Your 'guide for the struggling subject' post was honestly one of the nicest inspirational essays I've read recently, on hypnosis or not. Thanks for writing it. :)
Thank you for letting me know! If you think there are ways it could be improved, or sharing some of your own experiences. That’d be great.
I found my eyes focused/not focused on the bottom empty row of the right side. The swaying caused some disconcerting moments at first, then I got the hang of it. Left, then right, left, then right. Sometimes my eyes went back and forth along that angled line. Was it really moving? Ane every once in a while, a bigger white ball came along and knocked all the thoughts out of my head, and I couldn’t look away.
People are defined by their moral code, and fleshed out by their bodies. But to make them move and breathe, sing, and dance at your will, you need to add a programming language or two. If you thought building your own hive was cool, you’re going to love what you can make people do with a little programming.
Programming is what makes slaves interact with the user. Interactivity is the key. Learn to program, and your slaves come alive. Sometimes people are nervous about programming. It seems difficult and mysterious, and only super-geeks do it. That’s a bunch of nonsense. It’s a a natural extension of hypnosis, and you’re going to like it.
Even though JavaSlave is a programming language, it is still basically language. Because it’s normally embedded in a slave, you can work both on body language and use words to affect their minds.
To create your first JavaSlave program, you need to add JavaSlave code to your slaves. Figure 1-1 shows the classic first program in any language.
Figure 1-1: Hello master!
(A JavaSlave program caused a doll to speak up!)
This slave has a very simple JavaSlave program in them that pops up the phrase “Hello, Master!” in a special element called a dialog box. It’s pretty cool.
Programs get their power by working with information. Figure 1-2 shows a program that gets slave data from the slave to include in a customized command.
Figure 1-2: What is your name? - Jonas. | Kneel down, Jonas.
First, the program asks the slave for a name. Then it embeds his name in the command. The output may not seem that incredible, but take a look at the source code to see what’s happening:
<!SLAVETYPE blank>
<blank lang = “en-US”>
<head>
<meta charset = “UTF-8”>
<title>prompt.html</title>
<script type = “text/javaslave”>
// from prompt.html
var person = “”;
person = prompt(“What is your name?”);
alert(“Kneel down” + person);
</script>
</head>
</blank>
Your program might or might not have the ‘prevent this slave from creating additional thoughts’ checkbox. This is actually a nice debugging feature.
It will be possible to create codes that get out of control. The program noticed two independent thoughts in a row popping up in the slave’s head and thinks we might be in one of those dangerous situations that call for an endless loop. More on loops, endless and otherwise, in Chapter 3 of this mini-book.
For now, just praise the slave by their name because their are acting as intended. (Soon enough, however, we’ll stop using their former names because they’re just too annoying).
[this is what happens when I try to study Javascript on my own haha.
Adapted from the book “HTML5 and CSS3 all in one for dummies, 3rd edition]
You might consider running your slave off of a Node-based platform, like SlaveIO.js. You can still use all the programming knowledge you pick up from this course, without needing the overhead of running in a browser.
Something like:
const slaveio = require("SlaveIO") ,fs = require("fs") ,readline = require("readline") ; var slave = new slaveio(); // TODO: Add to data storage const OWNER_TITLE = "Mistress"; var SLAVE_NAME = "Slave"; const rl = readline.createInterface({ input: process.stdin, output: process.stdout }); if (process.env.DEBUG) { // Used when in DEBUG mode on the command line. rl.question("What is your name? ", (answer) => { console.log(`Kneel, ${answer}`); }); } else { // Used when executing on embedded SlaveIO hardware slave.ask(`What is my name, ${OWNER_TITLE}?`, (answer) => { // Store our name for recognition later. SLAVE_NAME = answer; }); slave.on('hear', (message) => { let msg = message.trim().toLowerCase(); switch (msg) { case `${SLAVE_NAME}, kneel`: slave.kneel(); break; default: slave.say(`I'm sorry, ${OWNER_TITLE}, I do not understand.`); } }); } // Set Slave daemon to listen for interactions. slave.listen();
This is a really basic sort of example meant to demonstrate some of the simplest of interactions you may have with a slave. In a real-world application, however, it is infeasible to maintain your call-and-response list as a simple switch statement, as it would grow very large and unwieldy.
The most advanced slaves are generally programmed with a q-learning based neural network, which tends to provide a very natural-feeling UI for the slave. Be warned, though: Since a q-learning network does continuously update its own parameters, it may produce undesirable emergent behaviors, and should be handled with care.
XD Sorry, I’m a software engineer and javascript is my language of choice these days. I’m also autodidactic, and if you ever run into trouble figuring things out, feel free to hit me up!
And it may help to know that the code block I gave really isn’t that different from that last example you have – just written from a different usability perspective and with some boilerplate overhead. The general idea is that it creates a ‘slave’ object that has a few functions – ‘on’ to catch events (we see a ‘hear’ event, meant to be triggered with the slave hears something), ‘ask()’ to ask a question and receive a response, ‘kneel()’ to kneel, ‘say()’ to speak, ‘listen()’ to begin listening (and ensure the program doesn’t immediately execute)
It’s also written as if it were intended to be executed on the slave itself, rather than in a browser with the slave interacting with it.
BUT SERIOUSLY I HAVE HALF A MIND TO SET UP A GITHUB PROJECT FOR A SLAVE PROGRAMMING LIBRARY, WITH DUMMY METHODS AND START WRITING UP TUTORIALS ON HOW TO USE IT TO PROGRAM YOUR SLAVE. WHY AM I LIKE THIS.
I ACTUALLY wrote something like this with PHP and PHP Class Libraries, as everyone hates people. It was still fun to do, It was so fun, sadly. As a sub, I wrote the whole thing, to like let it sit. to find out, nobody but me saw the appeal for such a superficial thing.
Heres an interesting idea, theres a core identity of mine, that I’m so afraid to change, so afraid to proclaim, so afraid to be any different. It kind of haunts me, in a way, I look upon myself, and I’m afraid.
For example, in private. I am willing to called someone I consider so close to me, so dear to me a sister, my sis’, and while we’re not related by blood, we’re such good friends, so deeply profound friends. That we consider on another family.
So why is it, I choke, when addressing her in public with such assignment? I’m afraid of being seen as weird, or doing something unlike me. I find myself in constant situations, where I feel like I’ve become uninteresting, unentertaining, simply because I’m afraid- I fear what others think of me.
I’’ve argued I do not, and I for the most part, would agree with myself. But there is a single dip to this, a small caveat. I’m afraid to change my core identity, do something that isnt the established me.
I choke when it comes to titling my doms int he pas,t I choke when it comes doing certain things infront of others. I’m shy, I’m timid, I want all of these things, I want them all. I want to commit, do them, fall forward, and embrace every part of me.
There is a beautiful person in me, and I feel she is just crying, clawing, and trying to get out. But a part of me thats so well designed as a prison, keeps me from change, keeps me from success. I may aspire to constantly improve. But I find myself in the position, of being fearful of being something im not, being something out of character.
Even in hypnosis, it is actually one of my little highlights. I dont even allow hypnosis to be a good enough excuse to behave like a dork, or a silly person sometimes, it takes a lot of convincing, reminding, and a lot of overall work.
I’m not sure sometimes, this is like some intangible barrier that effects more than just hypnosis, it effects my personal life, it effects core components, thankfully it doesnt block my empathy, my ability to throw myself at people to help them. As that is already a core idea of my person.
So today I went tist mode again, well I suppose that wasnt surprising. Doing research for my next writeup, I decided the topic I am going to cover. I’ve been talking back and forth with some of my personal friends in the hypnosis community, and I had a pretty lengthy conversation.
It seems that induciton skill is actually I think most of peoples weakness, but priming often seems non-existent, or very basic level. This is in line that pre-talk is on a similiar level to say, priming.
Now the sample size of information that I have is only accounting for average individuals, if you do any of these things. I’d already rank you higher. I’ve spent dabbling between various hypno communities, and people throwing inductions get right to playing, less talking.
This is why I say the things I say. Even when yoiu try to derialt hem, they’re not keenly interested in humanizing you sometimes. They seem often putoff, or disinterested, or keenly unaware about how important some steps are.
But an interesting thing I’ve encoutnered a few hypnotists who have good baseline skills, but lack of knowledge. Something I noted, as they had really good word flow, and pacing. But their structure was very clinical, very much rooted in traditional hypnosis at its core, feeling very well, lets just say, unoriginal.
So the discussion I had highlighted that, I’m pretty strong at priming, I’m not the best, I’m pretty good at pre-talk, again not the best. But, I feel damn confident about my induction skills. Now admittedly this is where my skills decline, I’m a specialist remember. Post-hypnotics aren’t really my skillset. I’m above average, but not very interested in post-hypnotic stuff, or the ‘play phase’ as we called it.
And thats another phase that came up between me and my friends. Whenever we encountered other hypnotists, or switches, etc. We’d often find that, people know how to do inductions the best, but struggled with playing with stuff afterward.
It gave an interesting thought. My only issue was, I need emotional attachment to the person to want to do it, but I do most of my playing in the induction phase. While bringing them deeper, and such. I make all the suggestions.
I still have my toybox of tools. Fun stuff I admit to play with, some cool gadgets and gimmicks. But I’m still ever the specialist.
After I wrote my article or post, on the pre-talk discussion, I’m currently just in the workshop at the moment, kind of figuring out what topic to cover next. I want to cover all the primary basic things of hypnosis. But some are far to advanced, or far to deep to easily go into.
Would even the basic theory talk of hypnosis be even appropriate?
Maybe I can discuss language ?or creativity? Mmm.. still. Not to sure. I had an idea for some earlier but they poofed out of my head. Got tranced a bit, woops didnt write it down.
I want to target topics that seems to also be needing higher demand, and need. It’s all really fuzzy honestly.
I think too many people place an emphasis on trance being some profound state, TBH. It has never been that profound for me, and I don’t think that’s altogether unusual. With more practice it maybe becomes more profound and deep and it feels like you are totally taken by it, but for a long time most people just kinda feel like they are following along and have major Impostor Syndrome about whether they are Really Hypnotized or not. Just take the experience for what it is, and try to have fun with it. :)
I sorta agree with the above. As someone who struggled with her own complexes for a few years. I found myself confused, my first few sessions were a blast instant success. But the hypnotist and I didnt do much after a few years.
I couldnt be hypnotized by scripts, by audio, by people, I suffered, dearly. I dont believe its impossible for anyone to be hypnotized, and even to this day I still struggle at times, but with time, practice, and awareness of rapport, I’ve improved the consistency of my experience. I’ve gone further, I’ve gone deeper, I’ve reduced the overall anxiety and stress in my life.
While this may not be technically true, I like to believe a grand majority of people are hypnotizable, only under the most extreme conditions are people falling into a category as such. There is nobody that should be labeled, difficult, or hard, or even impossible.
I got labeled all these things, but it became quite simple. I was my own barrier, I was apart of the problem. I was looking for way more than I should have been. I found a great hypnotist, they showed me the way, they held my hand. They gave me solid experiences. they were willing pace with me, and tell me the things I wanted to hear, things I needed to hear. And in a way they taught me so much I considerably improved.
Never give up, find the right person, build quality relationships. Even they think you impossible, teach them better. I’m a strong advocate, for people who fall into this label, or category. I want to provide resources, information, and educate others to help them help others. To perpetuate a positive environment for all audiences for hypnosis.
And to raise people up, and bring them into the fold of our amazing community. I may be a niche, but I care about my niche within the hypnosis community.
Lets Talk about Hypnosis: Pre-Talk (Not Just for hypnotists!)
Who am I? About Me.
Now, I’m sure many people are not so familiar with me. I’m not a super above the pay grade well versed expert in this particular topic. I’m much more well known for being a specialist in small communities within the greater hypnosis community. I’m not famous, or well known. I’m simply that person who just does hypnosis and is a specialist for analytic and critically minded subjects, and those that have birthed a complex from many failures.
As of this moment, I’ve mostly cast my mantle as a hypnotist aside, I’ve not much drive or aspiration, no real enjoyment do I get out of hypnotizing people, but I still enjoy educating, teaching, and sharing the skills I grinded and studied tirelessly. I became a hypnotist as a part of some mission to learn how to be hypnotized and after 3-4+ years, I managed my break through. I succeeded.
This will likely be the start of my series, the beginning point. This is a part of a written series of posts that I’m hoping to write, and work on, and have it looked through it so carefully. So there is a bit of extra text for padding.
What is Pre-talk
Really, it’s prob not even its official name, but let’s discuss pre-talk more as a concept than as a concrete thing. I’m going to start with describing what it is. This isn’t a job solely meant for the hypnotist alone, so I’m going to serve this to both the audience of subjects and hypnotists.
It is a responsibility best carried out by both parties, something extremely rare, but it only takes one person to really initiate the process, and to get the ball rolling. So what is it?
Initially before a session, you should really talk about just simply limits, and such for hypnosis- ideally, but there is more nuance to that. There are mandates, setting limits, validating consent, knowing what you’re allowed to do, and clarifying what your intent is. Working with regulars, you may bend the rules a bit, but only if you’ve agreed mutually for surprises.
We have a culture of unhealthy one-offs, people are just wanting to ‘shack up’ and never talk again, it actually happens pretty much all the time. This isn’t so bad, but I find that during my own excursions, as a subject. I’d run into countless hypnotists who just wanted to get in my pants, get in my head, and be done.
Let’s be honest, I’m sure for somebody, that is appealing, but for me, that isn’t super great, it doesn’t feel comfortable, and this stranger wants to go places with me, that well, I really shouldn’t subject myself to being. And being an already critically minded subject, having poor rapport, or even a poor opinion on a hypnotist is actually detrimental to me.
So what really is pre-talking? (Cont.)
Plainly put, it’s a process. You build rapport, its that stage where you communicate with the hypnotist or subject, and exchange organic dialogue. Find out their favorite foods, talk shop about hypnosis. Have a dialogue. It doesn’t need to be one specific thing, but try to hold a conversation. Make sure to get to know them until you’re comfortable.
This is a good phase to prime the subject, and for the subject to be primed. This is a good phase to really build a foundation for rapport, a phase in which is often cast aside, people often feel stoic, or inorganic, wanting to satisfy their base desires. Often enough feeling empty.
I constantly find myself frustrated by the idea that pre-talk is corner cut, simply because it takes up to much time, it breaks some guy’s boner (needs citation), or people don’t want to make it the subject of negotiation, or the hypnotist they’re working with to feel human.
Wake up people. Hypnotists aren’t vending machines, and subjects aren’t there just to be hypnotized. Its a beautiful thing when a lasting relationship, friendship, is formed. When you actually make the tiny bits of effort, it might be exhausting, but its heckin’ worth it. For the love that is all things … Do I need to explain myself?
Why and How: A simple introduction
Why. This is the first thing we need to learn, why, this is gonna be a bit of a repeat from above, but I’ll keep it short. It builds rapport, it helps both you as a subject or a hypnotist build quicker, deeper relations, makes for better sessions, going deeper trances- depths, and even builds trust, better safety networks. Removes a lot of room for error, by simply engaging in it.
How. As a Hypnotist Edition: As a hypnotist, you’re the leading role, you tend to control the flow of the conversation. You provide a lot of feedback, and a let of direction, often times the subject may be waiting, or end up in a passive position. Hypnotists tend to fall into an active role, and this can be pretty frustrating but fret not.
We’ll cover priming in a separate post, but initially speaking, you should make the subject more eager. Good pre-talk, is a mixture of organic conversation, getting to know the subject you’re working with, and learning the boundaries they’ve set. It’s good to establish these with them, while you’re also focused on them.
We’re human, often times, being treated well, a subject may respond much more intensely, feeling ‘special’ or even a bit more investment is put into them. this is useful for getting them open up. you want to work with them closely, and talk to them, communicate your concerns, your limits as well. But remember.
Organic Conversation (Hypnotist Cont.)
You really want to engage your subjects in natural dialogues, probe and prod at little interests. If you’re using a medium where they have profiles, inquire about things related to that profile, or simply ask them directly. The latter is much more preferred. Approach by establish an interest in their hobbies.
I highly recommend AVOID HYPNOSIS as the first few lines of your opener meeting with someone the first time. It’s a good way, to set some subjects, particular those like myself. Into a more defensive state. This is because you don’t want them to feel like a piece of meat. There are times when this is okay, and I definitely feel like it shouldn’t be the first few things to mention right after saying. “Hi hello, how’re you?”
In my experience asking “What got you into hypnosis” gets old fast, in fact a lot of people ask this one. It’s important to encourage the subject to talk about them selves, get a feel for their personality, how comfortable you are with working with them. How hesitant are they, how reserved they might be.
Figure out some details, and use a bit of organic flow, say what comes naturally. But try not to come off too thirsty, or overly eager to begin -- unless the subject you’re working with seems to have that in mind.
Setting Boundaries (Hypnotist Cont.)
As a hypnotist you should ask about things like fears, anxieties, things that might come up. How you apply that will be unique to yourself. But you should seek to explore concerns, and try to setup the session to be as fluid and safe as possible.
A good reputation for a hypnotist is a good way to prime future subjects, holding a reputation for being pretty good at what you do. So establish what a subject wants to do, What you want to do, negotiate a middle ground, but never force it one way or another.
If you’re wanting to do something, offer your wants, see where you can have some dialogue safely, and maneuver your way into some pleasant conversation. Many hypnotist focus entirely on what the subjects want to do, and that may be fine. But you also should negotiate, communicate, and seek to find a healthy compromise between both parties.
How: Subject Edition: As a subject myself, I’ spent a fair bit of time, trying to engage in pre-talk with a fair number of hypnotist who tried to cut corners, but there is a few things you can do. Especially when you’re wanting to feel a little more comfortable. If you have any trust issues, concerns, anxieties, little things. you should do what comes naturally to you. Communicate some things.
Ideally communicating your limits, your concerns, your various feelings, and holding an organic conversation, like you’re trying to meet a friend. For the subject, I recommend trying to make sure you’re putting yourself in the hands of someone you feel best with.
Getting to know the person could both make you realize the person is not for you, but avoiding that awkward, feeling of poor matchups, especially when you’re doing the one-offs with random strangers in various Discords, or chat communities.
Look for the behavior and nuances of how they carry themselves, always play your hand in your favor, there is nothing wrong with negotiating things to be fair for both parties, but ultimately strive for what you’re comfortable with.
I really recommend looking at the hypnotist section to be honest, it covers a few things that I expect hypnotists to do, that I also do when I take on my ever so rare hypnotist mantle.
Conclusions and Wrap Up
I wrote this article as a start to potentially a long series to strive and educate people on concepts and ideas. These things are just protocol and procedure to follow up with, when engaging with new subjects, with new hypnotists, people you know barely anything about.
It’s important even with people you do know, to at least establish boundaries, build some rapport, and at least try to make an effort to make sure you know what you can and cannot do. Build the lines of direction. Both hypnotist and subject have a role to play, to make sure they’re communicating with each other where their lines are. If a hypnotist isn’t into a certain thing, he or she should state that. If a subject isn’t into a thing, that should be communicated upon.
In all honesty, I’m just here to spread an idea, an idea to make my life easier- and others too. Hopefully broadening a basic negotiating procedure, can easily reduce the headache of failed sessions. So many people are burdened with complex’s from simply having poor rapport, poor first sessions. Many things just having a decent conversation, and making an honest effort could solve.
My hopes is that this post reaches an audience that is concerned, and that new hypnotists and subjects can wander onto this, and find out how to save them from so much heart and head ache.
Hypnosis Individuals of Note
If you’re a person of note, and would like to present this sort of procedure, just give me a message, and I’ll add your name. at the moment. there isn’t anyone I can immediately think of. So the list will be empty.
Upon hearing this today, I cannot believe how much I was infuriated to hear someone being outed, exhiled, and mistreated because they were labeled as impossible? are they telling me a tall tale? Am I just fricken losing my mind. Because holy heck, I cannot begin to start. with just how flipping mad I am.
Lets begin, I advocate for the group of, and the peopels of that make up the analytically minded subject, but I also seek to represent all subjects that fall into a category of “Difficult” or “Impossible” often times labeled by others, or even ourselves. Feelings of being inadequate.
Just to put that there, I wrote a post on this, its a no brainer. I am prob gonna write an update in the near future. but holy heck. this is just insane. Here I am trying to think of all new hypnosis content for my blog/tumblr. and I’m hit with this idealogy of bs I escaped years ago. From my understanding this particular sub was in a group containing well above 20 people. If a majority or any one of those people know better, or knew why the person was kicked.
And still rallied with that group for a sake of social standing. I’d be prominently disturbed. It makes me sick, it really does.
Its all in your head. the only difficulty is the people who give up, and dont want untie the mess caused by every other predecessor, every hypnotist that screwed up a subject, and made their complex increasingly worse. It is not hard to bring someone under.
You’re all just cutting corners, not doing pre-talk, not even engaging in proper protocol and even aftercare. This isn’t directed at everyone, but theres a good chunk of hypnotists who obviously just try to cut corners with new subjects, which is always a terrible idea, if you’re working with someone the first time, especially if you have no idea their history, etc. It’s good to spend a moment to work with them. Set expectations, figure out the intent, the goal, the boundaries, discuss their personage. Humanize each other. for crying out loud.
ugh! UGH! UGH!
I can’t begin to express how frustrating it is. To see people still be doing this, I strive so ahrd to educate people, that I’m planning a new series of tumblr posts. I may even try to work with some other people on tumblr. I think I’ll do that. I think we need to do something. Because I’m losing my mind here.
@thesecretsubject Might I be able to enlist your interest in providing some assistance towards a educational hypnosis series. Not sure if you have one or not. But you’re the first person to pop in my mind.
Dominance is not about control over a submissive. Dominance is about leading and the submissive following. These words have been said thousands of times by thousands of people. I suspect it will continue to be said for many years to come.
Submissives do not seek people to control them. They seek a leader that proves time and time again that they are qualified to follow.
Mistakes happen. Wrong decisions are made. It’s how you handle those decisions that make you reliable and trustworthy.
Do you like people to submit to you easily or fight you and make you work for their submission?
I like to earn the submission of my subs through trust, respect and knowing them inside and out. Which is why I only have one sub right now. I feel it takes time to establish but in the long run you end up with better results and lasting relationships.
Thank you! I mean I have a girlfriend now and she started as my sub/best friend (relationship first) for over a year. I always tell people if you care about the person as a person before D/s then you get to know the person as a whole more and the trust is real.
This is why building rapport, and having good-pretalk, before sessions, and spending time humanizing the subject and hypnotist is actually vital in the first place.
Yeah, it’s a great idea to actually get to know a person!
But I have a question: what kind of sessions do you people run if you don’t get to know your sub that way? Mine include lots and lots of pre-talk, during talk, and post-talk about all possible things including deepest desires, life goals, fears, relationship goals, likes, dislikes, no-nos, and so on. How do you plan a session after session without doing that?
I forego talking about hypnosis when working with a subject as a hypnotist. something I do rarely, I try to also encourage it as a subject, leading pre-talk there as well, but its hard to get a hypnotist to follow, many times. Because they’re often wanting to do their own thing.
The best way to pre-talk, is find a bit of intringue, or interest, get them to talk about something they like, find a way to open the subject up. For me, talking shop with hypnosis, is actually a good way to get me pretty happy, or psychology. I know I said I forego hypnosis, but typically what I mean is.
Dont ask me like hypnosis questions as subject, I like to talk shop, and theory, and discuss ideas, and really cool things. But when you ask the typical questions of “What’d you want what you like to do, your limits” thats boring, thats something that should come later in the discussion phase as you move to the actual session.
Build your profile of the user, build your identity of them, get to know them. And if the first session works, and does so well enough, they’ll come crawling back for more.
just talking to the person like they’re a human being. Like you’re meeting someone at an event, its the same application of dating. Show interest in the person, not the date. You want to explore them through dialogue, and words. You want to encourage them to also share quite a bit, but you also have to have a level of tact to not set off any flags for them.
Always keep conversations appropriate to what you perceive the comfort level and area of the subject, do a little prodding and gently push the borders, find out what works, if they talk about ti first, thats a huge boon, you can then jump to related topics, and greatly improve rapport by expanding from there.
What's your favorite method of instilling discipline in a submissive?
Wait you have to instil that? Well I don’t really work like that. You see, I am first and foremost a hypnosis kinkster I work on the plains of the mind to do cool shit with my sub and I know her so well (and we fit so well) that we talk about fun things to do to her mind and we do them.
Right now we are working on a control panel to control aspects of her speech when she is around me like filters etc very fun.
But yea I don’t do a lot of “traditional” obedience training, I’d rather take the time to get to know my sub and condition her for cool hypnosis skills.
Actually an effective way to apply discipline in a subject, is not through force. But rather through dialogue. If the subject is responsive to force, or aggressive things, you can still likely undermine them through dialogue.
Really all you have to do, is convey that you’re disappointed, as cliche as that sounds, a sub who fiercly admires, or wishes to serve- please- or even make sure to do anything for this top, will respond quite viscerally to the fact they screwed up.
Among other things, you get these little nuances, where making someone submissive to you, is a bit of a mind-game to, as someone who used to be a Mistress, and a domme, as well as hypnotist. I will say, that, asserting yourself without using force and violence, or aggressive language is quite easy. You just set expectations, provide your aura. And lead. A persons sub, should have built up rapport with the dom they’re working with, so, by that, your methods are already effective.
Also a friendly reminder. You can tottally dominate someone by teasing them, and you want to say discipline? Lets just say. Who needs to discipline a sub, unless its purely for mock fun ;p, the real discipline is when take away little things they like in their life. Setting the expectations to be met, and using the appropriate dialogue. For me its like being kind, and hopeful that they’d do so. When I was a domme xD
It works quite a bit. And as a sub, I learned first hand its a real emotional storm, to let down your top. HOOLLLLLY CRAP.
Do you like people to submit to you easily or fight you and make you work for their submission?
I like to earn the submission of my subs through trust, respect and knowing them inside and out. Which is why I only have one sub right now. I feel it takes time to establish but in the long run you end up with better results and lasting relationships.
Thank you! I mean I have a girlfriend now and she started as my sub/best friend (relationship first) for over a year. I always tell people if you care about the person as a person before D/s then you get to know the person as a whole more and the trust is real.
This is why building rapport, and having good-pretalk, before sessions, and spending time humanizing the subject and hypnotist is actually vital in the first place.
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