Getting thru art block .... So have some CASUALTIES: UNKNOWN ART!! CAN YOU BELIEVE IT! Been loving this game so much it motivated me to actually draw something
Expie weight refs as warmup
Fun fact, if you eat a lot (not enough to get you sick, just eat every time you have the space to) you can gain weight and you get fat. which is very awesome cuz eating a lot also brings your mood up and I ended up doing a test where I brought an expie's mood up from like -30 to over 75 or so JUST by eating yummy foods. And over a certain amount of happiness, your expie's face will be happy and blushing and this is what it looks like (default weight for comparison)
Nourished, hydrated, happy, flourishing. This is adorable.
I'm glad that this is in the game despite it being basically impossible to get enough food to eat this much during normal runs without using cheats. At least for me cuz I'm not very good at this game.. yet. That could make an interesting challenge run though
i used to be a sad boy that lost his passion for reading and now im a cute dyke with glasses reading books on the train and blushing when pretty girls smile at me from across the car
i used to be so sad and so miserable and so scared. Now i get to be a pretty girl in public and other girls see me and smile and we compliment each other and it's normal and im happy.
im so fucking happy, even when life sucks, im fucking happy.
My apparently wild and radical take is that trans women can literally just dress like women without much "accomodation"
"but what about hiding your-" I guarantee you women's clothes already does that, and you need it less than you think
"but what about adding padding to-" there are women's clothes that do that, also you need it less than you think
"but I don't think women's clothes will accommodate my proportions" I'm guessing that they will, and if you've been in HRT for any noticeable amount of time, they will likely fit better than men's clothes
Like I had my whole "femboy guide" pre transition, but that was a different vibe entirely.
If you want my advice on how to dress now, it would literally just be:
Take what you currently wear
Look at the woman's cut version of it
Size it properly
Wear it the correct way (eg, use the waist that women's clothes are made for)
There's a lot of clothes that's made "specifically for" trans women. Aside from very specific things (like tucking) I think most of it is garbage. Not to mention the absolute horrible ways that they're often marketed, rolling in trans women's everyday clothes with crossdressers and fetish gear.
When a trans woman first transitions, I've found that they're immediately BOMBARDED with "fashion advice" that is A, extremely othering and sometimes dysphoria inducing, and B, oftentimes outright garbage and uses old school crossdressing/drag advice that often fails to account for the effects of HRT, or doesn't come off as a more casual look.
I do think there's value in guides that are more in the zone of "hey, you've only been taught about men's fashion and clothes your whole life, here's the basics of women's fashion to catch you up to speed" but I've yet to find one that doesn't devolve into a weird "hide everything about your body, tran" kind of tone.
Quick preemptive Q&A
Are you saying that trans women CAN'T wear men's clothes and/or be butch?
No, I'm saying that women's clothes DOES fit and accommodate trans women's proportions, but most people refuse to believe that.
So you're a gender conformist then? Just molded to the binary system of fashion?
The last thing society wants a trans woman to be, is a woman. The most radical thing you can be is yourself, and sometimes yourself is a woman.
But what if I don't want to dress in women's clothes?!?
Fuckit, here's my bullet point fashion guide for trans women. This is stuff that applies to ALL women but trans women specifically will not have learned earlier in childhood.
Your waist is high. Higher than that. It's over your belly button. Yes it'll feel high waisted. Yes it'll also feel good. If your hips are getting wider, this is where pants will try to sit naturally anyways, and anything else will be uncomfortable.
On that note, the lack of pockets on women's pants actually does have a functional undertone. Having pockets at the waistline creates a VERY uncomfortable "pivot point" between your stomach and your legs, meaning if you put your keys or phone in pockets of women's pants, they're gonna jab you in the stomach.
THAT SAID, if you DO want pockets, I'm not gonna stop you. But get cargo pants!!! Women's cargo pants look SO nice, and thigh pockets are a godsend. They're more functional and more comfortable with growing hips.
Yes, women's cuts actually do make a fair bit of difference, and yes, you will fit and look more feminine in a women's cut. Even if it's a women's cut of jeans and a t shirt.
"unisex" clothing is oftentimes just men's clothing rebranded. I'm sorry but it's true. A lot of it will drape over you in boxy ways, since the "visual size" of a men's cut is almost entirely defined by the shoulders and upper body. This looks bad if you have wide shoulders or large boobs. It looks REALLY bad if you have wide shoulders AND large boobs, like I do. (Side note, the solution to degendering this should probably be something along the lines of giving the two cuts neutral names, like "shoulder cut" and "waist cut")
Bra sizing is a mystic art. No chart, calculator, or online tool will get you anywhere close to just trying on a variety of them yourself. They're a necessary starting point, but they're not going to get it right. Doesn't have to be an actual fitting, doesn't have to involve another human being, just grab a couple and try them all on. Hell, order them online and return the ones that don't fit if you're too nervous about being seen at all.
Don't make any fashion goal to "hide" anything (apart from tucking tbh, but tucking is less dramatic than a lot of other stuff imo). This isn't even primarily a self confidence point (although that's a great side effect) it's a point that if you spend too much effort or emphasis in "hiding" something, the rest of the fit is going to fall away from you or be guided by that in restricting ways. It also might call a lot of unnecessary attention to the exact thing you're trying to hide- and oftentimes, the only reason you wanted to hide it is because you're overly self conscious about something that's falling within normal variation. Choker to hide an Adam's apple? Now you're both calling attention to your neck, and are limited to outfits that work with that choker. Too much stuff over the shoulders to hide them? Now you're limited to things that cover the shoulders, and are also adding more padding or material to them. This point is deprogramming. The fashion choices that trans women are having imposed upon them to look more cis are not only a result of cis bullying, but oftentimes achieve the opposite effect than what people want.
I usually buy mens shoes for more "useful" shoes, but there are ways to get women's styles:
Find a brand with unisex sizing conventions, eg, something with British sizing system. They'll have availability of all their styles in their full size ranges- if not in a store, you can try a different style in a store and then order the style you want online. Blundstones are a FANTASTIC example.
If you want flats and heels- Nordstrom rack, Ross, and similar "overflow stock" stores are a blessing. They literally have fancy shoes in a greater size range than you would get them at a full price store, and at a huge discount.
like ok allegedly the white people in Northern Ireland terrorizing mainly Black people and poc are British loyalists and not “real Irish” but that video stating that is showing more concern for the white Irish people currently hiding in their homes “in fear” of harm, while real life Black people are actively being harmed lmao like??? get up! if you say you’re not like these white supremacists than show up in defense for the Black people currently being mobbed by people who look like you!
paying liberal lip service does nothing but make sure history doesn’t remember you as the “actual bad guys”, just the cowardly bystanders & it damn sure doesn’t make any moves to protect anyone Black!
Hi girls, let’s do something! Reblog to this post with a picture of yourself, or a transition timeline if you feel comfortable about it, and things that make you happy and comfortable about yourself! To spread a bit of positivity, and show the girls that are scared that there’s joy on the other side.
another Black trans woman was found murdered, louisiana this time, and the news is consistently misgendering her in all the reporting. her name was marlow trottie and she was only 35 and she was a woman. don’t let them erase her womanhood.