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Lauren | blog est. 2012 I've been on here for a while and i will go down with this ship

[divinestrike]

gonna say something controversial and it’s that carrot cake is fucking delicious and possibly the best cake flavour 

[divinestrike]

[minxitsy]

[glamwisegamgee]

obsessed with this search result for “yearning stock photo”

[thecollectibles]

Layered cliffs under clear sky by qing ying

[going2hell4everythingbutbeingbi]

yes conservatism is on the rise yes tradwife content is as popular as ever yes pink jobs and blue jobs are fucking stupid BUT there is still such a big change in how straight women are talking about relationships online.

they're talking about how they're no longer interested in dating because their female friends treat them better than boyfriends do. they're realizing that being single is always better than being in a bad relationship. it's becoming a lot more normal and fun and hot for women to be single at any age. the women who have settled down with truly good men in truly happy relationships are encouraging other women to not take any shit because the right man won't need to be "trained". they're talking about how their mothers and grandmothers warned them to get a job and not get married, and they followed the advice.

tradwife content is performance. it's propaganda. there are so few women actually living that life. but we know for a fact that more women than ever are educated, working, and single. and all I see (admittedly in my woke ass algorithm) is women talking about how they're done settling for mediocre relationships. and I love it.

[hpsctch]

There is also a very important and scary reason you only see women in their 20s making tradwife content. The women who age up to their 30s & 40s are usually left for a younger woman. With no money, no job experience (or at least 10 years since their last one), and nothing left to their name, they have the responsibility of taking care of their children alone.

[radical-revolution]

[allthingseurope]

Clérigos Church in Porto, Portugal 

[infectiouspiss]

let me be pervertly clear

[apolladay]

american does your family have rumors about native ancestry?

(obvs people whose family has never even been to the americas will just skew the votes to “no” which is why i added the “not american” button but if you feel like you can provide more valuable insight despite being non-american due to your unique circumstances, you’re 100% welcome to vote accurately. i wanted to specify this bc i have a german friend with an american parent and on that side of the family there are these rumors)

- NOT AMERICAN (kiki version)

- not american (bouba version)

- my family is actually native

- i have evidence of native ancestry but don’t personally id as native

- yes. we have no records but i think it’s true/more true than false

- yes. we have no records but i think it’s NOT true/more false than true

- yes. i have no clue how true it is

- yes. i have evidence we are NOT actually native

- no, there are no rumors like this in my family that i know of

- nuance button (comment???)

- button to open a trapdoor under OOP’s (me) feet and kill her

american does your family have rumors about native ancestry? (obvs people whose family has never even been to the americas will just skew the votes to “no” which is why i added the “not american” button but if you feel like you can provide more valuable insight despite being non-american due to your unique circumstances, you’re 100% welcome to vote accurately. i wanted to specify this bc i have a german friend with an american parent and on that side of the family there are these rumors)

NOT AMERICAN (kiki version)

not american (bouba version)

my family is actually native

i have evidence of native ancestry but don’t personally id as native

yes. we have no records but i think it’s true/more true than false

yes. we have no records but i think it’s NOT true/more false than true

yes. i have no clue how true it is

yes. i have evidence we are NOT actually native

no, there are no rumors like this in my family that i know of

nuance button (comment???)

button to open a trapdoor under OOP’s (me) feet and kill her

Remaining time: 15 hours 34 minutes

Please don't kill my poll submitters 😡 - H :)

[hankeatspaint]

Turned out way better than I expected lol

[sacred-portal]

[katestewartt]

"Try our new AI tool", "Use ChatGPT", "Our AI assistant can help"

[landsccape]

[ace-and-ranty]

I gotta say, one of the greatest achievements of my 20s was that I learned (mostly) to differentiate between:

"I truly do not want to go" and

"I'm just feeling the Demand Avoidance, and I will like it once I get there."

[ace-and-ranty]

Well, goodness, this one resonated much more than I was expecting. I mean, I get it. My mind was also blown wide open when I found out "demand avoidance" was a thing that existed, and that I'm not the only weirdo in the world who suddenly wishes it wasn't her birthday after anxiously waiting for her birthday for days.

Loads of people in the tags are asking how I do it? I feel this won't be groundbreaking advice, but here is what I have learned:

Previous experience. Really no way around it. Now that I hit thirty, I feel like I have done enough things to know, intellectually, from experience, what will feel nice if I overcome the avoidance, and what won't. For example, every time I go to the beach, I wake up early and would rather eat a tire than get off the bed. But I remember that every time I got up and went to the beach, I was glad I did it. So I just get up, feeling like shit, and get ready, feeling like shit, and I get to the beach and magic!! I feel great, I love the beach!! Sometimes you just gotta do it scared feeling kinda like shit.

Am I avoiding the thing or getting to the thing? I have a lot of demand avoidance around just, y'know, getting up, getting ready and going out the door. Universal human experience. If I notice that doing the actual thing (Swim in the pool!) sounds nice, but I'm avoiding having to rally myself to go do that (Fetch swimsuit! Sunscreen! Towel!), then I know it's demand avoidance and I should just fucking go.

Is the thing making me feel excited at all or just anxious? I have had previous occasions when I did the opposite; I convinced myself it was just demand avoidance when I really just. Hated the thing. And wanted to stop. If you feel a mix of excitement and dread, or excitement and anxiety, that might be demand avoidance. But if thinking of doing the thing just makes you feel actively anxious, then yeah. You don't want to do the thing.

Do the thing a little bit. Used often with dishes. I've seen this advice float around Tumblr a lot and it's correct. Commit to doing just a bit of the thing; a little bit of the thing; the smallest bit of the thing you can do. Getting started will make it clear right away if you don't want to do it (and in that case, you have permission to stop), or if you just having trouble getting started.

[probuccalfat]

these women did wonders for the “i’m single and i like it that way” community… i’m having a sexy ass life!

[catasters]

[dailycatsblog]