Blog age: idk made it on the 15th of September (2025) I think??
Role: Dom / Top.
Sexuality: Mostly women, but sometimes interested in anyone not male or masc.
Kinks and other info below the cut.
Kinks: giving head, bondage ( rigger ), biting/marking, breeding, body worship, somno, being marked, possessive/jealousy play, cnc, sensory deprivation, role play, monsterfucking ( as the monster ), public acts, pet/master dynamics, collaring, brat taming, edging, aftercare, and more but these are general.
Turn offs: scat, watersports, vore, guro, necrophilia, age regression, feeding, force fem, race play, age play, these are the immediates I can think of.
Just because I am a dom does not mean I am your dom or that I seek to be. Me following you isn't because I'm tryna get wit it. I just like your blog/vibe and want you on my dash.
I do not expect to be referred to by a title or honorific unless we discuss and establish a dynamic. Consent goes both ways and is the sexiest part, fact not opinion.
This blog isn't just hornyshit though, so expect to see whatever interests me.
I've already been asked this once, so I'm gonna head it off so everyone that comes here knows. Why do I not post pics of myself or my body? Not dysphoria, if you can believe it! I have very distinct tattoos and scarring, both surgical and non surgical. As a post op top and bottom surgery trans man my genitals are fairly indistinguishable from cis ones, but I have particular graft scars that could give my identity away especially to people who have already seen them. Given the political climate I'm stealth outside my personal life and I'm not about to get revenge porned again so if I ever do decide to share pics, that's gonna be private af, trusted peeps shit. Sorry.
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A lot of younger people have no idea what aging actually looks and feels like, and the reasons behind it. That ignorance is so dangerous. If you donโt want to โbe old,โ you arenโt talking about a number of years. I have patients in their late 80s who could still handily beat me in a raceโone couple still runs marathons together, in their late 80sโand I lost someone who was in her early 60s to COPD last year. What you want is not youth, it is health.
If you want to still be able to enjoy doing things in your 60s and 70s and 80s and even 90s, what you want to do, right now, is quit smoking, get some activity on a regular basis (a couple of walks a week is WAY better for you than nothing; increasing from 1 hour a day of cardio to 1.5 will buy you very little), and eat some plants. Thatโs it. No magic to it. No secret weird tricks. Donโt poison yourself, move around so your body doesnโt forget how, and eat plants.
If you have trouble moving around now because of mobility limitations, bad news: you still need to move around, not because itโs immoral not to, but because thatโs still the best advice we have. I highly recommend looking up the Sit and Be Fit series; it is freely available and has exercises that can be done in a chair, which are suitable for people with limited mobility or poor balance. POTS sufferers, Iโm looking at you.
If you have trouble eating plants because of dietary issues (they cause gas, etc.) or just because theyโre bitter (super taster with texture issues here!), bad news. You still want to find a way to get some plants into your body on a regular basis. I know. It sucks. The only way I can do it is restaurantsโthey can make salads taste like food. I can also tolerate some bagged salads. On bad weeks, the OCD with contamination focus gets so bad I just canโt. However, canned beans always seem โsafe,โ and they taste a bit like candy, so theyโre a good fallback.
If you smoke and you have tried quitting a million times and youโre just not ready to, bad news. You still need to quit. Your body needs you to try and keep trying. Your brain needs it, too. Damaging small blood vessels racks up cumulative damage over time that your body can start trying to reverse as soon as you quit. I know itโs insanely, absurdly addictive. You still need to.
You cannot rules lawyer your way past your bodyโs basic needs. It needs food, sleep, activity, and the absence of poison. Those are both small things and big asks. You cannot sustain a routine based on punishment, so donโt punish your body. Find ways to include these things that are enjoyable and rewarding instead. Experiment. There is no reason not to experimentโyou donโt have to know instantly whatโs going to work for you and what wonโt, you just need to be willing to try things and make changes when things arenโt working for you.
You will still age. Your body will stop making collagen and elastin. Tissues you can see and tissues you canโt see will both sag. Cushioning tissues under your skin will get thinner. Youโll bruise more easily. Skin will tear more easily. Accumulated sun damage will start to show more and more. Joints will begin to show arthritis. Tendons and ligaments will get weaker and get injured more easily, as will muscles. Bones will lose mass and get easier to break. Youโll get tired more easily.
But you know what makes the difference between being dead, or as good as, in your 60s vs your 90s? Activity, plants, and quitting smoking. And donโt do meth. Saw a 58-year-old guy this week who is going to have a heart attack if he doesnโt quit whatever stimulant heโs on. I pretended to believe it was just the cigarettes, and maybe it is, but meth and cocaine will kill you quicker. Stop poisoning yourself.
Baby steps; take it one step at a time; you donโt need to have everything figured out right now. But you do need to be working on figuring things out.
You will be unsurprised to learn that someone already accused me of ableism for suggesting that people not smoke, move regularly in ways their body can tolerate, and eat plants.
Do NONE of you eat canned beans with maple and ham? This is at every Safeway on Earth as far as I can tell, and if you hate most vegetables, these are a lot sweeter because of, you know, the added sugar. Eat candied plantsโglazed Brussels sprouts, candied yamsโif you canโt stand the regular kind.
Oh, this is true, but you arenโt familiar with how lazy I am. I will work 36 hours straight for WORKโIโve done it before and god willing I will never have to do it againโbut cooking or preparing food has never been something Iโve devoted time to. (Partly because of hours and demands of work.) I wasnโt taught to cook because (explanation of my mother) and I didnโt even scramble eggs until I was 19, and then I set them on fire the first time I tried. I gave myself nutritional deficiencies twice during residency. The prospect of having to know whatโs in my crisper AND use it before it goes bad despite the attentional difficulties, when my contamination OCD focus is already very bad, and KNOW when itโs gone bad when my only reference point is my also extremely OCD father, is untenable. I donโt enjoy cooking or making salads, and theyโre pretty affordable at local places (in the sticks), so for me the math maths. However, it is definitely a good idea to learn to prepare salads and those of you with less baggage than me should definitely give it a shot! Salads can and should taste good! Raspberry vinaigrette and some candied walnuts or pecans plus some blue cheese crumbles = good shit. Who cares what plants you put it on. Except not iceberg lettuce.
I once saw it observed on Tumblr that adding good tasting things you like to a salad you're making does not cancel out the nutrition in the vegetable matter
(might've been OP. sounds like the kind of thing you post)
That wasnโt me, but I co-sign it 100%. Iโd rather have patients eating salads that are completely covered in those โhigh fat!!!!โ salad dressings that news programs love to freak out about than not eating plants. Do what you need to do to the plant to make it enjoyable to eat. Caramelize your onions. Put hollandaise sauce on your asparagus. Glaze your Brussels sprouts. Make! Life! Worth! Living! And make it possible to keep living it.
Penitence as a lifestyle is both unnecessary and often actively harmful.
Julie Hunterโs movement_with_me on Instagram is a great resource for low-energy movement/exercise strategy. Julie was bedbound with ME/CFS following a COVID infection, and she used her experience as an athletic coach to figure out ways to reintroduce tiny doses of movement into her schedule, interspersed with purposeful rest, in such an effective way that she is now effectively cured and has returned to her pre-COVID baseline. She offers paid personalized movement coaching, wherein she creates a flexible multi-week schedule for clients to follow. Her Instagram account is a totally free treasure trove of advice, and if you scroll back a ways youโll find videos demonstrating very simple starter exercises with a range of adaptations for different levels of ability.
Justin Agustin has an Instagram account and a YouTube channel full of โgentle functional exercises for everyday life,โ including lots of workouts for beginners, seniors, and people living very sedentary lives. Many of his videos demonstrate techniques for beginners alongside a more advanced option, and he heavily stresses to only do what you are able to instead of pushing yourself further and potentially getting hurt. There are also paid versions of his work โ a website and an app โ with monthly challenges and a nutrition guide (and possibly more, but I havenโt used the paid version so idk).
And a guided flexibility recommendation!
David Thurinโs movementbydavid account on Instagram is all about gaining and maintaining flexibility through both active and passive stretching. He is incredibly flexible now, but he frequently mentions that it didnโt come naturally to him: He has consistently put time and effort into becoming more flexible, and you can do it too! Being flexible helps prevent injury, and, like fitness, is something you have to work to maintain and will lose if you donโt put in that work. Also like fitness, itโs something you can get better at, even starting from scratch.
All three of these people emphasize that you can follow their videos without special equipment, using things you probably already have (like a chair, a wall, a counter, and weights like a water bottle or can of food).
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I think for a lot of white people, when you call them out on their casual racism (microagressions and non-overt things), they see it as a case of hurt feelings from your point of view as opposed to a discussion of harmful practices that aid the vehicle of racism. So in response, they take it as a personal attack, rather than a learning experience, and go on the defensive by bringing up a time that you made them upset as leverage. Or they defend their actions by doubling down on the behavior at hand and dismissing your criticism as over sensitivity and emphasizing their โharmlessโ intent. And I think that is one of the reasons why itโs so hard to address casual and interpersonal racism with the general white population (and also other poc tbh).
