Hypersexual Aces

A place for ace and ace spec people who are hypersexual (about - byf - faq)

[brettdoesdiscourse]

People in the ace spectrum, you are not weird or faking if you have a high sex drive, if you masturbate a lot, if you watch porn a lot, if you read/write/create a lot or mostly nsfw content.

[aspecpplarebeautiful]

Past trauma isn’t necessarily what causes asexual or aromanticism, but if you do have past trauma that doesn’t mean you can’t also call your asexual or aromantic. This is true even if you believe your past trauma caused or played a role in you being asexual or aromantic.

[femlm-deactivated20190529]

hypersexual trans fems r cute and lovely and not predatory or conforming to stereotypes!! you are not dirty!! you are wonderful!! 

[dirkdammit]

Real question: why is asexual an identity and hypersexual isn’t?

I mean if your argument is that it’s a medical disorder well… a lot of doctors and psychiatrists will tell you that a lack of sexual desire can be side effect of trauma and medication in the same way that hypersexuality can be.

I feel like there’s an element of shame to it, like there must be something gross and wrong with you if you’re constantly horny. You must be a bad person/a rapist if you can’t stop thinking about sex.

I’m not trying to say asexuality isn’t valid, I think it is, but why isn’t hypersexuality?

[actuallyasexual]

There are both asexual and non-asexual people who experience hypersexuality, which is usually a symptom of mental illness. Experiencing hypersexuality does not make anyone a bad person, but it can be problematic for someone living with it if it interferes with their daily life, involves self-harm and/or causes distress.

Otherwise, some people just have an active libido which isn’t necessarily the same thing. For example, some people like to clean. It makes them feel good, and they do it frequently. Maybe they do it more than other people. However, cleaning doesn’t interfere with their life, cause distress, or self-harm.

Some people are obsessive compulsive about cleaning. They can’t stop. They have intrusive thoughts about things being unclean, and they scrub surfaces until their hands hurt. Cleaning then becomes an obsession and a compulsive habit interferes with their life, causes distress, and involves self-harm.

Some people have an active sex life, which may be the result of a heightened libido. That doesn’t automatically make them hypersexual, which is a term used clinically to describe a problematic relationship with sex that can be exhibited by asexual or non-asexual people.

Currently, we don’t have any major identity labels to talk about libido. We don’t usually define our sexual identities by our libidos, instead basing our identity around attraction or lack there of. If we did, hypersexual probably wouldn’t be used to define people with a healthy but heightened libido.

Asexuality has to do with sexual attraction, so it falls in line with other sexual identities. Asexuality is not the antithesis to hypersexuality, because both asexual and non-asexual people can experience hypersexuality. Asexuality is also not a clinical diagnosis despite its history of pathologization.

[notesforselflove]

The abuse was not your fault

You did nothing wrong

You did not deserve to be hurt

You are not a bad person

[ncmadsteve]

aro experiences survey

hi gals, guys, enbies and other aros

i made a questionnaire about experiences of people on the aromantic spectrum to find out what is the most universal for us and to explore the common and uncommon experiences! so if you’re aro pls click the link below and fill out the survey and if you’re not aro you can help out by reblogging, thanks a lot! after there’s some answers i will do a report on it

link: https://goo.gl/forms/QRYzjatdDk5CjODS2 (it should take you 10-20 minutes to complete)

if you want to make sure you don’t miss the report, shoot me a message and ill send it to you (it may take a while though)

[hypersexualaces]

I started this blog as a place to provide positivity, support, and a community to people who are both asexual and hypersexual, but I’ve been slacking on that for a while now and I don’t want this blog to continue being inactive

I’m looking for people to help run this blog. I need mods who can post/reblog positivity, support, and informative posts and answer questions people have about hypersexuality/asexuality while keeping discourse off the blog

I would prefer mods who are hypersexual (or questioning) and ace/ace spectrum/etc (or questioning) but all applicants will be considered

Whether you submit an application or not, signal boosting this post would really be appreciated!

[dailyaspecpositive]

Just a reminder that you’re not to old to find out you’re ace. There’s a lot of pressure from society to feel sexual attraction and enjoy sex; finding out you’re ace later in life doesn’t make you any less ace.

[hypersexualaces]

so i have a high sex drive, but it isn't that serious bc i don't look at porn. all i do is compulsive masturbation. but i'm also sex-repulsed by guys, not girls, even though i'm bi. is that normal? do am i hypersexual? could this be a cause of something else? more information: i've had an ED and i have generalized anxiety disorder and depression.

You can be hypersexual even if you don't look at porn, and compulsive masturbation can definitely be a big symptom of it. It's hard to tell where the sex repulsion comes from without more information thoughIf you've experienced sexual trauma then the sex-repulsion towards guys could stem from that, or if you're a girl then it's possible that you could be only attracted to girls and just experiencing coercive heteronormativity (where girls who only like girls subconsciously make themselves believe that they also like guys because society tells them they should). Some people also follow a split attraction model* where the genders that they're sexually attracted to are different from the genders they're romantically attracted to (for example, biromantic heterosexual, homoromantic pansexual, etc). If you're asexual it could also just be that you feel more comfortable with girls than guys, which may have nothing to do with your sexuality. If any of those sound right to you then I would recommend looking more into them, and if you have any more questions you can feel free to send them hereWhen it comes to determining if you're hypersexual, a few symptoms to look out for are excessively or compulsively engaging in sexual acts (like the masturbation), having sexual thoughts and urges that are so frequent they interfere with your life, having an extremely high sex drive, using sexual acts as a way to cope with depression/anxiety/stress/etc, using sexual acts as a form of self harm, and/or using sex as a primary source for validation/affection. You don't have to experience all of these to be hypersexual, and these aren't the only symptoms; this is just a quick guide to some things that might mean you're hypersexualI hope this helped answer your questions, and if you have anymore you can feel free to send them in!* - Many people believe that people who have split attraction are actually struggling with internalized homophobia and/or coercive heteronormativity, so I would recommend doing some introspection first. If you believe the split attraction model is right for you then that's your decision though, you know yourself better than I or anyone else does

[awesomequacker-deactivated20151]

there are asexuals who are entirely disgusted by sex

there are asexuals who are fine talking about sex but aren’t willing to have it themselves

there are asexuals who like sex in theory but not in practice

there are asexuals who dont really care for it but are happy to do it for someone they love

there are asexuals who enjoy or even love the stimulation of sex but have no actual need or craving for it; its just like any other activity to do with someone and can easily be replaced with literally anything else

there are asexuals who do have a sexdrive but its only triggered by a strong emotional attachment rather than physical factors

there are a whole bunch of asexuals and if i hear “lol so ur like a plant” one more time i swear to fucking god

[orbisian-prinxess]

NBLW, it is unfortunately a normal symptom to try and reenact your sexual trauma.

It doesn’t make you less of a survivor

It doesn’t make you a ‘rape fetishist’

It doesn’t mean you really ‘wanted it’

It doesn’t make it your fault

The brain makes harmful coping mechanisms or sometimes just generally craves self destructive behaviour. If you self-harmed through sex, it’s okay. It didn’t make the trauma your fault and I hope you can seek help to prevent you harming yourself again. If you intended to harm but then were actually assaulted, it’s still not your fault. If you no longer consent or want it anytime during or before sex, then it’s not consensual. It’s rape and it’s not your fault.

If it was with a gender you’re not attracted to it doesn’t mean you’re lying about your attraction, it just means you’re trying to harm yourself.

If it was with women or another gender you’re attracted to that doesn’t mean you wanted it or that it wasn’t rape.

You shouldn’t “be grateful” for it because you’re not cis. Not being cis doesn’t indicate worth or attractiveness.

NBLW survivors are strong and do not deserve to be harmed.

[roserace]

ACE LESBIANS!!!!!

love you

[aspecpplarebeautiful]

You can be a very sexual person without ever having experienced sexual attraction. A lot of aces aren’t very sexual people either, but some are, and it doesn’t make them any less asexual.

[petshops-deactivated20210416]

girls who have sexual thoughts about girls arent predatory. girls who want to or do have sex with girls arent dirty. girls who enjoy sex or the thought of having sex with girls arent predatory or dirty. youre not contributing to the male gaze or degrading women for having sexual thoughts about girls. its okay to be a girl and have sexual feelings for girls.

[bi-binary]

Reminder

nblw who have connections to manhood/men aren’t inherently predatory.

nblw who are hypersexual aren’t inherently predatory.

nblw who are sexually dominant/tops aren’t inherently predatory.

nblw who have casual sex and/or multiple partneres aren’t inherently predatory.

nblw who are polyamorous aren’t inherently predatory.

nblw who are amab and not mostly women/woman-aligned aren’t inherently predatory.

nblw who are aro-spec but not ace aren’t inherently predatory.

nblw who fit all the criteria above aren’t inherently predatory.

there is nothing inherently predatory or dirty about being a nblw and sexually desiring women.

[asexualidad]

Arte Asexual

Arte Asexual es un espacio creado para conocer la labor de los asexuales en cualquier medio artístico; destinado para todo el espectro asexual (asexuales, demisexuales y grisexuales) vinculados a c…

¿Por qué no formar un directorio de arte para mostrar lo que se crea desde la asexualidad? El arte también puede ser un medio de visibilidad y expresión. Es una ventana llena de vida para mostrarnos al mundo.

[hug-ghosts]

What is Hypersexuality?

Hypersexuality is a diagnosis where intense fixations on sexual fantasty have devastating consequences on life, health and loved ones. This condition causes extreme emotional distress and impaitment.

Symptoms:

Excessive sex drive

Cannot seem to stop viewing p0️⃣rn

Unstable relationships

Difficulty controlling sexual activities or urges

Treatments:

Cognitive behavioural therapy

Dialectical behavior therapy

Medication

Group therapy

A secular alternative to the Christian Sex Addict Anonymous is: SMART Recovery. Here’s a directory for therapists treating sex addiction.

Resources on tumblr

Homojabi’s tag on hypersexuality

Good hypersexual blogs:

@hypersexualaces

@hypersexualityfeels

@hypersexual-awareness