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It’s cancer season, and I haven’t even cried yet. I mean I have been bone dry for months. Plan is: Watch the first 6 episodes of This Is Us, the Merlin finale and then as many episodes of the Fosters as I can before I pass out from dehydration. Then I’ll be good to go.
What we need to learn from the Aziz Ansari clusterfuck
This is not actually an article about him, the claw, or anything to do with the night in question that we are all reading about this weekend. I wasn’t there. We haven’t heard his account, and so I have no right, nor inclination, to comment.
But it has indeed sparked an interesting conversation about consent, both technical and more importantly, emotional, and how vital it is to read the room and make sure the other person is not just willing, but damn well enthusiastic. Especially, in my opinion, if that person is the one to be penetrated. You want to enter them. You best ensure you are a welcome guest, not someone who just begged, pressured, guilt-tripped or harassed their way inside.
There are men I know who are respectful and patient in sexual scenarios, who I daresay are actually turned off if a woman isn’t very obviously enjoying herself. These men are sadly the exception, not the norm.
Our society has mislead men. We have allowed pornography to continuously promote that narrative that a woman is a hole for a man to enjoy when and how he feels like it. Very rarely is a woman’s needs paid much/any attention to in porn, and when it is, it’s often illustrated as the woman just happening to enjoy whatever the man does, even if she doesn’t at first, without fail, she always comes round to his brilliant idea, and is the good sport we all hoped she would be.
A lot of pornography is dedicated, quite literally, to the thrill being how much a woman literally didn’t want to have sex at all and how he did it, really violently, anyway. What is going on?
Then we have music videos where the girls are always practically naked and performing rehearsed dance routines for the men, who are sitting there on their arses, sometimes in outdoor winter layers, doing nothing other than enjoying their needs being met.
Then you have music lyrics which went from, “Try a little tenderness,” to MURDER THAT PUSSY. BEAT THAT PUSSY UP. PUT THAT PUSSY IN A TOASTER. SHRED THE PUSSY AND PUT IT IN THE BIN. THROW THE PUSSY OUT THE WINDOW. FLUSH THE PUSSY DOWN THE TOILET.
(Poor old pussy having a terrible time.)
Our society, the internet, and even our most mainstream media, constantly perpetuate the idea that men do not need to worry about what our needs and boundaries are. They just need technical consent, however that consent is acquired.
CONSENT SHOULDN’T BE THE GOLD STANDARD. That should be the basic foundation. Built upon that foundation should be fun, mutual passion, equal arousal, interest and enthusiasm. And it is any man or woman’s right at ANY time to stop, for whatever reason.
We also need to reassure women that their fear of being thought of as “difficult” “awkward” or god forbid, “frigid,” should be completely eradicated, effective immediately. These are stereotypes created by the patriarchy, about women, to rather astonishingly, douse women in shame for feeling ownership over their own bodies and moving at a pace they are comfortable with. If you think that he won’t call you again because you weren’t ready to meet his sexual needs on his schedule, then HE DOESN’T LIKE YOU VERY MUCH. Women have traditionally been taught to please, to placate and to avoid embarrassing a man. This has to stop, and it has to come from us. If a man asks you to put his penis in your mouth, and you don’t want to, but you do it because you want him to call you again, you are doing yourself a disservice and have to accept some responsibility. If he is not actively pressuring you, but you feel pressured by his eagerness, desperation, or the fear of his disappointment, then it is frankly on YOU to say no and act in honour of your needs. (Obviously in a situation where you feel in any danger at all, this is a completely different case.)
It is fairly modern for women to be allowed to choose who they marry. It is very modern for women to be “allowed” to have casual sex. It is extremely modern for women to ask to have their needs met and for that to be considered an achievement for a man. WHAT EVEN IS FAKING AN ORGASM? What does that say about women’s attitudes towards their role in the bedroom? “I’m going to congratulate him for something he didn’t take the time or make the effort to do?!” Women’s magazines forever, constantly writing about “how to please him” Very few men’s magazines with titles about “how to give her the orgasm of her life.”
The subliminal messaging is thorough and it is constant.
If a woman is not enjoying herself thoroughly, throughout your entire sexual engagement, and is not delighted about all the things your are doing together, then STOP. YOU ARE FAILING. This should not be your idea of fun. This is not sex. This is just a wank, you are using another body for, regardless of her needs or desires.
Women must learn that “no” is a right, not a privilege.
I hope one day more young women in the public eye, in music videos and on instagram, use their platforms, when being sexual, to promote a balanced approach to arousal, one that promotes pleasure for both parties involved.
I hope men stop singing about putting pussies in blenders and making Pussy humus out of them, or whatever.
I hope the men (who don’t already) actually realise and come to terms with the fact that porn is a bullshit fantasy and learning sex from pornography is like learning how to drive from The Fast and the Furious. A terrible idea.
And I also hope men start to understand one day, that women have been oppressed since the beginning of time. We are only just starting to find our voices and demand equality. Do not abuse our conditioning to bend to your whims. Especially in the bedroom.
“erm…Ok” shouldn’t be encouragement enough for you.
You can and must do better.
My first thought was “is that Hermione?”
And then: “#behold your new hermione headcanon”
This is absolutely Hermione and you cannot convince me otherwise
boy: so u got any fantasies??
me: ok so im 28, financially stable, living in a nice apartment and i dont hate myself and i have a job and also a dog
Excuse the sloppiness. I feel like people are more inclined to read things when they’re a picture, so I made this to give a really BRIEF and SHALLOW explanation of why “reverse sexism” is a bullshit way of describing what’s actually happening: patriarchy backfiring against men. There is a lot more to it than just this, though.
Source for women in advertising: http://www.guardian.co.uk/media/2011/jan/20/ipa-women-in-advertising
Edit: sorry it’s so small, click for big version
it’s amazing how literally no one seems to get this
This explains it so perfectly and I love it because of that.
This went up quickly (at 24th and Bryant)
Equality is a threat to the privileged.
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Also note that far south marker is in Antarctica, meaning all 7 continents are participating.
Women’s March of the Penguins?
Amazingly, yes
Cate Blanchett and Rihanna on the set of ‘Ocean’s Eight’ in NYC.
I'm gonna throw up and explode
emotionally cold character: i don't do relationships
pure cinnamon roll character: *exists*
emotionally cold character: shit
The French Netflix uploaded this on twitter…….
this is by far the most powerful thing I’ve seen since Trump won and everyone needs to see this
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here’s how you can fight against Donald Trump
We’re all shocked and in despair about the election results. It goes to show how deeply the racism, misogyny, xenophobia, and homophobia runs in this country. However, this is not a time to stop fighting. This is a time to keep fighting, campaigning, rallying, protesting. We cannot stay complicit to whatever they throw at us. We cannot let them undo all the progress we’ve made.
Go out and volunteer and donate for a cause for women, LGBT+ communities, against racism, against the rhetoric that has been repeated so many times during Donald’s campaign.
In 2018, all 435 seats in the House of Representatives will be contested, as well as 33 senate seats. Don’t ignore this election. If you couldn’t vote this year, go out and vote in the 2018 election.
DO NOT MAKE THIS EASY FOR HIM OR HIS SUPPORTERS.
Lastly, please let those people who has been repeatedly targeted during this election cycle know that you love them. Let them know that you don’t stand for the same things that Donald Trump does.
I love this country and I always have and always will. That’s why I’m not gonna give up and be complicit to the hate and fear in the next four years.
I'm scared...
I’m an American. I’m a woman. I’m part of the LGBTQ community. I’m scared. Donald Trump becoming president is my worst nightmare that has become a reality. I cried so much while watching the polls come in. Around 3am, when it was confirmed that he would be president, I had a panic attack. I’ve never had a panic attack before. I’m so scared for myself, I’m scared for women, I’m scared for fellow LGBTQ, I’m scared for Latinxs, I’m scared for blacks, I’m scared for Muslims, I’m scared for immigrants, I’m scared for everyone. I will not accept him as my president. I will not. Instead, I’m going to fight for a change. If only millennials like myself had voted, Clinton would’ve won. Which means we are the change. We millennials must come together and make sure that the movements before us hadn’t fought for change for it to be reversed. I’m scared, but I’m going to fuel that fear into trying to make a change. I’m already looking up things to do. Even though I’m moving in a month to California, and need to find a job, I plan on spending any other time trying to make a difference. I hope that you all can do the same.
I love you all. This election will change our country and change the world. Know that there are still people here that will fight for you. We are the new movement for change.
here’s how you can fight against Donald Trump
We’re all shocked and in despair about the election results. It goes to show how deeply the racism, misogyny, xenophobia, and homophobia runs in this country. However, this is not a time to stop fighting. This is a time to keep fighting, campaigning, rallying, protesting. We cannot stay complicit to whatever they throw at us. We cannot let them undo all the progress we’ve made.
Go out and volunteer and donate for a cause for women, LGBT+ communities, against racism, against the rhetoric that has been repeated so many times during Donald’s campaign.
In 2018, all 435 seats in the House of Representatives will be contested, as well as 33 senate seats. Don’t ignore this election. If you couldn’t vote this year, go out and vote in the 2018 election.
DO NOT MAKE THIS EASY FOR HIM OR HIS SUPPORTERS.
Lastly, please let those people who has been repeatedly targeted during this election cycle know that you love them. Let them know that you don’t stand for the same things that Donald Trump does.
I love this country and I always have and always will. That’s why I’m not gonna give up and be complicit to the hate and fear in the next four years.
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PREACH TROIAN 😭
You know what absolutely boggles my mind? That healthy people exist. Genuinely healthy people. No mental illness, no physical illness, no chronic illness. Just healthy. What a life that must be.
This fucks with my head though. There are people who get up and feel… Awake, and then they go and just… Do their adult responsibilities without feeling anxious or upset? They just return phonecalls? Answer calls from unknown numbers? Don’t procrastinate doing important things until is a huge problem that makes you cry??
That sounds fake.
