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i see a lot of posts by truscum/transmeds who say things like “we’re not aggressive or violent towards nondysphorics/mogais, they’re just confused and we’re just trying to help!” which, well. why don’t you practice what you preach?

so, to every truscum/transmed, here are some ways you can help!

stop talking about brain sex. it’s been proved false.

stop telling everyone that you need dysphoria to be trans. you don’t. even the APA agrees with me. this is the dsm v’s criteria for gender dysphoria, and here’s a post explaining it. here’s another post about this.

stop saying that nondysphorics are “stealing Real™ trans resources.” it doesn’t work like that. also, instead of fighting over resources, why don’t we band together and fight for more resources…? it’s not like theres only so many surgeons in the world who have a finite amount of surgeries they can perform! maybe read these posts too?

maybe learn about nonbinary identities? or hey, even about xenogenders?

and while you’re at it, why don’t you read about how the idea of binary biological sex is wrong? oh sorry, you wanted some sources that aren’t from tumblr? why not bill nye?

here’s a big post about biological sex & gender identity.

stop hating on neopronouns. they’ve existed for a long, long time (i mean, even wikipedia will tell you this). language evolves. so should your understanding of it! (and yes, one of those links to an article about ‘failed’ pronouns - but the point isn’t that they didn’t catch on, it’s that they tried)

read through this ally page (from a blog focussing on binary trans, btw)

“transtrenders” aren’t medically transitioning and then regretting it. yes, sometimes someone thinks they’re trans and medically transitions and then later realises it was a mistake, but that’s very much not a common experience. a 2012 study says that only 3.8% of people regretted having some type of surgery, but this includes regret from bad & dodgy surgery, not just realising that this path wasn’t for them. this study cites regret rates from less than 1% up to 23%, but “the reported reasons for regret included adverse physical effects of surgery, loss of physical functioning, poor aesthetic result, failure to achieve desired effect, lack of support available before and after surgery, change in intimate relationship, psychological issues not recognized prior to surgery, and incongruence between patient preferences regarding decision involvement and their actual level of involvement.” no reported reasons were “i’m not actually trans.” this analysis from sweden studies cases from 1960-2010, and cites the regret rate as only 2.2%, with rates decreasing.

i could go on.

yes, this is a post that begins “articles to use against truscum” but i highly suggest actually reading through some of the linked articles & posts.

so just. stop? and think. thanks.

i’m sure theres a hundred other issues i didn’t address. but really, whether you’re dysphoric or not, binary or nonbinary, (medically) transitioning or not… we’re all transgender. we need to stop fighting amongst ourselves and band together to fight for each other. that’d be real nice.

- sincerely, your local dysphoric mogai.

everythingkin

people saying “me” really bugs me bc it’s like. appropriation of kin culture. I really don’t know how to explain it but saying you are someone without iding as them is really disrespectful to people who get bullied and targeted for being kin. you don’t have to go through the struggles of being kin but you get to make a joke about it. it’s not your fucking joke to make.

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Reblog if you want a terrible, 3 sentence fan fiction in your ask, based on your url

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THIS HAS OVER 40,000 NOTES AND WITHIN FIFTEEN MINUTES I FOUND THIS IN MY MESSAGES:

“and then i saw him walk across the room. he got very close to me and whispered “back that sass up”“

oroborochi

80,000 NOTES AND I GOT ONE!

“ He descended upon me, that pink archangel, with those pink and ripe nipples. “

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12 minutes “Oh not. Not another fire bender!” I said to myself. But then he came up behind me and grabbed my ass. So he’s cool now I guess 288,250 notes

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HALF AN HOUR AT MOST “Its okay,” he said leaning his walking stuck against the wall and removing the young man’s glasses “ let me frost your roll” matt the blind cinnamon roll blushes as his core softened for his new lover.

hawkeye221b

Try your best, i dare you.

lisianthoma

do it do it

send it in by submission, not ask, im cleaning asks out rn

jim-headquarters

come forth jims, show us what you’ve got

- Jim #6965

gracen-with-a-ph

Cmon I’m interested p

gracen-with-a-ph

I haven’t gotten one and I reblogged yesterday. please?????

aguecheek

@trans guys

ur face? thts a mans face

ur arms? manly as fuck

ur hair? omg rock it dude thats some boy’s hair right there

ur nose? wowwwoow thats a Boy’s Nose

ur legs? ive never seen legs that belong to a man more than urs do.

ur feet? Manly Af Feet !!!!!

ur hands? those are some man’s hands wow

ur eyes? man eyes!!!!!!!

ur lips? manly as HELL dude wow

ur ears? MAN! EARS!

ur chest? holy FUCK dude thats a MAN CHEST

ur butt? butts transcend gender, but u transcend butts. your butt is a man butt.

aroace-people-are-lgtbq

Everytime you say that queerplatonic relationships are just friendships, you owe the next aro person you see $500

And if you then say, “Have none of y'all had friends before?” You owe every single one of us $1000. It’s called the asshole tax Sorry I don’t make the rules

I'm so sorry you're getting hate, I think you're very sweet and beautiful! 🌹

Omg this is so sweet and pure I love u anon???

hey, you've been pretty MIA lately- you okay? just checking in.

Ya I'm mostly ok,,,, just feeling grossMy mom forced me to go away too camp and I just got back

prideponies

Rainbow Dash is a trans demigirl lesbian and Fluttershy is a panromantic demisexual feminine agender pony and they’re in a relationship!

(Requested by Anonymous!)

stevenu-lgbtq

Garnet is grayromantic and asexual, Peridot is southgender and bisexual, and the two are in a romantic relationship!

(requested by anonymous)

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Plurality Glossary

Age Sliding

An age slider is a system member whose age may change over the course of minutes, days, hours, or months, and who may progress forward or backward depending on circumstance, the person themself. This may be a result of shifting identity or shifting physicality within the inner world. Age sliding is the act of moving ages, while an age slider is a system member who does so or has done so in the past.

Alter

An originally psychological term for a system member. It can be short for alternate personality, alternate, alter ego, or alternate identity, many DID systems use this term, and it was once thought of as implying that system members were somehow ‘cardboard cutout’ in comparison to the host or core. As of recently it has become markedly more popular in denoting the same use as 'system member’. Psychological alternates to this term are: personality, parts, aspects, fragments (easily confused with the type of system member by the same name). See also: headmate, skullbuddy, system member, other, collectivemate, systemmate.

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Positivity for Everyone -- Factkin

Okay, so Mod Luna here, I don’t see factkin/factive positivity so here we go.

Shoutout to factkin and factives

Shoutout to coping factkin

Shoutout to spiritual factkin

Shoutout to factives who can’t choose who they’re a factive of

Shoutout to systems who are made up of factives

Shoutout to systems who have one factive and love them dearly

Shoutout to all factkin and factives, you are as valid as every other kin/system member out there

Shoutout to all factkin and factives because you are loved and the haters can hate all they want, they don’t know you.

Shoutout to factkin/factives, you are amazing and we accept you for who you are.

- Mod ☆Luna☆

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Aliagender, Aliusgender

Aliagender or Aliusgender: A gender identity that is “other” and/or that is outside of existing social constructs of gender.

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gemcritical

pearl

i used to love her. i understood where she was coming from, and i agreed with it. but when i look from other peoples perspective like garnet and amethysts and i see shes just an abuser who only cares about rose and herself.

i feel like Garnet/Amethyst have a different definition of “rebellion” than pearl does. garnet/amethyst is rebelling for love and for their home planet, but what is pearl doing it for? she did it for rose, the horrible mental abuser that picked up her problems and gave them to everyone else, shattered a diamond (granted, we dont know if pink diamond was good or bad), and locked bismuth away where only steven would find her and didnt tell anyone. pearl is still fighting for rose quartz, not steven. shes been crying over rose for all these years without letting anyone help her.

shes a terrible gem, and she needs to be treated as tbe antagonist she is

officialqueer

Honestly “queer” is so useful for people like me w/ a “complicated orientation” b/c instead of having to say I’m “asexual panromantic” and explain what that means, I can just say “I’m queer” and it tells you all you need to know (that I’m not straight).

violet-lesbiann

yeah sure good for you but don’t ever ever use that word for someone who doesn’t identify as it themselves, it’s not an umbrella term for everyone. also “pan/ace” would definitely work, even if you don’t want to use it, other people could. i use ace lesbian and definitely not the q slur.

lesbianpeachs

Wow its almost like they were just talking about using it on themselves for individual reasons and you butted in to be an ass and be condescending because you think you’re superior for not using queer, then you called their identity a slur right to them. But that can’t possibly be what you were trying to do, right?

violet-lesbiann

Anyone is allowed to use it for themselves, I never said no one should do that if that’s what they want. Queer is a slur though. I just want people to be aware of that, I have no idea if OP is aware of that or not but some people using that word aren’t. I’m tired of people including me and other people who don’t want to be included in that word, and before anyone asks, I never meant that OP did that, because I literally have no idea if they do.

lesbianpeachs

Queer is a slur as much as any other LGBT+ word, I just want you to be aware of that.

“Gay” is used as an insult. It is used to be demeaning. Its used to discriminate. And yet its used as the all mighty umbrella - gay rights, gay marriage, gay community - when discussing the entire community.

Gay gets used as a slur. Queer gets used as a slur. But I don’t walk up to gay people and say “your identity is a slur, you know that right” or get pissed when they say “the gay community” when they mean the whole community.

Personal identity and preference in terms, even harmful words that get used as slurs, are not questioned; except for the word Queer.

Queer gets shut down. Queer people get others in their faces saying “your identity is a slur!” Queer people don’t have the freedom to identify in a community, but are forced under other terms against their will due to hypocrisy and double standards.

So if you’re not going to come onto gay people’s posts for the same behavior, maybe critically analyze why exactly you feel the need to be so condescending to Queer people, specifically on posts that ONLY have to do with personal identity. Why you feel the need to insist to Queer people that their identities are slurs, to directly slap away the power of reclaiming a word from them by demanding it remain in the hands of the Straights as a perpetual slur.

jormunganndr

I think an important difference between gay and queer is however, that queer started out as a slur used against members of the community and continues to be used as a slur in many places. Whereas gay began as a word the community chose itself to describe itself and was then later used by homophobes and heterosexuals in general in a negative way, meaning however, that gay doesn’t hold the same negative connotations as queer for many people simply because it was our word that they took, and not a word that they forced on us to make us “strange” or “other” like queer means.

lesbianpeachs

That’s…. Not true. People think so because the history before gay was reclaimed is way older (older than any love community member’s lifetimes, probably,) but gay had the exact same origins.

It was meant to denote sexually perverse people, most frequently sex workers and those who hired them. Anyone who participated in anything but married, vanilla, straight sex might have been referred to as “gay,” including any suspected LGBT person.

The word (already being one frequently used on the community,) was reclaimed as a community identifier when the community wanted to disconnect from the clinical and diagnostic implications of “homosexual.”

There is record of queer being reclaimed and used as a personal identifier literally before the popularization of gay. Both words are reclaimed slurs with negative histories, and BOTH are used as slurs against the community still to this day.

The more recent history of the mid to late 20th century more prevalently favored queer as a slur, as is represented in our media. However its clearly undeniable that the switch back to gay as the popular community slur (along with the ever present f slur,) happened in the 2000s. Which is trying to be denied and rewritten by the anti queer crowd, who completely ignore the words popularity with community members who actually lived through when it was a popular slur.

lanewilliam

Yes to all of this. When it comes to words for “not straight” there are hardly any choices that didn’t originate as ways to stigmatize or pathologize us. We are all using reclaimed slurs to describe ourselves.

Also, queer is reclaimed in a particularly empowering way. It doesn’t just mean “same-sex attraction” but encompasses a whole spectrum of attractions and gender orientations. It’s a word that says to asexuals, pansexuals, bisexuals, trans folks, genderfluid and genderqueer and genderless folks and people who are still figuring themselves out, “hey, you’ve got a home here. We don’t need to categorize you to love you.”

This is important because there are a lot of divisions within the LGBTQ+ world, and in particular cis gay men and cis lesbians often overlook or exclude trans, bi and asexual people. Queer is the only word that not only demands equal acceptance for everyone, but leaves the door open for words and descriptors that haven’t even been invented yet.

Somebody else pointed this out earlier to me, and of course I’ve lost the post, but it’s really suspicious that of all the reclaimed slurs, the one that gets the most pushback is the one that is most radically accepting of all identities

27-teacups

“hey, you’ve got a home here. We don’t need to categorize you to love you.”

Lmao yeah! the pushback against this idea is overt and disgusting and I don’t trust anybody who perpetuates it.

Queer is an ideology and an identity, historically and now. It is an umbrella for that ideology and an umbrella for those identities, historically and now. They can’t be conflated (with LGBT) and it’s super fucking disingenuous to pretend one is just the tarnished besmirched dirty slur version of the other. They’re different. In my particular work for example, Queer bioethics is different from LGBT bioethics and conflating the two will muddle any discussion you try to have about them because they lead to literally opposite conclusions in some cases.

thispotterhead

Yeah I freaking love pancakes

thispotterhead

Wait wrong post

officialqueer

By far the best addition to this post

uphillbothways

This is one of those things where I feel like an old. Like, *the* slogan I associate with pride is, “We’re here, we’re queer – get used to it!” There was a TV show called “Queer Eye for the Straight Guy” that was total mainstream pap. (Not that the show wasn’t riddles problematic elements from the concept out, but ‘queer’ in the title was clearly meant as a positive.) I just have a hard time processing queer as anything but reclaimed.

officialqueer

They actually shot “Queer As Folk” in my city!

river-b

TERFs and radical gender/sexuality bianarists are flooding social media and blogging sites with propaganda smearing the word queer in the hopes of silencing all of us who don’t identify with their hate politics. I fought hard to reclaim the word queer in the late 80s and early 90s, and it’s the one word that doesn’t worship exclusion. Which is why these people are trying to convince you not to use it. fuck that noise. there is literally no word i could use to identify my sexuality that hasn’t been thrown at me in hatred, fear, and violence. No way am I giving up the one of those that allows me to talk about all of my community without trying to put people in boxes they don’t fit in.

monanotlisa

I will never not reblog this post. Queer, queer, queer here.

mswyrr-deactivated20181203

“Queer” has been claimed by queer people as a self-descriptor since at least 1910. It’s an insult to those historical people (and all the generations of queer historical people who have identified as queer since then) to pretend that the people using it as a slur owned it more than the queer people who used it as a self-descriptor.

Source: George Chauncey, “Gay New York,” page 101

killerchickadee

They don’t want us to use queer because they don’t want to be lumped in with anyone who’s not cis gay or cis lesbian. So fine. You don’t like the word queer? You don’t want to be in the “queer” community? Get the fuck out, then. Y'all don’t welcome us in your community anyway, so we’ll just have our own.

And it’ll be queer as fuck.

gettzi

I fucking love the word queer ❤

notanadult

The pushback against queer is RECENT. Look, kids. I’m officially Old. And when my little queer (bisexual, grey-asexual) arse was realising this, I was in HIGH SCHOOL. And you know when that was? This was before AZT use was widespread. HIV was a death sentence. You know who nursed those guys, ran their errands and sat with them as they were dying from AIDS? Well, me, for one (mostly I was just doing grocery shopping but I sat my fair share of deathbed vigils as a young teen) but it was the queer community. That was how we identified. And lesbian women and trans folk and people from ALL KINDS of orientations got together and cared for these people (mostly gay men and trans women, and a lot of sex workers in there). We were queer. And we were, and still are, fucking angry. Betrayed by our governments, in lots of cases disowned by our families, all we had was each other. And we were queer. And then later, we had queer studies and queer theory at uni. This is over 20-30 years ago. They do not name university courses after slurs. They named it after OUR IDENTITY. So you children, who never nursed your dying friends want to come along and declare MY IDENTITY A SLUR? FUCK YOU. FUCK YOU, FUCK YOU, FUCK YOU. YOU ARE WRONG. YOU ARE AHISTORICAL AND YOU. ARE. WRONG. Fuck you. Fuck your exclusionary politics. Gay has been used as a slur far more recently than queer. As has lesbian. You want to police the queer community. You want to gate-keep. You want to exclude people like me, you want to define what a woman is, what genders people can be. WE’RE HERE, WE’RE QUEER. Get used to it.

geekandmisandry

Honestly, the way some people act it’s like. . You can’t reclaim slurs, but you can’t create new words without being branded the butt of a joke, so people who don’t feel like outlet labels fit them are supposed to just sit and suffer in silence.

If you don’t want to be called queer then fine, but don’t erase the history of those who used it, who fought for it TO be used as an umbrella term. If you don’t want it applied to you then fine, but don’t say what it should and shouldn’t be used for. I know that many people hear it as a slur and don’t want it applied, but to say it can’t be an umbrella term based on that doesn’t make sense. “Gay” is one of the absolutely most common slurs I have ever heard used in my life and it still gets used and applied to umbrella situations. If we went off of if things have been used against us as slurs then we wouldn’t have anything to call ourselves.

I’m here, I’m queer, and it took me a damn long time to get used to it and I’m not going back now.

autisticatt

This post has helped me. I am asexual, autistic, i have issues due to sexual trauma, i am agender… I thought i couldnt use the word queer. Thanks to you guys i feel welcome.

I am queer, thanks.

variablejabberwocky

if you get no thing else out of this post (because i know its long) i suggest you at least try to get this:

It’s a word that says to asexuals, pansexuals, bisexuals, trans folks, genderfluid and genderqueer and genderless folks and people who are still figuring themselves out, “hey, you’ve got a home here. We don’t need to categorize you to love you.”

because it is fantastic

jumpingjacktrash

you can get a phd in Queer Literature.

enough of this terf shit. learn your history and stop being the private army of anyone who sounds offended.

blatantnerdery

@alienatedaugmenter Here’s a continuation of that conversation from before - said way better than I ever could, regarding the word queer and its history.

defilerwyrm

Relevant to today’s bullshit on Twitter.

fierceawakening

I love love love all the history in this post! So I really hate to be That Person, but do we actually know for sure that this “q-slur” type discourse *actually*, in point of fact, came from TERFs, rather than just being “the sort of thing a TERF would probably say?” I don’t doubt that your average radical feminist doesn’t like the word queer, especially as used in academics–it’s a very different lens for looking at this stuff than “oppression of women is ultimately based on physical sex, thus lesbianism is a political act as much as a personal one.” But I don’t see actual evidence for the claim that TERFs are the ones who popularized this discourse. (Actually, a lot of the people I see complaining about “queer” are non-USians, not radfems. Which makes me think that some of this is a regional issue.) (My position is “when USians use it, just shrug and mutter about the horrid ickiness of American English. That bastard.”) Is that a theory, or is that known history?

thatonemushroom

I’m 99% sure it’s a theory needlessly added because… boy, y'all sure like to fight to the death over werds…

lesbianpeachs

For me its an actual personal experience I had in my formative feminism years when TERFs snatched me up and started brainwashing me.

I was both taught and trained that being anti queer was part of feminist (radfem) theory, and TERFs themselves admitted to it being their thing.

You can probably find years old anti-queer posts made by by young me floating around here, because I was repeating what my “feminist peers” had taught me.

There’s also…tons of testimony of this, particulary by qwoc who talk about the push back to the Queer movement in the 90s, though it really ought to be specified it was also white feminists, not just radfems.

Not that anyone wants to search and read that bullshit, but I’m 100% certain there’s published TERF shit on this that IS actually traceable, but there’s also a good deal of personal testimony (as is with most of queer history,) and as my friend said, there’s literally not a printable internet receipt for everything out there.

- robotbisexual

kansass-deactivated20230224

being nice is so easy just do it

safegore-deactivated20190610

you sound neurotypical

skineater1998

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gramarye

person: hey be nice it’s easy some jackass on tumblr dot com: um ACTUALLY? some of us are mean and hurtful to COPE :/ you ableist FUCK

baggvinshield

I know this is just The Discourse and no one on this hell site cares about being like, subtle, or about not making statements that paint broad brush strokes over people; I know individual person centeredness isn’t really a thing in these conversations.

But I work with neurodivergent people in social services and the truth is that some people, because of their diagnosis(es), really can’t tell the difference between being nice and being rude, have impulse control issues that result in lashing out verbally and physically, have no empathy due to a personality disorder, etc. There are some people whose barriers to a “normal"life are so severe that they have few if any relationships that AREN’T with professional support staff. So yeah, for them being nice all the time isn’t always easy, and it’s not because “’‘coping”“”. Whether someone is “nice” or not is subjective as fuck in the first place. But I would bet they weren’t OP’s intended audience when they sat down to make that post.

lesbianpeachs

I tend to hate literally any “just be/do ______ its easy” posts because they literally ignore the existence of certain nd/disabled people every time. There are no universally easy things to be/do, the end.

stevenu-lgbtq

Steven is bi, Connie is aro/ace, and the two are in a queerplatonic relationship!

(requested by anonymous)

The whole "LGBTQIIAP+" acronym is getting completely out of hand. As a lesbian woman, can we please just shorten it to "not straight" or "not normal" or something? Because it's getting to the point where it's impossible to actually say.

um that would be erasure...

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