If our only job is to feel good in order to be in alignment with source, then how do we get to that state of allowing?
That sounds like such a stupid question, but really...if you're physically hurting or in emotional pain, when you're stuck in a situation you'd rather not be in, when you've screwed up, when you're exhausted or grumpy, when you're angry or frustrated or sad, how can you turn it around?
This played out with my daughter the other day.
She woke up very tired, something happened first thing that morning to set her off and it just snowballed from there. She got considerably more grumpy and rude as the day went on, and while I tried to be patient, my offerings of help was falling on deaf ears. She was simply in too deep.
If you catch yourself early enough, before those negative feelings have really set in, you can get back into the right headspace with just a little effort.
But if you let those negative thoughts and feelings fester, they will gain so much momentum that they feel impossible to stop.
And hey, that happens. Sometimes all we can do is sit with it and wait for it to pass.
Luckily, each morning we are given a clean slate. Our vibration/attraction goes into hibernation while we sleep, and it's automatically reset to feel-good mode by our inner being.
You can recognize this by those first few blissful seconds right upon awakening, before you start to remember what happened the day before or what you got going on today.
Use that early morning feel-good momentum to practice setting good intentions for your day.
Before you even get out of bed, rattle off a few things you're grateful for...(just a few! If I try to come up with too many I start to feel the lack and it turns negative.)
I also like to find just one thing to look forward to during my day. One thing that inspires me to get up and get moving. This can be as simple as craving something yummy for breakfast or wearing a new outfit.
If I have a bunch of not fun errands to run that day, I make sure to sneak in a stop where I can reward myself with a treat. For me, that's usually something yummy to eat or drink or a small splurge at Michaels or Target.
When I'm feeling blah about a regular old day, even the act of my morning routine can bring me down. This is a great time for a self-to-self pep talk.
I tell myself how much better I'll feel with clean teeth and smooth hair; that if I bang it out right now, I'll be setting myself up for a productive and successful day ahead, instead of dragging my feet and feeling like I'm trying to catch up all day.
Likewise, with cleaning...(ugh!)...I tell myself how much better I'll feel once it's done (I use that a lot actually, imagine the end result!). I remind myself what FlyLady says, "cleaning your home is blessing your family." I take pride in my home (in my decor, my style) and I want it to reflect that.
These little pep talks keep me thinking in line with my inner being. And that line of thinking helps me stay a few steps ahead of my current reality, which is a manifestation of my past thoughts.
If I keep up with that line of thinking, my future reality will reflect those new thoughts:
Imagine a future where I jump out of bed each morning ready to get to it!
Imagine a future where I dive into my house cleaning like it brings me great joy and blessings!
But, what if, like my daughter, you're not being proactive and you get caught off guard with a gnarly case of the downers?
First, acknowledge any negative emotions. I feel you, anxiety. I see you, annoyance. Stop right there, jealousy!
Second, recognize that any bunched up feelings are you being in resistance, you being in opposition of your inner being, you blocking the flow of your desires.
Lastly, realize that you can change your vibration by tuning yourself to a new station.
As in, perhaps you're tuned to disgruntled black metal and you want to switch to some bubbly, upbeat show tunes.
Start simply by taking a break from whatever you're doing. Get some fresh air: go for a walk, play with your dog, sit in the sun with a glass of iced tea.
Take slow, deep breaths: close your eyes and find one sound to focus on (birds, cars, air conditioner).
Think nice thoughts about yourself and others, about your surroundings, circumstances, or your overall situation in life--think big picture, not everyday.
You cannot demand yourself into alignment, but you can sweetly guide and talk yourself into it.
The key is to just chill out and let things be!
I mean, isn't that why we get all bunched up in the first place? Because we expect something to be a certain way and it isn't?
Why do we feel the need to control everything? And why do we feel so entitled and angry about it if we can't?
Our egos are like little babies that need to be coddled and pacified.
And there's no shame in that!
Like the quote, "Treating myself like a precious object will make me strong."
We all need a little TLC. We all need to be shown some compassion and understanding. And who better to know exactly what we need than ourselves?
Think pampering, indulgent, rewarding, splurge, praise.
Be a little lazy--take breaks often, get more rest, fully enjoy doing nothing.
Be a little self-oriented--say no without guilt, do more things that feel good to you.
Abraham says we only need a handful of things that make us happy. Just a few things that we can summon up that will change our vibration.
Whether that's simply an idea of something that brings you joy (ex: holiday, event, vacation) or an activity (ex: listening to music, taking a bubble bath, watching your favorite movie/show), find those five things that you can call upon when you need them and keep them in your feel-good arsenal.
Are there certain memories, milestones or accomplishments that light you up with joy when you think of them?
Past manifestations that you can now see clearly you had a hand in creating that inspire and give you confidence?
What activities invigorate you? What do you look forward? What do you carve out or crave time for?
Follow the path of your enthusiasm...it will lead you to feeling good.
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