How do I become you? Sorry if that sounds creepy, but I don't think I could do nay better than the best you've achieved
Fake it til you make it. Seriously. If you start pretending that you think you're the shit, eventually it'll just become habitual and you will think that you're the shit and everyone else will think so too.
Use this newfound confidence to help uplift everyone around you. You have more power than you realize.
Realize that your outward appearance is not for the benefit of anybody else and you will be liberated. Literally if people think they can insult you by insulting your outward appearance, that's as ridiculous as them trying to insult a hairbrush for not being able to solve the quadratic formula. Like, okay??? That is not the purpose of a hairbrush so who cares??? Why are you even trying to make that insulting??? Your purpose on this planet is not to be everybody else's eye candy. If they have a problem they can look the fuck away who cares
Stay curious. There is so much knowledge in the world that is easily accessible and so much of it can help you become a better person and make the world a better place for everyone else too. Go in search of knowledge, don't passively wait for it to be presented to you. Treat the entire world like a treasure hunt.
Collect friends from all walks of life. There is so much you can learn from people different than you, and there are so many ways they will be able to help you and you will be able to help them. Tumblr is so great for this. Everytime you get into a new interest or fandom or whatever bring some more people into your life and dashboard. Reply to their text posts when they're asking to be cheered up or for a favor that you know you could do.
Let yourself experience the full range of human emotions. It's okay to be sad sometimes even if you're The Happy Person. It's okay to be angry and to have a secret blog where you just passive aggressively type in all caps until you feel better. It's okay to go from a week of actively pushing self-love to people to spending time in a funk where you just want to eat ice cream and not talk to anybody. There's nothing wrong with that! You're not failing!
Analyze your motivations for everything. A lot of the things we do and feel are the result of external conditioning and can be completely done away with. We're overly concerned with our appearances because if we weren't, a lot of companies would completely lose their market share. I try to watch TV shows that people are talking about not because I'm genuinely interested, but to decrease my anxiety over not being able to relate to other people. It's okay to still do things if you figure out that your motivations are problematic, but recognizing where your thoughts/behaviors come from will honestly completely alter the way you move about the world.
Announce your guilty pleasures to the world. Seriously, who came up with the idea of guilty pleasures? Who cares? If you enjoy something, YOU ENJOY IT. That has no bearing on your intelligence or personality or anything. I'm obsessed with One Direction, I jam the fuck out to Nickelback and I'm a sucker for dumb reality TV shows. This changes nothing about me. I'm still a fucking badass.
Celebrate the smallest of victories. The other day was the first time I took a city bus by myself, and I announced it all over every social media site and told a bunch of people. It was a fucking important moment for me! Don't ever feel dumb about celebrating the little wins, because a win of any size is still a win and you deserve a trophy. Life is hard and we're all struggling with things that we think are insignificant to others but to us are like, the scariest shit in the world. Celebrate the monsters you defeat.
Start to see everyone else around you through this lens. All nine of those things will change not only how you see yourself, but how you see other people. You will start to see the world as a more beautiful place filled with people who are more like you than different. Yeah, some of these people are assholes. This is true. And you don't have to put up with assholes, and there are a lot of people who will want to take advantage of you - but that becomes a lot harder when you start to understand why you do what you do, develop confidence, and build a support network. It becomes a LOT harder for people to tear you down. And the world becomes a lot less scary when you start to build relationships with people who are also celebrating the little victories and learning how to love themselves and each other and challenging the beliefs and actions they used to accept as "just the way things are." This way of moving in the world is infectious, and the results are catastrophically phenomenal.
And finally, dye your hair pink. But that's kind of my thing.
