THE HEAT IN THE KITCHEN? . . . .
" . . . It was my husband who was always talking about huge cocks and me having sex with men with big ones. . . . He pushed and pushed and pushed and when i finally said okay, he acted as if it was something I wanted to do all along. . . . talk about women being manipulating . . . ."
I've received a rash (more than a few) of messages talking about women and size queens and was surprised to communicate with a wife who shared that her husband who started asking her about it and pushed her over and over about whether or not she wanted to have sex with a "big guy" then whether or not she wanted to have sex with a "big black guy". This happened over a period of time where it went from "Look at this guy, would you believe it?" ( a photo of a guy with a huge rod) and continued on up until his continued focus led her to say it would be interesting to experience since he said he would be okay with her doing so and then "Yes, I would like to do it." It was as if a mask came off. Suddenly her husband is telling her "I knew it! You've wanted a bigger cock all along." Then, on to "You've been craving for black dick, admit it?". She wasn't a size queen, she shares and her husband shouldn't want her to be, she goes on to say, saying he isn't anywhere near huge and she isn't into being a pain princess because she has a sister who had a "big" boyfriend and there was vaginal tearing, etc. which she shared about with our wife here. Now, I'm not going to get into an "It will fit if you want it" discussion. The focus of this article is this husband wants his wife to have sex with guys with big rods, obviously for his pleasure, or be at least open to freely talking about it. So he brings it up, keeps it up, pushes and when she finally says "I'm game." he immediately asserts he was right all along and she's asking herself "Right about what?" and he comes back and says to her: "You've wanted it all along."
Her problem: Now he's into feeling inadequate and always saying he is so she must want more which has transmuted into "Are you enjoying big dick on the side?" at times. She shares that she might fantasize about adultery but isn't into it but her husband believes she has because he manipulated the situation as he did so why the hell not. And she has. And he's clueless at present and will remain so even though he keeps telling her if she decides to do so it is okay with him.
I selected the illustration I have because, yes, along the way he bought her a toy similar to what you see and so she finds herself "frequently probed" as much and more than she is frequently fucked. She's being shrewd . . .in the sense that she is acting as if it all a couple's fantasy, etc, However, since she has been (crass, yes) stretched already why not the real thing just for the hell of it . . . so she did. I won't get into how and when it started because she shares she is still scratching "husband-induced itch" because he may be all "into the scene" so far but can't know for sure how he would respond if she did tell him.
Men fantasize about their wives and other men but when the "rubber meets the road", often, despite their enthusiasm, suddenly they are apprehensive, all the usual relationship issues emerge in his mind, the "Oh, God, what have I done?" . It has to be the other person's fault because they did the deed . . . a responsibility reversal which we woman are often accused of engaging in. It happens.
I write this article to share in part that often men are like women, we manipulate others so they will believe what we want is their idea or something they did while I was just joking or never serious but said nothing when the deed went down and started bitching, etc, after it happened. Another point to consider is the usual oft-overlooked reality that the spouse is another individual with their own minds which we can't read so one can't really be sure of what the other is thinking. . . .that is what is meant when it comes to trust between spouses. Yes, this last statement opens pandora's box. Still, it's a true statement. Within all the cuckold focused porn I see online, etc, what I see is this projecting of a husband's thoughts and ideas to his wife when that may not be. Oh, spouses may and should share their sensual desires, etc. But don't project on them desires they may not really desire despite being married.
Will a husband, if a wife goes for it, actually be happy if she did? Moreso, how will it affect the relationship? This isn't the first time I've addressed this topic and it won't be the last. Maybe this is a case of "If you can't stand the heat, stay out of the kitchen."
Toys can be fun . . . well, they are fun. I indulge all the time in any number of ways. Things sensual and sexual are central in a marriage or special relationship so the freedom to explore and experience is not only fun but should be encouraged. However, when it comes to encouraging a spouse to step outside the marriage, that is another issue, especially when you project your own feelings on your spouse and that is what has happened here. The wife here, who shares that she is straying and playing, in now waiting to see if her husband will create that situation where he wants to see her do the deed. When that happens she will "play her part and be surprised at what she's done" etc . . . but until then, while she is open to things big cock when it comes to their toy play, porn, etc. she is staying mum. Even then she isn't sure and that is one reason she messaged me . . . having read my articles where I have been honest and spoken to the risks that come when adultery occurs.
According to this wife, her husband all the time uses the phrase "21st Century wife" instead of the time-worn but still used "modern wife". It would seem that would mean an open marriage. Here's the rub, at least for her: He hasn't actually said that is what he wants. So what I am thinking is he is at what I will call the "personal porn star stage" or placing himself where he feels he can fuck other women without fear (or as an excuse) because his wife wants other cocks and big ones at that even though she hasn't actually done so.
A lot can be said and from any number of perspectives. However, i share as I have so others will see this isn't an uncommon practice between couples especially today. Can the husband here "handle" knowing his wife is engaging in the casual sex he says he knows she always wanted when he doesn't know for sure?
Can he stand the heat and come in the kitchen?
This isn't well written but these are my thoughts as I sit naked in a short terry robe overlooking the lake behind the house. Enough said. Forgive the flaws and imperfections you will find in my writing.
This thought comes to mind: What has occurred can be compared to the husband throwing out a challenge similar to the gauntlet that medieval knights would cast when they did so (challenged). What would really happen if the wife picked it up and did more than look at it? More food for thought.
