Sending Love

Spotify: @HannahLee spread love, always.

[stolenchapstick]

[akindplace]

Katfishdraws

[sashayed]

has anyone figured out how to turn off the thing where you love your pet so much it slides inexorably into grief-borrowing

[boomstab-papa]

[your-cosmic-creature]

“For me this glass is already broken. I enjoy it; I drink out of it. It holds my water admirably, sometimes even reflecting the sun in beautiful patterns. If I should tap it, it has a lovely ring to it. But when I put this glass on the shelf and the wind knocks it over or my elbow brushes it off the table and it falls to the ground and shatters, I say, ‘Of course.’ When I understand that the glass is already broken, every moment with it is precious.”

[somewordsarebiggerthanothers]

[youngerfrankenstein]

To put it very bluntly.

You will always make a better impact helping people who need it than trying to hurt people you think deserve it.

[sowedpearls]

[kisxmesoft]

[djklmnx]

[histhoughtslately]

[cozyvu]

via cozyvu

[stuckinapril]

I’ve been thinking a lot ab this

[kosmogrl]

[artbylittlebug]

[escuerzoresucitado]

[kosmogrl]

[tinsnip]

Don’t assume malice. Assume ignorance. Life is easier, the world is kinder, and you can educate. Actual malice is pretty rare, I find. 

[froborr]

Always remember Hanlon’s Razor–”Never assume malice when incompetence will suffice as an explanation.”

That’s said, never forget Fred Clark’s Law, either: “Sufficiently advanced incompetence is indistinguishable from malice.” There’s a certain point at which ignorance becomes malice–at which there is simply no way to become that ignorant except deliberately and maliciously.

[cupandsaucer]

Another way I understand this is:

Sometimes incompetence gets to a point where it will have the same effects as malice, and even if you were not being malicious, you still have a responsibility to own the consequences of your ignorance.

Accountability is necessary for society to work properly and for relationships to grow trust.

If someone who should, doesn’t know something, they still have a responsibility to others to deal with present consequences and do better next time.

Simple interaction I had the other day to illustrate that:

A lady cut in line in front of me at the drugstore.

I decided to let go and wait for her to go first, because ain’t nobody got time for that. A person who was with her pointed out that I had been waiting in line.

She looked around, said a little flippantly, “No, she wasn’t,” then thought better and asked me, “were you?”

“I was, actually,” I said, “but it’s fine, you can go.”

She immediately left her place and opened space for me. “Oh, my God, I’m so sorry, I didn’t notice, please go ahead. My head is not right these days, I’m so worried about-” how she is sick and taking some new meds, etc, and still insisted that I check out before her when I said again that it was fine.

She was not malicious, she was distracted, but as soon as she was made aware of her mistake she apologized and took the steps to fix it.

I payed for my stuff, said, “don’t worry about it, hope you get well soon” and went on my way, feeling a bit better about humanity in general.

If you found you’re in the wrong, knowing that mistakes are an inescapable part of life makes it easier to admit them and fix things with grace.

But in general, assuming ignorance/incompetence instead of malice dials situations down from offenses to simply annoyances.

It’s not that humanity sucks. It’s just that people make mistakes, which is a much less cynical way of approaching life.

[mothcub]

My heavenly vessel.