[pvysygpvysivjc-deactivated20250]

my official stance is a pregnancy is whatever the pregnant woman wants it to be. if it’s a 4 week old clump of cells and she wants to call it a baby it’s a baby. if she’s 20 weeks and she wants to call it a parasite it’s a parasite. if she’s 39 weeks and calls it a fetus it’s a fetus. “why are you so sad about miscarrying at 6 weeks it was literally just an embryo” because that was her baby. “how can you get an abortion at three months” because that wasn’t a baby. hope that helps.

[pvysygpvysivjc-deactivated20250]

[memewhore]

[deletedgonebyebyefudgers-deacti]

my het partnered ladies, i just think that even a guy who splits the chores and is kind and loving will still put his needs before yours when it comes down to it. So if you’re in a het relationship, make sure you put your needs before his.

He will assume any life sacrifices will come from you. He will expect you to live where is best for his life/career/happiness, even if it means sacrificing your life/career/happiness.

Just know that no matter how ‘equal’ you are, in his mind, he’s the captain and he gets to have the final say.

If you are with a man, just make sure you take the time to think about what YOU want and to ensure you get those things, because otherwise you will be swept along on his journey, always being told it’ll be your turn to choose next time, but it won’t be. It will never be.

I’ve lost count of how many het relationships i’ve seen from mine, my parents, and my grandparents generations that have this same pattern. A woman with dreams unrealised, always being told- after my promotion, after the kids start school, after retirement, then it will be your turn to choose.

I’ve seen my mum and her friends drinking in the kitchen at dinner parties time and time again, talking about how their husband has refused to consider their desire yet again, and sat around the table the husbands talking about their latest promotion, their trajectory to success.

Any man you are dating will expect you, at some point, to defer to him as the authority. I’ve had it recently in my own relationship, and it was like a slap in the face.

Just know what you’re getting into. A guy might not be abusive, but that doesn’t mean he won’t drain you of your hopes and dreams to fuel his own, slowly, insidiously, and over a lifetime. He won’t even think he’s doing anything wrong, he thinks this is his right!!

But he can only do this because you are socialised to give freely, to make sacrifices for him.

Be vigilant! Do not give in! Be the impossible difficult woman. Set your own goals and be your own captain! When you are on your deathbed what life do you want to look back on? Live it now!

You are only an accessory to his life, don’t make him the focus of yours!!!

[gender-critical-appspot]

http://www.independent.co.uk/voices/john-lewis-gender-neutrality-trangender-children-medicalisation-lesbian-gay-education-a7946426.html?amp

[butchviking]

if you dont believe in homosexuality as a natural, innate, morally neutral sexual orientation that cannot be changed then you! are! a! fucking! homophobe!!!!!!!!

[warriordykes-deactivated2023083]

radfem infighting will get us nowhere. some of us are OSA. some of us have kids. some of us still wear makeup. some of us have a job that relies on our appearance. some of us still shave.

it's important to be united towards our goal, and that means sometimes people are going to be at different places in our lives.

our first step is waking up and understanding the influences of the patriarchy, and then working against those influences and forging a new path.

fighting with each other about every little thing will derail us and set us back. we should work together to break away from the patriarchy, not fight each other because we're at different stages.

[f1ghtsoftly]

I would MUCH rather work with many imperfect women to get wages for housework, national abortion, relief for women in the sex trade, popularize male free living arrangements etc etc…then chill with a bunch of perfect feminists on womyn’s land.

Like, is this a women’s “movement” or is this a Women’s Movement.

The fourth wave starts with us.

[deadfish-inabarrel]

"But the rad in radfem stands for RADICAL if you're not making RADICAL changes-" shut. The fuck. Up.

[warriordykes-deactivated2023083]

It’s like saying someone can’t be a communist just because they live in a capitalistic society and have to participate in it.

Ideology serves a purpose to allow us to guide our actions but the realities of our day to day life don’t always allow us to live in a fully radical way. I’d rather work towards the ideal than throw it away all together because it’s not practical for someone at the moment.

The ideal is just that— the ideal. Spreading the word and talking about it and making changes takes time. Rome wasn’t built in a day and telling women they aren’t allowed to be ideologically aligned with a movement or participate in it because they aren’t perfect is ridiculous and crass, tbh.

Also expecting every single radical feminist to believe the exact same things is a cult mindset lacking nuance and also incredibly unwelcome on my page. Not every radical feminist is a female separatist or SSA or whatever. That doesn’t mean their contribution can’t be incredibly valuable and that they can’t help work towards common goals.

[halfbakedpoet]

I know tumblr has accepted the whole “cat’s internal monologue is a desolate Victorian child” thing but what if a cat’s internal monologue was Gollum/Sméagol

[halfbakedpoet]

-scratching the floor near their bowl- “Nasty, filthy dry foods they serves us. We wants soft, juicy morsels from the canses.”

[halfbakedpoet]

-sitting in the window- “What’s it doing, precious? What noises it makes with pointy mouth. We wants it…”

[halfbakedpoet]

“Wicked, tricksy humanses doesn’t feeds us in hours. Must reminds them or we’ll starve. Wait for dinners? Oh no. That would kill us! Kill us!”

[halfbakedpoet]

-bringing dead animals to owner- “Look! Look! See what good kitty finds! Eat them! Eat them!”

[cwnerd12]

There are many flavors of cats. Victorian child cats and Gollum cats are both equally valid.

[radomfandomlover]

This is funnier if you remember that Andy Serkis’ Gollum voice was inspired by his cat hacking up a furball.

[the-radio-star]

Finally some good fucking news

[rock-fish-deactivated20201231]

they concluded that the rats were having fun partially bc the rats voluntarily initiated games, hopped around joyfully and teased researchers by pretending to come close and then skittering away. rats are Very Good

[sindri42]

These scientists are getting grant money to play games with rats all day and that is just, living the dream.

[the-rad-menace]

My feminism is for all women. It's for lesbians, bi, and straight women. It's for women who have sex, including those who have sex with men, and for women who are celibate. It's for mothers, women who need abortions, women who've had abortions, and women who have never been and never will be pregnant. It's for women of every economic class, every race, every religion, and every political persuasion. Period.

I am not free while any woman is unfree, even when her shackles are very different from my own.

- Audre Lorde

[macroclit-deactivated20230725]

you’re bisexual but heterosexual sex is the reason you’re pregnant. If a lesbian was raped, her abortion would be the result of PIV sexual assault,, so HETEROsexual sex. Just bc ur bi doesn’t negate the fact that you engage in heterosexual activities. If hearing that upsets you, it’s the same when two bisexuals demand we call their relationship queer even tho it’s,,, heterosexual. Or how lesbians make jokes about not getting pregnant and someone interrupts and talks about rape or IVF to argue it’s possible to get pregnant and negate that homosexual experience. Yeah, exceptions are not the rule.

I never said that my pregnancy wasn't the result of heterosexual sex, you people are so fucking unhinged. I said "needing an abortion is not an exclusively heterosexual experience." Can you read??

[mithliya]

the fact that the anons went from angry at a bi woman for having sex with a man to justifying calling abortions ‘heterosexual’ and overlooking SSA women is insane!!! why would u defend the statement that “needing abortion is pretty heterosexual” as if it isn’t a female experience that women of every sexuality may need, whether the pregnancy occurred consensually or not?

[yoursocialconstructsareshowing]

pregnancy needs to be considered a health risk for teenage girls and women. make contraceptives and abortion freely and widely available.

[sweatermuppet]

the world is dogshit and finding beauty in it is stupid

one day the world will be more than 8th grade nihilism & you will have a fresh peach so good, the feeling of its furred skin in yr palm will bring u to tears

[geopsych]

Here’s a video so you can hear the water and the thrushes. I took it for you because you couldn’t be there. <3

[transxfiles]

you may notice i use the phrase "my beloved" frequently. this is because i am in love with the world and everything in it. hope this clears things up <3

[transxfiles]

girl help the pessimists found me

[phoenixichi]

"girl help i am staunchly refusing to realise my own naivete in a world almost completely made up of things that couldnt care less about me or are actively exploiting me"

[tiefling-enjoyer]

[that-house]

Girl help the pessimists are mistaking an inherently meaningless universe for an inhumane and joyless one rather than recognizing the opportunity to make one’s own meaning and joy and to spread those things to others

[grungyradfem]

Hey, i saw your reblog post about dealing with a pregnancy. Are you OK? I'm sorry you're seeing all this anon cruelty bullshit going on here so, by all means take what space you need to from here, but some of us, myself included are absolutely here if you need to talk or anything. You shouldn't have to go through this without support.

I am okay now, yes. Im gonna go off about my situation juuust a bit: The first 3 weeks after finding out were terrifying because I had just gotten away from the sperm donor and he found out about it, and the following month was just sadness and anger about being stuck pregnant but I've adjusted to accept that this is real even if it sucks and I don't really want to do it. I'm not totally opposed to raising a kid but pregnancy has always been one of my worst fears and I struggle a lot with doing the healthy thing for this kid. I have a lot of support from my family and friends in this but it means a lot to see support from other people, so thank you.

Also to update my previous post a while ago about the sperm donor being involved; also more at peace about it because he kind of made the assumption that I miscarried after I told him about some bleeding I had been having, and I didn't correct him on it. So I'm safe in that regard thankfully.

[grungyradfem]

https://www.tumblr.com/grungyradfem/721567096605130752/this-is-why-i-havent-said-much-at-all-about-the?source=share

regarding this, I will not be tolerating this. I have offered those treating her cruelly an opportunity to own their actions, URL attached, either publicly or in my DMs. If that's not agreeable, well, nothing is truly anonymous online. I'm undecided as of yet if I'm going to bother "unmasking" everyone who's been cruel to her, or only those who have been egregious about it or continue after this point, but I will not just let this behavior go unchecked. no woman should be afraid to ask for emergency assistance. these people are creating an environment where that is the case. I'm not having it.

Personally I'd love to know who's treating her like that so I can preemptively block them. I don't have time or energy to worry about associating myself with people who treat others like that, when they know she's having a hard and probably terrifying time.

[macroclit-deactivated20230725]

The last Anon really got to the root of why the behavior toward me on radblr been SO hurtful and disgusting - I've seen so many posts expressing compassion for hypothetical women in my EXACT situation (dealing with an unwanted pregnancy in a red state and struggling to access reproductive resources), but now that I'm an actual person that exists, I'm receiving an avalanche of misogynistic messages (not to mention vague posts) that shame me for having sex, call me stupid for being with a man, call me "cumbrained" and a "dick rider"... there isn't an OUNCE of empathy for me from so many women who claim to care about reproductive rights, but I'm an actual living breathing person going through a major fucking crisis and they immediately regress to schoolyard bullying. It just has revealed so much hypocrisy on radblr, and frankly, straight-up cruelty. Catty mean-girl behavior has spread like wildfire and it's like... whiplash, because to me, radical feminism means something real, it isn't just carte blanche to bully people while convincing myself I have the moral high ground.

[butch-reidentified]

I am literally begging any and all of you who are pulling this shit to stand by your supposed beliefs enough to come off anon. and if you have a single shred of genuine dignity, come have a face to face conversation with me about why you chose to do this. convince me it's a justifiable feminist action. I am not interested in doxxing anyone: I will pay for your plane tickets, hotel, and food so you can come talk in person. If you have an ounce of self-respect, DM me. If you don't, I'm gonna have to point out that you're being a hypocrite and ideologically impure as fuck by harassing a woman facing possible forced birth on anon but not being willing to actually stand by your supposed convictions. So please, come say hi.

[grungyradfem]

This is why I haven't said much at all about the pregnancy I'm dealing with right now. Afraid of the backlash from my own community because I've seen it done to other women now and before. I wish I could help you out @macroclit because I know firsthand how you may be feeling rn. Feel free to DM me if you want to talk about it.