I pretend to be human

i bequeth u all my braincells | Jan (she/her, aroace) 16 | enfp | a frog

[i-pretendtobe-human]

yo so what is this falling-in-love business people my age keep doing. and how do you do it. im lost

[life-gives-you-lemons]

i love listening to obviously romantic music and just ignoring it. get platonic'd idiot

[thirteens-pocket-watch]

"We can all relate to being in love", "everyone's had that experience with their crush", "love is universally relatable" shut up shut up shut up shut up

[i-pretendtobe-human]

time to play am i bi or am i just an aro

[aromantic-diaries]

AROMANTICISM AND ASEXUALITY ARE INHERENTLY QUEER AND DO NOT NEED TO BE PAIRED UP WITH ANOTHER LGBTQ IDENTITY TO BE RECOGNIZED AS SUCH AND YES THIS INCLUDES CISHET ASPECS

[a-flaming-idiot]

There’s no friendship like the one between two aromantics people keep assuming are dating.

[ace-disgrace-withamace]

‘Why do you make sex jokes if you’re asexual? Doenst that mean you want sex’

Bestie I can make jokes about being impaled on a spike medieval torture style, doesn’t mean I want to

[i-pretendtobe-human]

Happy pride month! a reminder that as an Aro and/or ace person, you are a welcome part of this community <3

[aromantic-diaries]

Thank god I'm too weird for anyone to ever be attracted to me

[aromantic-diaries]

Companies trying to seem supportive during pride month: Love is love!!!! ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

My aromantic ass:

[reggieslocket]

idk if this is because i'm aroace but it baffles me that dating apps exist like who tf came up with this idea?? i mean i go out with a total stranger with the specific purpose of starting a romantic relationship with them?? what the fuck is that? where's the friendship part? where's the part where we've know eachother for most of our lives? like some people really go "oh hey nice shirt, i know nothing about you but i definitely wanna date you" nah i don't believe it

[i-pretendtobe-human]

my day job is listening to love songs and feeling nothing *laughs in aroace*

[spacezeros]

wanting and not wanting at the same time

a comic for asexual awareness week

[spacezeros]

bringing this back today for the start of pride month. still overwhelmed by how well this comic went down and with how many people relate. it’s easy to think aro-ace people are all totally accepting of their identities and really proud of who they are. i guess on websites like this you see a lot of people proudly putting their identity in their bio, a flag in their profile picture.

in fact i think a lot of aro-ace people really hate that part of themselves, hide it, and struggle for a long time to ‘accept’ who they are and feel any sense of ‘pride’. that’s the feeling i wanted to capture here. the disappointment, the loneliness, upon realising that you can’t feel what is such a wonderful thing. the embarrassment of not being ‘normal’, of being some random sexuality that nobody irl has heard of, and letting down those around you because you can’t be who they want you to be. how desperately you want to change, how desperately you want to feel. but you just can’t.

i know not all aro-ace people feel like this. i know lots of aro and/or ace people feel able to be in relationships, to feel closeness and have partners in other ways. but i think it’s important to be aware that some aro-ace people do feel like this.

the comments on this comic have mostly been great but a few have been very frustrating. a comment it got a lot was along the lines of ‘aw!! you don’t need to have sex to be in a relationship!’. you completely missed the point, hah. this is not a comic about sex. it’s about a lack of feeling, the lack of something beautiful other people seem to have. another comment that popped up a few times was ‘maybe she’s a lesbian’. well maybe lesbians and aro/ace girls have more in common than people think - maybe they both often struggle to accept that they feel no attraction to men, even though society has conditioned them to do so, sometimes spending years trying to force themselves to like men in that way, when they just can’t.

this comic is called ‘wanting and not wanting at the same time’ because she wants to love. but when it comes down to the reality, she can’t fulfil the requirements of that. she wants to love someone forever, to get married and have children and grow old with her soulmate, but she doesn’t want it with this person. or that person. or anyone she meets or will ever meet. a sort of catch 22, i guess.

hope that makes sense. thanks for listening, and have a lovely pride month ❤️

[mypeculiarparadox]

Coucou c’est moi

[angelofthequeers]

“she wants to love someone forever, to get married and have children and grow old with her soulmate, but she doesn’t want it with this person. or that person. or anyone she meets or will ever meet”

Well shit I didn’t need to be called out like that

[i-pretendtobe-human]

the sheer urge to acquaint someone's asymmetrical face with a bunch of bricks when they bat their eyes at you and say " well you must have a crush on someone right? it's human nature" like no Sophie

[i-pretendtobe-human]

two aro besties getting married for tax evasion purposes

[kiwimuichiro]

HAPPY AROMANTIC DAY, CANT WAIT FOR AROMANTIC AWARENESS WEEK SOON!!

[the-bluespirit]

MICHELLE YEOH wins Outstanding Performance by a Female Actor in a Leading Role for Everything Everywhere All At Once

[i-pretendtobe-human]

i love her omg