âYouâre too pretty to be singleâ
Why is one personâs idea of ideal aestheticism
A basis for a relationship status
And furthermore
What is so goddamn shameful or pathetic about being single anyway
Is confidence and comfort in being by oneâs self intimidating to you
âSwearing is unladylikeâ
Bullshit
Swears are only words
And these words do not negate my intelligence, or passion, or define anything about me as a person or my character
Men are never told not to swear
Swear as much as you fucking want
âYour standards are too high! Just give him a chanceâ
No
You are invalidating a womanâs right to say no
She doesnât need to explain herself to anyone
She doesnât owe anyone anything
Ever
Everyone should have standards for themselves, and not feel like they need to lower them to please anyone
Or be shamed for leading someone on when they know it would never work
Because that happens too
âIf you dress like that, boys will get the wrong ideaâ
What idea might that be?
That women might actually feel beautiful and confident in their own bodies?
Heaven forbid
Because obviously womenâs bodies belong to everyone else except themselves
âDonât frown - someone might be falling in love with your smile!â
Why
Is it my responsibility to always smile no matter how I feel
I am a human being who is allowed to experience pain, or confusion, or sorrow, or boredom
Men are never criticized for having âresting bitch faceâ
âShort hair makes you look like a boy!â
This is assuming
That there is one certain way for âboysâ and âgirlsâ to look
Not so
Some boys have long hair, some girls have short hair, some people who are both or neither also have hair
Hair has no gender
Humans are allowed to look different from each other and express themselves how they like
Gender identity and gender expression are not the same
They arenât ârealâ girls because they were born with a penis
Anyone is a girl who says they are a girl
Stop trying to undermine someoneâs identity
They know themselves better than you do
Anatomy and identity are different, and sometimes separate
Why are you so obsessed with other peopleâs genitals anyway
âYouâre going to break a lot of hearts one dayâ
Why would you ever
Ever
Say this to a girl
A young, impressionable girl
Breaking hearts is not a compliment, or a goal
Coming from someone who has broken at least one
From simply being honest and being myself
It is a burden - a guilt that has been (mis)placed on my shoulders since childhood
I never wanted to be labelled a heartbreaker simply for existing
âYou donât want kids? Youâll change your mind one dayâ
No I wonât
Even if I do, one day, that doesnât make my opinion right now any less valid or deserving of respect
Stop disbelieving people about their own life choices
Also, having children is not a necessary milestone for a successful or fulfilling life
âDonât have sex before marriage - boys really want a virginal girlâ
Sure they do
And are boys ever held to that same expectation
To stay virgins until marriage?
Because as women are shamed for âimpurity,â boys are applauded for âexperienceâ
I love the smell of double standards in the morning
âYou shouldnât wear so much makeupâ
The natural look is great
The makeup look is great
The anything you feel like doing or not doing to your own face look is great
Let people do whatever they want to their own bodies
Whatever makes them feel good
Why do you care
âSelfies are just for attentionâ
Maybe
Maybe not
Whatâs so wrong about liking attention
Whatâs so wrong about feeling beautiful and confident in your own skin
And wanting to share that feeling with others
We were taught for so long to hate our bodies
What is so threatening about finally loving them
âCat-calling is flattering! Learn how to accept a compliment!â
âI like your hairâ is a compliment
âYouâre a really talented writerâ is a compliment
The gross, vulgar things that men shout at women they donât know on the street
Are not compliments
They are harassment - meant to imply ownership and dominance and even violence
Compliments should not make people fear for their lives walking home
Compliments should not actually get people killed