley formed by the Vedavati River.

We initially thought to come out of this fort in 30 minutes and ended up spent more than 3 hours, as we were loving the stories shared by our guide Mr. Chandrasekhar. 

The Amazing legend links the hills surrounding the fort to the epic Mahabharata. It is said that a man-eating giant named Hidimbasura lived on the Chitradurga hill and had terrorised everyone around, When the Pandavas came with their mother Kunti in the course of their exile, Bhima had a duel with Hidimba. Hidimba was slain by Bhima and peace returned to the area.

You would hear the stories of Mughals, Nayakas, Britishers and we had an amazing time. We wanted to know more about these stories and excitedly rush to the reception to buy a ‘book’ or any details so we can get more about this picturesque fort. 

Sadly, not a single flyer was available about the fort. I felt very sad when I heard that nothing, not even a single flyer was available on fort, forget about the book.

No wonder, No one knows about this treasure and that’s why I am calling this a hidden treasure. I immediately opened the e-commerce sites, if I can order any book on Chitradurga, except one Kannada book, not a single book was written.

Seeing this Chitradurga, my interest of visiting these hidden treasures increased. I have always been a person who loved ‘Nature’ and ‘City’ Tours. Now, I feel visit the ‘Heritage’ and ‘Pilgrimage’ sites as there are so untold fascinated stories and rich history. 

I opened the archaeological survey of India (ASI) website and found 133 such heritage sites only in Karnataka and I had no clue about the places. I feel, there are so many people like me who are interested to know a lot about these hidden treasures.

I urge everyone to write and share posts of these heritage sites and encourage people to visit these beautiful monuments and always do hire a guide, so guide can share the untold stories.

In some monuments, you will not even find the ‘Guide’ though It’s important to learn about the place and share it with friends and family. Write Blogs, Click Pictures and share, else our future generation will never no our country’s rich heritage.

If you liked this blog, then I would encourage you to share this post with your family and friends.

Rajat Jain

Author of a Book ‘Floating Happiness’ - Secrets of Joy of Living

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Lessons from Shivamoga Elephant Camp Trip. Elephants are so Huge still humble with no arrogance or ego

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It was 25th Oct. 2014 (Exactly 5 Years ago), when I decided to become an author. Check the date my facebook image posted 5 years ago attached... This one decision changed my life. I am sharing the below 2 Videos on ‘Authorpreneur’ with you on the topics viz. 1. What I will be covering in this ‘Book Authoring Online Course’ (Exclusive Video)- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dNorFLownY4&feature=youtu.be 2. Why you need to become an Author (Exclusive Video) - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9GvYY7dJI-o&feature=youtu.be I am preparing the ‘Author’s Blueprint’ course and will be sharing the course link with you by 17th Nov. ’19 (Sunday). I have not decided the pricing of this course yet (It will be a high price course as I will spent lot of time, energy into this) though for the 1st 50 people and as Diwali gift (only valid till 27th Oct.), I am giving this course at a flat Rs. 997/- only. Well, as a Bonus - I am going to handhold you to become an author with the 3 coaching calls of 30 mins each. as well. Here’s the link to ENROLL NOW - https://www.instamojo.com/rajatj/authors-blueprint/?discount=diwali https://www.instagram.com/p/B4C1OABBQ0P/?igshid=d87ukz48kq5l

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It was an honour to be a speaker at 'Fortune Changers Summit'.

The event "Abundance Acceleration Intensive' was huge success. Thanks to all participants, volunteers for being part of this wonderful event.

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Financial Success is Overrated..

It was 23rd May' 2019, When I happened to sit along with a multi millionaire in a plane.

I did break the ice by asking 'What do you do' and then he revealed that he is in business for close to 30+ years and has the 'real estate houses and land' in the multiple countries and do not even have a count of how many multiple sources of income especially the affiliates he own.

I got the goosebumps and for few minutes i was speechless as I couldn't believe that i was sitting with the big business tycoon.

Then he asked me 'what I do'. I told him that I am a mindfulness practitioner, author and life coach who teaches people the secrets of joy of living .I.e. how to live a happy and purposeful life.

He asked me to speak more about the work I do, then I mentioned that how important it is to live a balanced life w.r.t. physical, emotional, spiritual and mental aspects.

Now, he was speechless and didn't speak a word for a few seconds.

I asked him what happened.

He said that it's not a coincidence that he is sitting with the mindfulness coach as he needed this the most.

I was surprised and asked really, you are so rich, successful and I am sure you must have all the time to spend with your family, health and other life aspects.

With the husky voice, he said - Not really, I spent most of my time building my businesses. I may be financially successful but I failed miserably in the other aspects of life.

I do not have the healthy relationship with my son and daughter. My wife doesn't have any expectations from me. I do not have any best friend who I can call at 2 PM midnight.

"Financial success is overrated"

Everywhere you would find people are teaching the courses on 'How to Influence People?', ''How to run business?", 'Selling and Marketing Techniques' though tell me when was the last time you attended a course on 'how to be a good father', 'how to be a loving husband', 'how to be a good friend'.

Considering everyone see the person who is rich as so special that everyone likes to become rich. I am not saying it's not good to be rich. Blessed are the rich though with the financial success, you need to have the success in your Emotional, Spiritual, Social, Physical aspects as well and then I would call you a really rich personal.

Well, I smiled. For a moment I forgot that I am the mindfulness coach as I was at the receiving end of all the mindfulness lessons from this multi millionaire.

I understood that something is deep inside him and he would like to reveal this with the stranger so he can be light hearted.

So I asked, I don't understand. Could you explain me any story or episode happened with you or your friend that is letting you think that you are not successful.

Yes, I couldn't manage the mess my son was going through in college as I was busy building the green bucks. He needed me and I wasn't there.

I couldn't figure out that my wife needed my support, she was just looking for my nod and the words of encouragement which I never uttered led her to stop expecting anything from me.

I don't have any friend who can call me and just speak to me for few minutes as they all know that I am so busy and my every hour means money.

Money is overrated, I have all the money now but look at the situation today that I require a stranger to discuss all my life problems to be more light hearted.

But, don't you think sir that once you have the money than you can spend more time with your family, can make good friends and relationships.

Yes, but you need to be mindful of this as you mentioned rightly that the real success is balancing the Financial, Emotional, Spiritual, Physical Life aspects.

Don't just run for money, spend your time doing the courses on ''How to be good husband?" also and other aspects of life. Then life will be balanced and beautiful.

Now, that I have given you the good life lessons and pour my heart out, I expect you being an Author will be putting up a blog soon and will tag me for sure. Am I Correct?

Absolutely Sir :)

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Butterflies cannot see their colourful wings but the rest of the world can. You are a wonderful person & while you may not see it, the whole world can. Thanks for reading the article and liking it :-)

Rajat Jain is a Mindfulness Author, Speaker, Trainer and Breakthrough Coach with the multi years of mindfulness practice. On a mission to help 100K people to be more self-aware and live a purposeful and joyful life !!

Rajat Jain is an Author of the book titled ‘Floating Happiness’ that unlocks the secrets of joy of living.

The Book is available to order @ Amazon.com, Amazon.in, Flipkart,

Website: Floating Happiness

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Go beyond Emotions !!

Every moment we spent either lonely or with others is filled with emotions. Emotions could be of anger, sadness, disgust, fear or joy and laughter.

In my view, the emotions are the instruments of mind. Mind uses emotions per it's convenience to control the person's actions.

"Mind is a good slave though a bad master."

"So Is it not virtuous to be emotional? Is it not good to burst out of laughter or cry when you felt like crying?". Well these are logical questions especially knowing that Man is the only species that is soaring in emotions. We don't expect emotions drizzling from the plants and animals.

In my view, we are emotional beings and there is nothing wrong being emotional irrespective we are adults and not kids. I feel I need to call ‘adults’ as a 'Big Kids'.

Let me share two short stories with you, One story is of 'Kids' and the other of 'Big Kids', actually it's an incident I witnessed last week.

Once, I was standing at my balcony & was watching few kids playing football in a park. While playing, one of the child got hurt, he started crying. Seeing the child hurt, few of the children laughed and other sympathised, then things became normal and everyone resumed the game.

On the same day, our cook got hurt while making the breakfast. She cried and after an hour also, she showed her wound to my wife. Then, she shared her stories that how her life is upto the the terrible phase in the past few days and months. This injury was the testimony of her awful life phase.

The difference between the Child and Maid story was that "Child didn't let the emotions took over" while maid was scratching her wounds and fell flat into arms of emotions. 

"It hurts when you hold emotions for long..."

I will share another incident happened to me in one of training I attended few months back. The training name was "Crucial Conversations". It was a corporate setup and people knew each other as cooleagues since 20+ years or more.

In one segment of the training, trainer made the pair and asked each person to vent out any past grudge or grudging emotions with the other, then both people to listen, forgive each other and move on. 

Well to do this exercise, the trainer spent first two days to create a jovial environment to let this exercise take a meaningful shape.

When we listened to the responses, It was shocking to hear that one had so much anger, sadness and other emotions for the other. This was due to some little incident happened 20 years ago. After the exercise, everyone had a good laugh and had sound relationship with the other.

"It builds remarkable relationships when we don't hold our emotions..."

I feel "Emotions are good only if we keep them temporarily and not permanent". Let the emotions appear and disappear and do not hold it for long. 

Just this awareness can make the significant difference is one's life. Self-awareness is a gift, unwrap it and share it with others.

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Butterflies cannot see their colourful wings but the rest of the world can. You are a wonderful person & while you may not see it, the whole world can. Thanks for reading the article and liking it :-)

Rajat Jain is a Mindfulness Author, Speaker, Trainer and Breakthrough Coach with the multi years of mindfulness practice. On a mission to help 100K people to be more self-aware and live a purposeful and joyful life !!

Rajat Jain is an Author of the book titled ‘Floating Happiness’ that unlocks the secrets of joy of living.

The Book is available to order @ Amazon.com, Amazon.in, Flipkart, Other Online Stores

Website: Floating Happiness

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Mindfulness Moments - My Trip to Cellular Jail (Kala Pani), Port Blair

I visited the historical site, the Cellular Jail (Kala Pani), Port Blair at the Andaman Islands. I was been told that it’s important to take the guide so that you could understand the place, it’s history and it’s importance.

I followed the advice and was introduced to Mr Shibu. Mr Shibu is the guide here since past 20 years. 

As we started the tour, He guided us to look at the few paintings at Jail’s Art gallery.

The paintings were showing the ill-treatment our freedom-fighters (political prisoners) had gone through. The torture that cannot be imagined.

Our tour guide (Mr Shibu) than showed gallows (Phansi Ghar) and mentioned that the rod, lever we could see were original and used in killing thousands of people. They didn’t have the official records as records were burnt sometime in the year 1945.

The Jail’s architecture was built in a ‘Spider formation’. The design was built in such a way that no two people could see each other or could talk to each other.

This was not enough as we realized the ‘political prisoners’ were supposed to extract the ‘coconut oil’ from the handmade and the semi-machines. The targets allotted to them in a day was so huge that no one could ever achieve that, so they all were punished (brutally punished).

They were punished to the extent that they could not sit, walk, sleep, eat because of deep wounds and pain (inhuman treatment).

In the name of the food, they used to get the limited lentils (dal) with the stones and water in it. 

These people were freedom fighters viz. ‘Vir Sarvarkar Ji (The Port Blair airport is named after him), Mahavir Singh and many others from the different places in India.

They used to go on an ‘Unlimited Fasting’ sometimes the ‘fasting’ used to last for more than a month. It was certain that one who has come to this Prison as a ‘prisoner’, would die here.

In such brutal environment also, the ‘freedom fighters’ used to live with full of vigour and sung the patriotic songs and ‘Bharat Mata Ki Jai etc.’ slogans could be heard.

While I heard Mr Shibu, one thought kept on going in my mind that ‘Freedom has not come cheap’

The sacrifices made by the great ‘freedom fighters’, the future generation need to keep remembering the reason behind their freedom 

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Rajat Jain is a Mindfulness Author, Speaker, Trainer and Breakthrough Coach with the multi years of mindfulness practice. On a mission to help 100K people to be more self-aware and live a purposeful and joyful life !!

Rajat Jain is an Author of the book titled ‘Floating Happiness’ that unlocks the secrets of joy of living.

The Book is available to order @ Amazon.com, Amazon.in, Flipkart, Other Online Stores

Website: Floating Happiness

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How I started writing a book?

"You can't hire someone else to do pushups for you".

"You must take the personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons or the wind, but you change yourself."

Three years ago, I attended the seminar that led me to remember my old dream of writing a book. It also led me to remember my friend's negative voices, how they ridiculed me, laughed at me when I shared this idea with them.

One of my friends even explained to me that 'Why I should not write a book'.

I remember his words when he said, Rajat - You are working in a startup, holding the responsible position and you have no working hours. You need to take care of your spouse, kid, old age parents. Now taking this new commitment will lead you to compromise on your current affairs.

This seminar brought my dream back, and it led me started thinking that how can I fulfil my old dream, also ensuring it doesn't affect my office & family matters.

I decided, that I will produce one extra hour to achieve this goal and will call this my 'writing hour'. I started waking up early morning.

It wasn't easy to create the habit of waking up early morning. Though the dream, the visualisation of holding my book in my hand was so vigorous, that led me to wake up early.

After Three years of consistent effort, I created a master piece my book titled 'Floating Happiness'.

Remember the formulae, Event + Response = Outcome. Life will pass the events to you, the way you respond to them will either bring the positive or negative outcome.

Do you remember the Gujrat earthquake in 2007? Well, I do.

After few days of the earthquake, I watched local news channel which was interviewing people community to work.

The earthquake had damaged one main highway that was leading to the city. Traffic was a standstill and what was normally 30 mins. The drive was now two to three hours drive.

The local channel reporter knocked on one of the car's windows stuck in the traffic & asked the person how he was doing.

He responded angrily, "I hate this place, there are cyclones, floods, earthquakes". No matter what time you leave in the morning, you can never reach office on time. I am going to be late for work, and I don't believe this.

Then the reporter knocked on the window of the car behind him & asked the second person the same question.

This person was smiling. He replied it's not a problem. I left my house early morning. I don't think under these circumstances my boss can ask for more than that. I have lots of music CDs and my 'Learn Japanese - language podcasts' with me. I have my phone, tea in my thermos, I have my lunch with me and have also brought a book to read. I am good.

Now if the earthquake or Traffic was the deciding factor to be successful, then everyone should have been angry.

It was thinking positive thoughts and negative thoughts, leaving the house unprepared or leaving the house prepared has made the difference. The way you respond to the event has made the difference.

I heard this beautiful story of Monty Roberts, the author of 'Man who listens to horses'. When Monty was in high school, his teacher gave him the class assignment to write about what they wanted to do when they grew up. Monty wrote that he wanted to own 200-acre ranch and raise through breed racehorses.

His teacher gave him an 'F' and explained that the grade reflected that he deemed his dream unrealistic. No boy who was living in a camper on the backup of a pickup truck would ever be able to amass money to buy a ranch, purchase breeding stock, and pay the necessary salaries. When he offered Monty the chance of rewriting his paper for a higher grade, Monty told him “You keep the F, I am keeping my dream'.

Today Monty Roberts owns a 4000 square foot house on a 200-acre horse ranch and still to this day has the school paper framed over his fireplace.

The bottom line is that you are the one who is creating your life the way it is.  You are in charge of what you say and what you do. You have the power & you can't hire someone else to do pushups for you.

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Rajat Jain is a Mindfulness Author, Speaker, Trainer and Breakthrough Coach with the multi years of mindfulness practice. On a mission to help 100K people to be more self-aware and live a purposeful and joyful life !!

Rajat Jain is an Author of the book titled ‘Floating Happiness’ that unlocks the secrets of joy of living.

The Book is available to order @ Amazon.com, Amazon.in, Flipkart, Other Online Stores

Website: Floating Happiness

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Mind doesn’t want you to succeed!!

Happiness attracts Misery, and Misery attracts Happiness. Both Happiness and Misery are the weapons of mind which it uses to control us. The right word is consciousness, i.e. witnessing your thoughts, let the thoughts appear & disappear, we being just the watchman.

The mind is not designed for you to be successful. The mind has a particular job, i.e. survival, protection. It's always looking for the problems.

Asking your mind to be successful is like asking your cook to do the plumbing job. Doesn't mean the cook is the wrong person but that's not its job. He is not qualified to do it.

The mind has a favourite phrase - 'What if - What if this happens, What if that happens, What if this goes wrong, What if that goes wrong'.

In the starting years of my career, I am involved in one of office project, where people from top to bottom were with full of negative thoughts. Every day, someone or the other creates fear of job loss, pass the buck. I thought what if I will get fired, what if my boss will shout at me, what is he hits me, what if he sue me.

Nothing Happened, This was all my protectionist mind. I took a step back and started listening to my heart. Within no time, things improved.

We need to listen to our heart.

A few years back, we enrolled our son in karate classes. We thought he will learn self-defence and were also inspired by this movie – Karate Kid. Soon we realised his heart doesn't lie in doing karate. He used to get the stomach ache just before the karate class, spend time in the toilet while doing karate he was looking at the chirping birds, squirrels passing by and was anxiously waiting for class to end.

It led us to identify another sport for him. He started skating and fell more than 100 times in first 2-3 days. After that also, he was falling, falling that much that people ridiculed him, passing comments, Does he have any problems with his legs etc. though he was enjoying skating a lot. He used to fall, stand up and start again.

The falling didn't stop him as he fell in love with skating.

After a month, he asked me to get the better skates and protection kit for him.

He listened to his heart.

Today he flies on the skating ramp and is Bangalore South Club Level gold medalist. He proved It doesn't matter if it rains or shines, I will continue to sow my seeds. It doesn't matter if it is a happy day or a sad day, I will keep giving my best efforts.

I am not attached to the happiness and misery events and enjoying this present moment thoroughly.

Talking about the present moment,

I heard this beautiful story, where a wealthy man was looking for a person who can give him the glimpse of happiness & peace of mind. Someone sent him to one saint. The rich man visited him and asked the glimpse of joy, and in return, he gave bag filled with lots of money. The saint took the bag and ran away, and this rich man started running behind, starting crying loud.

After taking few rounds, saint threw the bag at the same place and hide behind the tree.

The rich man found his bag and felt happy and then saint came out and asked, Did you get happiness? And a man said yes, though this man had his bag with him before meeting the saint also.

Living and witnessing this moment will bring you happiness.

Being aware of your mind's role, listen to your heart and residing in the present moment are the secrets to Mega Living.

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Rajat Jain is a Mindfulness Author, Speaker, Trainer and Breakthrough Coach with the multi years of mindfulness practice. On a mission to help 100K people to be more self-aware and live a purposeful and joyful life !!

Rajat Jain is an Author of the book titled ‘Floating Happiness’ that unlocks the secrets of joy of living.

The Book is available to order @ Amazon.com, Amazon.in, Flipkart, Other Online Stores

Website: Floating Happiness