Ok now that she's on my mind again. My last boss lore
-i never disclosed that I'm autistic to her, which is a relief because one day she showed me the "worksheet" she made for an autistic employee who quit before I got there. He was expected to do it every day and it included checklists for different tasks he was supposed to do to build his social skills, & he'd have to answer questions with specifics about various events in his day to verify that he was doing his job. No other employees had this worksheet it was only him. I don't know why she showed me this thinking it was a leadership flex
-thought I didn't have a loud enough voice, so she would take me into the parking lot with her and have me stand on one side of it with her on the other, and I was supposed to project my speaking voice loud enough to be heard by her clearly for the duration of a conversation that she set the length of, had to succeed at this before we could go back inside. This job was public facing (which is why the stuff she had me doing later is so weird) so the public is parking their cars and walking past us and watching this happen the entire time. I thought it was funny as a 20 year old but everyone I've talked to about it thinks it's super odd
-fired (oh sorry 'encouraged to quit') another autistic employee because he got overstimulated too much. Then lied to us about the reason he left
- had a meeting with me to discuss my conduct issues, which included uhh. Working in the kitchen too much, and going to quiet areas to calm down when I was overstimulated. Told me multiple team members had complained to her about me, but everyone has since told me that this wasn't even remotely the case and they have no idea what she meant by this
-if she thought I wasn't socializing well enough, she'd parade me out onto the floor, find a random person, point to them and loudly instruct me to "start a conversation" with them, then stand there and stare at me and this random stranger while I attempted to do this. They usually got weirded out and wouldn't engage with me
-when I was on my way to live on campus for the first time (this was a summer job I had every year during college) she made me like. Go over my plans for my living space with her? Not conversationally like she wanted an action plan developed and shown to her, and wanted proof that I was reaching out and communicating with my roommate. As in I had to share the email conversation with her
-typinh this out I realized I was getting treated functionally the same as the autistic guy just unofficially. Me when I'm not slick and I can't mask
-i didn't know I had ocd yet when this happened, but I had a mental health episode at work that resulted in me hiding in the bathroom for awhile to try and calm down, because obviously I couldn't do my job like this. I had excused myself but didn't explain exactly what was going on or how long I'd be gone because why would I have. Come back to myself, I see texts and missed calls from boss. It has been roughly 20min. Nobody has attempted to look for me, I was not needed out on the floor at the time, she was just mad that she didn't know what was taking me so long. I get back, apologize, explain myself, I'm like really visibly scared. She's not satisfied with this and insists I need to apologize to the team for disappearing (THE TEAM WHO I DID NOT EVEN INCONVENIENCE. WE HAD BEEN WORKING PRIVATELY IN HER OFFICE. I WAS NOT OUT ON THE FLOOR.) So she like gathers everybody up and makes me explain To Everybody what was going on, as in I had to divulge the mental health episode I was having, which I had not wanted to do to begin with, that was why I didnt explain in detail where I was fucking going ❤️ I start crying during this explanation obviously and one of my teammates feels bad for me and tries reassuring me but she doesn't rly let this continue and makes me apologize. Went home and spent the night so distressed I had to use a suicide hotline at like 3am 👍
-eventually started using me to do parts of her job she didn't have time for, I'd be yoinked from the job I was actually hired to do and taken to the literal corporate office and given pieces of her work to do & errands to run for her, and when I didn't understand something or tried to ask her a question she'd tell me I wasn't taking initiative and she can't answer everything for me . Instead of answering. So not only was I doing her job I was also doing it with almost zero guidance. I ended up communicating with people via email on her behalf too she'd just forward me shit she needed to respond to and be like [name] can you talk to this guy. I made $14 an hour no benefits for this & was still doing the other job simultaneously btw
-this went for me & several other people but the stuff she was making us do would frequently exceed the hour limit we had as part timers, so she would just tell us not to put the extra hours on our timecard so that HR wouldn't get involved. Like just flat out said this and you just had to be ok with it if you wanted to work for her lol. The guy who was our unofficial and uncompensated manager was frequently putting in 10-15 surplus hours a week for years
-made me bust my ass on putting together plans, researching logistics, communicating with designer and suppliers etc. for a total remodel of the place, and then did exactly 0 of the things I organized for her, my entire body of work was deleted when she had me scrubbed from the system
-Just kind of. Disposed of me when she was done with me LOL, I tried to come back after my last semester at school as was customary for 4 straight years, reached out to her like 'hey I'm back home and happy to come back and work:)' and got told by her that they already had all the people they needed. They did not, and everybody was wondering where I was, so she. Lied and told them I moved away (??) she also did almost the exact same thing to the other college kid she was exploiting in the same manner. I only got the job back after she was fired, I ran into a former coworker at the bank and they were like Wtf didn't you move. And I was like. No ❔❔❔
-Eventually got fired for, among other things, allowing an influencer YouTube channel to film children and post it. And was like chatting it up w him in the video totally chill with what he was doing. The girl I mentioned above who was in the same situation as me reported her to HR also. Apparently she had legal grounds to sue so I probably did too but like whatever
And so much more I'm forgetting like she was so much
