Hi, so I'm 20 and I'm not 100% sure than I'm trans. I dream about being a guy a lot of the time but there are some times where i feel girly and more feminine. But i get really depressed that I'm not a guy and sometimes it gets overwhelming. (Pt1)
(Pt2) I also really want to transition but Iâm not out to anyone and Iâm really scared people arenât going to accept be. Iâm just nervous they Iâm not trans even though Iâm like 99% sure i am. Do you think this is normal?
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When it comes to figuring out if you are trans or not, ultimately the deciding factor boils down to you.
YOU decide what your next step is, whether you want someone to talk to about these feelings (which is what I always recommend for people in your current state). A therapist would be best, because they can help you sort out these feelings.
Some people choose to take Testosterone at some point, and maybe you will be one of these people. What do you think about taking T? Not everyone does, itâs not a ârequirement,â so remember that. Some people take it for a brief time then stop, others choose to pass or skip that step altogether. Either way youâre trans, and no more or less than the person before you.
Maybe take your time, explore your feelings. Ask yourself what you want and what transitioning is to you. I guess I could be considered more feminine than masculine when it comes to my tastes, and the activities I like, but it doesnât make me any less trans so donât beat yourself up for being more feminine certain days. Maybe youâre gender fluid, thatâs an option too.
But if overall you want to be seen as a guy, no matter whether or not you have âfeminine daysâ⊠if you overall want to look and feel a certain way, then itâs 100% okay to ask people to start using the correct pronouns / name. It might take a little bit of explaining, maybe come out to people who you feel safe with, people who are closest to youâŠ.. but dress comfortably, be confident, and see a therapist. If youâre 99% sure, chances are youâre probably a guy and thereâs nothing wrong with that.
You could be a feminine guy, or an androgynous guy⊠but all the same, it boils down to having someone to talk to about it. Start with therapy. Dress comfortably (meaning dress the way YOU want to dress yourself, not the way you THINK you have to be dressed). Tell a friend or two who are majorly trustworthy and see how it goes from there. Iâm not saying coming out is an easy thing to do, but thatâs what I did when I was exploring gender. I had a couple of friends to talk to about it before I started with the proper therapist, before I made a MAJOR coming out or anything like that.
Having people you can talk to about this really helps, trust me!
If you, or anyone else want to explore your gender identity while you wait for an appointment, hit me up. I hope this helped.