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[honeyxhustle]

I haven't sugared in a long time but I miss it sometimes. Not just the money, I miss the acting too.

[babyvsbowl]

[sensei-silvia-blog]

Reasons You Shouldn’t Be a Sugar Baby

Warning: Unpopular Opinions Ahead

There are some fun posts floating around the tags that have been irking the hell out of me, so I want to make it really clear the reasons you should not be a sugar baby. 

1. You are the type of friend that consistently fishes for compliments by down-talking yourself. Sugaring is about marketing yourself as a luxury commodity worthy of investment. If you are the type of person that people feed positivity to because you dump negativity - do not enter the sugar bowl. That backfires with sugar daddies and POTs. You say “Oh yeah but I’m so fat haha lol ;) ;)” and they think “Well I guess I don’t have to offer her as much as the next heaux.” ESPECIALLY WHEN THAT SHIT IS DISINGENUOUS. No one can create your confidence for you, AND it’s no one else’s job. It is your job. Sugaring is 80% confidence. If you don’t have it, you’re chum for the sharks.

And? That shit is annoying. Literally every time someone does that to me I go “Well I’m sorry you feel that way.” And just move on.

2. You have some sort of personality or anxiety disorder which makes it impossible* for you to go out and meet new people (i.e. men). Yeah, this probably makes me very unpopular for saying the basic-est most obvious thing. Being an online sugar baby is basically being a cam girl and NO shade to cam girls - but that’s a totally different ball game from sugaring. SOME sugar babies can make it in the online-only realm and those heaux are like… I don’t know 1 out of 1000. I am not cut out to be a cam girl because I’m not very photogenic and I have a day job that requires I never have nudes leak onto the internet or anywhere else. You’re not cut out to be a cam girl either if you thinking camming is just being a whack-ass sugar baby. 95% of the time an SD is going to expect to see you, in person.

3. You are violently opposed to doing anything to improve your appearance. I’ve basically read every iteration of “I don’t want to brush my hair, can I still get a SD?” Like seriously? The fuck? Fun Fact That No One Wants to Admit: Most sugar babies are probably a 6-8 out of 10 on an off day. I have no problem admitting that I’m probably a 6-7. We are not all supermodels. For those of you that are - bless your genes. But I am not the one. This isn’t a lack of self-confidence; it’s self-awareness. Now. When I have my hair done, make-up to slay, an outfit where my waist is snatched, my tits are so high I can rest on them like a pillow, and my ass looks like I just came back from Brazil? Bitch please, I am a shiny dime. This is a superficial world. If that offends you on some deep personal spiritual kumbaya-ass level, may I suggest - another line of work? 

4. You’re lazy. Yes. I motherfucking SAID IT. Sugaring is hard work. It’s sending out messages, taking great photos, constantly checking emails and profiles, following up on POTs who are 90% salts. It’s going out on first dates, getting rejected, having people ghost, it’s WORK. If you don’t want to put in the work, don’t do it! You will waste your time. It’s not sit there, look pretty, rack in 10k. and YES - 95% of the time that means you will have to FUCK your SD. I’m not even going to talk about platonic sugar babies because as far as I’m concerned that shit is like the Yeti or the Loch Ness Monster or the New Jersey Devil - I can’t prove it doesn’t exist… but the evidence that it does exist is shaky at best.

5. You have a sex negative attitude / Old men repulse you. Girl bye. I can’t even. Good luck. How stupid and naive you must be to believe that even though you can’t stand old men… you can somehow get them to pay you for your company? Are you Viola Davis or Julia Roberts? Because you better be an Oscar-winning actress for that shit. You think any wealthy man wants to spend time with someone who cringes every time you touch them? You think THAT’S what they want to invest their money in? 

6. You haven’t done the research / You don’t listen to advice. How many times have I seen posts that say “OMGZ I totally wanna be a sugar baby now heheehhehe wut do i do?!” Meanwhile. The tag. Is filled. With advice. Reading is fundamental people. Funda-fucking-mental. If you want specific advice. Ask. Specific. Questions. To. Specific. People. Bloggers who are good at the thing you want to do. Do your research and don’t waste people’s time. 

I’m so sorry but I just had to get all that shit off my chest. 

Not everyone is cut out to be a sugar baby.

Wanting to be a sugar baby is not enough. 

Being cute is not enough.

*Note: I said impossible. I know many sugar babies, escorts, FSSW, etc. who have some kind of anxiety disorder which makes it difficult for them to go out and meet new people. But they are able to work through it somehow and get the shmoney. There is a difference between difficult and impossible.

[texasblacksugar]

Spectacular post.

[brownsugarcinnamonbun]

EVERYONE SHOULD READ THIS

[sugarbabeash]

i’m such a fatass that i’d i had a SD hook up his credit cards to my delivery services in place of an allowance i would probably take it.

[honeyxhustle]

Tbh this would be amazing. How nice would it be to never have to be stressed about getting to the grocery store or cooking dinner after working?! Also you could order junk or healthy shit. I'm into it lol

[noturfknbaby]

What’s your favorite type of toy to use?

A man

[sucrosebabe-blog]

Money & Rich Men

When it comes to men with money and sharing that money with a hot young thing like you, I just think of it like if it were the other way around and I was the rich one.

Because 100% if I cared about/wanted someone and knew money was a quick fix to most of their problems, I’d be throwing it their way.

Even now I actually have to limit what I let myself spend on family and friends because I want to treat them and make their lives easier and watch their face light up when I give them something, especially if it’s nothing to me.

So in my opinion, if a rich man gives a damn about you, it shouldn’t be a question of “should I finesse or no”, it should just happen because he knows you’ll appreciate it. When you ask he should go above and beyond. If you have bills to pay, one word and it should be done.

None of this pulling teeth to get a single penny out of him bullshit. None of this “if you really cared you wouldn’t ask” or “it doesn’t feel real if I’m giving you money” bullshit.

Nah. If he’s loaded and cares about you, it shouldn’t even be a question. You should be living in luxury same as him.

[f0reignluxe-deactivated20221120]

This is 30000% accurate

[sugaran0n]

Letter to a jealous sugar daddy 👿

My travel SD found my SA profile and sent me an angry email asking if I was spending “his” money on clothes for other dudes. This is how I responded and it worked like a f*kn charm. He’s the passionate, lookin’ for love type so I match his tone. He came back offering to switch to monthly allowance and to pay my tuition. Watch and learn ,)

Dear —-,

I wanted to replace the blue dress with something form fitting, since that’s what you like and most of my wardrobe is loose and shapeless. As for the photos, it saddens me to think that you would doubt whether those were for you. But I don’t think explanations really do much to ease feelings of jealousy. 

I am open to the option of exclusivity. There isn’t anyone else, and I would be happy to end my search for further financial support. It didn’t occur to me as a possibility, given that you support a whole family. 

There are some things I would like to draw to your attention about my commitment to our relationship. Each time we go away, I lie to my parents about where I am. This may seem insignificant but it makes me sad, anxious, and uncomfortable for several reasons, particularly because they are not in good health. In November my shifts at —– were cut back because I had been asking for too much time off. When I came back from our trip to San Fransisco I was told they had hired someone in my place because it was evident that I didn’t “need” the job. I’ve also been experiencing some degree of loneliness the past few months. You have never before made it seem like it would be an issue if I had a “normal” boyfriend, but our arrangement precludes that possibility. I take no issue with your infidelity. In fact I have a lot of compassion for your situation. But for myself, I am not comfortable pursuing even casual relationships without being honest about my dating situation. Which means I do not date at all.

I haven’t discussed these things with you up until now because, quite simply, they are not your problems. They are consequences of decisions I’ve made. I didn’t want to make them “our” problems, because I think part of what makes our time together so incredible is the amount of freedom and acceptance that we give each other. However, had I better anticipated the personal and financial risks associated with being with your travel companion, I would have asked for a more generous gift structure. Make no mistake, you have given me so many experiences that I treasure deeply. But like any kind of “secret” relationship, no matter how passionate and loving, it comes with an aspect of burden.  

I can understand the insecurity you’re feeling but I feel unappreciated when you talk like this. I like to think you see some strength of character in me, as I see in you. I care deeply about you ——-. I’m not sure if what we need is better communication, to change the structure of our arrangement, or a combination of both. Tell me what you think you need. I hope we can work this out.

Love,

– 

🐍❤️

*I asked for $3K in compensation for losing my job and he complied

** I might be a literal genius

*** And yes, I’m a scorpio 

[russiancleopatra-deactivated201]

What I learnt today

It doesn’t matter how spiritually connected you feel to your SD, it doesn’t matter how much he’s spoiling you or tell you nice things that make you blush. Your relationship will end someday: his wife will find out, he wakes up bankrupt or just leaves you randomly, it doesn’t matter which, but it will end once. So ask him to buy that Chanel bag no matter what, ask that career question no matter what, let him introduce to you someone else No. Matter. What.

[sugarbabeash]

I’m Sugaring in DC and I need sugar friends! Can you help me :)

DC babes LIKE AND REBLOG

[keepitpushinggg]

What exactly would you say to a POT who says what is in it for him?

[darling-inamorata]

moroccansuggar  and anyone else

Flip that question right back at him.

Why?

BECAUSE HE KNOWS WHAT HE’S GETTING OUT OF THIS SITUATION.

He knows his ass is getting any one or all three of these:

companionship 

sexual favors

being seen with a beautiful & intelligent woman on his arm

And most times when a POT ask you this question, it’s to determine if whether or not they can either play you to their tune, trying to decided if you are trying to get nothing but the money (which is a fucking joke because…hello, why do you think we met?!) or scam you with a low budget P4P.

And if you don’t want to flat out ask him “What’s in it for me?”

Try: 

“We both met through/by (insert wherever you found each other) so you know exactly what’s in it for you.(insert some flirty emoji or if talking face to face gently touch his hand for a second and proceed to the follow-up) So, do me a quick run through of what’s in it for me.” 

or

“We both don’t want to get played in this type of situation and I’m also wondering what I get out of this. So, how about we each list one by one the things we want and we will negotiate whether or not it works for the both of us.”

Always include a “We” or “Us” in this process because this makes a bigger connection with him and gives him a feeling that the both of you are on the same page and in this together (even if you know you’re not or don’t feel like it yet) and will most likely get him to open up more so you can work off of him and figure out what he’s looking for and hustle off of that.

This is my process and it hasn’t failed me yet so I hope it works for you as well!

[honeyxhustle]

I have a dress for the wedding I'm going to this Friday. Not sure how my sd is going to want to introduce to his friends so we'll have to have that conversation before the ceremony. I've been a +1 To a wedding once before and it was pretty fun. I just wish I could get a little high before the reception because I'm sure the food will be great.

[honeyxhustle]

Looking Ahead!

I just broke things off with my one regular sd, but I'm about to start a new thing with a new guy I've been on a few dates with. We're going to a wedding together this Friday. I'm excited because he is treating me to the spa first and I'm going to get a massage and I might get a blow out just to wear to the wedding/reception. I haven't picked out a dress yet, but I'll find something appropriate. The only thing I'm working out is how he's going to give me my allowance. He had suggested PayPal but I heard that is not recommended. I'll have to do some more research on the best way to do money transfers. Cash is ok, but I would like to be able to easily transfer the money into my account.

[honeyxhustle]

I finally broke up with the one anti-Semitic sd and I feel so much better. It's weird that this was honestly my first time experiencing that kind of grossness out in the world. He took it really well and I'm happy I haven't heard from him since.

[leiralela]

I actually can’t believe that I’ve been using Tinder since 2012…

Well, finally using it to benefit ME! SA has been quite stale lately, so I figured I’d try seeing what Tinder has going on.

This is a conversation from today and I’m surprised with his receptiveness! Honestly, I need to figure out how to bring up an allowance… at the very least I’ll present it as financial assistance to help with rent… my rent isn’t cheap after all!

Excited to see where this goes. He’s in his late 30′s and very handsome.

[honeyxhustle]

I need to end things with one of my sd's just because he annoys the shit out of me and I'm getting so tired of his vaguely anti-Semitic jokes. But I'm legitimately so scared of his reaction. He doesn't have my real name, but he knows the city I live in. I just need to tell him and be done with it and if there's fall out I'll deal with it.

[honeyxhustle]

I want to take my sd's pets. My one sd has a cat and she is the cutest and he says he doesn't want her anymore. She's so affectionate and she loves me. And my other sd has this dog that that upon meeting me realized that her owner is a creep.

[honeyxhustle]

Any of y'all ever had your sd offer you coke? I don't really like coke, but I'm so bad at saying no to things. I also don't like to drink, but I usually feel obligated to have at least 2 drinks on a date.