I'm bored.

22 yrs old 🎂Teacher📝Black👸🏽Reader📚Gemini ♊️

[jehovahhthickness]

I am not a “No matter what” ass girl. My love has conditions.

You will not try me, you will not betray me, you will not disrupt my peace and you will not disrespect me.

[ohnahchill]

I be having a good ole time by myself. Especially late at night… With my snacks, the moon, and hulu/netflix.

[kingjaffejoffer]

When someone is proving themselves to be a constant source of conflict and negativity in your life, don’t be afraid to cut them out like cancer. 

I think most people forget that you don’t have to deal with anyone. We let politeness and correctness have a direct negative impact on our mental health because we’re too afraid to tell other people that their bullshit is unacceptable. 

Don’t let anyone guilt trip you into putting up with their shit. 

[thealfaguy]

[narruechie]

LMFAOOO

[threeletterscmb]

Dead assssss

[jehovahhthickness]

Y’all almost beat my ass when I said this awhile ago but it’s true!

[yungnefertiti]

this is actually the primary reason me and my ex broke up. as an only child I’m very used to being alone and he didn’t grow up that way so it reqlly bothered him. whenever I wanted alone time he worried that that really meant I wanted time with other people and I’m just like what????? people need space. period. a relationship is not a contract for ownership. your partner is a whole person with their own shit before, after, and during your relationship.

[jehovahhthickness]

The tags killed me

[alibibanks]

This is an ongoing issue in my relationship. I dont understand this. I’m like “we need to be together ALL THE TIME ” and hes like “I need time alone”

Why?

[jehovahhthickness]

Because your partner is still their own person who deserves basic respect and that includes space. Y’all don’t need to be around each other 24-7.

You’re probably suffocating them.

[tarynel]

Gon end up pushing them away. I don’t understand how others don’t understand this?

[softteddybear-deactivated202111]

gay culture is sitting in a chair and immediately finding a way to get your feet off the floor

[aidashakur]

[deleteme-adub-deactivated201811]

[quietstorm41]

Lol smh

[tarynel]

Jesus fucking Christ

[antiandrogen]

[miseducatedmelanicmuse]

😂😂😂😂😂

[kingjinxii]

me: (makes another impulse purchase)

my bank account:

[endangered-justice-seeker]

how….. bout……books……guys?

[humble-magnificent]

I hate it here

[tarynel]

[whitepeopletwitter]

[proto-homo]

All my ladies who impulse buy to feel alive, make some noise!!!!

[cosmicyeehaw]

[foulserpent]

there is nothing you can say that will make me stop occasionally putting a q tip in my ear to remove ear wax. i know the ear is self cleaning. i know it doesnt need to be done at all, and in rare cases where earwax buildup actually does need to be removed this is absolutely not the way. i know theres a risk of serious injury to the inner ear. i know there is no material benefit and it can only do harm. but heres the deal: i dont care. im fully aware and im going to do it anyway. im fucking crazy.. but im free

[afronerdism]

The conversation surrounding cultural appropriation has been so severely mutilated by white “allies” that the original intention behind that conversation has become almost unrecognizable in most social contexts.

[afronerdism]

To explain what I mean, the conversation around cultural appropriation was started by black and native people to discuss the frustrations we feel at being punished socially and financially for partaking in our cultural heritage while white people could take, I.e. appropriate, aspects of our culture that we are actively shamed for and be heralded as innovators. It was about the frustrations we feel when the same white people who shamed us would take our culture and wear it as if they were the ones who created it while still actively shaming us for doing the same.

The original push behind naming cultural appropriation and having these conversations were so that we as a society could evaluate why we were punished for our heritage while white People were not. It was supposed to be about seeking solutions. The idea was to create a society where we could celebrate our cultures with impunity. It was never about telling white people that they “weren’t allowed” to do certain things. We did ask that white People stop doing certain things because they weren’t doing them respectfully and were not invited to do them, but the primary reason we asked them to desist was to reclaim the things they had stolen and to reassign them culturally back where they belonged.

White “allies” saw these conversations happening and instead of trying to aplify our own voices or even try to learn about the complexities behind why we were saying what we were saying, they instead began screaming over us and creating a narrative that was hardly even the bones of what we originally set out to say. It was like they took the conversation we were trying to have, completely decontextualized it, and stripped it of all it’s nuance in order to gain social currency by seeming progressive.

So the conversation around cultural appropriation went from “This aspect of our heritage belongs to us and we find it egregious that we are shamed for it. What steps can we take to address the racism that’s creating this situation as well as rehome the things that have been stolen” to “you’re not allowed to do that because if you do that you’re racist, we don’t really understand why that’s racist but you’re not allowed to do that and if you do that you’re a klansman no exceptions. So you’re not allowed because because”

At the end of the day, did I like the fact that sally was wearing dreads? No. But my primary concern was not that sally was wearing dreads but rather that sally could wear dreads and I couldn’t. THAT was the intended focus of those conversations. It was about addressing the inequality. It was about us. Now the conversation is just about sally and were completely forgotten.

White People are always asking me what they can do to help. You want to know? Stop talking. Aplify our voices and shut the fuck up because you all have pretty much derailed this conversation and many more like it to the point that we no longer are trying to make steps to understand and dismantle the racism around cultural appropriation and instead are just using it as social shaming tactics.

[afronerdism]

TL;DR: read my post. Most things worth learning about can’t be summarized in the bullet points of a buzfeed article. Don’t come into academic circles and complain because everything hasn’t been conviently summarized for you. Stop pretending that things aren’t accessible to you because you refuse to do the intellectual labor that is learning.

[ratt1cus]

I don’t personally like the comparison of dreads (and never have) because tons of cultures that aren’t african/african heritage have them (including white culture) but otherwise, this is a wonderful post

[afronerdism]

As a point of contention, dreads are specific and only specific to people with Afro textured hair. White peole are physically incapable of having dreads. What they have are matted tubes of hair they’re trying to approximate to locs. It’s also actually not true that tons of cultures had locs. Lots of cultures have twists and things that have been mistaken for locs but locs are a hairstyle only specific to people of African decent.

[jehovahhthickness]