[hermajestyimher]

Work on yourself in silence, don't expect to be revered by others for your improvements. Improve for yourself only and don't involve yourself in messy interpersonal situations. Be above all the mediocrity, toxicity, and chaos around you. You don't owe a reaction or complicity to the people around you.

[boy4days]

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[the-joy-of-knowledge]

Writing essays will save you

The title may be a bit of a stretch but I believe writing essays will indeed improve the quality of your thinking. If you are at a dinner party, a networking event, an interview and you struggle with articulating yourself or expressing your well thought out ideas, then it is because you do not write effectively. I do not think writing is the panacea to all our elocutionary gaps but I do believe it is a corollary to voracious reading and fastidious learning. 

Some people have the privilege of speaking  and writing eloquently because the habit was cultivated early in their lives through attending great schools, having parents who engaged them intellectually and having additional resources like books, tutors, summer camps etc. This early engagement give kids a precocious talent for speaking and in fact writing.

But for you and I who do not have the above privileges but have noticed that there is a gap between what we know and what we are able to articulate, then it’s important to take the route of writing personal essays. 

I am compelled to do so because the more i learn, the more aware I become of the profound depth that one requires to navigate the world with intelligible diction and compelling writing. So, this is equal part a guide for you and selfishly for me as I am preparing for my GRE.

The GRE Verbal section encompasses reading comprehension, sentence equivalence,  text completion, and analytical writing (although this is a stand alone section, I am including it as part of the prep process). To succeed, I need to read actively, expand my vocabulary and also write essays. Here essay writing becomes the culmination of my endeavors because a well written essay is indicative of critical thinking and contextual application of retained knowledge. 

So, writing going forward on Tumblr will be bifurcated into critical thinking and contextual application of retained knowledge. Think of this as a series on how to be a better writer from a self-proclaimed neophyte who is on her own self improvement journey.

Let’s tackle it one at a time.

Contextual application of retained knowledge: Think of this as connecting the dots between the materials you read and then applying them by writing an essay. For instance, I read an article about Grandma Moses who was an American folk artist. She began painting seriously in her late seventies after a lifetime of farm and domestic labor.  She is widely celebrated for her vivid rural scenes, and she became an unlikely cultural icon, challenging conventional ideas about age. Immediately I began connecting the dots to some of the articles I have read about age, being a late bloomer, starting over in life, choosing the right career path etc. But the only way to actually apply this new learning is by first retaining it. To retain, I have learned, requires deep and active reading. It requires taking notes, making connections especially ones that can be connected to present day, the current zeitgeist,  one’s personal life. Application in it’s fullest in then expressed through writing. 

Critical thinking is the arduous process of consuming a material with curiosity first and then analysis second. You can’t analyze what you don’t understand. You also can’t analyze without fully grasping the author’s intent and that is why curiosity takes precedence. What is the? author’s main idea, purpose, tone? What can I infer? Once you can ask these preliminary questions while reading without judgement, then you can begin making analysis. Writing gives you the freedom to input your thoughts (analysis) on the material. Now you can make judgements, evaluate sources, scrutinize details.

Other helpful tips

Keep track of the new words you learn and phrases. I endeavor to underline phrases from the books i read. The metaphors, the evocative descriptions  to ensure I can imbue them into my speech and writing

Practice speaking without notes on a topic of interest. Make sure it’s recorded so you can read through the transcripts. Identify the gaps, hiccups, filler words, redundancies.

Use language models to refine both your writing and vocal script. Let it identify areas of improvement. Compare your unrefined essay or script to the refined one and spend time identifying areas to improve.

Be patient. Do not overwhelm yourself trying to do it all.

Spend as much recalling and reviewing as you spend learning new things. As you read new articles, write new essays, learn new words, go back and review previous assignments.

6. Give yourself a goal. 

Note:

Above is my writing. I can boldly say it is quite subpar. So, I want you to see the contrast between my skill and my taste. Not because it’s good, but because, I want you to join me on this journey.

I have run it through an AI chat bot (see below). My next step is to study the changes, and consciously absorb the patterns. The goal is not to sound like an AI bot. The goal is to train my own mind.

Here is the refined version

I asked to retain my style, content and tone

The title may be a bit of a stretch, but I believe writing essays genuinely improves the quality of one’s thinking. Let me paint a picture: you’re at a dinner party, a networking event, or an interview, and you struggle to articulate yourself or express ideas you know are well thought out. More often than not, that gap exists because you do not write effectively.

I don’t believe writing is a panacea for every elocutionary shortcoming, but I do see it as a natural corollary to voracious reading and fastidious learning. When paired together, they sharpen thought, structure ideas, and train the mind to move with precision.

Some people speak and write with ease because the habit was cultivated early in life—through strong schools, intellectually engaged parents, and access to resources like books, tutors, and summer programs. That early exposure often produces a precocious fluency in language and expression.

But for you and me—those of us who may not have had those privileges, yet are acutely aware of the gap between what we know and what we can articulate—the deliberate practice of writing personal essays becomes essential. Writing is how we close that distance.

I feel compelled to do this work myself. The more I learn, the more aware I become of the depth required to navigate the world with intelligible diction and compelling prose. This project is equal parts a guide for you and, selfishly, for me—as I prepare for the GRE.

The GRE Verbal section encompasses reading comprehension, sentence equivalence, text completion, and analytical writing. Although analytical writing is technically a standalone section, I consider it inseparable from the broader preparation process. To succeed, I must read actively, expand my vocabulary, and write consistently. Essay writing, in particular, becomes the culmination of these efforts, because a well-written essay signals critical thinking and the contextual application of retained knowledge.

Going forward, my learning and writing will be bifurcated into two tracks: critical thinking and contextual application of retained knowledge.

Let’s take them one at a time.

1. Contextual application of retained knowledge

Think of this as connecting the dots between what you read and then applying those insights through writing. For instance, I recently read about Grandma Moses, an American folk artist who began painting seriously in her late seventies after a lifetime of farm and domestic labor. She became celebrated for her vivid rural scenes and emerged as an unlikely cultural icon, quietly challenging conventional ideas about age and productivity.

Almost immediately, I began linking her story to essays I’ve read on late bloomers, starting over, age anxiety, and nonlinear career paths. But the only way this learning becomes durable is through retention—and retention requires deep, active reading. That means taking notes, drawing connections to contemporary life, the current zeitgeist, and one’s own experiences. Application, in its fullest sense, is ultimately expressed through writing.

2. Critical thinking

Critical thinking is the more arduous process. It begins with curiosity and only then moves toward analysis. You cannot analyze what you do not understand, and you cannot understand without first grasping the author’s intent. That is why curiosity must take precedence.

What is the author’s main idea? Their purpose? Their tone? What can be reasonably inferred? Once you can ask these questions without judgment, analysis follows naturally. Writing then becomes the space where you test your interpretations, introduce your own perspectives, evaluate sources, and scrutinize details with intention.

Other helpful practices

Track new words and phrases. I underline phrases as I read—the metaphors, the evocative descriptions—so I can consciously incorporate them into my speech and writing.

Practice speaking without notes. Choose a topic of interest, record yourself, and review the transcript. Identify gaps, filler words, redundancies, and moments of vagueness.

Use language models as refinement tools. Compare your original writing or script to a refined version and study the differences carefully. Improvement comes from noticing patterns.

Be patient. Avoid the temptation to do everything at once. Depth beats volume.

Recall as much as you consume. Review past essays, vocabulary lists, and notes as often as you acquire new material.

Give yourself a goal. Direction sharpens effort.

Here are the tips to improve my writing to read like the improved version.

Reduce repetition Say each idea once, in its strongest form.

Replace abstract claims with concrete examples Show what the idea looks like in real life.

Remove hedging language Cut “I think,” “I believe,” “it seems,” etc.

Strengthen topic sentences Make the main point clear at the start of each paragraph.

Shorten and tighten sentences Split long sentences; keep one idea per sentence.

Improve logical flow Ensure each sentence clearly follows the one before it.

Add clear transitions and signposting Guide the reader through your argument.

Move from personal reflection to universal insight Connect “my experience” to a broader principle.

Increase precision of language Replace vague words with specific ones.

Cut unnecessary adjectives and fillers Let meaning do the work.

End paragraphs with synthesis Explain why the paragraph matters.

Read aloud and revise for authority Fix anything that sounds unsure or awkward.

Separate drafting from editing Don’t polish while thinking.

Extract lessons for future writing Identify patterns to improve next time.

Let me know what you think. I am excited for this new series.

[widefuturesss]

One time on my bday I was standing in line for the concert of Ethiopian jazz pioneer, Mulatu Astatke, when some guy rushed up to me asking if I could speak English well, I said yes thinking it was an emergency… and suddenly he tells me to follow him and he rushes me backstage,, we kept going thru multiple doors and I was fr clueless. I had even left my friends in line so I was concerned. Suddenly we’re in front of theee Mulatu’s door. It was so surreal. I went inside and greeted the elder, he told me in a matter of fact tone that I would be reading his speech for him. The original reader was late and deep in my heart I knew it was destiny. It was Chineke giving me a beautiful gift. I was nervous tho, Mulatu had me read it over and over for him, he wanted me to pronounce certain words correctly. The speech was about Africa’s contributions to the world and it was in first person, so I was literally his mouth piece. The speech even had a small story about being friends with John Coltrane!!!! I felt beyond honored to be recanting a history I could only ever dream of living, my stomach did so many flips in that moment. That was soo fucking surreal. The man that pulled me out the line didn’t even know I’m a public speaker, we ended up working many times after that, but it was blessed. So blessed. I still have the speech!!!

[herfleur]

girl, your competition isn’t other people

it’s your bad habits ⋆ your distractions ⋆ your insecurities ⋆ your lack of discipline ⋆ your procrastination ⋆ your ego ⋆ your fears ⋆ your broken routine ⋆ your addictions ⋆ the person you don't want to be anymore

[digitalimprints]

Daddy duties
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[h01vd4l]

[achillesinhighheels]

you're already being perceived so do whatever you wanna do

[theposhsworld]

How to be the diva and terr0rist of your workplace and why? If you are nice you are what is served for dinner so be mildly problematic but not so much so that you are a target. Ask people to help you for little favours like get you coffee but be busy to do favours for others who don’t reciprocate. It has to be subtle.

Be confident and difficult. How does this work. One of my ladies has this colleague who wants her fired that points out her mistakes and weaknesses in front of everyone. So when her boss asked her colleague to do something that’s normally our lady’s domain but to her colleague because she was physically in the proximity she tried to off load her work on our girl. My advice was to tell the manager she keeps sending you her work to do for you on top of yours so say it directly so you can prioritize.

It’s about being petty. Be like Melania. Be cold, confident, beautiful and sophisticated. Don’t try to be warm or helpful. Be distant, cold and professional, say little. They won’t mess with you if you come across like a bish. Now if they do mess with you be petty.

When Trump told the Governor of Texas to redistrict the state so Republicans win & change the Maps, Governor Newsom of California redistricted the maps of California so more Democrats can get elected and tagged Trump on Twitter that Newsom Makes the Biggest, most beautiful and the Bestest Maps that does the most redistricting that you will be sick of redistricting. Trump attacked Maine & Minnesota and leaves Newsom alone & is scared of him while the red pill gay boys are switching from Vance to Newsom because this level of petty is the Queen energy that’s goals.

Ladies think of drag queens on Ru Paul’s drag race and how they throw shade or watch NiceNasty on Downton Abbey.

When it comes to throwing shade, practice makes perfect, don’t audition and take deep breaths . In Russia we call it thin trolling .

If your colleague at work says “you are dressed ridiculous, where are you going all made up, to a wedding “

Say “why does it bother you so much, why do you care .”

If they say “well an elegant image for customer service is important for business”

Say

“Of course an actual elegant image is important for customer service, your feelings and emotions are valid. At the same time most people abuse this word elegant when they actually mean boring and afraid of taking risk. My customers like that I add a bit of fun to their day and wear something interesting and my sales numbers back it up so kindly don’t give me unsolicited advice”

Then each time she has a weakness, point it out. If you are the mean girl there to get work done instead of make friends people will treat you better because the squeaky wheel gets the oil.

Don’t be aggressive for no reason but cold, unbothered , professional, put together like Melania Trump.

Ladies grooming is a weapon so make sure you always look neat. It’s better to be late than have a hair out of place. Wear heels, have one thing designer logo and look mean. Even if its kitten heels and red bottoms are the preferred bish heel.

Be a bish but not a pyscho.

In essence be a diva. Have a reputation for enjoying the finer things in life, ballet, lobster, caviar, oysters, opera, ballet and anything bougie. Be feminine and put together . Expect women to open doors for you and do things for you .

As a diva be a bit narcissistic , think you are the best, look put together and be demanding . Think how can you get to inconvenience other people so they invest in you and you win in the power dynamic .

Be charming and nice but subtly get people doing things for you and find ways to impose on people and gently push boundaries a little bit and so sorry you don’t mean to when you get caught .

Think you look like Marylin Monroe but you are the world’s best opera singer and a spoiled rich trust fund girl who never heard the word no, daddy’s little princess .

Don’t look too incompetent or competent . In the middle .

So in the office ask people for favours and help. If someone who has not done a favour for you asks for help, be busy or mess it up .

Basically mind your own business and make sure your colleagues mind theirs . Always validate yourself and never care to be liked.

In the Middle East we teach girls that it is a fool’s errand to seek approval to be liked, and smart women seek to be respected not liked.

If you seek approval you will never get it. If you seek respect of your boundaries and don’t care if people like you, you will be both respected and liked or even just respected and not hurt. I don’t care if I am hated, I care that my boundaries are respected which is why I am loved.

It’s normal for us as children to want to be a good girl and find safety in seeking approval from our parents but the adult world doesn’t work that way . In the adult world we can only get approval, permission and validation from ourselves.

As an adult you balance being fun with being difficult , to be competent at something .

The way Trump is disagreeable to the extreme only got him places in New York’s mafia ridden real estate but is too aggressive as a woman. You will be called a masculina, look at Hillary Clinton. Now Mark Carney’s approach to promote Canada’s interests against an aggressive Trump is exactly how spoiled affluent ladies behave.

Trump threatened to wreck Canada’s car industry and take all the jobs to America . Carney was petty . He said nice things to Trump and turned around and made a deal with China to make Chinese cars in America . At Davos he made a speech about a post American world where middle size countries have to work together and promote our self interest and not what we wish it to be . Prime Minister Mark Carney got a standing ovation. He didn’t have to call Trump names. In fact Carney was courteous to Trump, made his speech that Canada is seeing other people, single and ready to mingle and left before his ex Trump arrived.

Don’t complain about your ex, be Mark Carney, date better and start a rotation .

Speak softly but let your petty actions do the talking. This is the person people don’t mess with.

When someone makes you uncomfortable, crush the instinct to make them comfortable and make them feel uncomfortable they made you unhappy .

You are a princess who deserve to be treated right and people should have communication skills before talking to you . Act shocked when you receive less than princess treatment and dress accordingly and people will treat you accordingly .

Remember it’s the squeaky wheel that gets the oil.

We all heard of a story of two siblings, a girl who is nice and seeks parents approval and her brother or sister who is a terror. The parents are happy if terrorist child comes home at night and isn’t abusing a substance while they take out their frustrations on the nice girl & are super strict with her and unreasonable . I tell good girle in these situations, what did you get out of being a good girl ? Yet your sibling was rewarded for being bad by tired overworked parents. So do what’s rewarded : be the more difficult sibling and you will get treated better . They are surprised this advice works.

I don’t advise you to be nasty and aggressive. Rather be clever, be fun, positive and confident and a little difficult. Subtly push boundaries a little bit, make people do things for you & use Nice Nasty to set boundaries.

Basically don’t go out there trying to be liked. Know your value and focus on being respected . It’s better to be known to be slightly difficult then you won’t be doing the work for the whole office and someone else stealing credit. Act unbothered . Be there to do only the job, clock in, get paid . Don’t go above and beyond and don’t care.

Put yourself and your comfort first. In the end if you are slightly annoying but not too annoying it’s harder to go through the hiring process and replace you so people will put up with your microaggressions but not macro aggressions .

Being difficult is being the master of microaggressions and petty while being diplomatic and fake nice. Mark Carney is an excellent study but so is opera diva Maria Callas. Be professional but smart about microaggressions .

Not needing the validation of others like you have a rich trustfund is a weapon that sets you apart .

It’s about having Rich Bish energy. Not ghetto ratchet bish energy . Rich Bish energy , unbothered non chalant. Be cold, diplomatic and put together .

NEVER audition.

NEVER complain.

NEVER explain .

If someone always looks to point out your weakness accidentally and is fake helpful, point out theirs.

Trump lied that Zelenskyy didn’t accept the peace deal so Macron recorded everything and posted it on instagram . That’s what you do with a narcissist , record everything . Now Trump responded with pettiness, posting a private conversation that Macron invited him for a dinner date that looked rather warm. Trump may have looked silly posting such a private personal conversation when Macron posted a professional business one to set facts straight . We can still learn from Trump’s pettiness .

Pettiness keeps bullies out of your business and harming and easier target.

The goal is to act unbothered but make your bully emotional , act bothered and crazy and ask if they are okay . Being chill is a superpower .

Emotional self regulation isn’t easy but will get you to the top. You don’t have to be perfect . Being more regulated than you were yesterday is enough .

Pickmes are afraid of being a burden to others while divas embrace it. Divas think being a slight burden gets investment and respect of your boundaries.

Aristotle said everything is good in moderation . So don’t be so crazy and such a burden that people avoid you but seek imposing on people ever so slightly and being a bit of a nuisance while being confident fun and fabulous. There is nothing more ghastly than to be bothered what others think of you . Add enough value and most people will be bothered thinking how to please you.

We are not treated how we deserve to be treated but by the pyschological frame we adapt. Don’t be a good girl but a difficult diva. Act like prey, get treated like prey. Act like a princess get princess treatment .

Credit Maria Al Masani

[socialitesugar-deactivated20230]

Things I learned from my Harvard MBA professor who worked for Wall Street, Fidelity, and was a Stock Broker.

- You should be investing in 80% Stocks and 20% Bonds in your young adult life.

- Your biggest advocate is you. If you can’t pay a credit card bill, call the damn bank.

- INVEST. INVEST. INVEST. Your money will lose 3% of its value by the end of the year due to inflation.

- Investing in Fortune 500(mega-huge companies) is referred to as a “stale fish” because they don’t make as much profit. Look for promising start-ups.

- Start your 401k early; compounding interest will make you more money if you start sooner.

- Hedge Fund men are broke and stupid.

- A middle class man with 80,000 a year can buy a private jet if he budgets and allocates money.

There’s obviously more but that’s what I remembered off the top of my head.

[theposhsworld]

Hear me out. You have to learn to embrace being disliked and quickly and quietly say NEXT to everything that is not for you. STOP going for potential. So much of this lifestyle is simply quickly moving on from what is NOT for you so you can encounter what IS for you. The people pleasing has to end. The being afraid to be disliked has to end. The being afraid to communicate what you want and need HAS TO END.

[abrokegirlsguidetolevellingup]

WHAT SHOULD BE IN YOUR BAG FOR BEGINNERS

(in mini, of course. If you have to repurpose old mini tubes and etc, do it)

Sunscreen SPF 40++

Parfum (see how I didn't say perfume or scent? Yes? Exactly)

Mint chewing gum / tabs (sugarless)

Band - Aid at least 3 pieces. Fingers crossed it matches your skin color or close.

Moisture absober. Usually youll have one in your medicine or supplements or shoes even so that it doesnt get moisty and mess up.

Concealer one shade darker that's also waterproof AND cream. I don't know if there's another type but in case there is go for cream.

Vaseline or shea butter.

Hair clips/band if your hair requires it. If not what is the point.

Nipple covers.

Tampon/pad. Even just one but two.

Super/hot glue.

Coin/ sugar patch for luck

Wired earphones. Trust me in this

Power bank.

Wet wipes

Pocket tissue

Lip Tint.

-> All these in a mini pouch that you can bring in every other bag -> Hot glue should be buried in LAYERS for your own sake. So should concealer. -> Group and seperate. Earphones come in their own tiny pouch, keep that. Medicine comes with some you can repurpose for everything so you don't just throw everything in. Compartmentalize by storing in a tiny pouch, everything but the moisture absorber. THAT should be uncovered to, you know, do its job. Don't just throw everything in there. -> For adults this includes a copy of your ID/ Passport thats laminated. -> Mini. The smallest version of each you can fin, please. -> Vaseline / shea butter carries the cross of lip-gloss (And i prefer it tbh) and moisturizer just in case. -> Sharing is caring and aside tampons limit the amount of care you offer you're on a budget.

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[abrokegirlsguidetolevellingup]

BRA'S 101- HOW TO CHOOSE AND BUY AN EVERYDAY BRA THAT FITS, LASTS AND FEELS COMFORTABLE

This was an ask and you know what? If I want to be mother I have to start mothering. And also because I remember being a teen buying 20 bras but only wearing one that actually fit and never using the rest because it just felt right. This has been HARD to put in words so everyone say THANK YOU MOTHER.

Bra's, like clothes in general, exist for two main reason

Comfort

Functionality

Presentation.

Since this blog is especially for a non- expensive way to level up on a No-job-no-money-no-assets point of interaction; everything is based on a thrifting- once a year shopping on second hand - DIY mentality. Zero cash to work with. So this is a capsule bra type post.

SO ON BRAS. There are three parts of a bra that matters the most. Keeping in mind English is NOT my language-

(i) FUNCTIONALITY

a) the (bottom?) part that you (hook?) over your back. Chat GPT says its called a BAND. The one with the Underwires at the front that give support to the girls (breasts) and the band that hooks on your back to complete the (circle?). You know what I mean (I hope).

b) The cups themselves, that offer coverage over the girls, most importantly nipples.

c) Straps. The ones that go over your shoulder and join the cups to the lower back band for stability and shaping (?)

SO. (this is harder than I thought it would btw. i bet there's some video on YT on this so supplement). Staring with

(ii) COMFORT

(a) the straps have to be both adjustable and detachable. You should be able to replace them and adjust their (length?). repeat after me they should NOT be elastic or spandex. You want longevity you want to keep it for 6+ years it needs to be non stretch. Nothing will show you hell the way elastic and spandex will. There's a voice in your mind telling you the prettier it is the better. It's lying those 'decorations' will eat into your skin in ways you did not know were possible. Simple minimalistic, stitches in the INSIDE so seamless. Trust. The wider the better, especially for heavy chested girlies. Straps are 60% of support.

(b). The cups. Which are meant to cover as much of your (boob?) as possible. There are severap ways people get this wrong, especially heavy chested girls-

First, it has to cover 100% of the side (?). If any is hanging out nope go home and stitch one for yourself or commission a tailor it will look terrible, TERRIBLE under whatever you wear. It will look shapeless and deformed. If can NOT spill from the sides. It has to cover the weight of your girls. WEIGHT. So from say, one cm under your underarm. All the way to the under.

The top. How high can it go? Some are V shaped (?) and others m shaped so whats the law? I suggest a V shaped one {Its more \(/ than V ut you get it} over the m shaped because it allows for a wider (variety?) of tops and dresses. It HAS to cover your nipples 100? Can NOT be peeking out. That wider (?) outer (?) nipple cicrle thing. I suggest it covers 75% of the weight (?) too but thats up to you.

Padded or no? NO. Seems like a personal choice and is but just no. Padded cups break easier and faster you'll be back to buy sooner. I PERSONALLY think they look bad but this is about comfort and I can tell you they're hella uncomfortable and will look weird under tight and stretched tops/ dresses. just, trust.

(c) the band.

THIS IS WHEREEEEEEEEEe all goes wrong from experience.

That voice telling you the more elastic and stretchable it is the better it is is a liar and an enemy. Study, people.

Underwire or no? Your choice but for heavy chested girls you might need to choose this one. For the support.

Also as seamless as can get pls if the (Hemming?) is visible it will cut into your skin noticeable. I know this isn't what I want to say but its as close as I can get to it, hopefully you get what I mean.

The more hook options (?) the better tbh. You know what I mean no? Some have one tiny hook only some have 3 rows with say, 4 column's, choose this one. Just in case your weight fluctuates.

How tight does it have to be? For size 0 girls you have to literally fell it on your ribs. This is the part of a bra that wears out first usually. Above size zero this is why we go for the multi hook, the deal being when you hook it tightest (with the hook farthest inward ? Bruh this language sucks) it has to practically eat into your skin. That is for just in case your weight changes then you can adjust accordingly. If it feels loose on that hook for anyone outside size zero put it downnnnn.

(iii) PRESENTABLILITY

Colors closest to your skin so they can go with pretty much any cloth

Seamless. This again should go without saying

A white one (for whites and lightskins) and a black (for us darksin girlies) one MUST be included.

Goes without saying

Cotton & other breathable fabrics in hot areas you can go synthetic in cold ones since its cold you can use the heat retention and they do last longer.

If you touch up the cup and feel those sweat absorbers you THROW IT OUT do not flirt with cancer yes? Sweating is natural and useful and necessary.

Elastic spandex are the enemy.

You realistically need only three.

I hope this helps fr.

[abrokegirlsguidetolevellingup]

SKINCARE 101- SECRETS OF AFIRCAN SKINCARE

Look I could go for hours about skincare and whatnot BUT there are very basic fundamentals to skincare

Fading scars

Reducing inflammation

Evening skin tone and texture

Hydration

Protection from sun.

That's it that's the science and I am SO GLAD I'm on broke girl side of level up because explaining cosmetic industry skincare isnt easy but you know what is? Skincare routine that was forced on me from childhood that I perfected as I grew up and revolutionalized. You'll need

Aloe Vera LEAVES. The leaf girl not the gel the LEAF itself if you don't have one buy the plant its so embarrassingly low maintenance and easy to propagate. Steal the leaf from your neighbor if you have to idk

Glycerin. Pure glycerin. TRUST.

Water

Sealant. Could be shea butter or tallow butter or vaseline or some other petroleum jelly or Castor oil girl idc there has to be the 'lock in moisture' aspect.

That's it thats the list. First (after washing your face ofc) you slice the leaf about 4 cm (if its from the plant you have to give it about 20 min for that green thing to be expelled then wash, its toxic) and slice to expose the jelly and practically just. Rub it into your skin and give it about four minutes. Aloe vera does so much heavy lifting from fading scars reducing inflammation lightening and tightening etc you have google do your homework. Second you dampen the skin a bit, then pure glycerin. SKIN HAS TO BE DUMP. Glycerin will do what Hylauronic acid does. It calls (?) moisture to it. Its the safe space for moisture, under and over the skin. It also fased dark spots and other things you can easily look online. THEN third you have to IMMEDIATELY seal it in bc the glycerin can and will pull water from your skin into atmosphere if not locked back on which is where the oil/lipid (?) comes in. It locks all that in so the moisture can't leave.If its during the day, sunscreen goes over.

Aloe vera leaf is shelf stable at room temp for a week. You need it twice a day and realistically about 4 cm each time, so it could last that long. Get a feel for it by trying around. As long as skin is coated that's it.

Both aloe vera and glycerin go to hair to so. Multipurpose.

TRUST. This costs like almost nothing. In comparison to cosmetic industry counterparts. AND IT WORKS I know it does because I do it all the time.

[abrokegirlsguidetolevellingup]

20% parfum, 20% perfume , 60% body splash. Mix. Spray on your CLOTHES not skin.

drops of the above in body lotion (mix thoroughly), hairspray (for naturals in your moisturizing spray. TRUST), in your rinsing cycle or water (alcohol based will dissolve, but it has to be COLD water so it doesn't evaporate).

Fancy doesnt equal better. Body lotion will do the exact same thing for you that Vaseline petroleum jelly will do (on damp skin) and glycerin will do for you what hylauronic acid would do (again, on damp skin WITH a moisturizer on bc its a humectant). Important to know EXACTLY what does what and ask GPT for cheap alternatives to target that exact thing so you don't spend money on brands

Lint Roller + Steamer will actually save your life.

Soft promises>> goals. My business coach calls it romancing yourself. Promising myself I won't spend 4 hours on shorts to protect my brain >> trying to meet a quota.

Getting a manager. I can NOT explain how much this has changed my life in the one and half months I have been doing it. Accountability partner works but getting a manager >>. Get your bossiest most focused friend / hg that has a thing for bossing everyone around and just say hey be my manager :). Create a program together and let them do their thing. Or if you can just pay for it

Use the things you have or get rid of them. Hoarding is a lack mindset thing to do downsize declutter cut stuff off have all your possessions on your bed. Use your things what are you saving them for and if it no longer serves you or you don't find yourself using it cut it offfffffff.

Declutter your playlist, your Youtube saved, your Instagram saved, your gallery, your Tumblr reposts and posts- declutter declutter declutter reduce the load let the air flow in.

Make use of free services MAKE USE OF THEM when I was in uni cosmetology girls needed someone to practice on and I got SO many free massages, make up tips etc etc etc and the fashion kids needed projects and I volunteered to model and it was such a fun activity to walk the runway and i built so many fun relationships that grew into something because I've gotten so many invites to shows and I do it even just for the fun of it and the art students need a model and I've been to art shows and all it's fun there's so many free experiences and resources around ESPECIALLY LIBRARIES and whatnot volunteer volunteer volunteer my church that I go to has annual conferences around and I used to trat them as vacation since everything is paid for and road trips and the Christian union in my uni and highschool volunteered a lot and I have a MASS of experiences and I've had tons of fun and relationships and certifications and whatnot. Some apps will notify you of events around and there's free samples and workshops and whatnot. Some hospitals have free screening days so you can get that back pain checked out by a professional.

Again, it IS that phone. I have BlockerHero on my phone (Samsung) the premium version so I can't even access the apps I have blocked and I can't uninstall it either because I can NOT trust myself to not just read webtoons till morning or watch tiktoks or reels or shorts and it had words that you can block out so if I want to access that I have to go on my laptop and the work in itself is so much that I don't even bother. If you can't discipline yourself find discipline somewhere else. It's an investment to me thank you to that girl that introduced me to it I owe you one.

Do NOT lend your name stop STOP using your real name online or even in person I am BEGGINGGGGG.

Manage your cravings. Its almost impossible to completely curb them altogether so the closest you can get is to manage them. If you like snacking you like snacking just make them healthy snacks. Just manage them.

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