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Read, read, read. Read everything -- trash, classics, good and bad, and see how they do it. Just like a carpenter who works as an apprentice and studies the master. Read! You'll absorb it. Then write. If it's good, you'll find out. If it's not, throw it out of the window.
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Read, read, read. Read everything -- trash, classics, good and bad, and see how they do it. Just like a carpenter who works as an apprentice and studies the master. Read! You'll absorb it. Then write. If it's good, you'll find out. If it's not, throw it out of the window.
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No. I know this is probably just a casual commiseration but I think it's a real and important question to ask and answer. If doing the stuff you're expected to do everyday is super hard, then something is probably wrong.
Anyone who relates to this too hard, I'd recommend looking up spoon theory and starting to make a record of how you feel and your experiences that you can bring up with some kind of health professional. Chances are if doing laundry feels like climbing everest, it's because you're disabled in some way. Whether that disability is some invisible chronic illness or depression or ADHD or burnout, *something* is wrong.
Almost all disabilities have some form of treatment or accommodation that can make your life easier. If you can get a diagnosis, you might also be eligible for official accommodations and benefits. Social security sucks ass and is almost impossible to access but like, it's not the only thing out there set up to help disabled folks and usually local organizations are gonna be better anyway.
Plenty of people reblogging this probably already know they're disabled in some way but if even 1 person sees this and can learn something important about themselves then it's worth saying.
TLDR: people who aren't disabled don't find acts of daily living extremely hard. Maybe look into that and see if you can get help making your life less hard.
Sincerely, a multiply disabled person.
This is super important okay. Like, I used to try to ask my conservative family/church/etc. for help, and they’d just be all, “suck it up; life is hard for everyone; quit being such a baby”... and then I went to, like, actual experts, and they were basically like, “um, wow, you’re clearly super depressed and suicidal; you should actually be proud of yourself for still being alive!” And I’m still trying to unlearn the former and accept the latter, even after all this time. And I’m so mad that I’ve wasted so much time just trying to “push through it” instead of getting help I clearly need(ed), and that’s still a thing I struggle with.
Please, please seek real help if you need it. Like, I understand that there are shitty doctors and shitty therapists and whatnot, but it’s so worth expending what effort you can to find good ones who can help. If you have mentally ill friends -- which, if you’re reading this in the first place, you almost certainly do -- they might be able to point you in the right direction.
[ID: a screenshot from the Too Afraid to Ask reddit that reads: "How do people just so stuff? Is life not incredibly hard for everyone?" /end ID]
I have a friend with insane ADD and we have this same conversation sometimes
She can't actually even define laziness (which is weird) but she thought she was just lazy, life was that hard for everyone, and that everyone else was just being more responsible at managing it. I told her laziness feels good once and she blue screened.
Like if you can't define laziness, you've probably been convinced it's something that it's not. Probably something nebulous and hard to describe. Like, idk, an unknown disorder.
In case you're one such person, laziness feels great. It's not stressful. It's like the opposite of stressful. If you're being stressed and lazy at the same time you've managed to do it wrong somehow. The only struggle in being lazy is wanting the tv remote and being to darn comfortable to want to move. (But you get it anyways, because it's not an inability to get the remote. You were just cozy.)
Think of it like a cat sitting near a warm heater or a hamster so relaxed it "melts". If there were danger, or if the animal were hungry, it would get up. It probably doesn't want to get up because it's comfortable but it will. If the hamster is actually genuinely hungry but it can't get up and it's just laying there stressed and starving, you would take your animal to the vet because it has a problem.
That’s how it was for me growing up, too. I seriously thought everyone was constantly exhausted, confused, and in pain like I was and I was just really, really bad at dealing with it, didn’t want to try hard enough, and was just lazy.
Additional gentle reminder that the regular amount of unidentifiable/unexpected pain is none. The normal amount of unidentifiable/unexpected pain is none.
Sore the next day after a workout? Makes sense.
Sore for the next week after a workout? Not normal.
Barked your shin on a low coffee table and have an ache/bruise? Expected.
Gently brushed past the doorframe and your arm feels like it's on fire? Not normal.
Joint pain in your teens/20's is not normal. Heart problems in your teens/20's are not normal. Continual (AKA chronic!) fatigue despite diet/sleep schedule is not normal.
If you cannot point to an event or series of events that caused the discomfort/pain you are experiencing ("I fell off my bike", "I walked 3 miles", "I slept poorly", "I haven't been getting all the nutrients I need"), it's probably not normal! And it is okay to want that discomfort/pain to stop, even if it's mild! Most people are not going through their daily lives consistently uncomfortable or in pain.
Most people are not going through their daily lives uncomfortable or in pain.
You deserve to be comfortable and to have things be easy. Whether that looks like readjusting your life and expectations or getting professional help (medical/mental/other), you deserve it. I promise.
Most people I know who are disappointed in the way their children turned out weren't just bad at handling children, but fundamentally had the completely wrong idea of how any of this works. Like they imagined that kids are this completely neutral tabula rasa that has the equal potential to become anything, and you just cut away everything you don't want them to be to sculpt them into the desired form. Or like a shepherd dog nipping at the heel of their stray thoughts, herding the whole flock into the right direction.
There's this bizarre idea that people really have, my child can become anything I want if I just parent them good enough, and have these lofty ideas of how that would work, and then it doesn't. Different people are naturally prone to different things, and you can't just wrangle them into the desired shape and expect them to thrive the same way as the people who were allowed to do something that they're naturally prone for.
If you wanted your child do become a doctor or a lawyer, but they become a successful tattoo artist instead, and you lament your disappointment about how you failed as a parent, you're right but not for the reasons you thought. Children aren't extensions of their parents, and their goals and dreams that aren't the same as their parents' goals and dreams are not undesired, invasive weeds to be plucked out.
You can nip your roses in the bud, but it will never grow daisies.
My best advice for people new to adulthood: keep emergency food around.
I don't mean like those prepper type people. I mean keep a granola bar in your purse or backpack. If you have a car, keep a jar of peanuts in there.
This is good for if you miss your bus, or forget your wallet somewhere, or get stuck in traffic. You never know when you are going to feel shaky, and it's better to have something quick and easy on hand, in case you need it.
Having emergency food around is your best friend. Trust me.
(It's an especially good idea if you have any kind of food restriction, whether it's merely being vegetarian or something more complex. You'll be glad of your muesli bar or whatever when you find yourself somewhere without safe food.)
Some things you will want to just keep handy in your car or a bag:
Snack foods (both car and bag. Stuff higher in protein is better so things with nuts if you aren't allergic. Go for non-perishables that will last- canned foods are ok but unless they are pop top cans and you have an eating utensil, they're hard to open so stick with dried foods.
Backup eating utensils. (At least one plastic fork, spoon and knife, you will need to keep these clean or replace them after use)
Jug or extra bottle of water. (Break down in the middle of nowhere? Now you're set on liquids. Water bottle works for backpack usage but I recommend a full jug in your car.)
A couple of tampons and pads (at least 4 of each, they store pretty eqsily in a bag. This goes for people who don't have periods too, because these are good for emergency spills or cuts and tissues are very flimsy but tampons and pads are sturdier and more absorbent. They are also extremely good as backups for people who do have periods and might now realize they were starting. They are versatile0. Had a dude in our art class use them as emergency smudge sticks in college.)
A small first aid kit (For the car. For your backpack, keep a couple, or a small box of bandages. Self-explanatory.)
Extra blanket (can be small but if your car breaks down and it's cold you'll want this. Even a small one you can keep with you in a backpack is great. Harder to store in a backpack but not impossible, though I recommend it for the car).
Hand crank flashlight. (Pretty easy to find, fairly small and great for when you lose phone battery and have no way to charge it.)
Emergency window breaker and seat belt cutter. (Specifically for a car. These things in America are usually orange from what I've seen. They're very good to have in your car just in case and they can be used for other things too.)
A smallish bucket with a sealable lid. (For your car. You could store some of this stuff in the bucket, but it's main purpose is fluid or waste containment. Stuck somewhere in the middle of nowhere and it's too fucking cold to do your business? Sick and need somewhere for it to go? Bucket. Bags work too but the bucket is much sturdier and less likely to leak into your car.)
Plastic tablecloth or smaller plastic sheet. (For your car, you can fold it up easily and its pretty easy to dispose of. Suspected bathroom issues? Nowhere to pull over? Slide this under you and save your seats. Much easier to clean you than it is to clean your car.)
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DIY Rustic Log Shelves
Project by Kate Pruitt:
sometimes all we need to make a room seem completely new is a quick change: moving pillows from one room to the next, switching up wall art, or perhaps adding a small display to a bare wall. this easy log shelf project seems like the perfect addition to a room if you’re looking for a refreshing change. rachel found these great cut logs on a vacation to tahoe, and was smart enough to snatch them up and bring them home to create these display shelves. it just goes to show that even on vacation, it’s wise to keep an eye out for elements in nature that we can bring into our home. great job, rachel! –kate
Materials:
– log (any length, about 6″ circumference)
– table saw or hand saw (if you feel uncomfortable with saws, you can also take this to a local lumberyard and ask them to cut it for you. rachel was able to get all of these pieces cut for her for $20.)
– “L” shaped brackets (these are simple white 5″ versions, and are available at most hardware stores. you can also find decorative brackets at home decor stores like restoration hardware or anthropologie)
Instructions:
1. Cut off the outer edges on opposite sides of the log, so that you have two flat edges and two rounded edges to the log.
2. Slice the log into 1 – 2″ thick slabs, which will leaving two edges with the bark.
3. Choose the side you want to face out and be displayed, and leave the bark on this face. Slice off the opposite face so the back of the shelf (the edge that attaches to the wall) is clean and flat. Now you have a flat back edge and a flat top and bottom, but sides and front edge are rough.
4. Mark a level line on your wall and install brackets. Then screw brackets into the bottom of the shelf.
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