the "me" i long for

maru | any pronouns | 20 - host of a plural system. marche lorraine fictive! the flag in my icon is the ambonec flag.

[hello-abyss]

um, quick pin (05/28/2026):

main fronters are currently the dreams team (they/them, a subsystem of 6), and maru is the host

[curiositysavesthecat]

Do you think it's weird and/or predatory for a 13 year-old and a 30 year-old to be best friends if they're not family members or related by blood? Assuming everything is innocent and platonic. Nothing romantic or sexual.

Yes, it's weird and predatory

It's weird. But not predatory

It's predatory. But not weird

No, it's not weird or predatory

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[creelson]

unpopular opinion but I don't think there's anything weird or predatory about an innocent friendship

[dianxiacantastemolecules]

The question is why the fuck is a thirty year old hanging out with a 13 year old if not in their family?? The only other relation that could have them interact is through teacher/student and bring friends like that would be weird as fuck

[creelson]

found family? the kid not feeling safe in their house? the adult wanting to help? family / teacher / school isn't always a guaranteed safe place. should the kid and adult each have friends that are their own age too? sure. but if their friendship is genuinely innocent then I think the problem isn't them but people who project their weird and predatory thoughts onto them

[the-bar-sinister]

Don't forget shared hobbies?

A 13 year old and a 30 year old could reasonably meet at a tabletop gaming store, a fiber arts group, a book club....

[fandoms-and-chaos]

can we normalize consent in platonic relationships

[fandoms-and-chaos]

a lot of people have made points about how you should always ask before touching someone (giving hugs, holding hands etc) and while that is true!! that's not what i meant

I specifically meant that it should be normalized to have conversations about what you're comfortable with in a platonic relationship.

Like with romantic relationships there's usually a conversation about whether you're in a relationship or not. That should apply to platonic relationships as well. I'm tired of being in situations where I'm considered someone's friend who i barely know. Because then i have to "aqcuintance-zone" them and i look like the bad guy when in reality i never consented to being in a platonic relationship with you.

I long for the day when it's normalized to have conversations with your friends what you're comfortable with and what you consent to... Are you comfortable with being called a friend? How often do you want to talk? How often do you want to hang out? What does hanging out mean to you?

[peach-pot]

being anti-amatonormativity in a romance centered world is like watching half the people you know put all their eggs in one basket and then drop the basket and all their eggs break and they’re crying and swearing they’re never gonna do that again and then a month later they have all new eggs in a new basket and they tell you the problem was they didn’t have a strong enough basket or fresh enough eggs and then they drop the fucking basket again.

[ceruleanheaven]

brought nothing to the gun fight. whatever man

[beansfrombeans]

that art would have been sexier if you'd made him fat btw

[treecitysessions]

Text I got from my guy friend who’s currently dating a man for the first time when I asked him how it’s going

[triangleguy]

pros of having a favorite character youve liked for over a decade: character brings you joy and excitement

cons of having a favorite character youve liked for over a decade: they have become a permanent part of your internal monologue and you cant get them to go away

[molabuddy]

i like when people have fun but i cannot process what could be fun in pairing your favourite ensamble cast into nice neat little completely healthy and dramaless romantic pairs that can never be broken ever. nobodys bitchless?? nobodys getting poly with it??? nobodys getting queerplatonic with it????? nobodys getting toxic with it?????? no fwbs???????? its scary.

[spinchip]

I actually do genuinely love when people make sincere angst art of children's shows. The depth people create in the things they carry close to their heart always inspires me. Like yknow what? What if it WAS that deep. And even deeper. Take my hand. Let me explore this topic with you

[isabelopaque]

When someone likes the thing you made for them

[cokecoughsyrup]

missing The Character is a strange thing because yea there's always the option to go back to their source material or looking at art or reading fics but it's also like i can't just call them up like i would a friend to see how they're doing and that's the frustrating part of it

[whitebisexual]

I'm kind of obsessed with any work of fiction that includes time travel or alternate timelines especially with a character who's obsessed with changing a decision they made in the past to the point where they fuck their own timeline beyond recognition and they realize too late that they can't change what has already occurred and they lose everything (<- guy who's normal)

[ruerock]

i always fall for opening the comments section and then go ahhh right i forgot. the concept of nuance and non-universal experiences just doesn't exist to some people

[malaiiise]

the agere community: you deserve to be happy & have things that bring you comfort. oh btw nsfw dni you’re all disgusting monsters who should die & you have no place here

i get it if nsfw content makes you uncomfortable but like. do you not realize that 95% of ppl with these kinks have them because of sexual trauma at a young age. which also results in guilt and feelings of inadequacy. you can ask us not to interact but can you please be kinder

[beansloverrr]

[mousegirlheart]

*smiles sweetly while bleeding profusely*

im so cute and everyone loves me