[coyoteguuurl]

i dont know who needs to hear this, but 2mg is not enough. frankly 8mg is not enough. buy your estrogen elsewhere. take anywhere from 50-100% more than the WPATH recommended max dose. stop once your estrogen stays around 300-450 pg/mL. try not to exceed 700 pp/mL (excess estrogen causes the body to purge estrogen, often overreacting and putting your total effective estrogen lower than what is desirable for feminization and stability).

there is no conclusive evidence that the feminizing effects of injectable E are preferable to those of oral E, but injectable is safer long-term (years-long), so eventually switch to injectable. its cheaper also.

use a good anti-androgen. spiro will make you piss and pissed, because it sucks. take bica 50mg or cypro 12.5mg. misc notes on anti-androgens:

if you've already been on E for over a year and your E is above 250pg/mL and your T is below 50ng/dL, you won't really benefit from an anti-androgen. If you're earlier in your transition than that, or if your levels aren't looking like that, you can either increase your estrogen intake (try not too exceed a blood estrogen level of 700pg/mL, or take an anti-androgen. there is no conclusive clinical evidence to say that monotherapy is better or worse than E + AA, it's kinda just personal preference.

there are two things to be wary of with bicalutamide; first, it's hell for your liver. if you like to drink, don't take it. if you take it, get liver enzymes taken when you get blood labs pulled. second, bica does not stop T production, only reception, so it should only really be taken if you plan on getting an orchiectomy (thus removing the testes). If you plan on keeping your testes, use cypro.

if you take cypro, get a vitamin b12 (or general b) supplement. cypro eats away at b12 reserves which can sometimes cause depression and other mental health symptoms.

take your prog. take 200mg. if youre putting it in your mouth, take more until youre emotional but stable. if youre putting it in your butt - PUTT IT IN YOUR BUTT - take more, but less than you would if it were in your mouth.

work out. work your ass, your thighs, your abs. get sweaty. the more growth hormones you can get through your body, the more effectively your estrogen will feminize you (this includes your tits).

eat more. eat at least 25% more than your maintenance. eat lots of protein, but also lots of fat. your ass and tits will thank you very jiggly.

and most importantly; show me. im a pervert.

[thegrayangel]

Please Help Save the Gender Wiki

UPDATE: Fandom has told us that their decision is final, and the wiki will be deleted on April 13. (I shouldn't have to say it, but please do not harass anyone about this.)

I'm going to leave this post up for future reference, but some of the information on it (especially about archiving work) is outdated & shouldn't be used. More details can be found on this post.

Hello, Tumblr. I've never posted here, only lurked. But this is one of the most important things in the world to me, and I honestly need to ask you for help. Please reblog if you can.

This will be a long post. It will be summarized with a TLDR at the end, including ways that you can help.

With over 9,200 pages, we are the biggest collection of gender identities on the Internet, especially the biggest source that is readily available. We are a community that has existed since 2009, and has taken off in terms of growth in the last few years.

Today, Fandom decided to close the Gender Wiki. We were given absolutely no warning, and they've only given us a two-week deadline to move the entire wiki to a new host, which we are utterly unprepared to do. The download would also not include any of the 17,000+ images on the Gender Wiki, many of which do not exist anywhere else on the Internet.

Here is a link to the post Fandom staff gave us today, and a paraphrased summary of it below:

https://gender.fandom.com/f/p/4400000000000132176

Fandom staff says that they won't continue to host our wiki because it "spreads harmful misinformation". They believe we have gone too far in "positioning everything as a gender identity", referring to xenogenders. They mention pages with xenogenders referring to suicide/self-harm and violence --- which we, the staff members, were /already/ in the process of deleting before this notice was given to us. They decided that the best solution was not to ask us to delete those pages, or even delete the pages themselves, but instead to remove our entire database.

There are many other wikis on Fandom with much worse references to violence than the Gender Wiki, which Fandom appears to have no problem with whatsoever.

I cannot express enough that this is erasure, and it will absolutely negatively affect the LGBTQ+ community to not have this treasure trove of information readily available.

I am an admin on the Gender Wiki, and I can assure you that our entire staff team is already trying to appeal to Fandom staff. I'll add any updates if they decide to respond to us, but they have no yet given staff any more information than the above

PLEASE help in any way you can. Reblog, spread awareness, or sign this petition if you have a Fandom account, OR sign this petition instead if you don't --- please DON'T sign both, as this causes counting problems & can make the point seem less legitimate. (NOTE added Apr 1: The archiving project is on hold because we've lost the archiving site for an unknown reason. Pages don't Archive correctly. I will update soon with more info.) Archive any Gender Wiki pages, especially ones that don't have pages elsewhere, with the Wayback Machine or alternatively archive.is, or even write posts about them here or on other sites. Archives will be organized on this spreadsheet; please include the archiving site you used so they can be found later. Please help us save this information. It can't possibly be done this quickly without help.

TLDR: Fandom staff decided that, in two weeks, they will close the Gender Wiki, the biggest gender resource on the Internet. They gave us no warning. It will be impossible to save all of the information on the wiki. Please reblog or sign this petition if you have a Fandom account, OR this one if you don't (please don't sign both, it'll cause problems). Help save the data by archiving pages here or here (organized on this spreadsheet). (NOTE added Apr 1: archiving project currently on hold. Archiving sites aren't working.) Help spread awareness. Post about this with #save the gender wiki

Your contribution is greatly appreciated, on behalf of the wiki staff and all users of the Gender Wiki.

[zunlise]

interesting

nothing is going to make me root for fandom (those people are absolute scum)

but I do not think I care about the wiki getting deleted

Like, they claim to be "the biggest and most readily available gender resource", and yet when it comes to the most pressing questions on gender transition, like sourcing hormones for example, this is decidedly not the first choice as source for anyone.

in my experience most available information there doesn't go beyond pop-psychology.

In the end, even if nothing of value is lost here in particular, this is still highlighting how terrible the situation for queer people is getting overall.

[fwags]

they deleted a lot of infos about hormones when the fandom changed policies

[andie]

The short instructional manifesto for relationship anarchy

This is a new translation/adaptation to English of a relationship anarchy pamphlet by me, Andie Nordgren, published in Swedish as “Relationsanarki i 8 punkter” by Interacting Arts in 2006. More in Swedish on http://www.andie.se - a website I ran actively between 2004 and 2008, where relationship anarchy was defined and explored by myself and others.

Love is abundant, and every relationship is unique

Relationship anarchy questions the idea that love is a limited resource that can only be real if restricted to a couple. You  have capacity to love more than one person, and one relationship and the love felt for that person does not diminish love felt for another. Don’t rank and compare people and relationships - cherish the individual and your connection to them. One person in your life does not need to be named primary for the relationship to be real. Each relationship is independent, and a relationship between autonomous individuals.

Love and respect instead of entitlement 

Deciding to not base a relationship on a foundation of entitlement is about respecting others’ independence and self-determination. Your feelings for a person or your history together does not make you entitled to command and control a partner to comply with what is considered normal to do in a relationship. Explore how you can engage without stepping over boundaries and personal beliefs. Rather than looking for compromises in every situation, let loved ones choose paths that keep their integrity intact, without letting this mean a crisis for the relationship. Staying away from entitlement and demands is the only way to be sure that you are in a relationship that is truly mutual. Love is not more “real” when people compromise for each other because it’s part of what’s expected.

Find your core set of relationship values

How do you wish to be treated by others? What are your basic boundaries and expectations on all relationships? What kind of people would you like to spend your life with, and how would you like your relationships to work? Find your core set of values and use it for all relationships. Don’t make special rules and exceptions as a way to show people you love them “for real”.

Heterosexism is rampant and out there, but don’t let fear lead you

Remember that there is a very powerful normative system in play that dictates what real love is, and how people should live.  Many will question you and the validity of your relationships when you don’t follow these norms. Work with the people you love to find escapes and tricks to counter the worst of the problematic norms. Find positive counter spells and don’t let fear drive your relationships.

Build for the lovely unexpected

Being free to be spontaneous - to express oneself without fear of punishments or a sense of burdened “shoulds” - is what gives life to relationships based on relationship anarchy. Organize based on a wish to meet and explore each other - not on duties and demands and disappointment when they are not met.

Fake it til’ you make it

Sometimes it can feel like you need to be some complete super human to handle all the norm breaking involved in choosing relationships that don’t map to the norm. A great trick is the “fake it til’ you make it” strategy - when you are feeling strong and inspired, think about how you would like to see yourself act. Transform that into some simple guidelines, and stick to them when things are rough. Talk to and seek support from others who challenge norms, and never reproach yourself when the norm pressure gets you into behaviour you didn’t wish for.

Trust is better

Choosing to assume that your partner does not wish you harm leads you down a much more positive path than a distrustful approach where you need to be constantly validated by the other person to trust that they are there with you in the relationship. Sometimes people have so much going on inside themselves that there’s just no energy left to reach out and care for others.  Create the kind of relationship where withdrawing is both supported and quickly forgiven, and give people lots of chances to talk, explain, see you and be responsible in the relationship. Remember your core values and to take care of yourself though!

Change through communication

For most human activities, there is some form of norm in place for how it is supposed to work. If you want to deviate from this pattern, you need to communicate - otherwise things tend to end up just following the norm, as others behave according to it. Communication and joint actions for change is the only way to break away. Radical relationships must have conversation and communication at the heart - not as a state of emergency only brought out to solve “problems”. Communicate in a context of trust. We are so used to people never really saying what they think and feel - that we have to read between the lines and extrapolate to find what they really mean. But such interpretations can only build on previous experiences - usually based on the norms you want to escape. Ask each other about stuff, and be explicit! 

Customize your commitments

Life would not have much structure or meaning without joining together with other people to achieve things - constructing a life together, raising children, owning a house or growing together through thick and thin. Such endeavors usually need lots of trust and commitment between people to work. Relationship anarchy is not about never committing to anything - it’s about designing your own commitments with the people around you, and freeing them from norms dictating that certain types of commitments are a requirement for love to be real, or that some commitments like raising children or moving in together have to be driven by certain kinds of feelings. Start from scratch and be explicit about what kind of commitments you want to make with other people! 

[seacrown]

[minmos]

im gonna put the actual meat of the post in a reblog so i can properly tag it, hold up

[minmos]

if you are struggling rn:

ASCA (Adult Survivors of Child Abuse) provides group meetings for adult victims both in-person and online, along with their own list of resources for child abuse victims

HAVOCA (Help for Adult Victims of Child Abuse) is a similar organization with a forum for survivors, support groups for victims, and resources to find a therapist

stop the silence is a department of the institute on violence, abuse, and trauma providing specialized programs related to CSA. they help fund training for professionals and trauma therapy. they take donations to help further their work.

psychology today has an online database of therapists, psychiatrists, and support groups within the US. you are able to filter by treatment modalities, what they specialize in, what insurance they take, etc.

RAINN has a phone, text, whatsapp, and online hotline for victims of rape, incest, and abuse. services are available in english and spanish.

FORGE has a free PDF of resources for trans victims of sexual violence

take it down is a service offered by the national center for missing and exploited children that helps victims of CSEM take down sexually explicit content of themselves produced before they were 18. stop NCII is a similar resource for adults.

the statute of limitations tracker is a free resource for CSA victims within the US who are seeking legal or civil help for their abuse

[fwags]

Thanks to europeans and their descendents, native news in the ethnostate of Cisjordan/West Bank are gonna get destroyed by the corporatostates.

I have no pity. our demons, created at Mesopotamia, are gonna get into light to destroy all the human race so we can inhabit in the sky, free from the sun.

[fwags]

once an autism-center therapist told me that it's common for autists to fantasize and personify fictional creatures.

I wonder if my gender envy was so focused into Hollywood allegories and Renaissance imagery that I developed dissociation and depression during puberty (gender dysphoria? but also there was someone telling me that was self-racism) lol

that's also why I became introverted since then. I was an impulsive-hyperactive child. growing up is traumatizing but this intensified I guess, or was the cherry on top.

[cloud-ya]

suddenly, new oc

[fwags]

instead of heteroidentification:

ectoidentification

{pt: ectoidentification}

definition: the inverse of autoidentification (self-identification); the identifications made by others upon you

also: ectodisidentification or external de-identification (disidentification), defined as: the lack of recognition from others, either enforced or with sense of indifference.

[intersex-questions]

If polymastia is intersex, why not polythelia? Do you think CTF bodily variations are more pathologized because of medical misogyny?

Huh, that's a great question. I've never thought of it before. What you say about misogyny is entirely possible, and I think it's a part of it. Polymastia is a lot more visible and seen as something that needs to be "fixed" to fit into the female sex "correctly", whereas polythelia is way more minor and it is expected that both sexes have nipples. And many people with extra nipples aren't even aware of it and just think it's a skintag or mole. I'm guessing it's kind of because how polymastia is seen much more as a "problem" because it has "societal impact" on how someone is seen by others around them, doctors, their family, whereas again, an extra nipple is so benign most people probably don't even know they have an extra nipple. An extra nipple is probably seen more as just a thing that is whereas polymastia is societally seen as a problem to fix maybe? I don't know! Interesting question! And yeah, CTF bodies are definitely highly pathologized specifically in cases where doctors and society are trying to "fix" them into being female "correctly", even if they are not intersex.

I'm interested in hearing others thoughts on this if anyone has anything to say!

[shinigami-social]

I find anon’s question really interesting because like, ignoring the polythelia thing because I don’t have anything different to add to that, but I’ve always found it interesting how like, in the medical field, CTF anatomy variations frequently aren’t considered intersex when CTM ones are.

Think about things like hypospadias, chordee, and bifid scrotum are widely considered intersex, often in the medical field and nearly always in the intersex community. These are more in the variation of sex characteristics rather than mixed sex characteristics category, which is a category we see more “debate” about (see: the way people get about Turner’s). That said, non-virilized variations of vulvar/vaginal anatomy are usually not considered intersex medically or in the community. I have never seen anyone consider hymen differences, clitoral hood fusion, septate vaginal canal/uterus, etc, to be intersex variations, and I’m not saying they even necessarily are, but it just has always confused me that genital variations are pretty much always viewed as intersex when related to the penis/scrotum/etc system of parts, but when it comes to the vulva/vagina/etc system of parts this is only considered intersex when it involves virilization (cliteromegaly, labial fusion, atresia) or occasionally variations which can occur in both systems (hypospadias and epispadias come to mind.

Not sure what point there is to make about this, but it’s something I’ve observed.

[shinigami-social]

I’d also add that, while I’m thinking about this, I’ve seen at least one video of a cisgender woman who had a hymen variation talk about receiving a coercive surgery to “correct” this variation. When idiopathic genital variations with no other traits of being intersex are considered intersex in some cases but not others, what makes this variation not fit into that category to most people? Hymen differences seem very analogous to hypospadias, for instance. In some cases, medical intervention is genuinely necessary, in others, the difference is pretty much entirely aesthetic and not causing any issues. Even so, a person may receive unnecessary and coercive interventions in order to make the individual appear more acceptably “normal.” Why is one of these intersex and the other not?

[fwags]

I was the anon. Maybe I came from a different PoV, and depending on the perspective, both things happen.

But think about sports, in which women are more likely to be (mis)'diagnosed' or outed as intersex.

And try thinking: why isn't there PEIS or MEIS, but there's MAIS and PAIS (P: partial; M: mild; E: estrogen; A: androgen; IS: insensitivity syndrome)? It's barely studied. Why andropause, a form of hypogonadism or hypoandrogenism, isn't as much talked about?

Besides this drama, I totally get your point.

[castle-dimitrescu]

Hey yall, sorry for my lack of activity, I got SUPER sick for a while and didn't have the ability to do anything cus I was so uncomfortable. I've also been going through a bad bout of art block but I'm healthy now and I'm starting to get my motivation back for art so hopefully I'm gonna try to post more original stuff now!

I just wanted to get a second opinion on a flag I just made. I'm alysgender as I announced in a previous post and I wanted to make my own version of the flag since I dont like any of the ones we have rn (its totally cool if you like them tho). So here it is.

The main symbol is meant to represent fluidity between neutral, feminine, and masculine genders with the little line in the circle representing discomfort with any gender.

The black represents discomfort with any gender, the lavender represents feminine fluidity, the teal represents masculine fluidity, and the pale bluish gray in the middle represents neutral fluidity. The traditional masc (blue) and fem (pink) colors are tinted slightly teal to relate to the color of ocean water, signifying their fluid nature. The blue in the symbol is just for aesthetic purposes.

So what do you think? Are the colors good or do you think they can be improved? You don't have to be alysgender or gender queer to reply to this, I'm just asking for aesthetic critique.

[kindness-flags]

A flag for all emoticonself pronouns (left) for anon and then a bonus one for all emojiself pronouns (right).

[cluster-quartz-deactivated20210]

Panpronominal(Panpronominal,also known as Pan Pronouns or All Pronouns,is the act of going by any and all pronouns.This includes the standard pronoun sets (he/him,she/her,they/them) as well as any neopronouns and emojiself pronouns.Unlike apapronoun people who are apathetic about what pronouns are used for them,panpronominal people actively identify with any and all pronouns)

Pink-She/her pronouns

Purple-They/them pronouns

Yellow-Emojiself pronouns

Lilac-Neopronouns

Grey-It/it’s pronouns

Blue-He/him pronouns

[wavership]

Apothipronoun: Using no pronouns and being repulsed by the concept of pronouns being applied to you. A mix of apothi- (in this case specifically apothigender) and pronoun nonconforming.

Flag + colors based off of the apothigender and pronoun nonconforming flags (pronoun nonconforming flag found here; link)

tumblr ruined the quality but its also a really small (like 400 some by 200 some) flag sorry

[tgce-archive]

Pronoun nonconforming flag, for fun.

[tgce-archive]

From left to right: Flags for people who are bipronomial (using two pronoun sets), tripronomial (three sets) and multipronomial (four or more).

[tgce-archive]

I recently found a new term called “exipronoun”, which is any standard pronoun - he, she, they, and it.

I made a flag with stripes to represent each pronoun: blue for he, purple for she, green for it, and yellow for they. The orange represents people who may use any combinations of these pronouns.