freddylesbear

my sideblog where I ramble about queer shit. inclus

[freddylesbear]

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hi. i made this blog to ramble abt my thoughts on queerness and such. I am not that active on tumblr, infact I'm mostly active on twitter and usually post my thoughts there, but I wanted to avoid harassment, so here I am lol

a little bit about me: I'm an intersex cistransfemmasc modalityfluid guygal. i am genderqueer bigender/multigender & genderfluid. i am an abrosexual bi sapphillean in easiest terms. my identity is complicated as fuck! and I don't care!

I will probably keep this blog anonymous, so call me by freddy fazbear for now. use she/her, he/him, and it/its on me. or maybe your own pronouns, I don't mind mirrored pronouns.

this is a sideblog so I won't really follow back or whatever unless I think you're cool cool. this is meant to be a space for me to talk into the void. I may not reply to things.

the blog's themed around freddy fazbear as you can see. he's a queer icon I fear. I hc freddy as an abro genderfluid person, he's like a bit of a symbol to the entire lgbt for me personally! nobody cares but I wanted to include that

no particular dni but I do block freely. I am not telling you what my criteria for that is. use some common sense.

everything tagged with #freddylesbear is my own post. My thoughts may not be coherent, I usually come here to just get my anger out

[oarfishing]

i think its really interesting (read: disturbing) that we as a trans community tout the fluidity and non-binary nature of sex to transphobes (i.e. "there are more than two sexes", which is true), but then seemingly forget it when it comes to concepts like "afab transfem" and "amab transmasc"

we acknowledge that intersex people have complex relationships with sex as a gotcha when speaking with transphobes, and then accuse the same people we used as a talking point of being transphobic for having a complex relationship with sex

we say "afab" intersex women can grow beards, have heightened testosterone, have ambiguous genitalia, have low voices, be perceived as men - and then deny them the word "transfem" to describe their experiences

we say "amab" intersex men can grow breasts, have heightened estrogen, have ambiguous genitalia, have high voices, be perceived as women - and then deny them the word "transmasc" to describe their experiences

we know that the sex someone is assigned can change based on different doctors or events in their life - but then tell them that "there's a word for a cis person who identifies as their assigned sex" as if they can easily be lumped in with cis perisex people

if someone has a relationship with their sex that is not cut and dry, are they exclusively meant to use the word "intersex" to describe their experiences? are intersex people simply not allowed to use transgender language to talk about themselves?

just some thoughts

[ftmtftm]

I understand that it feels like there is legitimacy in "protecting" the labels one might use for themself through rigid lines and narrow definitions — but is it actually harming you? Or are you anticipating harm because you fear something that seems unfamiliar to you?

Because that's actually what got me to realize transmedicalism is bullshit. The realization that I, and everyone around me, was actually operating in fear of people we had no right or reason to fear.

In the early-mid 2010's the big discourse on Tumblr was "can nonbinary people say they are trans". Most of us scoff and say "of course" now, myself included, but there was a pervasive "concern" that nonbinary people calling themselves trans would somehow "dilute" the trans experience and "make it confusing" to distinguish between "real" (binary) trans people and nonbinary people. Part of the argument was that nonbinary people couldn't be trans because they didn't "fit the definition of being trans" that aligned with binary trans experiences.

The rhetoric surrounding intersex trans people and the language they use to identify themselves eerily echos a lot of the emotional sentiment behind that old transmed rhetoric to me. "There are people trying to claim ""my language"" and because ""my language"" is tied so closely to my personal identity, that feels like an attack on my identity and my community."

That is, however, also the same fear based logic as most forms of bigotry. It'd do you well to examine it.

So if someone identifies with a label and they haven't had the most by the book dictionary definition experience associated with that label, literally who cares? Why do you care? Actually examine that why. You might very well find the problem actually exists within yourself — and that's okay. There's always time to grow.

[xxmagewizardxx]

Getting recommended these "biology was never binary" stickers multiple times in multiple flag colors, they're all animals that are commonly known for their intersex variations

All the flags are trans and nb

None of the flags are intersex

Like,, yeah, the fact that sex isn't even binary is (sometimes) a good argument against bigots to show they're idiots, but don't,, fucking choose a quote that is INHERENTLY intersex and then proceed to act like this is solely a trans thing/exclude intersex people from a phrase that is INHERENTLY about us, I keep noticing stuff like this more and more, we do not exist solely to be a spectacle or solely to be a convenient argument, we are alive, we aren't just here for debate purposes ?? It'd be entirely different if the intersex colors were literally just added onto the lineup of flags, instead of using our existence solely for other groups awareness while removing our own from it.

[queercripintersex]

Hot take that I may be about to regret, but I think the greatest problem with "trans people are brain intersex" is not a question of neuroscience but a sociopsychological one.

When I see perisex trans people pushing this idea it's never in service of, or to stand in solidarity with, the intersex community. It's basically only used to deny one's complicity in intersexism, and/or speak over the intersex community (such as by playing into the dangerous idea that a biological aetiology for transness would be a good thing that would make transness "valid".)

The idea does not get used or pushed in good faith. It's like white people saying "we're all African" because humanity evolved there. It's technically but vacously true. What it really does is evade grappling with white supremacy or colonialism. It completely ignores that African or black is a category of social experience more than a set of physical traits.

Intersex is a category of social experience. Laying claim to this label in this way gives away that a person cannot be bothered to learn about the lived expereriences of being intersex nor to get involved in the community.

"Trans is brain intersex" is bad because instead of creating solidarity it actively undermines it.

[your-local-murtad]

Every time you use a POC culture or intersex autonomy as a "gotcha!" against gender essentialists but don't even bother to research about that identity, you owe 100$ to every person belonging to that culture and/or to every intersex person

[freddylesbear]

cant have shit in trans social media spaces like oh last week we hated on trans women! let's hate trans men now! and let's not forget that we tuck in a fuck ton of hatred for non binary people in these discussions too!

[freddylesbear]

Some of you are so fucking annoying about aroallos

[contradictory-label-culture-is]

Contradictory label culture is realizing the difference between a lot of labels isn't so much in experience but in conceptualization of that experience. A bigender bisexual and bigender gaybian can have the same exact attractional experience, with the difference being that the second person understands their orientation as being gay in both directions, so they use gaybian to validate their gender. Bi, poly, pan, and omni are all defined separately with subjective concepts (does gender factor in? Do you think you have a preference? Are you attracted to every gender, or do you think you're just attracted to some?) and so a lot of people use more than one or even all of them. What's the difference between trixic and a sapphic enby? Does there need to be one? What makes neutrois (or at least one definition of it) different from agender? Aporinity different from maverinity? A homoflexible and a bisexual with a preference? Nonbinary and genderqueer? It's all down to subjective conceptualization of your own experience and what the vibe feels like.

A lot of people try to draw hard lines in the sand about what constitutes what label but like you can just be more than one. That's an option. It's ok. They can overlap and it's cool.

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[freddylesbear]

gaygirls <33 achilligirls <33 turigirls <33 veldigirls <33 girlfags <33 transfemlm <33 tgirl gays <33 shegays <33 shemlm <33 femme achilleans <33 any fem qlm <333

[freddylesbear]

Extremely fucking weird how a lot of perisex trans people take intersex characters and figures n what not through out history and say they're trans and erasing what they actually were, intersex. It's so uncomfortable seeing them identify with literal intersex slurs too.

[asher-012]

^ THIS. We've seen a LOT of perisex people use pronouns that are INTERSEX EXCLUSIVE, identify with INTERSEX slurs, ect. A lot of those are in the system community too. No your headmate cannot be fucking intersex, there are terms MADE for you all, stop taking intersex, it's NOT a choice to be intersex, many of us would probably wish we where born perisex, especially those who have been under more unfortunate situations thanks to it

So stop fucking taking and using what doesn't belong to you

[elasticveins]

I made this comic bc I’ve been seeing way too many people say bad stuff about amab/afab trans people lately and I hope this helps some of you who didn’t understand understand so we can get back to trying to help eachother and not tear eachother down.

Intersex folks feel free to add onto this however you see fit you all are wonderful people and I love you!

[artpigeons]

"ohh 00s diet culture isn't back because of ozempic, you're overreacting"

idk i keep seeing previously size-inclusive brands remove plus-sized versions of their clothes from their catalogues entirely, even lines specifically aimed at bigger sizes are cutting their size range down and chopping the bigger ones. i keep seeing mean skinny tiktokers get famous because they said something rude about fat people. when i ask my doctor about weight loss (which my country's gender treatment clinic requires before i can access even preliminary talks about hrt), i'm immediately offered drugs about it - drugs which, according to the doctor, we don't know the long-term effects of. but surely! surely it can't be worse than being fat!

like why are people acting surprised? we've made being extremely wealthy the aspirational aesthetic to strive for, made 'being skinny and having a lot of time and money to stay beautiful' a not only viable but lucrative carreer for people, and then released a drug that is wildly expensive and will make people thin.

of course people are gonna make being thin the ultimate status symbol again - it more than ever before signals wealth and leisure-time.

like, do you think it's a coincidence that people are back to constantly spouting 'nothing tastes as good as skinny feels' again? and pretending being fat is a matter of lacking self-control around cake or whatever? as if people haven't spent decades trying to get these fucks to understand that actually healthy produce and the time to maintain your body are extreme luxuries in our society?

anyway my broke fat ass can't find pants i like and can afford because the size-inclusive lines i'd have shopped at previously have axed anything over a size xl

and like. i'm not even that fat. what the fuck do people bigger than me do. it's really heinous right now for fat peeps.

[chilewithcarnage]

on a similar note to that 'i think a lot of you guys forget people hate women' post; I think a lot of you guys forget how bad racism truly is and how deeply pervasive and entrenched antiblackness is.

[freddylesbear]

I could word some posts in here better but I also don't give a flying fuck

[patricia-taxxon]

genuinely insane how little u have to work to experience misogyny as a transfem

[patricia-taxxon]

my endo is threatening to become useless because I gained 12 pounds and our meetings can't leave the subject of skinnying me urgently, ive gotten sexually harassed in public when I put no effort into appearing feminine, people misunderstand me on purpose online and I'm accused of making things up for sympathy constantly

[patricia-taxxon]

your theory of transphobia has to be cognizant of the fact that transphobes treat trans women like women

[transfem-juice]

I think about this quote all the time since I first heard it

[that-satireguy-deactivated20250]

^^^^

If your argument is that transmascs had no place in trans culture in its beginning stages...

you should be WAY more concerned about what was happening to your transmasc siblings during those stages, than any kind of 'gotcha'

(Credit to @zaebeecee)