Cheerful and Tired

Katharine. 20-something, Fledgling Political Scientist, Art Nerd, Grad student, Canadian settler, she/her. I swear a lot.

[grey-and-lavender]

Hi folks, it’s Katharine (aka Kat, Kate, Katie). Here’s a small introductory post, because I'm now in a very different place from when I wrote my first one, which I wrote at the start of my MA. So here’s a new one, four years into this blog and an honest to god decade since I first made a studyblr.

I figured now that I am, to quote my supervisor, "at a new stage" I'd reintroduce myself here.

I’m a political science phd candidate in Canada who studies political geography.

I don't have a preferred first name (see the four listed above); I’m always trying to cut down on my caffeine and increase my water intake, and my nails are always painted. I am a recovering theatre kid, a brutalist architecture stan, a mediocre runner, and some variation of a disaster bisexual. Thanks for hanging around.

[grey-and-lavender]

Pulchritude: Great physical beauty or appeal.

[fractally]

I feel like people put so much on the Shane stylist thing about it being about him making or not making decisions and like. I think the book is really clear on what the stylist means. Ilya thinks Shane is “finally dressing like the millionaire he was.”

Rich celebrities have stylists. You can bet Rose had them. I truly do not think it has anything to do with making decisions or even really about style, except in the secondary level of Shane has no personal style and so the stylist is an immediate upgrade. I think it’s more that Shane hiring a stylist is him stepping into adulthood and deciding to stop being a passenger in his own life

The thing about being single into your late 20s, especially when everyone around you is marrying and having kids, is you feel trapped in a certain kind of suspended adolescence. In traditional patriarchal understanding, adult life starts when you get (heterosexual) married and start having kids. And that this is something that will just sort of happen for you naturally, especially if you’re the man. So before it happens you’re just kinda waiting.

My interpretation of Shane pre-Rose is that he’s stuck in that mode until Rose tells him hey, that’s not going to happen for you, you know that? You need to stop being in waiting room mode and actually live your life.

And that’s how I interpret Shane “finally” embracing his millionaire status and chasing after Ilya. It sinks in for him finally he’s not going to wake up and suddenly want Hayden’s life. He’s got to build the life he wants.

[stephexmachina]

when i was a kid i was so mad all the time bc i thought someday i'd have to be somebody's wife i didn't know it was optional. is everybody reminding the young girls in their lives that it's optional.

[stephexmachina]

AND SO IS BEING SOMEBODY'S MOTHER‼️

[stephexmachina]

it is about being a woman. hope that helps!

[vibrantstarfire]

reading comprehension questions for the notes:

is wanting to be a wife and mother a requirement for being a woman?

why might OP be annoyed with replies assuming that this post is about being aroace or transmasc if a woman doesn’t want to be a wife or mother?

are there reasons unrelated to sexuality and romantic interest that might make a woman not want to be a wife or mother?

are there reasons unrelated to gender identity and expression that might make a woman not want to be a wife and mother?

core concept: what is gender essentialism?

is it gender essentialism to imply that all women inherently want to be wives and mothers? could this be what OP is critiquing?

look at the notes OP responds to. is it gender essentialism to imply that being a wife and mother is so affixed to womanhood that to not want to be those things means you’re incapable of sexual/romantic feelings, or not a woman?

what trait are you perpetuating when you assume that women who do not want to be wives and mothers must be aroace or trans? is it gender essentialism?

[grey-and-lavender]

Good morning! Happy Friday.

Despite very diligently checking on my calendar every day this week, I did have a deadline sneak up on me (who sets a deadline for a Saturday?) and so I am going to spend this morning working on that.

I am going to spend this afternoon attempting to really finish this first article. Wish me luck!

How has your week gone?

[lobstabear]

To my 25 - 35 year olds, you've reached the age where people around you are starting to give up on themselves because they think it's too late. Don't let that energy rub off on you. It's not too late.

[knittingontheroad]

I became a tattoo artist at 49.

Married the love of my life at 50.

Got my Class A CDL at 59.

You've got time.

As long as you're breathing, you've got time.

[maureen2musings]

Spring in the English countryside

journeyswithjon

[grey-and-lavender]

Good morning!

I have several things working in my favour this morning. First, I slept both well and for long enough last night. Second, I have been feeling physically unwell for the past few days and no longer do. Finally, I took the morning to putter around the house and do some body maintenance things that have been bothering me, and I feel much more settled in my space and my body.

Also both of my coffees this morning have fucking slapped.

I'm going to do some writing before lunch, and then spend this afternoon fighting with my code and figuring out what I want to wear to dinner tonight.

[sizzlingsandwichperfection-blog]

with a little help from his older brother, Hank Green has invented an absurdly enjoyable word-spelling game called smush.

[grey-and-lavender]

Good morning good morning!

I am once again at the big library on campus, attempting to get some work done. This is my fourth time trying to write this, as they all turn so negative so quickly.

I hope you all are having a good day <3

[grey-and-lavender]

Good morning!

I am on campus today with the hope that this somehow gets me to do something. I managed two or three hours of concentration yesterday and then lost the plot in the afternoon. Ugh.

I really want to curl up and cry, but instead I am going to be so brave and strong about this. Let's get this bread folks.

[grey-and-lavender]

Good morning!

New week, fresh week! I'm very happy to have a new week and start fresh, last week was... rough. I want to blame the heatwave but if I'm being honest with myself, I did very little work. I did watch a lot of youtube videos I care nothing about.

This week I have a few new things I want to try to see if I can keep my focus and priorities in check, and hopefully I can start clawing back on my schedule. If nothing else, I have gone for a run, and set myself up for success with a good and manageable to do list.

What are you folks up to at the start of the week?

[vivid-sector]

doomscrolling thru the weather app

[grey-and-lavender]

God grant me the strength to not be a dick to annoying people on facebook marketplace.

[grey-and-lavender]

nvm, faith restored by a guy saying please.

[grey-and-lavender]

God grant me the strength to not be a dick to annoying people on facebook marketplace.

[dragon-in-a-fez]

today's reason I fucking love the open source community: Ageless Linux, a brand new Debian-based operating system specifically designed to break the law by giving children access to computers that explicitly refuse to track their age.

[dragon-in-a-fez]

reblog this post to help a child break the law

[0x5742]

oh goddamn this whole page goes so hard actually, please go read it. what an impressive, visceral takedown of this dumb law

[natreads]

Just finished Sunburn and I loved it so much