[ID: screenshotted post of @/scretladyspider that reads, "recently read "if you were lazy you'd be having fun" and it has completely shifted my perspective on my own executive dysfuntion and ADHD" end ID].
well. it's helpful take for a lot of people, but i wanna highlight another thing.
having fun ≠ bad. having fun ≠ faking your disability/inability to do something.
executive dysfunction is a very broad category, but if i remember correctly it includes things like emotional regulation, attention switching, ability to transition between tasks, etc.
some disabilities (or reactions on previous experiences) may literally make you unable to do things that don't bring you fun. due to executive dysfunction or other symptoms.
for example, restrictive interests and thinking in autism may make one unable to focus on some tasks. because they just can't put their attention from something they're interested in into something extremely boring and/or confusing. or pda that may make doing tasks emotionally painful because of their demanding nature, while doing something for fun doesn't feel demanding. or other symptoms (and it is applicable to any neurodivergence, i use autism as example because it's something i deal with and that came on my mind first).
also! with any kind of disability that makes one struggle with task, it's easy to develop hatred to the task. because it's taxing, it gives less reward than takes energy, and doing it feels like suffering. it's very understandable to hate suffering and prefer fun activities to suffering.
people don't have to feel miserable to get support needs met. people don't have to feel shame, anxiety, or other bad feelings to "prove" they really need this support and really struggle. people who struggle still deserve have fun and be happy. people with support needs deserve spend time on fun activities or just chilling and don't feel bad about their support needs.
i know this culture "too sick to school/work -> too sick to have fun," but it is false and unfair. people shouldn't be punished and deprived from fun because of their support needs/sickness. when i say that people with support needs deserve being happy, i mean it too. we deserve have fun when our needs get met by someone. we don't have to sit there and apologize and feel shame for not doing it ourselves.
and completely abled people are also allowed to get support with things they despise doing! for example, when they live with something and sharing chores, they may ask other person to do this chore and take something else in exchange. or not take, if the other person is ok with doing extra chore.
having fun doesn't mean you don't need support or don't actually struggle with task.
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