Surviving To Reigning

I'm just trying to figure out this thing called life. Loving God while trying to figure out these memories of abuse.

[iammorethanvictorious]

His name no longer sends me into a tailspin. That’s progress!

[horrrifiction]

yes my feelings are valid but i don't want them

[iammorethanvictorious]

Same

[iammorethanvictorious]

I’ve learned that sometimes triggers don’t go away. They may Diminish. Like scars, they are still there and we Learn to live with them. Till someone points them out.

[no-longer-another-bondi-blonde]

[iammorethanvictorious]

Edwin Jarvis: So your solution is to remove yourself from the world you wish to protect? Where's the sense in that? There is not a man or woman, no matter how fit he or she may be, who is capable of carrying the entire world on their shoulders.

[iammorethanvictorious]

Edwin Jarvis: Your line of work requires support. People who care about your well-being, who'll be there to stitch up your wounds.

Peggy Carter: If I allow people to get close to me, I'm putting them in danger.

Edwin Jarvis: So your solution is to remove yourself from the world you wish to protect? Where's the sense in that? There is not a man or woman, no matter how fit he or she may be, who is capable of carrying the entire world on their shoulders.

Peggy Carter: Steve was.

Edwin Jarvis: From what Mr. Stark has told me, Captain Rogers relied heavily on you for courage, strategy, and moral guidance. You were his support. Your desire to help others is noble. But I doubt you'll find much success unless you allow others to help you.

[lyricalfatigue-deactivated20180]

Dear hearing aid providers: stop only advertising your hearing aids for old people - from a deaf 19 year old who’s used hearing aids since she was 7

[lyricalfatigue-deactivated20180]

Note: you don’t have to use hearing aids, or have any form of hearing loss to be able to reblog this

[ladynorbert]

Deaf people using hearing aids should be as normalized as people with vision loss wearing glasses.

[iammorethanvictorious]

Oh. Goodness. Yes. HEARING AIDS SHOULD BE AS NORMALIZED AS PEOPLE WITH VISON LOSS WEARING GLASSES!

[purplebuddhaquotes]

“If I tell you I need you, do not take it lightly. I do everything I can to never have to depend on anyone, to never show weakness. And if I say I that I need you it means I am trusting you to catch me if I fall.”

—

[iammorethanvictorious]

If I tell you how I feel, do not take it lightly. I do everything I can to not have to be vulnerable. If I say how I feel it means that I’m trusting you to handle my heart gently.

[furiousgoldfish]

victims of abuse be like, this person has now made me cry myself to sleep about 30 times, i have flashbacks of things they’ve done and said to me, they know how to hit me right in my worst insecurity and guilt so i feel horrible for days and months, their comments make me feel worthless and like i shouldn’t even be alive, and being around them makes me feel small and meaningless and sometimes suicidal but maybe that’s just me, maybe they’re not abusive? i have to give them benefit of the doubt, what if i’m not justified to kick them out of my life?

[iammorethanvictorious]

Oh. My. Yes! Be kind to yourself and kick them the heck out!!!

[honigimohr]

“I think one of my favorite feelings is laughing with someone and realizing half way through how much you enjoy them and their existence.”

— Unknown (via deeplifequotes)

[iammorethanvictorious]

This happened last night. Just enjoying everyone’s company and being quiet and listening. That’s when my heart was at home.

[capstellium]

male anger is so..... disgusting......

[capstellium]

like stop throwing shit and slamming doors and just go to therapy..... it’s not cute to make women around you afraid bc you’re mad about something......

[iammorethanvictorious]

And women anger is so manipulative.... stop ignoring the problem and treating people like crap because you are mad at them or about something else.

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

“We all eat lies when our hearts are hungry.”

— Unknown

[iammorethanvictorious]

We all eat lies when our hearts are tired, sore, and hurt.

[katimorton]

How can you tell if your anxiety is interfering with your day to day life?

The best way to know is to consider what you used to be able to do before the anxiety affected you at all… then compare it to now. Is it harder to socialize? Get what you need to get done each day? Shower? Get your work done? etc? I hope that helps! xoxo 

[iammorethanvictorious]

What if you don’t remember when there was a time where you didn’t have anxiety?

[korra-of-the-south]

Hey, guess what?

All you fellow child abuse victims? You’re not gonna turn out like him, like her, like them. You know better. You’re better than them. You’ve suffered, but you’re stronger.

if you ever think to yourself ‘i dont want to turn out to be like them’- you’re not. 

because you you know the difference. you wouldn’t ask yourself that if you didn’t

[iammorethanvictorious]

I needed to hear this.

[notsofine]

You were a child. There was nothing you could have done wrong. It was not your burden to carry.

You are not a reflection of those who couldn’t love you

[csa-survivor-confessions]

(?) Please help, I'm getting these horrible body memories, I feel like something is in my throat and mouth and something is in my lower regions and no matter how tight i close my legs and mouth it doesn't go away and I don't know how to make it stop

Calming down 101

So you just got triggered, had a panic attack/flashback/body memories/ breakdown?

That is okay!

Let’s work to calm down and be safe:

BREATH! I mean it, it sounds hokey but I’m serious. (this calming breathing advice can be helpful to read)

Remove yourself as much as possible from stressful stimuli.

If you have access, drink some water. Do it slowly and make sure you are still breathing.

Reminder yourself “I am safe here” or another affirmation that speaks to you.

Practice some coping skills to bring yourself back. Ex: Grounding skills, you can talk to (if someone is there, but calling or even texting can still be nice) a safe person, progressive muscle relaxation, listen to some calming music

You can also check out general relaxation

REST! Getting that stressed takes a lot out of you, your body needs to rest. this info on progressive muscle relaxation might help

Once you are somewhere like your house, watching a calm movie or other reassuring activities are highly recommended.

I promise you can get through this! 

(from this post)

This site says a bit about what body memories are and some coping skills

some other advice for Coping with body memories

hope this helps,

-Admin 1

[iammorethanvictorious]

Super helpful!

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

The time will pass anyway. You can either spend it creating the life you want or spend it living the life you don’t want. The choice is yours.

Unknown (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

I started therapy. Well, sorta. I started seeing the social worker at the women’s center place. Next week I start with a therapist... intern. I hope I don’t screw her up. Part of me thinks I’m not that bad till I start talking about it. I’m going through this book and I said something like “some words made me cringe.” She asked me about them... I couldn’t even give her an example. And just thinking about it now is frustrating and sickening.