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[armandgender]

donald trump will die on july 20th 2025 at 1pm pacific standard time

[trans-ralsei]

[trans-ralsei]

[caughtthedarkness93]

I love my job, but reblogging employment jelly for someone else I love.

[jacktwist2005]

American mutuals …. do u say sir/ma’am

yes

no

I’m not American but no

Im not American but yes

Voting ended onFeb 25, 2023

[jewfrogs]

“emotional infidelity” isnt real you are describing a friend

[haha-please-ignore]

Emotional infidelity is real or else the only thing that you think makes something a "romantic" relationship is sex

[pocketsbigger]

It’s like at some point, a lot of the 20+ year olds who hold onto YA and teen shows with a death grip and want it so badly to cater to them and their interests (especially with explicit content) are like… living vicariously thru the narratives of 16/17 year olds as told by someone over the age of 30. And they can reason that adult media is boring or a lot of it is trash, but then they turn around and glamorize everything wrong about adult media in the setting of a high school because they’re so fixated on teenagedom and youth. Like bruh, you grown. The “realism” y’all want is a shallow representation of what teens are today, and back when we were teens too.

Like yeah there’s an over saturation of teen media with shallow outlooks on drugs/partying/sex/social media/risqué melodrama, but they only see ratings. They only see y’all fixating on youth as a concept that you wanna mold it into. Nobody’s putting forth New Adult and good Adult media because everyone for some reason becomes obsessed with “capturing” adolescence in a way they fantasized it in their heads. It’s weird, I say.

[haha-please-ignore]

The brain isn't fully developed until 25. The concept of people in their early 20s as "grown adults" is social more than biological. What we view as an "adult" has changed overtime. Here lately there's been a social shift and a lot of young people don't really feel like an adult because they're in the exact same situation as they were as a teen: trapped living with their parents, going to school, shitty minimum wage job, not taken seriously by older adults, etc. Kind of stuck in time in the next several years after high school. And there's so much panic about leaving, mood disorders are at an all time high, finding independence is stressful because economically that's becoming harder and harder... And that's not really their fault.

I don't like YA. I find a lot of it too focused on a shallow (if not toxic) perspective of romance. But I recognize lot of YA is specifically targeting Young Adults who are older teens or twenty-somethings. YA books are often a bit simpler, at a faster reading pace, and easier vocabulary. It's less mentally taxing and you can read them pretty quickly during a time in your life when you don't have that much spare time. And it's talking about school and school dynamics, which is pretty much all people in their 20s have ever known up till that point. New Adult books aren't super common and often get lumped together with YA.

I agree what you're talking about is a problem. But I think you're blaming the wrong people. This is an issue as a direct result of a failing capitalistic society

[pocketsbigger]

Right, so here’s the thing… my post is straightforward and is exactly how I framed it: people already outta high school and no longer teenagers are overly-romanticizing and even sexualizing the aspects of being a teenager. Also, you’re not telling me anything new about how difficult navigating your 20s is, I’m 25.

Anyways, there’s a difference from consuming YA from time to time as a form of escapism, and YA literally being the only genre of media these people consume to the point they expect it to cater to them and their interests as adults. Like I’m not saying “adults shouldn’t be expected to consume YA media” rather that “adults shouldn’t expect something not targeted towards their age group to cater to them and their interests”. I’m not blaming “the wrong people”, I’m saying very directly what the problem is, and what my beef is. There is no reason to shirk off personal responsibility just because we live in a capitalist society. We have adults who feel entitled to media targeted towards younger people. That is the problem being talked about here.

Like, let’s focus now. I was very direct with what I said.

[haha-please-ignore]

I'm saying more or less it is their age group. People in their 20s are quite literally Young Adults so it's not really such a wild concept they're stuck still reading Young Adult books.

What defines a "teenager" is social. We made those numbers up. We could have just as well decided people 25 and younger are teenagers or that 16 is the legal adult age. We just picked an age and rolled with it.

There's not really a well-established set of in-between books for people in this weird grey area of teenager-hood and adult-hood. The vast majority of libraries don't have "New Adult" section separate from their YA section. And this weird age is becoming more and more prevalent as we're entering late-stage capitalism. The "start" of adulthood is shifting because of it.

If we want people fresh out of their teen years to stop romanticizing those teenage years then we need to give them other and better options in their current life and in literature. Why aren't young people relating to literature about people in their young 20s? Why are they resorting to obsessing over literature about people slightly younger than them?

There's of course something to be said personal responsibility but honestly this seems inevitable until books are written that really speak to this particular age group

[pocketsbigger]

It’s like at some point, a lot of the 20+ year olds who hold onto YA and teen shows with a death grip and want it so badly to cater to them and their interests (especially with explicit content) are like… living vicariously thru the narratives of 16/17 year olds as told by someone over the age of 30. And they can reason that adult media is boring or a lot of it is trash, but then they turn around and glamorize everything wrong about adult media in the setting of a high school because they’re so fixated on teenagedom and youth. Like bruh, you grown. The “realism” y’all want is a shallow representation of what teens are today, and back when we were teens too.

Like yeah there’s an over saturation of teen media with shallow outlooks on drugs/partying/sex/social media/risqué melodrama, but they only see ratings. They only see y’all fixating on youth as a concept that you wanna mold it into. Nobody’s putting forth New Adult and good Adult media because everyone for some reason becomes obsessed with “capturing” adolescence in a way they fantasized it in their heads. It’s weird, I say.

[haha-please-ignore]

The brain isn't fully developed until 25. The concept of people in their early 20s as "grown adults" is social more than biological. What we view as an "adult" has changed overtime. Here lately there's been a social shift and a lot of young people don't really feel like an adult because they're in the exact same situation as they were as a teen: trapped living with their parents, going to school, shitty minimum wage job, not taken seriously by older adults, etc. Kind of stuck in time in the next several years after high school. And there's so much panic about leaving, mood disorders are at an all time high, finding independence is stressful because economically that's becoming harder and harder... And that's not really their fault.

I don't like YA. I find a lot of it too focused on a shallow (if not toxic) perspective of romance. But I recognize lot of YA is specifically targeting Young Adults who are older teens or twenty-somethings. YA books are often a bit simpler, at a faster reading pace, and easier vocabulary. It's less mentally taxing and you can read them pretty quickly during a time in your life when you don't have that much spare time. And it's talking about school and school dynamics, which is pretty much all people in their 20s have ever known up till that point. New Adult books aren't super common and often get lumped together with YA.

I agree what you're talking about is a problem. But I think you're blaming the wrong people. This is an issue as a direct result of a failing capitalistic society

[haha-please-ignore]

What if it's all for nothing? What if I come this far and still end up killing myself? What was the point?

[tiktoks-repost]

[starsandskiees]

This is the only tiktok you'll ever need, I've made about 13 of these and I'm not stopping anytime soon

[starsandskiees]

These are how mine are looking so far😌😌

[business-as-usual-bats]

If I ever mention "oh, I read a fic once about that" The answer is NO I DO NOT HAVE A LINK FOR IT. I don't keep track. I read so much so fast it all blurs together. I do not bookmark. I do not subscribe. I do not remember titles or authors. I kudos and maybe leave a comment then I move on and it's lost from me forever. Y'all wanna read it you have to go swimming on Ao3 like the rest of us.

[the-most-medium-lesbian]

Also google is a good coworker of yours

[dooflizard]

see then we got me with my google doc of 140+ fic links

[kitsune-35]

I had someone on tumblr ask for fic recommendations because they had a long shift at work and needed something to read on their breaks.

So you know what i did?

I scrolled through my blog, sending them every fic i ever reblogged. And ive had this blog for years! and im on it multiple times a day, so theres a lot of posts to scroll through.

As much as a respect that not everyone has the time or inclination to do that. Some of us will. Theres no harm in asking.

What happens when we say "DONT ASK" is that people wont. People wont ask anything, because they expect that person to be pissed off for asking.

Obvs if you had put in your header that you dont want asks for fic recs, then yeh thats totally appropriate to be pissed off.

But id rather people didnt feel scared to ask things, to say things, to fear that the other person is going to be pissy (obviously there are some things that dont apply).

I know a lot of creative people out here who WANT people to read or look at their work, and get down when we dont get any feedback.

Theres others where their work doesnt get shared so much, so again they feel down about this and it can affect whether they continue creating things.

And its that fear again, which holds people back from interacting with content makers.

That fear, that toxicity that people on tumblr spread more virally than the damn coronavirus, is what kills a lot of the positives that this sort of platform site could really build on.

[haha-please-ignore]

Op is a content maker. And they aren't angry or "pissy" and never once stated they were. Clearly it is a personal issue. It is read as someone ranting about a particular incident. It was not "hey no one ask me questions ever" it was "i don't know and it's stressing me out so many ppl demanding i give them information"

[himitsutsubasa]

I think one of my best qualities is that I am “good” at finding things. I’m good in the sense that I tilt my little head and once I understand what you’re looking for, I can find things like obscure French flyers from the 1930′s that were never digitized and only available at one library in the continental US and discontinued shoes from the late 2000′s and little viddy clips with the clicky sounds, but terrible at absolutely everything else.

[tenma-the-mad]

Master of obscure sidequests

[haha-please-ignore]

OP, are you a librarian? That's like... one of the jobs as a librarian to find weird obscure stuff like that. Like answering any and all reference questions

[starmin-marmin]

What feminism looks like in Mormon culture:

• Male primary teachers • Taking the Young Women to a shooting range • Teaching the Young Men basic home making skills • Single fathers herding children into sacrament meeting • Sister missionaries being invited to sit in ward council • Male mission nurses/girls’ camp nurses • Female Sunday School teachers • Female seminary/institute instructors

[haha-please-ignore]

What about a female bishop supported by her loving husband? A female apostle? A female prophet?

[dykeselfcest]

the real “problem with political correctness” is not that it’s considered offensive to use slurs, but that there are now many “progressive” environments where saying the right things is more important than doing the right thing. it’s why it’s so easy for abusers to gain traction in leftist circles (they learn the right words quickly and employ them to frame their own behavior as progressive); it’s why so much potential activist energy gets poured into fighting about language; it’s why moderate liberals didn’t believe fer/guson had a problem until the police emails with actual racist language were leaked. (you can do racist things, you just can’t SAY racist things.) i don’t have a neat conclusion here but a related point is that i’m so much happier since i started focusing on like, being a good kind caring person instead of trying to remove the word “crazy” from the vocabulary of everyone in my family

[1dietcokeinacan]

Just saying this is truly one of the best “discourse” posts on this site like……this hits the nail directly on the head re: what is going on with language right now and everyone pushing back in the notes only serves to further prove the point it’s making

[thechangeling]

Ok but like… multiple people with MIs and ND people have expressed feeling uncomfortable about people using crazy as an insult as well as words like “psycho” or other ableist language and slurs….

Y'all really do fall asleep when we talk huh?

[haha-please-ignore]

Ohmygod shut up. EVERYONE i know, my friends, family, coworkers, (heck even my psychiatrist and therapist) etc., including myself is mentally ill and neuro divergent and NO ONE gives a crap about using the word “crazy.” We all say it. Yes, even the doctors. What we care about is context and intent. What we care about is how we’re treated. Whether or not people treat us like we’re “crazy” or if they’re respectful and treat us like human beings.

I had one coworker once who kept repeating the rhetoric of “the word crazy is bad :(” and scolding me for using it and treating me like some kind of infant who didn’t know any better and I wanted to slap her every time. I did not spend my teenage years in and out of mental hospitals to get told what language counts as “ableist” against myself.

She’s the only person I met who insisted on with “politically correct” on EVERYTHING and she was the ONLY coworker who’d treat me like shit every day. We’d argue all the time because everything was “problematic” and she’d imply I was a bad person if I said or did anything “wrong.” All of my thoughts and opinions meant nothing next to her sense of justice.

I’d go home and cry just so frustrated. I couldn’t say or do anything without her “correcting” me. I was constantly walking on eggshells worried I’d say something that’d start a fight. It was stressful. My anxiety went through the roof. I’d feel physically sick at the thought of coming to work and dealing with her and being judged. I dealt with it for almost a year before deciding I had enough

I wound up quitting that job position, traded it for a new one. And now I work with people who aren’t as leftist as me. People who use words at times that I would never say. People not as pc in their language. But you know what? They always treat me with respect and they listen and they’re kind and it shows that they care about me. They always have good intentions. They always try to be nice. They don’t treat me as inferior.

Being a good, kind, and caring person will always be more important than vocabulary. Having politically correct language doesn’t mean you’re a good person or vice versa.

[thechangeling]

Dont tell me to shut up sweetie 😊. I was referring to people who use it as an insult! As I clearly stated in my post. I’m talking about people who use ableist language or slurs to attack and insult others.

[haha-please-ignore]

And I'm saying, one crazy lesbian to another, you've entirely missed the point of OP's statement. :)

I will gladly take someone who occasionally uses crazy as an insult to someone who's abusive and emotionally manipulative while disguising their behavior using the "right" and "approved" words.

[dykeselfcest]

the real “problem with political correctness” is not that it’s considered offensive to use slurs, but that there are now many “progressive” environments where saying the right things is more important than doing the right thing. it’s why it’s so easy for abusers to gain traction in leftist circles (they learn the right words quickly and employ them to frame their own behavior as progressive); it’s why so much potential activist energy gets poured into fighting about language; it’s why moderate liberals didn’t believe fer/guson had a problem until the police emails with actual racist language were leaked. (you can do racist things, you just can’t SAY racist things.) i don’t have a neat conclusion here but a related point is that i’m so much happier since i started focusing on like, being a good kind caring person instead of trying to remove the word “crazy” from the vocabulary of everyone in my family

[1dietcokeinacan]

Just saying this is truly one of the best “discourse” posts on this site like……this hits the nail directly on the head re: what is going on with language right now and everyone pushing back in the notes only serves to further prove the point it’s making

[thechangeling]

Ok but like… multiple people with MIs and ND people have expressed feeling uncomfortable about people using crazy as an insult as well as words like “psycho” or other ableist language and slurs….

Y'all really do fall asleep when we talk huh?

[haha-please-ignore]

Ohmygod shut up. EVERYONE i know, my friends, family, coworkers, (heck even my psychiatrist and therapist) etc., including myself is mentally ill and neuro divergent and NO ONE gives a crap about using the word "crazy." We all say it. Yes, even the doctors. What we care about is context and intent. What we care about is how we're treated. Whether or not people treat us like we're "crazy" or if they're respectful and treat us like human beings.

I had one coworker once who kept repeating the rhetoric of "the word crazy is bad :(" and scolding me for using it and treating me like some kind of infant who didn't know any better and I wanted to slap her every time. I did not spend my teenage years in and out of mental hospitals to get told what language counts as "ableist" against myself.

She's the only person I met who insisted on with "politically correct" on EVERYTHING and she was the ONLY coworker who'd treat me like shit every day. We'd argue all the time because everything was "problematic" and she'd imply I was a bad person if I said or did anything "wrong." All of my thoughts and opinions meant nothing next to her sense of justice.

I'd go home and cry just so frustrated. I couldn't say or do anything without her "correcting" me. I was constantly walking on eggshells worried I'd say something that'd start a fight. It was stressful. My anxiety went through the roof. I'd feel physically sick at the thought of coming to work and dealing with her and being judged. I dealt with it for almost a year before deciding I had enough

I wound up quitting that job position, traded it for a new one. And now I work with people who aren't as leftist as me. People who use words at times that I would never say. People not as pc in their language. But you know what? They always treat me with respect and they listen and they're kind and it shows that they care about me. They always have good intentions. They always try to be nice. They don't treat me as inferior.

Being a good, kind, and caring person will always be more important than vocabulary. Having politically correct language doesn't mean you're a good person or vice versa.

[haha-please-ignore]

Things that don't actually exist aka man-made social constructs

Gender

Economy

Race

God(s) of any kind

Neurotypicals

Things that DO exist

Aliens

[marxism-transgenderism]

That post about the left needing to change our language is so fucking dumb. I promise you rebranding "defund the police" to make it more appealing to middle class whites will not suddenly make it more popular. The right and centrist media will demonize it either way. Our main obstacle is our enemies who will hate us no matter what we do, not other leftists using niche language

[marxism-transgenderism]

Also the whole post is condescending as fuck. Like I know we all like to dunk on how stupid American politics can be but I've had in depth conversations about leftist politics (and specifically about defunding the police) with everyday people who don't know any leftist terminology but who are well aware that they are being oppressed and exploited. Maybe stop trying to center your politics around middle class liberals and go volunteer at a food pantry or something jfc.

[haha-please-ignore]

It’s about communication and clarity. Yes, they will try to demonize whatever words the left uses, but perhaps for all the people who are just genuinely confused behind the terminology would be more receptive to the ideas behind it, if they could understand what the fuck the left is saying. 

Because they’re are people who will hate it no matter what, and then there are people who are just upset because they don’t understand what the left means. And the right wins them over because they’re already confused and easily swayed. They get so hung up on the way the left is phrasing things, the message is lost. We need to be clear and precise with our messages. 

Some of it is generational, too. Like “privilege.” People hate the term privilege because for years it was associated with having money or being well off or special or rich. So when we say “white privilege” it triggers all this denial and self-defense of “but I never had it easy” “but I’m poor” “where’s my check for being white” “I am NOT privileged are you kidding” “I don’t get special treatment for being white” when what we mean is something more like “white benefit.” 

People are more willing to accept “There’s a benefit to being white” than their thoughts of “It’s a privilege to be white.” It’s how I had to explain the concept to my grandparents before they really understood.

Dictation is important. I mean, maybe it’s impossible to pick the right words for everything, but sometimes I think we make mistakes with the phrases we use. It can be misleading and when people get hung up on it, it derails the cause.

[kendallroy-deactivated20210425]

also with all due respect the main reason the left loses so much is that y’all refuse to compromise on the language and messaging you use to speak to voters. i swear if you rebranded “defund the police” as “invest in community safety from the ground up” most white suburban moderates would be like “that sounds great” and i know that because that’s how i’ve literally reframed it to white suburban moderates who think “defund the police” means we’re going to live in a scary lawless mad max world

[kendallroy-deactivated20210425]

like maybe it comes across as mealy-mouthed and corny to people steeped in online cynicism but just to be clear, this is the country that wouldn’t eat french fries after 9/11 so we renamed them “freedom fries” and everyone was suddenly cool again. americans are not, by and large, super sophisticated about this stuff

[haha-please-ignore]

Even changing like "white privilege" or "male privilege" to "white benefit" and "male benefit" would go such a long way