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[rusted-pipe-of-wisdom-deactivat]

wolf & bunny: a love story

[venomsbite]

[norseminuteman]

[sandmandaddy69]

[bireaucracy-archived]

this one liberal dude on twitter made the (correct) take that parents have overwhelming power over their kids and very often abuse it and restrict children's rights and he was ratio'd by conservatives, communists and liberals alike who made comments like "my kids will have rights when they pay the bills" to "aw are you upset mom and dad didn't you get you a lega set for christmas". way to prove his point lol! any criticism of the power dynamics adults and particularly parents have over kids and how it is often used to abuse kids or refuse to let them exist as themselves is drowned in mockery and the idea that parents have absolute authority over children and that any less than that is actually spoiling them.

i said it before: people only care about Children as an ideal. as property. as something that is Innocent and deserving protection From Evil Traffickers but also something Dumb that barely deserves the status of human with autonomy. and its fucking wild how even the staunchest communists think of this as normal, and how people refuse to understand that this dynamic is how kids are emotionally, physically and sexually abused, as well as robbed of their voices and too scared/ashamed to talk about it.

[bireaucracy-archived]

it's worth saying this dude is the parent of a now adult trans girl, and his reflections absolutely come from parenting as well as how he was expected to behave as the father of a trans daughter, how much power he had over her treatment and the refusal of doctors and teachers to listen to her and going over her head to him so they could misgender her and make him consent to conversion therapy.

he did not do these things, but the expectation and judgement that he as a parent was supposed to take away her rights and the sheer power he had over her as a minor made him reflect a lot. and now people are mocking him for sharing this reflection, even as black kids are killed or sent into the school to prison pipeline, as disabled kids are refused humanity, as parents kill their kids to spite their divorced spouses, as trans kids get their healthcare revoked, as migrant kids remain locked in cages. even as these same people panic over child trafficking and pedophile sex rings and refuse to admit how much csa and abuse is from family members.

[max1461]

The fact that this view is so rare despite also being, in my view, extremely obvious is I think a reflection of how strongly incentives mediate our beliefs. My experience growing up was that by six years old every single person I knew had developed a thorough class consciousness for the "child" class and as I've gotten older, everyone I know who's become a parent has forgotten it. Because ya know, it's not in their interests any more. The authoritarian structure of the parent/child relationship should also be the prototype for how sociological systems replicate, because parenting styles are so directly passed down generationally.

[freethebook]

I think a big part of that erosion of child class consciousness occurs when, in becoming adults and parents themselves, with stunning frequency people are satisfied with saying "Okay, now I get to have power. Now I get to to have control." Rather than risking breaking into new territory or having to question themselves, they're fine with simply inheriting the power dynamic they once suffered under.

And I hear this expressed in regular conversation with my own generation--not as bluntly put maybe, but this idea of "I'm the adult now, so now I'm the one who has to be catered to" seems to be all-consuming for a startling number of people. They're just fine with treating children the exact same way they once were, with not a hint of irony considering how unfair they found it 15-20 years ago.

On some level, they know that they can't take revenge on the people or systems that hurt them. So they settle for taking revenge on an unrelated surrogate who can't fight back, and I find that level of cowardice intensely abhorrent.

[lil-gingerbread-queen]

Y'all are going to have to explain to me: if cis men cannot be victims of misogyny, and misandry isn't real, then what was it when my father was bullied by his coworkers for taking his full parental leave to take care of baby me after I was born? What is it when he is mocked by his family because he is the one who cleaned the house and cooked the food? What is it when he is called "a well trained man" and my mother is complimented for that when he always had a love of cooking and cleaning and she had no influence on that?

Because I'm fucking tired of seeing y'all argue that cis men are the only one exempt from misogyny, but also argue that misandry isn't real. I think y'all have forgotten that the patriarchy doesn't love men and harms them deeply, even tho they get privileges. That, actually, there have been women who benefited from the patriarchy, while most people, every gender alike, were suffering. If the patriarchy loved men, they wouldn't bash them the moment they are being themselves and happy.

[freethebook]

Many people seem to either forget or simply not acknowledge that privileges are privileges BECAUSE they can be revoked at any time by the giver.

Cis men are taught by their peers and mentors (SOME OF THEM WOMEN BY THE WAY) that if they don't perform masculinity "the right way" then they cease being a man and forfeit all the protections and advantages that comes with the patriarchy's favour. If they either can't meet the requirements, or else actively rebel against them, the response is immediate and brutal violence.

And this starts young.

Men aren't a target for misogyny, but little boys get mocked and beaten for wearing "the wrong clothes" (read: anything that could be even construed as feminine), or even for wearing "the right clothes" "wrong" (masc clothes in any colour considered nonmasculine).

Men aren't a target for misogyny, but young teenagers are called sissies or worse for liking art or growing their hair out. Their artwork is destroyed or burned in front of them, their hair is shaved to the scalp against their will.

Men aren't a target for misogyny, but young adults will have their girlfriends and wives and families and friends call them gay over something as petty as using conditioner. And this is assuming these people are straight as a nail; god forbid they ARE queer in some manner, then the violence only gets worse.

From an early age, the message is that failure to conform will provoke swift and deadly retaliation, and that message is hammered home again and again over years. Decades. And so, many men spend years cutting pieces off of themselves that don't fit the mold, until they don't know who they are anymore.

Addressing and acknowledging privilege is an important step. Deconstructing those privileges is an important step. But if the replacement for those privileges aren't new rights then we aren't taking steps forward, we're just walking in circles.

[queenlua]

Everyone who plays around with Tarot cards long enough winds up with a “bad” card that they love. I just barely persuaded my husband not to get the Ten of Swords tattooed on his body; traditionally, it shows a corpse with ten swords stuck in their body and means “utter ruin,” but he thought that if it took ten swords to kill you, then you must have put up a pretty good fight.

honestly this is the most badass ten of swords interpretation i've ever heard.  i'm stealing this

[wizard-of-interesting-failure]

WIZARD TIP: They will run out of swords eventually.

[depsidase]

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It was said by Resmaa Menakem, and the full quote is: “Trauma decontextualized in a person can look like personality. Trauma decontextualized in a family can look like family traits. Trauma in a people can look like culture.”

This quote was taken from a podcast interview which Menakem participated in, which you can find here.

I highly recommend “My Grandmother’s Hands” for more of his thoughtful and nuanced words.

[cupofmeat]

Three fish with one head, in a Javanese manuscript from Mataraman, Batavia, containing mystical texts, dated AH 1205 (AD 1790/1). British Library, MSS Jav 77, f. 16v .

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[freethebook]

I've always been deeply frustrated by this because like. The leg-bouncing doesn't harm anyone or anything? And I've had people close to me repeatedly, painfully step on my foot in an attempt to curb the behaviour. I'm still asking myself to this day like, why, why? Why??????? If It Is Distracting Then Feel Free To Look In Another Direction.

[voxiferous]

I've seen you respond to other people about this post, and I wanted to throw my two cents into the ring (thank you mixed metaphors). My dad bounces his leg, and because of that, I started doing it too. Now of course, it could also be some kind of hereditary thing, like he claims it's because of his bad circulation... But at dinner time my mom would always have to be like 'which of you is shaking the table?' because the water in the glasses would be moving. But she was never mad or anything. So for me, it was always this benign familial thing.

There are many harmless behaviours in the world that are punished solely for being "weird". And whenever that happens, it's inappropriate and unjust, plain and simple. And I'm angry on your behalf that you had that experience.

[freethebook]

I've heard countless explanations for leg shaking, many of them contradictory, so I've just come to accept it as A Thing that I have lol. I'm glad that your mom was chill about it. (The familial behaviour I ended up inheriting was rocking/swaying from side to side while standing.)

Thank you for the kind words vox.

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[freethebook]

I've always been deeply frustrated by this because like. The leg-bouncing doesn't harm anyone or anything? And I've had people close to me repeatedly, painfully step on my foot in an attempt to curb the behaviour. I'm still asking myself to this day like, why, why? Why??????? If It Is Distracting Then Feel Free To Look In Another Direction.

[wisebouquettree]

I would like to let you know that there is unfortunately a form of neurodivergence that causes irrational anger at leg bouncing. Not a reason to act like that. Just an unfortunate overlap. I have it and I literally can't look away enough because it is both sight and sound that act as a trigger. It is also that it feels like the rage of a thousand suns. That extra emotional element makes it harder to implement coping skills. So sorry that the people in your life haven't found a better way to deal with this. :(

[freethebook]

Oh, so it's a lot like overstimulation in that regard? That's fascinating. I guess the audio component kind of sticks in the mind despite--or maybe even because of--it being ignored visually...

I apologize for coming off insensitive, I'd never thought about it from that angle before. I learned something new today, thank you!

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[freethebook]

I've always been deeply frustrated by this because like. The leg-bouncing doesn't harm anyone or anything? And I've had people close to me repeatedly, painfully step on my foot in an attempt to curb the behaviour. I'm still asking myself to this day like, why, why? Why??????? If It Is Distracting Then Feel Free To Look In Another Direction.

[noctanotherone]

If people are stomping on your foot then your either a. Stomp back, or b. Ditch their ass, their beef with your leg shaking is more important to them then your physical well being and feelings. Learned this a long time ago.

[freethebook]

First I'd like to open with thank you for reblogging and thank you for your concern. I wasn't expecting that and it brightened my day.

I cut those people out of my life as soon as I was able to; it's been nearly a decade now since I've had to deal with it, and I'm incredibly lucky for that. I think, when I was venting about it, I was more... trying to understand the thought process behind it? I don't know why people think they have the right to do that to others. This goes beyond the scope of the initial premise but I just. Don't get it. I can only speculate.

[noctanotherone]

Hey, I get it, and I’m glad you’re okay and I can brighten your day a little.

If it helps, I grew up in ‘S.P.E.D.’ (Special Education) classes cause of my ADHD and I did a lot of Psychology and Sociology research because I wanted to help my fellow disabled people more, and learning really helped me realize the how and why.

And even though I am not a license professional, people like that are showing some massive red flag Narcissistic behaviors, and once you learn the signs of it, it makes it a lot easier to ‘keep’ people like that out of your life.

And unfortunately, because of all the leaded gasoline (and other leaded things like pipes and paint) that was sent into the air (water, ground and everything in between) before it was banned between the late 1970’s-1990’s a lot of people before, during, and even a little after that time got highly affected by it. And lead poisoning does unfortunately cause aggression and narcissism. Which is why we are seeing it so much more in older generations and still contaminated areas.

It’s not an excuse for them, though I’m sure they will try to make it be, but it is an explanation on ‘why’ so many people have that issue, specially lately.

And honestly, though I always had a natural nack for noticing it, that researched helped me a lot with seeing when people are being manipulative and gaslight-y too.

So maybe that info can help you too!

And sorry for being so ramble-y. Still waking up lol.

[freethebook]

I've studied some psychology as well (on the hobby level) and it's funny because like. On the one hand I do recognize the symptoms of narcissistic behaviour in some of the people who mistreated me. But on the other I also recognize that the concept of "The Narcissist" has become something of a scareword or boogeyman over the past decade.

I'm hesitant to blame abusive behaviour on symptoms of lead poisoning or on NPD because not only does that attach a stigma to either, it also handwaves abusive behaviour as a symptom rather than a conscious choice.

I'm of the opinion that good and evil are choices that we make, perhaps not always on a conscious level, but. The people who abused me didn't do it because they had a personality disorder, or impaired judgement. They did it because it was convenient to them at the time. They did it because they were bullies. And they did it because they felt a lack of control in their lives, and wanted to maintain a semblance of that control by exercising it on somebody who was, at the time, vulnerable. And that was a choice, and they own that.

Anyway, I'm going to apologize for turning this into a sermon and I want to thank you for being so considerate. I appreciate your time and advice!

[memeuplift]

[freethebook]

The trouble with the axiom "kindness has no reward" is that it also, insidiously, functions backwards, too. Things that are rewarded are, necessarily, not kindness.

For about half my life I, along with many others in my age group, was taught that the most superior form of kindness was altruism. Because altruism requires there to be no reward, therefore every other form of rewarded kindness was inferior. In this way, we were taught, that being kind was selfish if you expected, of even simply had knowledge of, a reward for it.

This follows quite naturally into the expectation that a lot of sophists espouse, that even the instinct to do kindness is itself selfish, because you feel happy having helped someone. As if the act of enjoying your work and the happiness it brought someone, somehow taints it.

So if helping people and showing them kindness and common decency is somehow selfish, then I would strive to be the most selfish creature on this earth.

[ankle-beez]

adventure time slang is weird cuz like. when you first watch the show and hear the slang you're like "oh this is cringy slang but its not like awful" but it gets to a point where the voice actors deliver the slang so naturally you don't even notice it and its just. part of the world's vernacular. I can't think of any other show that's done in-universe slang like this

[ankle-beez]

Finn: oh man the frappin dude just ginked up and went flipoo over the junkin fence

Me, 3 seasons into this show: wow he really did huh

[bogleech]

It's true but it's also funnier knowing the storyboarders were usually just making Finn say fuck

[rabidogbite]

[leebrontide]

this is math

[autismking]

i have spent years rewatching all 10 seasons and recording every expletive i hear in adventure time:

[naamahdarling]

Filing these away for later.

[headspace-hotel]

I'm sure this will somehow be useful data for something I don't yet anticipate

[ontologicallyeviltortureprincess]

There's this interesting phenomenon where when you're a child, or some other vulnerable minority dependent on a job for shelter, you are actually under duress almost constantly. You can't say "I don't want to work today," you cannot say "I don't want to do the dishes, actually," you cannot choose not to participate. In a lot of cases, the punishment is explicit. Your parents might yell at you. Your boss might fire you. But in other cases, it's implicit. The mood will sour. You lose leeway. People get mad at you. And that creates a really shitty environment where you're constantly being coerced to do things!

And here's the kicker; you're not allowed to acknowledge that. You cannot acknowledge that you are being coerced, you cannot acknowledge that your free will is not being respected, because that's punished too. Your boss insists that you act excited. Your parents punish you for acting surly. You are forced to fake enthusiastic consent, constantly. It's a fucking nightmare. Your hand is being forced, you do not have the option to say "no," and if you ever, for a second, try to acknowledge that, everyone acts like you're the aggressor.

[hypokeimena]

#THISSSSS IS WHY I'M A HATER RE: THE ENTIRE CONCEPT OF POSITIVE ATTITUDE #why is it not sufficient that i have acknowledged that some tasks are necessary regardless of if I enjoy them or not? #why is it so important that I perform happiness about cleaning my bathroom? i don't actually want to be doing it (via @steorran)

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[freethebook]

I've always been deeply frustrated by this because like. The leg-bouncing doesn't harm anyone or anything? And I've had people close to me repeatedly, painfully step on my foot in an attempt to curb the behaviour. I'm still asking myself to this day like, why, why? Why??????? If It Is Distracting Then Feel Free To Look In Another Direction.

[noctanotherone]

If people are stomping on your foot then your either a. Stomp back, or b. Ditch their ass, their beef with your leg shaking is more important to them then your physical well being and feelings. Learned this a long time ago.

[freethebook]

First I'd like to open with thank you for reblogging and thank you for your concern. I wasn't expecting that and it brightened my day.

I cut those people out of my life as soon as I was able to; it's been nearly a decade now since I've had to deal with it, and I'm incredibly lucky for that. I think, when I was venting about it, I was more... trying to understand the thought process behind it? I don't know why people think they have the right to do that to others. This goes beyond the scope of the initial premise but I just. Don't get it. I can only speculate.

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[freethebook]

I've always been deeply frustrated by this because like. The leg-bouncing doesn't harm anyone or anything? And I've had people close to me repeatedly, painfully step on my foot in an attempt to curb the behaviour. I'm still asking myself to this day like, why, why? Why??????? If It Is Distracting Then Feel Free To Look In Another Direction.

[josieandthepussycatsofficial]

Jonathan Stalling’s Yingelishi is a book of poetry that is read in two ways: in Chinese and in English. He offers a line of English poetry, then rewrites it phonetically in the Chinese language, so that the new line in Chinese has its own unique and coherent meaning, which is then translated back into English. The end result is a poem existing in multiple languages and in no languages at all, with multiple meanings that can be read many ways.


[Image ID: A line that reads, “早上好” which is Simplified Chinese for “good morning.” Then a line of English text that reads, “good morning,” followed by a line of pinyin or possibly a different method of transliterated Chinese that reads, “gũ dé mào níng.” Then a line of Chinese characters which reads, “孤德貌宁,” phonically the same as the above pinyin, followed by a line of English text which is the translation of the above Chinese, reading, “Even alone, the moral one / appears peaceful.” End image ID.]

[josieandthepussycatsofficial]

From the book ad copy:

When read aloud, YÍNGĒLÌSHI (pronounced yeen guh lee shr) sounds like an accented pronunciation of the word “English,” while the Chinese reader sees the Chinese characters for “chanted songs, beautiful poetry.” Stalling coined this term (and “Sinophonic English”) to give a positive name to an increasingly widespread variation of English created by combining the two dominant languages of globalization (Mandarin Chinese and English). With over 350 million English speakers in China (more than there are Americans alive) many of whom speak English by recombining existing Chinese sounds into English words and sentences, this new hybrid language is already overwhelmingly present, yet its aesthetic potential has not yet been explored. Stalling’s book complicates any easy dismissal of so-called Chinglish by creating a genuinely uncanny poetry written entirely in Sinophonic English. Stalling rewrites a common English phrasebook into hauntingly beautiful Chinese poetry (which is all translated into English) that when sung, becomes an uncannily accented libretto, a story of a Chinese tourist’s one-way journey into this interstitial language and its sonorous, if disastrous, consequences.