Privacy Issues between Parents and Children
There should be no secrets between a parent and child but as a child grows up it engages more to other people and becomes mature and independent as a person. As a child, I have many secrets to my parents, where I don’t talk too much to them whenever I have problems as long as I can solve it, because it will just burden them. Yes, parents do worry for their children but they need to give them space and let them approach you because that’s the time they need help. Also, let children feel that parents are always there for them so that they would not hesitate to open up.
According to Witmer (2020), when teens are given privacy that they need, they tend to develop their self confidence and also in becoming independent. As their parents, strive to strike a balance between knowing what your teen is doing, trusting your teen to have some private matter, and knowing when to step in.
According to James Lehman, he personally believed that there should be a direct link between the amount of responsibility, consistency, and honesty that kids shows and the amount of privacy they’re allowed to have. Also, adolescents need to separate and individuate. Individuation is a developmental process that takes place when children want to have their own life, and adolescence is really about preparing them for that. He also included that it’s important for a child to have their own privacy and where they have a place where they can have “alone time” and it’s respected by the family.