Nopesville

nonbinary, queer, autistic, pansexual, greyromantic, PTSD they/them

[feministd1rection]

Gender roles in a nutshell: the Beauxbatons and Durmstrang entrances in The Goblet of Fire.

[meloromantics]

also, to my knowledge neither of those schools were sex-segregated in the books

[seaniepop]

That bothered me more than the Dumbledore yelling, actually.

[forgiveninasong]

Nicolas Flamel was an alum of Beauxbatons.

The first headteacher of Durmstrang was a witch.

[hecallsmepineappleprincess]

Bam.

[roseforthethorns]

In the books, it even says that there were boys and girls from each school. Thanks Hollywood for making Durmstrang buff and all athletic men and Beauxbatons all feminine and dainty.

[zirijava]

Just imagine what it would have meant for every kid watching, seeing girls walking beside the guys in Durmstrang being “manly” and boys walking with Beuxbaton being flirty and feminine.

It would have shown that girls and boys can be however they want.

[drarrysgirl]

It also suggested that the only way a female could have be selected to participate was if she was not up against any male competition. In the books Fleur is chosen as the best candidate for her school from a selection of female AND male students. And she was the best PERSON. Not the best GIRL.

[imaginedus-deactivated20180401]

all men are Russian and all Women are French.

[novaya-model]

Select your gender: 🔳 Russian 🔳 French

[existentialwhale]

Active ways to cultivate positive body image:

(Because oh my god, it’s so hard, and everyone’s all like stop feeling so bad about yourself and it’s like how???) 

Be naked. A lot. Sleep naked. Have sex naked. Eat cereal naked. (Or naked and wrapped in a sheet. Favorite thing.) 

Follow beautiful, confident, (un-photoshopped) body-positive babes on the Internet. Unfollow anything that makes you feel insecure. Exposure is key. You’re not going to get it if you don’t seek it out, because the media sucks and wants us to feel like shit about ourselves so they can take our money. (Some hashtags to follow: #effyourbeautystandards #bootyrevolution #blackisbeautiful #transisbeautiful #wheelchairlife #fatkini #fatshion)

Lingerie. Next best thing to being naked. 

Self care, babe. Different for everyone. (Me? Showers, books, shaving my legs, nature walks, dark lipstick, good playlists, clean rooms, candles, sexy time.) 

Get ready in your underwear. Boobs = happiness. 

Self portraits. Be pro-selfie. Take a million selfies. Take sexy selfies. Take no makeup selfies. Take bad angle silly selfies. Take artsy tripod selfies. Take everything-is-on-point selfies. You’re gorgeous; document your gorgeousness. You don’t even need to post them. 

Stop with the self deprecationnnnn. Pleeeeaseeee. It’s hard to control your thoughts love, I know, but you can control what you say. NEVER insult yourself out loud. Dare I say compliment yourself out loud? (And if you can, do your best to try to body-positive-ify your thoughts too.) 

Sex (including solo sexy time), wine, and chocolate. In that order. 

Share the body love. Compliment your girlfriends. Cultivate a nonjudgemental, supportive, lift-each-other-up “we’re so cute” friend group. Everyone’s insecure. Compliment your besties. And strangers, too. Be that person that makes everyone feel good about themselves when they’re around. 

Good luck gorgeous. It’s a battle. We gotta unlearn all this societal bullshit.

[mytinyskullsizedpornbrain-deact]

Reblogging cuz this is vital. Especially the point on self-deprecation. Stop that shit now. It is a glamour-don’t, a welcome sign for fuck ass ppl.

[manimanster]

In high school, the second I started doubting that my body was “acceptable”, I started forcing myself to be naked in a mirror before and/or after my shower. Doing my hair, brushing teeth, washing face, moisturizing blah blah blabbity blah and within no time the problem was GONE.

[howilearnedtocope]

I’ve been struggling with this recently and one thing that really helped is wearing clothes that I like & make me feel good. When you’re feeling bad about yourself it’s easy to want to hide in baggy clothes or just give up, but even one night in an outfit that matches your aesthetic and feels like YOU can make such a big difference.

[nonbinarypastels]

reblog if you're a nonbinary person who is 20+ years old

a lot of the time it can seem like all of the nonbinary people out there are teens/kids but older nonbinary people exist and it’s important that we recognize that being nonbinary is not just a kid thing that people grow out of!! nonbinary adults exist!

[batcii-archive-deactivated20210]

how did jk manage to write ootp and not come to the conclusion that the only career w any true meaning for harry james potter was as a goddamn professor at hogwarts like how do u write the da scenes and say “nah he’d want to be a wizard cop”

[hugisak]

#just let him dress in warm sweaters and have tea with neville in the staff room and help first years #harry james potter as hogwarts longest serving defense against the dark arts teacher fucking fight me (@batcii)

[tattooedsiren]

#but it would be so perfect??? #bc it would help normalize his life so much #like there would just be this generation of kids who are like #‘ugh who cares that he killed the dark lord he gAVE US HOMEWORK OVER BREAK’ #like the beginning of every year there would be the new first years who would freak out a little #but then it would calm down #and most of the students would literally forget #until like clockwork the fifth years would have their history of magic class on the second war #and they’d all show up to DADA looking a little awestruck and everyone would be extra quiet #and harry would give this kind of annoyed sigh—except it’s fake bc he TOTALLY knew this was coming #bc binns is a bro and he totally gives him a heads up every year #and harry wouldn’t have any lesson plans for the day and instead he would just sit at the front of the room and answer everyone’s questions #but otherwise everyone would just be like ‘professor potter!! i can’t get my patronus to work! help me!’ #and like they’d go home at the end of the year or for break and their parents—who ARE still starstruck by harry james potter #would pester their kids with questions#and the kids would just be like ‘merlin i don’t know?? potter’s such a huge dork you should hear him talk about proper wand movements’ #but they would all love him #and he would feel safe and normal and utterly accepted #AND I NEED THIS IN MY LIFE (via @cinematicnomad)

[saywhatjessie]

Not to mention it would be an ultimate Fuck You to Voldemort, who put a curse on the teaching position in the first place.

Like, Jo, I don’t want to tell you how to do your job, but COME ON

[timemachineyeah]

I already queued this but also, you do this, but still have Ginny become a famous Quidditch player. Imagine the first time Harry gets called “Ginny’s husband” before “the boy who lived” or “the chosen one.” Imagine how fucking pleased he’d be.

Imagine the first time a student comes up to him looking starry-eyed and Harry’s thinking “Oh no” because he doesn’t want to talk about Voldemort or the war but instead this little eleven year old is like “ARE YOU REALLY MARRIED TO WEASLEY FROM THE HOLLYHEAD HARPIES???!?? WHAT’S SHE LIKE?” and he’s like “oh thank god” because he could talk about Ginny all day. 

[optimysticals]

Yes. Good.

[acnlvevo]

[miraculousprimarina]

Curious test for AC:NL fans

Please reblog if you’re still playing New Leaf regularly.

Like if you haven’t played it in a long while.

[workingitinportland-deactivated]

This is so fucking rad!! http://cartoonistsofcolor.com/

[strangerdarkerbetter]

Did you know that about 75% of adults use some form of vision correction such as contacts or glasses?

That’s a huge percent of the population.

Now imagine all of these people didn’t have any form of vision correction available to them. Some people would manage to get along just fine. Sure they would struggle to read things and may have headaches by the end of the day, but they would be able to see enough to do what they need to do. Other people, however, would be completely disabled. I know that without my glasses or contacts I can barely see a foot in front of me. I wouldn’t be able to do a lot of life tasks as a result.

If there wasn’t vision correction available, decreased vision would be a disability, yet, for the majority of people with some form of vision loss, it is not a disability in today’s society.

Why? Why is it that most people with vision loss aren’t considered disabled? It is because we have accommodations built into society. Glasses can be bought from a wide variety of stores with many stores such as Walmart offering significantly discounted frames and lens so that glasses are accessible to the majority of people with vision loss (there are still some for whom the cost of corrective lenses is too high unfortunately).

Because corrective lens are so readily accessible and accepted in our society, vision loss is not a disability for the majority of people who have it barring those for whom the vision loss has progressed enough to not be helped by corrective lenses. By accommodating and accepting this disability, we have made it so that it is no longer a disability for most.

This is what we talk about when we talk about the social model of disabilities. I am not disabled by my autism. I am disabled by a society that was not built for me. In the days before electronics and indoor lighting, my sensory sensitivities would not disable me but rather be an asset as I would be able to hear things others couldn’t and help keep my people safe. My social difficulties would not be disabling if there were wider ideas of appropriate socialization in society. If AAC were more readily accessible and acceptable, my lack of verbal speech at times would no longer be a disability.

Being autistic makes me different than most people, but it alone does not disable me. It is a society that refuses to accommodate me and others like me.

Disability is not a state of being but rather an action taken against us. We are disabled by a society that does not accommodate us and will not make things more accessible. If we want to make the lives of disabled people better, we need to focus less on individual factors and more on the societal factors at play that keep us disabled.

[dragoncatcharli-deactivated2017]

Sensitive Tumblr Help

So tumblr staff, for some unknown reason (?????) decided to put a ban on what they call “Sensitive Content.” 

This would be fine if it ACTUALLY RESTRICTED SENSITIVE CONTENT. None of the nasty blogs following me are restricted at all, but other, totally SFW posts are???

Like, so far I’ve seen a video of a turtle, gifs of a kpop star blowing a kiss and waving, and a moodboard with some lesbians on it (not kissing, not naked, just laying there, being lesbians) all restricted by this sensitive content thing. 

So, here is one way for you to view sensitive content on browser (sorry mobile, I can’t help you)

1. First, go to chrome (idk how you do this on safari)

2. Go to tumblr, obviously

3. Right click on the blue part of the screen and click Inspect

4. This thing will pop up some where on your screen! Cool!

5. See that bottom part with all the red, angry text? Look down there and click on the gear (settings symbol) in the upper right hand corner

6. A box appears! Click the 🚫 button and uncheck the box labeled Autocomplete from history (not necessarily in that order)

7. Reload the page and enjoy your content!

You should be good after that (if you still find restricted posts, try pressing the 🚫 button again and reloading page again.

Hope this helps :)

thanks for nothing tumblr staff 

[twelvesclockworksquirrel]

I think “Congratulations on finally getting your diagnosis” cakes need to be a thing.

[twelvesclockworksquirrel]

I bet you all thought I was joking…

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I never joke about cake.

[twelvesclockworksquirrel]

My OP is suddenly getting a shit-ton of reblogs and I’ve been sitting here all day thinking “you guise are all missing the best part!”

Like, yeah. Diagnosis cakes should be a thing. So goddamnit I made it a thing for myself. You can too.

You deserve a cake.

[oh-archivist]

God okay so I’m going to say this now; PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do not risk your health or anyone’s in the form of getting a “cheap” binder of ebay or where ever. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE save your $4-$10 dollars for those cheap ebay ones and put it towards a gc2b binder. Or if you want an Underworks go for that but I highly suggest gc2b. They’re about $40 (with shipping) and will last you WAY longer than any cheap ebay one. They are MEANT for lasting you. I wash mine many times week, wear it daily, Wear them daily. I have two. Had them for almost a year now. But I cannot urge you enough to PLEASE save up your pennies for a PROPER SAFE binder. Binders you can breathe in, binders you can move in, binders that don’t crush your ribs, binders that are comfortable, binders that are safe.

This isn’t a safe binder:

It uses clasps and not compression.

This is a c2b binder; made by trans people for trans people:

These binders have no clasps but uses spandex to compress you safety. 

Measure your chest before ordering to make sure you don’t get one too small or too large.

UPDATE (06/12)

I wanted to add more information on where you can buy binders and info in general about binders

You can buy binders from these sites

@gc2b-apparel​ (OPs #1 Recommendation)

@shapeshiftersinc​

http://www.f2mbinders.com/ (AKA underworks)

http://www.t-kingdom.com/

http://www.lesloveboat.com/shop/index.php?language=en

http://www.danae.info/en/?___from_store=nl

http://showcase.designveronique.com/designveronique/shop/postsurgical/men-1.html

http://en.nabeshirt.com/shop/

Used Binders

If you can’t afford a binder, don’t despair! Used binders are often passed on by post-op trans men or those whose binders may no longer fit. There are a few programs available that help distribute donated second-hand binders:

In A Bind – Started in 2012, to date In a Bind has provided safe compression garments to over 1500 youth in need. Trans* masculine and genderqueer youth living anywhere in the USA can apply to receive a free binder. In a Bind depends on donations. Recently had top surgery? Go up or down a size? Find a style that works better for you? Donate those binders you’re no longer using!

Black Trans Advocacy FTM Binder Grant

MORF Binder Exchange – Since February 2011, MORF has been providing free binders to trans* masculine people in the UK and around the world. The free scheme (all you pay is the postage) has so far redistributed hundreds of binders. In 2014 alone, over 280 binders were sent out.

FTME Free Youth Binder Program – Age 24 and under only; USA only.

Replace the Ace – USA only

Big Brothers Used Binder Program – Donation required

Mazzoni Center’s Binder Recycling Program – Only for youth enrolled in P.A.C.T.S., Philadelphia.

Point 5cc Tshirt Company – Free binder with purchase of t-shirt

Come As You Are’s Binder Bucks Recycling Program – Canada only

Qmunity Binder Exchange – BC, Canada only.

Trans Fellas

Northern Ireland Binder Scheme –  Age 25 and under, N. Ireland only.

You can also try asking around for an inexpensive hand-me-down binder on one of themailing lists for trans guys or check out LiveJournal’s FTM Garage Sale and the FtM Sales, Swap, and Support group on Facebook.

How to Choose a Chest Binder

If you still remember your old bra size, you can find out your binder size by using theBra to Chest Size Converter Tool. If you don’t know your old bra size, you can measure yourself the old-fashioned way:

Take a snug measurement of the fullest part of your chest using a tape measure (best if measured while clothed) and write that number down onto a sheet of paper.

Measure underneath your chest where the crease is and write that number down as well.

Add those numbers together and divide the sum by 2. This number will differentiate your size not only from brand to brand but from binder to binder as well.

Selecting a binder brand and style can be difficult: there are so many options that it can be overwhelming! Plus, there aren’t very many reviews of binders other than those about Underworks’ and T-Kingdom’s more popular models. After buying your binder, help make the experience easier for guys in the future by contributing your review to one of the review sites listed below.

Essentially, there are two types of binders: short ones and long ones. The short ones end right at your waist. The down side of these is that if you carry some extra weight, short binders tend to roll up and act more like a bra. The long ones can be pulled down past your waist by several inches, however it’s inevitable that it will still roll up. To reduce the chances of this, wear a belt. Choosing between a short and long binder has more to do with your body type, specifically your abdomen, and not your chest size.

Lastly, consider the location of the company you’re buying from. Buying from a company that’s closer to you can save you a significant amount of money on shipping costs.

How to Put On a Chest Binder

It might seem silly, but you’re probably going to need some help figuring out how to put on your new binder, particularly if you purchased one of the longer styles.

Put your binder inside out and upside down.

Step into your binder and pull the bottom of it up, ideally to your belt line. The binder should still be inside out and upside down.

Use the sleeves as handles to pull the top of the binder (the end closer to your feet) up to your shoulders.

Put your arms through the sleeve holes and adjust your chest to your needs. You may need to pull the bottom of the binder out from underneath itself if you don’t want it folded under. For others, leaving it folded under may help stop the binder from rolling up.

Don’t be disappointed if you look in the mirror and it looks like you have one big boob in the middle of your chest. You just need to adjust your chest. Reach in from the neck hole and push your chesticles down and out. You’re basically pushing your nipple toward your armpit to achieve the flattest looking chest possible.

FTM Chest Binding Tips

Very important: When binding, you should not by any means feel as though you can’t breathe or like you’re going to pass out from a lack of oxygen.

Binders aren’t the most comfortable things in the world. To make binding more comfortable, and to reduce the possibility of the binder moving around a bit, some guys wear a light shirt underneath.

Depending on the size of your chest, you may need to layer clothing on top of the binder to get optimal chest flattening. You’ll find that some of the shirts in your closet require you to layer more than shirts in your wardrobe.

You can swim in your binder. Just wear a sleeveless or sleeved T-shirt over it. Don’t worry if your binder seems less effective after a swim, this isn’t permanent. Simply wash it and it will go back to normal.

Your chest will look bigger than it really is when you look down at it. Check in the mirror for a more accurate side view.

Not all binders breathe well, and the reality is that you’re probably going to get hot. If you’ve already started testosterone, you’re definitely going to sweat. The build up of sweat can irritate your skin causing rashes and sores. Wearing a thin cotton shirt that breathes well underneath your binder may help prevent this. If you find this uncomfortable, try applying corn starch to your body before putting on your binder to help keep it from holding in moisture. If you’ve already experienced skin irritation of some sort, take care of it the same way you would an open wound. Washing the irritated area with anti-bacterial soap will keep it clean and help it heal faster.

Conclusion

Chest binding, as cumbersome as it may seem, can be very freeing for transgender men. There’s a plethora of quality FTM chest binding products available for body types of all shapes and sizes. Regardless of what you use for binding, please remember to put your health first. Now that you’re armed with all the information you need to find the right binder for you, go forth and feel more comfortable in your skin!

FTM Chest Binder Reviews

Chest Binder Reviews Site: Written reviews of various chest binding products. Binders are rated for effectiveness, comfort, and discreetness.

Binder Reviews’ YouTube Collab Channel: This is a collab channel dedicated to providing reviews of a wide variety of chest binders on different sizes and shapes of people.

(Note: These sites are no longer updated.)

More FTM Chest Binding Resources

Binding Safely for Your Body: Tips for All Body Types and Sizes

The 6 Best Tips for Binding in the Summer

Hudson’s Guide to FTM Binding: Includes a complete list of other products you can use for chest binding, such as compression garments and sports bras.

FYI Binding Tips: The Butchelor has some useful tips on how to put on a binder, how to keep it from rolling up, and how to wash a binder.

Do you have any tips about binding? Want to share your experience with a particular binder brand or model? Do you know of other binder manufacturers, particularly those outside of Asia and the US? Please leave your comments below.

Last updated: 05/20/16 (x)

[dissolutionandcreation]

The first in a series of Disney Princesses with Service Dogs! 

Here’s Cinderella, having her service pup help her out by removing her shoes. Cinderella lives with fibromyalgia in this picture, which is an invisible condition but can be disabling for many people. 

Please share to raise awareness and acceptance for people with invisible disabilities and service dogs! 

~Also, I’d really appreciate if you could donate a few dollars to my service dog fundraising campaign here. It would mean a lot!~

[nb-stuff-blog]

Autistic enbies are amazing. Whether your gender is influenced or not by being autistic, you are valid and awesome, and I’m pretty sure you probably rock. That’s just the way it is, my friends.

Autistic + nonbinary = wonderful.

[genderbinaryisforlosers]

happy trans day of visibility

here’s a list of things with canon trans and nonbinary characters (not including robots, aliens, or other non-humans, because im tired of that being referred to as good representation)

TV

Orange is the New Black

Sense8

Orphan Black (minor character)

The OA

The Fosters

Shameless

Faking It

Doubt

Mr Robot

American Horror Story: Hotel

Moville Mysteries

Billions

When We Rise

Drop Dead Diva (minor characters)

Boy Meets Girl

Star

Frida

Outsiders (minor character)

Sailor Moon

Elementary

Twin Peaks (minor character)

Superjail!

Bold and the Beautiful (minor character)

Degrassi: The Next Generation

Wentworth Prison

Wentworth

The L Word

Anime/Manga

Sidonia no Kishi (Knights of Sidonia)

Wandering Son

Movies

About Ray

3 Generations

Boy Meets Girl

Get Real

Tomboy

Ma Vie En Rose

Todo Sobre Mi Madre

Tangerine

Webseries

Carmilla

Couple-Ish

Sidetrack Series

Her Story

The Uncanny Upshurs

Brothers

People Watching

Adventures of Serena Berg

Podcasts

Welcome to Night Vale

The Message

The Penumbra

Freed

Space Log

The Strange Case of Starship Iris

Carpe DM

Jim Robbie and the Wanderers

Sable

Friends at the Table

Death At A Low Price

Whatever Happened to Jonathan Green

Blue Dawn

Adventures of MechaBetty

Audio Diary of a Superhero

Inkwyrm

Spines

Oak

Cthulhu and Friends

Iron Horses Can’t be Broken

Books

The Art of Being Normal by Lisa Williamson

If I Was Your Girl by Meredith Russo

Magnus Chase and the Hammer of Thor by Rick Riordan

Two Boys Kissing by David Levithan

Everyday by David Levithan

I am J by Cris Beam

Symptioms of Being Human by Jeff Garvin

On The Edge of Gone by Corinne Duyvis

Robins of the Night by Dajo Jago

Rock and Riot by Chelsey Furedi

Never Satisfied by Taylor Robin

The Last Halloween by Abby Howard

Every Heart a Doorway by Saenan McGuire

When the Moon Was Ours by Anna-mArie McLemore

George by Alex Gino

Beautiful Music for Ugly Children by Kirstin Cronn-Mills

Luna by Julie Anne Peters

Parrotfish by Angela Katz-McNair

What We Left Behind by Robin Talley

Beauty Queens by Libba Bray

The Best Boy Ever Made by Rachel Eliason

Being Emily by Rachel Gold

Gracefully Grayson by Ami Polonsky

The Fifth Season by N.K. Jemisin (minor character)

A Boy Like Me by Jennie Wood

Nevada by Imogen Binnie

The Collection by Topside Press

I’ve Got a Time Bomb by Sybil Lamb

Stone Butch Blues by Leslie Feinberg

Transgender Warriors by Leslie Feinberg

Gender Outlaw by Kate Bornstein

Transmen and FTMs by Jason Cromwell

Body Alchemy by Loren Cameron

Ties that Bind: Familial Homophobia and its Consequences by Sarah Schulman

She’s not There by Jennifer Finney Boylan

Redefining Realness by Janet Mock

Kitchen by Banana Yoshimoto

Red: A Crayon’s Story by Michael Hall

Introducing Teddy by Jess Walton

The Danish Girl by David Ebershoff

Kafka On The Shore by Haruki Murakami (minor character)

Buffalo Belle by Oliver Douzou

What We May Be by Maxine Jackson

Aftermath by Chuck Wendig

Girl Mans Up by Vanessa North

Coffee Boy by Austin Chant

Peter Darling by Austin Chant

Cinder Ella bt S.T. Lynn

A Boy Called Cin by Cecil Wilde

Otros Valles by Jamie Berrout

Rethinking Normal by Katie Rain Hill

Almost Perfect by Brian Katcher

Trumpet by Jackie Kay

Life in the ‘Cosm by Cait Gordon

Dreadnought by April Daniels

At The Edge of the Universe by Shaun David Hutchinson (minor character)

Not Your Sidekick by C.B Lee (minor character)

In Inexplicable Logic of my Life by Benjamin Alire Sáenz

A+E 4ever by I. Merey

The Unintentional Time Traveler by Everett Maroon

The Miccah Grey Seires by Laura Lam

Sweet Nightingale by Robin Swift

Some Assembly Required: The Not-So-Secret Life of a Transgender Teen by Arin Andrews

Liminal by A. Sieracki

Just Girls by Rachel Gold

Being Emily by Rachel Gold

The Devil and the Bluebird by Jennifer Mason-Black

Comics/Webtoons

Paranatural (minor character)

Lumberjanes

ShootAround

Always Human

Demon Street

Monsterkind (minor character)

Go Get A Roomie (minor characters)

Deadendia

Feast for a King

Knight’s Errant

The Wicked and the Divine

Immortal Nerd

White Noise

Demon House

Monsterpop

Assigned Male

Intergalactic Little Spat

O Human Star

Chaos Life

As The Crow Flies

Prague Race

Never Satisfied

Namesake

Questionable Content

Jem

Bombshells

Rat Queens

Les Normaux

Angela

Asgard’s Assassin

Rechargeable

Goodbye to Halos

Games

Dragon Age: Inquisition

dys4ia

Theatre

Hidden: A Gender by Kate Bornstein

Music

When I was a Boy by Dar Williams

Kim Petras

add your own! let’s make this a big list for tdov!

[advicefortranskids]

natural voice change

Lower

Boom Your Voice

How to deepen your voice naturally

How to talk with a deeper voice 

How to deepen your voice (pre-t) Voice masculinization

Vocal androgyny in speech and singing

This Phone App Helps Transgender Users Change The Pitch And Tone Of Their Voices (buzzfeed article) 

Higher

Voice Feminization

Pitch, range, resonance, depth

How to develop a female voice

Feminine voice techniques         

[rozequart]

[dragoninatardis]

One of the things that both chronically ill and non chronically ill people have to remember about chronic illness is: Recovery time is not free time. Sleep is not a hobby. You may have more hours in your life devoted to those things than others, but you can’t only take those hours out of what would otherwise be free time. It doesn’t matter if you just spent a lot of time sleeping or lying around with no spoons and in too much pain to sleep. It’s still important to spend time having fun, if you can. It’s still important to have actual free time, actual time off.

[spoonie-living]

This is so exceptionally important, and something that’s often not considered by doctors, disability insurance, or welfare.

That kind of attitude trickles down to us sick folks and is easy to internalize, but those 3 hours you spent watching Netflix because you couldn’t do anything else? That’s still recovery time, even if you were entertained by it.

Similarly, even if you enjoy a good nap when you’re tired, it absolutely does not count as free time. Free time is only free time when you can freely choose what you do with it.

Don’t ever give up your fight to enjoy your life.