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I think my favourite thing about books is how they shape us. Your book history is uniquely your own, no one else in the world has read the all the same books at the exact same times of their lives as you have, and all those books have changed you so intrinsically that you couldnât erase their influence on you anymore then you could change your DNA.
tbh people mock harry for going back to rescue fleurs sister in the second triwizard task but harry knows dumbledore better than anyone else. he probably looked at the situation and thought âwould dumbledore let an eight year old drown just because fleur couldnt do this bit? yes. yes he would.â
itâs also possible he was acting off of the lessons he learned in the abusive dursley household. thatâs why he does a lot of his so-called âhero complexâ shit. he takes a lot of personal responsibility for other people bc he learned growing up that âno oneâs here for you, no one will help you, you will not catch any breaksâ. he helps bc if he didnât, who would? certainly not the dursleys, and thatâs what he grew up with.
he does things by himself and the two people he actually trusts, bc heâs learned that authority figures are no help and will only make things worse. he takes situations at face value bc heâs never seen other options in his life, heâs never HAD other options in his life. speaking very personally, that was a serious marker of abuse that i saw in myself - i never thought abt escape, or what i could do to improve my situation, bc i didnât even see that as an option. the options were survive or donât, deal w it or donât, acclimate or implode.
maybe he wasnât thinking abt what DUMBLEDORE would do, what anyone at hogwarts would do. maybe he was acting off what he knew the dursleys (his main authority figures) would do. the dursleys would let the girl drown. and harry was there, and harry could do something, and so harry did. he took personal responsibility for fleurâs sisterâs safety bc all his life heâs learned that authority figures cannot be trusted to do so.
people characterize these aspects of harry as a âhero complexâ or a âstupid nobilityâ or a âlack of common senseâ, but i donât agree with that. i canât put my finger on exactly what it is. itâs not completely unhealthy; itâs even very useful and responsible on occasion.
itâs called âcomplex ptsdâ and if you get out of the abusive situation before youâre old enough to understand how fucked up it was, like Harry did, you donât end up with the classic flashbacks so much, just atypical behavior patterns and a high risk of other shit. Thatâs why Harry is so fucked up by everything that Umbridge does, itâs because heâs being retraumatized in his safe space.
Seriously, the Dursleys would have not only let her drown, they would have let her drown so they could blame Harry for it afterwards. (Although the loudest âPotter, too busy winning to care about anyone elseâ voice in his head would probably be Snapeâs.)
Incidentally this is even more clear in the first and second books, to me. Because Harry DID go to adults and say someoneâs trying to steal the stone, and what did the adults do? Did they say, yes, we know, weâre taking precautions, real, good protective measures? Noooo. Did they say, thank you, weâll look into it, even? Noooo. They said, donât be silly, itâs not your concern, nothing to see here, little boy, run along and do your schoolwork.
And they said this to a boy whose entire life experience has never involved an adult that can be depended on. And they lied, lied about their own knowledge, said âthatâs sillyâ when they know âthatâs true.â And they were too convincing: since he as well knew the truth, what they ended up convincing him was that they didnât know. And it fit right in with his expectations. Adults, whether actively malicious (the Dursleys, Snape) or well-meaning but oblivious (Mrs. Figg, Harryâs primary-school teachers, the other Hogwarts teachers), canât be depended on. If anythingâs got to be done, Harry and his friends have got to do it himself.
Second book, same thingâtheyâre headed for the teacherâs lounge to tell the teachers itâs a basilisk, and overhear the teachers saying that Ginny Weasleyâs been taken by the monster, and they need to close Hogwarts, and their only plan to rescue Ginny is to send Gilderoy Lockhartâknowing full well heâs a fraud, a coward, and no match for a Cornish pixie, let alone a basilisk. Once again, the adults are flat-out useless and if anyone is going to save Ginny, itâs gotta be Harry and Ron.Â
Notably, this is after another ball-drop on the part of the adults: when Harryâs been framed for underage magic and locked up in his room and starved by people who have every intention of keeping him out of Hogwarts forever, itâs other kids, Ron, Fred, and George, who go rescue him, and when the adults find out, one of them punishes and scolds and the other is only interested in how his car worked.
In book three, we meet a couple of adults that are competent, helpful, and willing to listenâSirius and Remusâand the other adults come in and the end result is, oneâs fired and the other has to go on the run lest he have his soul sucked out by dementors. Dumbledore does listen and give them the necessary hints, but itâs Harry, and Hermione this time, who have to do the work.
And then in Order of the Phoenix, in comes the smothering bullshit about how heâs too young to be in the Order and needs to leave everything to the grownups, after the grownups have dropped the ball four years running and are batting zero on the trust-and-listening factorâno wonder he threw a tantrum, I wouldâve thrown a tantrum, he was fucking entitled to one.
âWell, that was a bit stupid of you,â said Ginny angrily, âseeing as you donât know anyone but me whoâs been possessed by You-Know-Who, and I can tell you how it feels.â Harry remained quite still as the impact of these words hit him. Then he turned on the spot to face her. âI forgot,â he said.
 â OotP
âhe does things by himself and the two people he actually trusts⊠itâs not completely unhealthy; itâs even very useful and responsible on occasion.â - @gaelissfelin
âŠthis.  Harry sees people as: a. him and people he trusts, b. people to be evaded, and c. people in need of help.  When he gets backed into a corner (Voldemort inside his head, heading down the trapdoor alone, off to the DoM alone, into the Forest alone), the circle of people he trusts shrinks down from the DA/OotP, to the Trio, to just himself.  Harry never wants to be a hero or gets off on it, heâs just a person whoâs suffered from the bystander effect and doesnât want to be a bystander himself.
âŠthatâs what it is, why itâs useful, I think.  Itâs not a hero complex, itâs an anti-bystander complex.  Sometimes it only takes one person standing up.
When I was younger I never understood why people thought Harry wasnât thinking things through. But now that I am older and have my diagnosis of PTSD I realize that I was just one abused child identifying with another. It was logical to me that Harry not trust the adults in his life because I couldnât trust any in mine. No one ever believed me when I told them I was being bullied, my parents were too wrapped up in screaming at each other to give a fuck about me. You go that long feeling like a shadow without a voice and you just start doing things on your own because who the fuck cares about you. You wind up with a protective streak a mile wide because in the back of your mind you know that things canât change for you but maybe you can change them for someone else even if it means taking their pain as your own. No wonder Harry winds up an Auror, heâs been saving people and getting himself hurt since birth, he needs a psychiatrist to help him but he doesnât trust anyone so he just throws himself into the only thing he knows how to do rather than healing. Itâs by sheer force of will that heâs not catatonic or having PTSD flashbacks every time he goes to work.
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And this is why Iâve always identified with Harry Potter. I also am anti bystander effect, and refuse to let myself remain silent when others are in pain in front of me. I had no one growing up, and I donât want anyone to feel how I felt my whole life.
I understand now why I was SO upset that people were calling Harry a brat and an ungrateful, moody POS in OOTP - because I have PTSD and I KNEW what I was looking at wasnât immature acting out bullshit it was trauma manifesting itself and breakdowns and like SERIOUSLY WIZARDING WORLD WHEREâS YOUR MENTAL HEALTH AWARENESSÂ
apparently the same as the muggle world - nowhere to be fucking seen
like this whole series is a fucking rigorous marathon of âhow much more can we abuse and gaslight this abused child? WATCH AND FIND OUTâ
You shouldnât even have to have experienced abuse to see this. If you really pay attention and use a little empathy you should be able to see from the actual textual evidence that everything Harry does makes perfect sense
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People talk a lot about how Harry Potter taught them about friendship and bravery and love overcoming evil etc and of course I think thatâs very important but likeâŠ
Harry Potter also taught an entire generation of kids that the news media canât always be trusted to tell the truth, that the government can often be corrupt or incompetent, that the legal system isnât always right, that the people in power donât always have your best interests at heart. That bad things sometimes happen to good people, that your heroes arenât always as perfect as you think they are, that even those with the best intentions can be wrong, that everyone can make mistakes and that often in order to make things right it takes a lot of hard work and sacrifice.
âŠand I think in a way thatâs every bit as important as the more positive messages.