Pontius Pilate as a woman

[shinhati]

"sabrina carpenter's intention-" sabrina carpenter is a marketing technique. her schtick was invented by a label (men) for mass consumption. they had a vision for a pop star to fill a market niche and hired sabrina for it. she has professional male songwriters on all of her songs, she's styled by men, produced by men, marketed by men. i guarantee that album cover was a man's idea. she's not some solo indie artist she's a product that men made to sell to women

[radfemme-rage]

and all of those men are horny pedophiles

[puttingherinhistory]

Everyone has the potential to fall victim to being indoctrinated into a cult. Anyone can be sexually assaulted. Anyone can become a victim of an abusive relationship. Yes, even if you're intelligent and strong willed. Yes, even if you think you're tough and "don't take shit from anyone".

If you've never found yourself as the victim of a cult, or sexual assault, or abuse, the only thing separating you from people who have been victimized by cults / sexual assault / abuse is circumstance. That's it. Sheer luck. Luck over what family you were born into. Luck over who you were surrounded by when you were emotionally compromised or in any way vulnerable. Ect.

You are not better than people who have been victimized. They didn't do anything wrong to ask to be victimized. Anyone can be victimized by these situations given the perfect storm of circumstances. You are not better than people who have been victimized by cults / sexual assault / abuse.

You need to understand that if you are lucky enough to have never been victimized by cults / sexual assault / abuse, it's very little to do with how smart or strong you are or you doing all the "right" things. Someone can be smart and strong and do all the right things and still find themselves a victim given the perfect storm of bad circumstances.

The sooner this can be understood, the sooner we can do away with victim blaming culture. And the sooner we can do away with victim blaming culture the sooner atrocities like cults, sexual assault, and abuse can stop being so prolific. Victim blaming culture allows these atrocities to thrive. And they will continue to thrive until we shift the blame to where it rightfully belongs.

[puttingherinhistory]

You know what I forgot to include here but totally should have been included?

Bullying.

Funny how when I was being bullied as a kid, I did fight back and I did do everything I could to stand up to my bullies. But that didn't make it stop. All the adults at school just told me that the bullying was my fault because I was "giving the bullies the reaction they wanted, if I would just be quiet and ignore them the bullying would stop."

But now that I'm an adult, I hear other adults saying all the time that kids who get bullied are only bullied because they're too weak and insecure to stand up for themselves.

Isn't that funny? How I spent years fighting back and trying to stand up for myself, and this got me told that it was my fault for not just ignoring them? But now I hear other adults, most of whom are parents, saying if a kid is bullied it's their fault for not standing up for themselves or fighting back?

It's a lose/lose situation, either way if the kid fights back, or doesn't fight back, they're told its their fault for how they respond. It's almost as if, the bullying isn't the victim's fault or smthing 🤔

And this type of victim blaming rhetoric ignores that there's in the majority of cases a power imbalance between the bullies and victims.

Common dynamics we see are: white kids bullying children of color, neurotypical kids bullying neurodivergent kids, gender conforming cishet kids bullying GNC and/or LGBTQIA+ kids, abled kids bullying disabled kids, boys bullying girls (he's only teasing you because he likes you!), rich or middle class children bullying poor children, ect. ect.

And this is exactly WHY adults often victim blame bullied children instead of holding bullies accountable, and these adults blaming the children are often privileged themselves. White adult school staff blaming children of color who are getting bullied instead of holding the white children doing the bullying accountable, neurotypical adult school staff blaming neurodivergent children who are being bullied instead of holding the neurotypical children doing the bullying accountable, ect. ect.

This is actually one of the ways power dynamics get passed along in society. Children with a privileged background learn very early what behavior they can get away with and how protected their behavior will always be, while children with a disenfranchised background are expected to "learn their place" from a young age.

[dailymanners]

The first part reminds me of a quote I once read that went something like "an abusive relationship is a two person cult" and if you know anything about the recruiting and power dynamics behind cults you'll know it works almost exactly the same as an abusive relationship, just on a larger scale.

Find someone currently emotionally vulnerable in some way. Isolated, lonely, and/or emotionally compromised in some way (maybe just lost a loved one or experienced an equivalent trauma or tragedy, etc). Then you lovebomb the everliving crap out of this emotionally compromised individual. Then once you've earned their love and trust, you slowly over time chip away at their self esteem, their sense of self, their ability to trust themselves and their own judgement, and slowly exert more and more power and control over them.

If you couldn't tell if I was describing an abuser seeking out their next victim or a cult recruiting their next victim, that's because it's essentially the same playbook.

I think this is really important to point out because personally I've encountered a lot of people both IRL and online who, at least on paper, accept that victim blaming survivors of abuse is wrong, but then will turn around and say that people who join cults are gullible idiots who deserve whatever they endure within the cult for being such gullible idiots.

And that has always struck me as cruel and judgemental, because again, the process for getting sucked into an abusive relationship is strikingly similar to the process for getting recruited into a cult. Both cults and abusers prey on the emotionally compromised, and everyone, no matter how smart or strong or resilient, has hit lows where they would have been vulnerable to an abuser or cult recruiting them.

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[pothead-paisan]

obligatory post today

[evilrosamundpike]

It took less than 20 years of widespread porn consumption to reframe completely how sex should be. Less than 20 years to groom women (and girls) into believing that their role in the bedroom is to be the means to a fulfilled fetish, that it’s in their duty to be strangled, slapped, spanked, tied, and hurt, and to do all without complaint.

Watching porn is normal and if you’re against your boyfriend/husband consuming material that features the sexual assault of women, you are a shrill, prudish woman who is actually abusing her boyfriend/husband by being too controlling.

Historical revisonism calls it “feminism,” refuses to connect the dots between what is happening now and what happened in the 70s, when feminist movements became harder to ignore and men reacted by pushing for the production of violent pornography. Actual feminism sees it for what it is: a calculated attack against female personhood, dignity, and boundaries.

[seagullgal]

so hard to be sex positive in a "women and even men should be able to healthily masturbate and enjoy physical pleasure" kinda way while also being very very anti sex industry is hard sometimes.

Ahh but porn has always existed!! Look at cave paintings! Okay. Masturbate to cave paintings. I really want you to masturbate to cave paintings. If it's the same thing, you should have no issues masturbating to cave paintings. I'm dead serious when I say I have no issues with anybody masturbating to cave paintings, or even written smut or anything that doesn't rely on the rape of real people and profiting off of it. I'd be fine with hentai if so much of it didn't try to up the shock factor as much as possible to get people hooked on various fetishes.

People have masturbated forever, and they didn't need HD violent videos to do so. You can do it with your mind, or a nice lil story, I promise. Make your own horny cave painting, idgaf

[the-pink-economy-crit]

This is exactly the distinction that gets lost in the "discourse." Being anti-industry isn't about being anti-pleasure or anti-human nature; it’s about being anti-commodity.

​The "it’s always existed" argument is such a lazy reach. There is a massive structural chasm between a cave painting and a multi-billion dollar tech industry that uses predatory algorithms to keep people scrolling through increasingly extreme content. One is a human expression; the other is a profit-driven machine that relies on the financial desperation of real people.

​You can be 100% in favor of people having healthy, liberated sex lives while still recognizing that a massive, unregulated industry built on the extraction of labor from vulnerable populations is a net negative for society.

Promoting imagination or ethical, non-human-based media isn't "puritanical" it's just asking for a world where someone's survival isn't tied to being recorded for a stranger's subscription fee.

[antiporn-activist]

If porn was required for masturbation, that means everyone used have to visit those five specific caves to do it.

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Gail Dines

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[dailymanners]

I feel as though what drives most rude / inconsiderate behavior I experience IRL on a day to day basis comes from a place of having this unearned and unnecessary sense of urgency in situations that aren't actually urgent. I think if more people became aware of this completely unnecessary sense of urgency in situations that actually aren't urgent, it might make co-existing and sharing public spaces with other people a lot easier and more tolerable.

That text post that's been making the rounds that goes something like "Omg you made it to the same red light as everyone else but faster and more dangerously and recklessly, should we call nascar? Do you want a medal?" summarizes exactly what I'm trying to talk about.

It's like when I have to change buses at one of the bigger and busier bus stops, and the people who get off the same bus as me shove and elbow past me to get off before me, and then shove and elbow past anyone even slightly in their way on the way to the bus they're switching, only to end up on the same bus as all the people they shoved and elbowed with several minutes to spare before it leaves and plenty of open seats left.

I think this unnecessary urgency a lot of people feel in their day to day lives drives a lot of bad behavior. I'm not saying I'm innocent of this, I've felt it too in plenty of situations that didn't call for it, and regrettably was less kind than I should have been as a result. But I try to be aware of it, and always try to ask myself it it's really as urgent as my lizard brain it trying to tell me it is, and even if it was that urgent, does that still justify unkind behavior?

Is shoving or elbowing another person aside going to make the difference between whether or not you make it to the bus before it pulls away? (hint: at least where I live, most of the time that's a no because the drivers usually won't leave if they see people from another bus heading towards their bus). Is shoving and elbowing people aside in a crowded grocery store going to make any noticeable difference in how quickly you get your shopping done?

Does a few extra seconds of time actually justify cruel and unkind behavior towards people you perceive as slightly inconveniencing you?

[burndownpornhub]

“But feminists who organise against pornification are not arguing that sexualised images of women cause moral decay; rather that they perpetuate myths of women's unconditional sexual availability and object status, and thus undermine women's rights to sexual autonomy, physical safety and economic and social equality. The harm done to women is not a moral harm but a political one, and any analysis must be grounded in a critique of the corporate control of our visual landscape.”

—Gail Dines and Julia Long. “Moral Panic? No. We are Resisting the Pornification of Women.” (2011).

[11thfempachi]

one of the most outrageous things you can do as a woman is be unimpressed by a man. seriously, gets so many people mad

[dailymanners]

Why are so many of you so comfortable with attacking complete strangers on the internet

If you wouldn't approach a random stranger on the street and say those kinds of things to them, but you feel completely comfortable saying those kinds of things to a perfect stranger on the internet (behind the safety of a screen free of consequences for your words), maybe you need to take a good long look in the mirror and revaluate your life.

[dailymanners]

If the only thing stopping you from verbally attacking strangers or just being unnecessarily mean is the threat of consequences, and not the fact that they are another human being with feelings, then perhaps you should consider why that is and what that says about you.

[blackfairypresident]

its easy to see posts about the abuse that goes on in the porn industry and immediately be against porn as a whole. i mean if you see something bad, you want it to stop right? im not gonna lie i was against porn too!! the thing is.. porn abolitionists & and SWERFS (sex worker exclusionary feminists) generally dont listen to sex workers. they dont try to help sex workers be safe while doing what they do. they just push for further criminalization of sex work and want porn to cease to exist theres tons of sex workers who cannot hold “normal” jobs. and by abolishing porn and criminalizing sex work, you are putting sex workers out of work and are endangering them listen to actual sex workers talk about “the porn industry” and sex work as a whole not civilians who have never entered sex work yet think they know it better than actual sex workers you need to protect & support sex workers and trust that they know whats best for themselves

[89584957294589425-deactivated20]

Stop lying. Sex industry abolitionists do not want to criminalise the people who are exploited and abused in the sex industry. It is those who do the exploiting and abusing that should be criminalised. It’s pathetic how you pro-porn types always make up lies about abolitionists so you can feel better about supporting the continued rape and brutalisation of people who, let’s be real, are mostly women and girls.

And we DO listen to women who are and have been in the industry because we have enough respect not to call them “sex workers.” Again, stop lying.

Rachel Moran, survivor of prostitution (Full gif set and video link here)

Cherry Smiley of the Aboriginal Women’s Action Network (Full gif set and video link here)

Shelley Lubben, survivor of pornography (Full gif set and video link here)

Rachel Moran speaking at FemiFest 2014 (Full gif set and video link here)

“We know, though our lived experience, that the vast majority of women in prostitution are impoverished and are in prostitution for exactly that reason; and we also know, through our lived experience, that it is simply a cruelty for any government to introduce legislation that limits the ability of a woman in prostitution to earn a living without simultaneously offering her a way out.

We thus strongly feel that prostitution can only be tackled by a strategy that recognises equally the need to suppress the demand for paid sex while offering women viable alternatives to providing it. Too often, groups that concern themselves with this issue overlook either one root cause or the other. We pledge to bear witness to governments that they must suppress demand by criminalising it, and equally that they must address the shortage of living-wage opportunities for individuals in the sex trade, and that both these aspects are equally important in the fight against commercial sexual exploitation.”

– SPACE International, an organisation of prostitution survivors committed to raising awareness about the violent reality of prostitution and lobbying governments to do the right thing

EVE’s position is that neither full decriminalization or legalization (see definitions below) will do anything to quell the rising demand for paid sexual access to the bodies of women and children. Endorsing the sale of those who are already marginalized by race, sex, class, and economic status is not a progressive option.

Legalization and full decriminalization are illusions of safety for prostituted women, who experience physical, sexual, and psychological violence both indoors and outdoors. Pimps and traffickers, however, would benefit immensely from legalized or fully decriminalized systems it would offer them a safe space to sell women.

Brothels do nothing more than move abuse indoors and give all the complex systemic issues involved with prostitution a place to hide. The most vulnerable women among us would be abandoned as they could not meet the criteria to “work” in legal brothels due to circumstances such as addiction and poor physical and mental health.

EVE is calling on our government to stand up for women’s equality by saying NO to the form of male sexual violence that is prostitution and criminalizing the demand for paid sex (johns), pimping, procuring and trafficking while de-criminalizing those who are sold for sex. We are calling our government to stand up to the elements of organized crime that are involved in prostitution by criminalizing pimping, procuring and sex trafficking.

EVE would like to see LONG term rehabilitation for those exiting prostitution, provided by agencies that support the abolition of prostitution.

EVE thinks that a country as rich in resources as Canada needs to provide a Guaranteed Liveable Income for those in need, particularly for women with dependents.

EVE believes in order to keep our sisters safe and to encourage healthy and positive sexual relations that allow our women to live with dignity and as equals the following MUST happen:

Criminalization of the male demand for paid sex, pimping, trafficking and procuring.

De-criminalization of the prostituted.

We must NOT open brothels and move the abuse indoors. This would be a gift to pimps and traffickers to have a safe space to house the sold.

Prostituted women must have immediate access to women only detox & long term recovery beds.

A country as rich in resources as Canada must offer guaranteed liveable income for women and their children, as well as others.

Offer resources that allow women to keep their children rather than condemning women for doing their best by apprehending the children and giving resources to others to raise women’s children.

Men must not be allowed to avoid court involvement by offering them john school, anger management classes etc. instead of court. Programs must be offered in conjunction with court involvement and oversight.

The issue of violence against women must be dealt with and taken seriously by law enforcement, prosecution and on a governmental level.

Acknowledge the inherent gendering, racism, classism, and colonialism and keep it in the conversation every time prostitution is discussed.

Women exiting prostitution must be offered long term, consistent services and counselling needed to heal from the trauma of their abuse.

– EVE (formerly Exploited Voices now Educating), a group of prostitution survivors based in Canada

(Link to source)

You might notice that survivors talk about alternatives to prostitution for getting income in conjunction with ending male demand for female bodies. Abolitionists know that poverty is a huge factor as to why many girls and women end up in prostitution and why it is so difficult for them to leave, of course we don’t want to just see some laws put in place and then do nothing else and say that’s it, good luck getting into the workforce. Abolishing the sex industry is inseparably linked with abolishing capitalism and making it possible for all women to have access to basic necessities is an integral part of anti-porn/anti-pimping feminist activism. Obviously getting rid of capitalism isn’t going to happen overnight so for the time being government-funded exiting services, counseling, options for alternative jobs, etc. as mentioned above are important for helping prostituted and formerly prostituted women and girls.

Also, banning the purchase of sex while decriminalising the prostituted has been shown to reduce human trafficking and violence against prostituted women. (source 1, source 2) There are a lot of posts going around claiming the opposite and backed with zero evidence. But hey, if you’re going to believe tumblr posts claiming that “abolitionists are harming sex workers,” then it is upon your willfully deaf ears that will fall the voices of people they claim to speak for.

[problematicselfie-deactivated20]

I have literally never, never seen an abolitionist all for the criminalization of anything other than pimping and solicitation. Porn supporters are such liars, but they have to be because they know they  have nothing but lies on their side.

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