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my dad always tells me that when he’s with people bragging about their kids’ accomplishments and such he goes “yeah but are they like ....cool?” and the parents always give him a confused look and he goes “are they cool? my kids are so cool. i love hanging out with them.” and it always throws people off and i think that’s so funny and sweet like i may be a fucking idiot with just about zero accomplishments but at least my dad thinks i’m cool

saintbaselshouse

I guarantee you the other kids are not cool

toastbutteregg

“Make your edibles in the shape of dog treats and take them anywhere you want. If a drug dog finds them, his handler will just think he’s being a silly boy.”

— Life Hacks For People With No Moral Compass (x)

thoodleoo

what reading 90% of historical opinions on this website is like

star-anise

Femme bi women married to men still have stories about queerness to tell that are worth hearing.

cherryhearrts-deactivated201902

i dont wanna discourse on main but please dont call bi women femme

star-anise

Kiss my ass and then fuck ALL THE WAY off.

cherryhearrts-deactivated201902

okay thanks for being aggressive when i literally said in the tags that i agree with what youre saying its just the fact that you called bi women “femme” that i take issue with.

femme and butch are both historically lesbian terms that are used very specifically for lesbians. a femme can ONLY be a lesbian bc it is an identity specifically abt subverting gender roles assigned to by men and performing femininity for other women, completely rejecting men. it can only be for lesbians bc its abt being attracted to only women.

if a lesbian is telling you that something is a lesbian specific term, maybe hear them out before completely rejecting what they are saying

star-anise

I have heard this argument before. I have read the tedious history narratives that look at communities of queer women in the 1950s who used terms like “butch” and “femme” and acknowledged that yes, many of those women are what we would call bisexual today, but then somehow decided that… bisexual women were not allowed to inherit that legacy. That bisexuals should get disinherited despite having been there from the beginning.

I have also seen those posts say that biphobia is a myth, and that lesbians who reject bi women for being bi are a “lesbophobic myth”. The reality is, the elimination of bisexuals from our own narratives, the myth that you can source 1950s slang in a pure lesbian-only, never-looked-at-a-man mythic past, goes hand in hand with modern biphobia.

This post was written specifically counter to the concept that “femme” is a lesbian-only word.

If you want a pure lesbian term that has only ever been used by someone who is never attracted to men, I suggest you go plant a flag in a term that ISN’T used my MLM. Because “femme” has been used by gay men to describe themselves and each other for decades.

It isn’t just innocent “We want our own vocabulary!” when you’re claiming one of the most common adjectives used for gender presentation in the English language, and when you cite a specific provenance for it, it is a provenance that bisexual women are equally entitled to inherit from.

Get your own damn word. Bisexual women have always used this one.

captain-snark

“thanks for being aggressive when I am only trying to be oppressive” kay no problem!

gloomdocwife

bi women can’t be butch or femme!! those are lesbian terms!!

If you want similar terms try doe and stag!

Sincerely, a bi girl!

star-anise

1. Says who?

2. Why should I listen to them?

3. Why aren’t they going after straight people and gay men who use butch and femme?

4. Who decided on the new terms?

6. How the fuck do you think anyone’s going to make me use them?

Please complete this form and return it with typed answers if you want me to give even a third of a shit about what you’re saying.

elisamaza

lesbian separists said so, which were made up of mostly radfems that wanted to distance themselves from bisexuals and trans women.

and i wouldn’t be caught dead listening to radfems.

korrasera

Please take discussions like this as proof of why I advocate learning to understand these kinds of things for yourself, because just repeating what someone else told you will eventually find you repeating utterly ignorant nonsense.

If you go read up on the history of the terms butch and femme for yourself, you’ll see that they’re not lesbian-only terms and that the people who advocate that are inevitably either lesbian separatists, TERFs, or people willing to repeat the arguments of bigots.

If you just repeat whatever someone else told you, you’ll find yourself telling bisexual women that we can’t call ourselves femme and looking like an ignorant jackass while replicating someone else’s bigotry.

Don’t let bigots manipulate you, don’t let them speak for you. Learn for yourself, speak for yourself, and you’ll probably find yourself wanting to acknowledge the OP’s point as truth too.

lennat2

Funny how radfems are claiming the human terms and bisexuals get to be the animals, isn’t it.

korrasera

…christ I’d never stopped to think of that angle. That seems like it makes it worse somehow.

nondysphoric--enby

“Butch” and “femme” are not lesbian-exclusive. People who would be called bisexual, pansexual, omni, non-binary, etc. today are able to use it too because that’s the history of the word. We’ve always been able to use it too, we were all forced under the lesbian label at the time, we didn’t have another community, we were there during the creation of the terms.

And when separatists and TERFs decided to abandon the terms because they were afraid it put them into proximity of men or straightness or something, queer people of color of all types picked it up and revived the terms during ball culture.

findingfeather

And this is a huge thing too - like ten minutes ago supposedly “butch” and “femme” were oppressive remnants of the patriarchy all good lesbians should drop and now this?

grrover

no one talks about how rick riordan literally scammed disney

grrover

dead ass pjo was that seemingly “normal” kids fantasy series with a seemingly white straight kid saving the world and it’s a fucking success. percy jackson? iconic! ppl fucking love percy and his character and then hoo comes out? everyone is pumped bc everyone is in love with that world. the first book? two main bad ass poc characters. the second book? two more bad ass poc characters! the fourth book and there’s literally a gay character and it’s not like disney could say no. hoo ends and then there’s magnus chase and ppl are fucking pumped bc that’s annabeth chase’s cousin and in the first book there’s a muslim girl and by the second book there’s a transgender and genderfluid character. trials of apollo? a main gay couple in a happy relationship and a fucking bi character. could disney say no? no. literal 10 year olds are reading books with heaps of representation all published by disney. rick riordan played the game. you step in thinking ur just gonna get white cishets and you walk out surrounded by different cultures and rainbows.

tldr; rick started out with the basic pasty white and straight series which got hella successful and used his success to pusblish more books and allow only one (1) cishet and only one (1) white

grrover

i doubt he planned it but deadass it would be so funny if that’s what happened

kaylapocalypse-deactivated20201

I saw him speak on /writing in the UK right before (or early in on when) his series hit it big. Planned. Definitely planned.

runwithskizzers

Thousand percent planned. Also Percy? Has a learning disability. RR’s son inspired him to write bc he is ADHD and dyslexic. This was all planned. He is all about inclusivity and representation.

hurricane-eggbeater

He just recently turned down an invitation to be recognized by the Texas state legislature because of of their new bathroom bill.

thewellofastarael

He also makes his books incredibly funny, which is rather rare for YA and makes them more accessible to kids who don’t really like to read. In addition to having loads of POV character who have trouble reading themselves.

For those who’ve been living under a YA rock, this is Rick Riordan:

(this was the gay character in the second series)

(and the trans character in a later series)

meeshay

Let’s not forget that he has an interest in the mythologies of other countries, but instead of writing them himself promotes other writers through his “Rick Riordan Presents” publishing imprint to do so!

https://www.barnesandnoble.com/blog/kids/aru-shah-end-time-kicks-off-terrific-new-series-inspired-rick-riordan/

gabsyferreira-deactivated202504

Riordan is what JK Rowling wanted to be

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Infographic: Legally Married and Legally Fired, Center for American Progress

veggieheather

THIS THIS THIS

rosalarian

I’m continuously terrified that people will think LGBT rights is a finished fight as soon as marriage equality passes nationally. There’s still so much extremely important stuff to get to. Marriage is not an end goal.

osointricate

In high school one of the common fund raisers was carnation flowers for a dollar during prom season and valentines and a couple other times of year. And you could “order” flowers to be delivered to kids during their homeroom times so it was always a big deal to get flowers and it was super fun

But one of these fundraisers I had a guy friend who commented he never got any because he was always single or his girlfriend always expected flowers but never gave him any

So my senior year valentines I decided I was going to buy all the guys in my homeroom (which he was in) a carnation and said they were from “Anonymous Girl in your homeroom”

So the day came and all the guys started getting flowers and they all realized they were from the same one girl and all got super excited and giddy and protective of their flowers and all day long I saw the guys in my homeroom wear flowers behind their ears or stuffed in their notebooks and they flaunted them around to other guys that didn’t get flowers. One guy tried to see if it would make his girlfriend jealous. A couple of them tried to play detective to figure it out who it was.

Then the next day apparently they all (or at least most of them) got together and bought all the girls in homeroom a carnation as a thank you to whoever it was so every girl in my homeroom got a bouquet of one from every guy (so it was a bouquet of about a dozen) and every single girl was smiling and happy and bouncy as the guys were the day before

And no one ever knew it was me but I was always super proud of that

ruby-white-rabbit

One simple act can have a ripple effect of kindness that grows as it spreads

skinnykooked

“Hello and welcome to my Tumblr. Here you probably won’t find any basic info about me like my name or what I usually like to do, but you absolutely will find all my deepest darkest secrets and emotions along with my body measurements”

fuck-philip-banks

the wise man at the nudist beach, when discovered by an acquaintance, covers not his dick but his face

swaglexander-the-great

i feel like diogenes fucking ghostwrote that last bit

memewhore

cobaltdays-deactivated20210208

titties out whole pussy out this frog don’t give a damn

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psa to all women:

i just found this super cool reusable menstrual pad that will save us thousands of bucks

apparently an average woman spends about $120/year on pads and tampons and an additional $20/year on medications for cramps and other period side effects. since we menstruate for approximately 40 years, we spend (40 times 140) = $5,600 for our period over our lifetime.

IMAGINE WHAT YOU CAN BUY FOR $5,600?!?!

which is why i turned to menstrual pads. eco-friendly, economical and healthy

also, im saying goodbye to everyone in the public bathroom knowing im on my period

i got the pads here and they have all the info on their website!

also check out other eco-friendly products with their info here!

voguediet

I’ve read about diapers, tampon and pads containing toxic chemicals:

“A recent study published in Reproductive Toxicology3 confirms the results of a previous study4 from 2014 demonstrating how the feminine care industry sells products containing harmful chemicals, including pesticides, fragrances, dyes and preservatives.”

So not only are menstrual pads cheaper, they’re also safer for your body!

humorqueen

sis i got this and have been using reusable pads for three years i can tell y’all it’s 100% reliable than your ex telling you hes a changed man, 100% discreet than your ex’s loud chewing and 100% healthier than your toxic relationship

so stop thinking of your ex and start using reusable pads instead

pokemonsnapmemes

both sis got points but i dont know which point drove me into buying the pad

its probably thinking about what i can buy for $5,600 like thats so overwhelming thats 10% of my college debt right there

princessnotnow

I built my stock pile when I was like 19 and have been using them since. Take care of them and they’ll last a long time. Also cups are amazing! Both are way more comfortable imo too! Kind of large investment at first but I haven’t had to buy ANY period products in like 3 years.