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Trinkets of the Mountain Mother
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Week 60: Two birds on a wire
JIMMY'S LATEST IMPOSSIBLE MINECRAFT VIDEO YEAHHH (I had to draw this IMMEDIATELY after I saw it)
The crystal spine ender dragon looks SO COOL, I might do a proper artwork in it but idk
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I love how Grian’s attitude to him being admin has changed so much across all the seasons. Went from him playing dumb to these funny jokes.
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learning to notice an absence of people of color is crazy. you start seeing it everywhere. ill see a random pic of characters or people or whatever and be like "these are all white people. why"
all the babies in those baby youtube video memes. humanized character posts. like. its the little innocent shit. and like, the people making those baby memes probably arent seeking out white babies. maybe theyre just easier to find. but why are they easier to find? a complicated question, surely... but you know what it probably comes down to. someone, somewhere, maybe a lot of someones in a lot of places, made a choice. maybe knowingly, maybe not. but they made a choice. it starts to make you feel like a conspiracy theorist!!
its really funny that after 2 months this post is still making racists come into my askbox treating me like im a horrible person for pointing out that sometimes people of color are excluded from things in visible and offputting ways. cry about it
since the concept of "romance as horror" keeps getting misinterpreted, id like to propose a much clearer alternative: romance as an instrument of torture
I'm instituting a new policy of "if I can't easily read your crusty scanned PDF then I'm sending it back to you, telling you to get your shit together and save your .docx as .pdf, and causing snakes to manifest inside your house"
this but also if you are in accounting and you have an Excel file please do not save it as a PDF or take a screenshot of it and then paste it into another Excel file
I take it back whatever you have going on is way worse than what I was dealing with holy shit
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yeah no this is a real thing an actual human being said to me
Good afternoon to everyone in the notes having a horrible time! Y'all are fighting demons I never knew existed!! I think every person that makes you do stupid time wasting shit like this because they refuse to learn basic computer literacy should be fired!!
Taichi, Yamato, Parentification and Japan's Lost Decade
Okay. You might have noticed, I am recently talking about Japanese economics, and about adultism, and about child abuse. And it is partially because recently I have fallen down another rabbit hole through some circumstances. I will explain later.
To get everyone on the same page if you have not participated in this conversation before: in Digimon Adventure there is the whole noticable thing with some characters - most notably Taichi, and Yamato - that they are clearly parentified and are performing tasks that you would expect from an adult. This is not unique to Digimon. It happened in Ojamajo Doremi as well, and other kid shows like this. We do see the children suffer from this, but it usually gets framed as a thing that the children have to overcome. And now I know why.
What actually happens in the Show(s)?
Okay, let's quickly go over a couple of examples. Mainly from Digimon, but also two Magical Girls.
First in Digimon Adventure we have Taichi and Yamato. Both of them are older brothers to a sibling who is three younger than them. Taichi has both parents. His father is working some sort of office job. He works long hours and often comes home drunk during the night. The mother is not working, but she is often absent as well. Several times it is mentioned that she is with relatives, though the exact identity is never named. Taichi is left alone with his younger sister as early as when he was seven and Hikari was a toddler. He cooks for her and takes care of other things. There is a particular flashback we get in Adventure later, telling us about how when they were that young Hikari was sick, and Taichi, still no older than 8, took her outside to play, which ended up with her condition worsening to a level where she ended in the hospital. Their parents punished Taichi for this. Nowhere does the series acknowledge that Taichi at this age should not have been alone with his sick sister for that long.
Yamato and Takeru meanwhile have divorced parents. Yamato lives with his father, Takeru with the mother. We see that Yamato often is taking care of chores and cooking for his father, being in many ways the mom in the household and fullfilling that role. During the show he is 10 or 11.
Yamato also parallels a character from Digimon's sister show at the time: Ojamajo Doremi. Here we have another character of divorced parents. Aiko. In her case we actually go into the reason of the divorce. Aiko's mother is a nurse, and she refused to give up her job to be a full stay at home mom. It was originally decided that Aiko would stay with her mother after the divorce. But Aiko - at the time being about 5 or 6 - got worried that her father could not take care of himself. So she decided to stay with her father. Her mother allowed this and has fallen out of contact with her. Her father is working as a cab driver. He often struggles to make ends meet. Aiko is meanwhile doing all the household chores. She cooks. She cleans. She irons his clothes. She is 8 years old in the first season. There are a handful of episodes that do critique that her father relies on her too much. But all in all, the situation exists to show how good of a kid Aiko is.
Back to Digimon. We also have Juri in Digimon Tamers. Her father owns a pub, and she is helping out, either by working in the pub or by taking care of her younger half-brother, when both her father and her step mother are busy working. She never got a chance to properly work through the loss of her mother.
And lastly there is Love from Fresh PreCure. Both her parents work, as her father is not earning quite enough, as he chose passion over good pay. This leaves Love often managing chores, and often taking care of dinner at home. It also is part of the reason why she tends to overextend herself in terms of taking care of others.
Japan's Lost Decade
And before we engage with all this, we are going to talk about Japan's economic crisis. You probably have heard that some time in the 90s, Japan had a big economic crisis, and then did not really recover from that. And if you are like me three weeks ago, that was the extent of your knowledge: the Japanese economy boomed after the end of WWII, and then it went bust.
The context is important though. Japan after the war did get the strong economy by being technology forward, but also by having this very weird relationship to how work and employment were supposed to work. The concept of Lifetime Employment was very common. Basically: you went to school, did good in school, then you got hired by a company, and would work for that company for the rest of your life on good pay. Companies who fired employees for anything other than really heinous things were seen as bad companies. Companies who did not pay living wages (that was outside of the creative industries, because of course those were exploitative) while their CEOs had good pay were seen as bad companies.
Of course this generally was an idea applied to men. Men worked and had an income that would afford them a home for their family. Women were supposed to be married by age 25.
The thing was: the economy was actually working rather well. And the USA hated this. Sure, the USA was partially what created this context (you know, the After War period and stuff), but when Japan became such a major player they really were shitting their pants, because: what if a non-white culture overtakes them? What if a non-white culture becomes the dominant culture on the world? Oh heavens, imagine!
And this lead to the Plaza Accords. Made between Japan, the US and some European countries in 1985. It was meant to regulate international trade, to allow the other countries to still compete with Japan. And then... it worked too well. Partially because of some bad calls being made by the Japanese government in regards to - now say it with me - deregulating the financial market, especially in regards to housing loans.
This was not like the 2008 US crisis, but in some ways similar. Basically there were cheap loans, both for companies and people buying houses. And the idea was that houses could only increase in value. Spoiler alert: they did not.
And here was where the Japanese way of dealing with challenges kinda kicked them in the butt. Because the Japanese banks did not want to destroy small companies - it was seen as bad policy. But this kept a bunch of failing companies alive for a while, while also stopping new - potentially more viable - companies from being created. The Japanese banks kept loaning money to a bunch of companies that were failing slowly due to the way the money were borrowed. And the lack of new companies - because you can only lend out so much money - created an environment with a lack of new jobs.
Sure, this was not quite as heavily felt given that there was the demographic decline. And still... by the early 90s it started to show, and it got worse over the course of the 90s. There were not enough new jobs, and people now entering the workforce often did not get that lifetime employment opening. And even if they did, often enough the pay was no longer enough to feed a family. This was part of the reason why less and less people got married (men believing they should not marry if they could not feed a family, but also women not wanting to marry if they were expected to handle household chores AND a job). And it was also part of the reason why another thing happened.
The Death of Community
Let me get back to one of my favorite topics: bitching about how the nuclear family unit is unnatural to homo sapiens and a horrible way to raise children.
Chances are, all you know about Japan, is that it is fairly conservative of a place. You probably have heard how much sexism is a problem. And how queer marriage is not allowed at large. And how trans people can only bureaucratically transition once they had bottom surgery. And how disabled people are marginalized. And all of this is true.
But also Japan actually hung onto some ideas of raising children communally, and preferring multi-generational households for way longer than the west. In the US the nuclear family was largely invented in the 1950s. Japan hung onto the multi-generational household way into the 80s. In many cases families lived with grandparents and other relatives in one home. And yes, this partially also burdened mothers on one hand, by making them responsible for the older relatives. But at the same time it also allowed for there to be more adults to be responsible for children.
And then there were the walkable communities. And this is the part that especially for Americans probably is strange. But: a lot of Japanese towns and even cities were organized around several walkable centers. For cities this was often a specific walkable neighborhood, featuring a lot of family owned small stores and restaurants. The shotengai (商店街). You probably have seen this in a bunch of anime. The entire Pandamon neighborhood in Beatbreak is this, and it is brought up in a lot of anime.
The general idea is quite simple: the government protected family owned businesses over bigger companies and shopping centers, and meanwhile those neighborhoods were just safe places where kids were just roaming around, everyone knew everyone, and there was a lot of community happening there.
Kids could be unsupervised, because they actually never were truly unsupervised. Everyone knew the names of the kids. The kids were safe and if anything happened taken care of.
This is also why you see in so many Japanese media really young kids run errands. Because this is just assumed. And, yes, there also is the general thing that children in Japan are still very much seen as fully fledged people - at times to a good ending, and at times to a bad.
But this brings me back to those anime kids - and the lack of acknowledgement.
The Reliable Child Archetype
Now, imagine you are a young family in Japan in the 90s. Suddenly the money is tight. Your family might need to move to the city because it is where you can more reliably find a job. This also means that you can no longer live in a multigenerational household, because right now the housing market is in shambles and you just cannot afford a big home in the big city where your relatives can move in.
So, the father works. Likely in an office. He is likely a salaryman. Japanese office culture says that you cannot go home before your boss, and if your boss wants you to go drinking with him after work, than that is what you do. Of course. So often the father is only ever home to sleep, because he literally cannot not go drinking with the boss.
Your wife might now also have to work at least part-time. And if not, she might still be held accountable for taking care of older family members, who might still be living in a suburban or rural area, making her commute between your home in the city, and the rural living of your family.
But at your home, there is also work that needs to be done. Chores. Cooking.
But hey, children are basically tiny adults, right? So it is just natural that you expect your children to do this. The oldest first. And this is the birth of the しっかりした子, the reliable child. The reliable child is a good natured child, who is taking care of chores without complaining. Who cooks for you, and possibly their younger siblings. Like a good member of the productive society, they put themselves after the well-being of others, especially their family. This is not something to be seen as bad. It is indeed something that Japanese society at large is proud of. Our children can help out and shoulder the burdens. Our children are capable.
And this is what gets us characters like Taichi, Yamato, and Aiko. Especially Aiko feels strange when you watch the show, because Ojamajo Doremi does seem to be so keenly aware of the troubles of children. Yet, while the show does criticize the father for too heavily relying on her, it does never say that he should not rely on her at all. No. It clearly says that it is good and admirable that she is cooking and doing the chores. And more than once she also learns the lesson that this is to be expected of her.
The same is with Taichi and Yamato. The series never sees a problem with their roles in their respective families. No, it is a challenge for them to grow from, rather than a case where possibly adults should be responsible.
After reading through Japanese papers on this topic, I am actually very certain on what is happening with the Yagami family. They constantly live in buildings that were explicitly built to allow young families to migrate to the city. The grandparents are very likely still around but either living in the outer edges of the city, or even rural. Yagami Yuuko will be expected as a daughter and daughter in law to commute out there to take care of those grandparents and other older relatives. Which is why she is often gone the whole day. As the oldest child Taichi will be expected to take care of everything. And he does. He is a responsible child.
Which also makes Digimon Tamers and Fresh PreCure stand out here. Because both shows actually do something similar: they call back onto the shotengai (in Fresh PreCure this is very clear, as literally the entire show takes place within the bounds of a shotengai, while for Tamers Takato's and Juri's families both have businesses within a shotengai) and the idea of communal child raising, while also explicitly calling out the parents who fail their children.
Which is actually quite interesting. Konaka in general is a writer who has to his credit called out the weird relation Japan has to children a bunch of times in his writing.
Meanwhile Fresh PreCure is interesting because, well... It was written by Maekawa, who also was one of the two lead writers on Digimon Adventure 02. And I also gotta say. While 02 never fully called out the concept as heavily as Fresh PreCure or Tamers did, it had at least some commentary on the Reliable Child archetype. Osamu was a Reliable Child. So is Ken. And meanwhile a large chunk of the 02 kids are actively younger siblings - which I think was actually intended to show those dynamics play out from a different perspective.
The Specter of the Lost Decade
Something I keep thinking about is, how a lot of those specific cultural contexts - especially back then - were never fully explained to audiences. Because anime were still made primarily with a Japanese audience in mind. And much like American shows do not explain suburbia, these things were not explained in anime back then. But as someone who has looked in from the outside.
For the anime I grew up with the Lost Decade and economic ruin is haunting the narratives. I mean, a bunch of series that were fairly beloved were almost entirely the result of that context. But even the fairly normal shows like Digimon, or Ojamajo Doremi, or Precure later on were kinda haunted by the consequences of this. And it is... interesting, to say the least.
Eh, well, tagging @firedragon1321 and @seventeenlovesthree for the Taichi love and context.
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I love this post because the replies are like "for anyone who doesn't know what nestle did, they benefited from [insert human rights violation here]" but nestle has done SO many fucked up things you get a different topic in every comment
Nestle has:
Drained water from places suffering from drought for absolute pennies.
Made African mothers dependent on their milk formula, which they gave for free, until their milk dried up. Then they required them to purchase it, mothers could not afford it, mixed in too little to fulfill nutrient needs, and mixed it with polluted water. Children died.
Used slavery to produce their cocoa.
Pushed for water to be considered a “want” not a “need” and is at the forefront of arguments that water is not a human right.
Poisoned Chinese infants with melamine in their milk formula.
Demanded Ethiopia pay a debt owed to Nestle, during a FAMINE.
Price-fixed food items.
Contributed to deforestation for their cocoa farming.
The worst thing is, Nestle owns TONS of other brands, making it difficult to avoid for certain products.
Nestlé is LITERALLY the largest food company in the world and have one of the worst track records. Pls avoid their products if you can
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Ok breaking containment for this one because I need everyone who will listen to hear this.
Women who suffer bad cramps are told cramps shouldn't affect school/work/etc, but no one ever investigates further because no one can possibly know if what someone experiences is just typical pain or something much worse.
Well after 15 years of stage 4 treatment-resistant endometriosis that came with pain as bad as, if not worse than, actual labor contractions every month, all the while being told I was 'typical' and 'just had bad cramps', I've finally been healed (another post for another time). I have had what everyone describes as the elusive 'normal period pain' for several months now, and I am begging you to look me in the eyes and listen because I need everyone who can hear this to hear this.
I have been on both sides of this. I have the hard-earned knowledge of what a period 'should' feel like.
If you have to put in any effort to hide your cramps, you need to get help.
Even during of the PEAK OF CRAMPING (i.e., as bad as your cramps possibly get), you should still be able to stand, speak, walk, eat, work, and sleep with no problems. These tasks should require very-little-to-no extra effort beyond what you would normally do when you aren't on your period. When you do these things, you should feel grumpy and a little bit icky and maybe a twinge of nerves and NOTHING MORE.
If you have to sit in the corner and hope no one approaches you because you can't speak or stand without showing pain, even slightly, you need to get help. If your pain is showing on your face, you need to get help. And most importantly, IF YOUR PAIN DOES NOT RESPOND TO 1-2 TYLENOL OR IBUPROFEN, YOU NEED TO GET HELP.
Your period cramps should make you grumpy. Your period cramps should make you feel a little icky and tired. Your period cramps should make you feel your insides existing/moving a bit and a twinge of nerves that makes you groan slightly then the "pain" should stop there, NOTHING MORE.
If your cramps put you on the floor but you make believe you're the captain of a ship who has just been stabbed and has to hide it to fight on, and you force yourself to power through the day, please understand: you are not okay, that does not make you okay. Just because you can power through the pain doesn't mean you aren't sick. If you have to force yourself through any basic task beyond the effort it takes you to do when you aren't on your period, and I am holding your face and looking you in the eye as I say this because I need you to hear me: You aren't normal. You don't 'just have bad cramps'. You are sick and you need to get help.
Now most people will tell you if your cramps are beyond a 3 out of 10 on the pain scale, you should see a doctor. While this is usually true, you have to consider chronic pain CAN AND WILL BREAK YOUR PAIN SCALE. Most people will only compare pain they currently feel to pain they may experience one day but probably never will. "Sure these cramps feel bad now, but if I had a leg amputated with no anesthesia, that would hurt WAY worse, so this pain can't be that bad-" No. Your pain is what it is, objectively, full stop. My cramps were at a 10 out of 10 every. Single. Time. And nobody told me claiming they were a 6-8 because I thought to myself 'what if I lose a limb one day?' was completely wrong. 10 pain is 10 pain. And if there's something that hurts worse than that, guess what. The thing you are experiencing right now is still a 10 out of 10 on the pain scale. Just because you experience it every month doesn't mean it's magically not as bad is it is. And if your pain is worse than a 3 out of 10, you need to get help.
Now when I say get help, I mean find the root cause of your pain. You can't just throw drugs and hormones at it without knowing what it causing your pain. Endometriosis, fibroids, pcos, cancer, adenomyosis, polyps, thyroid issues, there is always a cause. And if you leave it untreated, it will grow and get worse to the point where it resists treatment and the drugs and hormones you've been throwing at it for years don't work anymore. You have to find a doctor that will investigate. If your doctor tells you you 'just have bad cramps' get a new doctor. I know you've been told that but please hear me: no one ever just has bad cramps. A healthy human body doesn't spontaneously cause itself pain so bad you can't stand up; there is ALWAYS a cause.
I was sick for more than 15 years. My entire life was put on hold and now I'm in my late 20s trying desperately to play catch up for everything I missed. I want to pick up 12yo me, spin her around, and tell her she doesn't have to die before she finally stops hurting. I don't want anyone to suffer the same fate I did simply because everyone told them they were normal. A little twinge of pain here and there is normal, suffering is not. I promise you your pain is real, it is not normal, and dear heavenly day I am begging you you need to get help now.
TL;DR: There is no such thing as 'just bad cramps.' If you feel anything more than grumpy, icky, and pain greater than a 3 out of 10, you need to find out what's wrong with you before it gets worse.
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I've said it before and I'll say it again: I thought my cramps weren't that bad, because after all I had friends who couldn't get out of bed for three days. Meanwhile I could walk around. I only occasionally had a cramp so bad that I went pale and sweaty and shaky as I waited it out. Sure, those bad ones felt like a knife in the gut, but they only lasted a minute or so each one, and there were only two days of those per period. Not too bad, right?
After endometriosis surgery? Night and day. I haven't had a cramp like that in over a year. My cramps now, as OP says, are mild twinges and the vague sensation that standing up straight is more difficult and tiring than usual. Not painful, just harder to do.
Now Imagine me telling you "no one has stabbed me repeatedly in the guts for over a year!" that sounds insane, right. who would tolerate that. WELL. Lots of people with uteruses, apparently.
Also I've stopped being anemic. "Well, yeah," my doctor said, last week. "You probably had a slow bleed into your abdominal cavity constantly from the endometrial tissue, and now you don't."
Also, DO NOT accept, "Being fat makes your cramps worse, lose weight and they'll get better." No. Some of the hormonal conditions that cause severe cramps also cause weight gain so there is a correlation between being fat and having bad cramps. That doesn't mean the fat causes the pain. Also, weight loss will not cure any of the conditions that make you gain weight.
And if you're fucking miserable before or during your period, that's premenstrual dysphoric disorder, it's not normal either, please get that checked out too. Any kind of "I feel like a disgusting blob monster" or "I am a horrible person and don't deserve to live" or anything even vaguely in that vicinity, that's PMDD.
In both of these cases, if your doctor doesn't fucking listen to you, get a new doctor, and don't stop getting new doctors until you find one that does listen.
additionally, transfems on estrogen can and do get period cramps, including extreme cramping, and there are options to manage it that don't involve stopping estrogen! switching from pills to injections can help, as well as starting progesterone. estrogen HRT doses are also chronically underprescribed by doctors, making sure you're on the right dose can help keep you healthy. here's the diy estrogen hrt guide which has info on dosage!