Shout out to all the active, inventive, descriptive tinies in the RP scene!
I understand the passive thing. I understand how good it feels to just let it all go and put yourself in someone else’s hands (literally). But a tiny or a sub of any kind who goes full on passive is doing their dominant / Giant a disservice. Not only is it a lot more emotional and mental work to carry the entire scene (pun intended) but it also means that the tiny may not end up with what they want.
Giants are not mind-reading wish-fulfillment machines. We have no idea what you want unless you use your words. If you are the kind of person to go too deep into subspace to vocalize or type, then maybe you ought to find other safe ways to roleplay over audio or in person.
Part of your power as a tiny is in sharing your experience. When I serve as a Giantess in an RP, nothing turns me on faster than a tiny describing what they see and touch and feel. The longer and more effort you put into the description, the more intense it feels. I get a glimpse of my own size and power through your eyes. I get off to your awe, your distress, your disbelief, your struggles and your yielding to my power. Sometimes I get off to your nuzzles and appreciation and fascination and worship.
In either case, you’re sharing something with me that feels like an exchange. If you’re completely passive, I feel like I get nothing. That means nothing for me to build the scene, nothing to draw my interest, nothing to entice me to keep playing.
I love what @dreamoflargewomen says about power. One of the reasons passivity is a turn off for me is that there is no fun in overpowering someone who believes they have relinquished all power already. Subs are the most powerful people in any scene, online or in person or in a fantasy in your head. You have the power to say no.
Keep in mind, though, that Giants can also say no. And should say no, if they feel like they are playing with someone who takes them for granted.
To all the tinies who are nervous about asking for what you want, or showing your desire, or even nervous about your writing ability. It is okay to feel nervous and not know what to do or say or want.
It gets confusing when you do literally want to please your Giant and want to do whatever they want to do. After a few times playing or exploring fantasies, you should begin to get a sense of what you want from pleasing them, though.
How small or large do you generally feel? Do you want that to change?
How small or large do you want your partner to be?
How fast do you want to shrink or grow, if at all?
Who do you want to control your size?
How long do you want to play? Do you have time for cool-down after?
Do you want to resist or obey with enthusiasm?
Do you want to struggle heroically against unfair demands?
Do you want to be held, soothed, nurtured, and reassured?
Do you want to be rewarded and praised for pleasing your Giant?
Do you want to be humiliated for your size or your helplessness?
Do you want to be a tiny lover to be wooed or a tiny toy to be used?
Do you want to explore the landscape of an unaware Giant?
Do you want to be chased around that landscape?
Do you want to be hidden, kept like a secret? Or shown off like jewelry?
Do you want to be teased or trapped or challenged or held tenderly or pushed into dark places?
CRITICAL: What do you NOT want to happen? Keep a list of current turn-offs to share with your Giant. These things can wreck a scene or make you feel things that may be hard to process. I say current because it’s okay if this list changes, and it’s okay if you discover something for your “NO List” only after you have experienced it. Sometimes the only way to find a boundary is by tripping on it unexpectedly. It’s okay to stop a scene at any time. Remember, you hold the power to say no, and no matter how helpless you feel, it’s important to use that power if needed.
A little bit of self-knowledge here is all you need to help give your Giant some direction, so that you’re not working at cross purposes and frustrating each other. What if you and your Giant answered some of those questions above differently? If your Giant doesn’t know you want to be chased and threatened, they might default to keeping you tucked safely in a pocket like a secret. Would you rather find out before the scene, or during, when you feel tiny and vulnerable and too helpless to speak up?
Trust me, if your Giant is worth their salt, they will definitely prefer to hear what you want before the scene. Listen to what the Giant wants, too. It’s a lot of work, and Giants deserve to know what they’re going to get out of a scene.
You will learn what you want as you go. Again, it’s okay if what you want changes from day to day. This is natural and one of the reasons it’s good to check in before diving into a scene, even if you play with a partner regularly.
Once you know what you want, it’s a lot easier to play an active role. Even if you’re tied up with dental floss and stuffed in a mason jar, you can still scream and cuss and moan. Maybe you can struggle. Maybe you can pleasure yourself. Because online roleplay is text-based, you can fill the empty space with sentence after tantalizing sentence of what it’s like to not be able to move, to feel trapped like a bug, to see a hand reaching toward you so large that it looks different from a normal hand. If you’re stuck, just pick something in the scene with you, decide how it’s different at your current size, and describe that. Describe how it makes you feel.
What can you see? What tremors can you sense? What are your fears? What are your secret desires? Share a glimpse of that perspective. Not only will it help your Giant know your mental and physical state, but it will build the momentum for you, too.
And if you’ve got freedom of movement, being as active as possible can add a lot of richness to a scene. Remember what you want, and no matter what size you are, do your best to make that happen.
It’s also okay if your execution doesn’t match your expectations, because we all make mistakes and typos and get overeager and miss important details. The more you shrug off the mistakes and keep going, the better it will become.
Roleplay, just like sex, is a skill. And skills can be learned through practice. Luckily for us, this kind of practice is fun.
Own your power. Find your voice. Tell your Giant what you want, what you’re experiencing, give them a glimpse of themselves through your perspective.
Be as active and inventive as you can be, no matter how small you are.
Make your tiny power shine like a diamond, so sharp and bright and intriguing that it’s irresistible. If your Giant is anything like me, they will get off to your actions, not just your reactions. They will want that power and do all kinds of sexy things to win it from you.
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