talking with a friend on discord about it and yk what I will ramble.
content warning - talking about sex and stuff
why is it. that we as a community treat simon and grace so differently when it comes to how their drawn and written
Why is simon so insanely muscular and dominating and ryland is a twig and submissive. These are the same fucking image, no? do we not have eyes?
these are two muscular men. we know that ryland is muscular book or movie because they go out of their way to SHOW US that he is!
we are assigning dynamics based on appearancessssss.
Because that's how the COI treats him. Scary, threatening, very dark and broody.
And wouldn't it be way more romantic for Simon to instead of being portrayed as strong and dangerous to feel comfortable enough to be truly vulnerable and submissive to another person.
GIVE HIM A PRAISE KINK! LET HIM LIKE BOTTOMING! LET HIM BE CHERISHED AND BE GIVEN THINGS INSTEAD OF CONSTANTLY GIVING AND GIVING!
And forgive me but maybe is it a little weird that the less *traditionally masculine* one that wears knitwear and is a bit nerdy is immediately treated as submissive and weak?
Also why would ryland *the man who traumatically got pinned down and had his autonomy ripped away* like feeling powerless during sex?
I'm not saying that you can't draw or write top simon and bottom grace, and I'm not trying to attack anyone's opinions or police anyone. But I do want to offer a different perspective because I have noticed a trend I find a little annoying.















