narc abuse does not exist

a blog for cluster Bs and other misunderstood disorders 🏳️‍⚧️🦴🐾🏳️‍🌈

[iloveyouclusterb]

hello⚧️✴️

who are you?

im sinewave (it/he/she/any neopronouns) :^) i have bpd, audhd, cptsd, DID(?), OCD, and a few other things, as well as physical disabilities.

who is this blog for?

anyone with a cluster B disorder (or another stigmatized disorder, but mostly cluster B) and their loved ones.

before you follow...

narc abuse isn't real. pwNPD (and BPD/HPD) are just people who have a trauma disorder. they're not inherently abusive. using the word "narcissist" as a derogatory term contributes to the stigma. if you HAVE experienced abuse, you are always valid and loved. please use language that stigmatizes ABUSE, not personality disorders. i would never say your abuse didn't happen. only that it isn't people with trauma disorder's fault that it happened.

i am not a doctor or psychiatrist. that being said my asks are always open even if i'm too tired to get to it (cfs/pots/heds/whatever my issue is).

i don't do syscourse. there is no "one correct way" to be plural. the human brain is complex and vast and psychiatry has been cruel to people with trauma disorders or "non typical" brains. keep this in mind. mad pride <3

i post in "narc abuse" tags because i want to target the source of ableism. i want to say though that you shouldn't go into these tags. do not bother these people. assume ignorance instead of malice. and also the things they say will likely just hurt you.

remember that i love you. please be nice to yourself

intended for 18+

terms and tags (under cut)

pw(abreviation) - shorthand for "people with". i.e "pwNPD"

NPD - Narcissistic personality disorder

BPD - borderline personality disorder

HPD - histrionic personality disorder

(C)PTSD - (complex) post traumatic stress disorder

ASPD - antisocial personality disorder (often confused with ASD, which is autistic spectrum disorder)

FP - favorite person

if you need any more terms or abbreviations explained, send me an ask!

tags

#not cluster b - unrelated posts

#not mine - reblogs mostly

#not described - includes images with no alt text or descriptions/inaccessible posts

#described - includes images that are accessible to those with screen readers

...to be updated...

[iloveyouclusterb]

its nice when you get to prove all your nasty thoughts wrong and throw kindness around and get it in return ... :) smile

[iloveyouclusterb]

instead of bothering people with trauma disorders, watch freeman's mind or donate to the pcrf :)

[iloveyouclusterb]

people claim ppw/NPD have no empathy and are vile monsters but then i turn around and see them insulting, refusing to see from that person's perspective, being verbally abusive, cruel, and unethically diagnosing them with disorders they cant possibly have. hm.................. almost as if........ the "narc abuse" movement is hurt people lashing out......................................... and not based in fact

[iloveyouclusterb]

diagnosing random characters, objects, and concepts with disorders part one: this fuck ass horse from adventure time has anntisocial personality disorder and absence seizures

[iloveyouclusterb]

OHHH its disability pride!!!!!! happy pride 2

[naamahdarling]

That has to be the most humiliating way to describe one of Earth's most terrifyingly effective predators.

[sapphic-and-stupid]

Picture of her from the USA Today

[teaboot]

I would let her kill me for sport

[vaelus-malewife]

[shower-thoughts-last-responder]

[iloveyouclusterb]

reblog if you have bpd and hate this fucking sklelly ton aand want to chew on his fucking boans like a DOG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[whentherewerebicycles]

saw this on twitter and wanted to save it here

[hauntedselves]

Image transcript:

Thriving: "I got this"

Calm and steady with minor mood fluctuations

Able to take things in stride

Consistent performance

Able to take feedback and to adjust to changes or plans

Able to focus

Able to communicate effectively

Normal sleep patterns and appetite

Surviving: "Something isn't right"

Nervousness, sadness, increased mood fluctuations

Inconsistent performance

More easily overwhelmed or irritated

Increased need for control and difficulty adjusting to changes

Trouble sleeping or eating

Activities and relationships you used to enjoy seem less interesting or even stressful

Muscle tension, low energy, headaches

Struggling: "I can't keep this up"

Persistent fear, panic, anxiety, anger, pervasive sadness, hopelessness

Exhaustion

Poor performance and difficulty making decisions or concentrating

Avoiding interaction with coworkers, family and friends

Fatigue, aches and pains

Restless, disturbed sleep

Self-medicating with substances, food, or other numbing activities

In Crisis: "I can't survive this"

Disabling distress and loss of function

Panic attacks

Nightmares or flashbacks

Unable to fall or stay asleep

Intrusive thoughts

Thoughts of self-harm or suicide

Easily enraged or aggressive

Careless mistakes and inability to focus

Feeling numb, lost, or out of control

Withdrawal from relationships

Dependence on substances, food, or other numbing activities to cope

End transcript.

[moldavite]

hopefully i'll get to do something other than endure soon. that would be really nice

[iloveyouclusterb]

im never gonna post a hate ask i get unless its really really funny. and these ones are only a 7/10 on the funny scale but god damn this one made me laugh. i dont even have NPD why do people keep calling me a narc ,,, not even a hate comment cuz all my NPD friends and mutuals are niceys

the only context ill give is that it was about "using my body to work for others" lmao. thinkin about my bodaayyy .... YOURE GAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[iloveyouclusterb]

I HAVE A FULLTIME JOB SORRY FOR NOT POSTING. IF YOU HAVE NPD/BPD/HPD I HOPE YOU FIND SOMETHING COOL AT THE THRIFT STORE. IF YOU ARE CLUSTER B AND FOUND SOMETHING COOL AT A SECOND HAND PLACE RECENTLY LET ME KNOW PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE

[iloveyouclusterb]

what antipsych is:

strong criticism of therapy, psychiatry, the medical industry in general, pharmaceuticals criticizing overprescribing potentially harmful medications like SSRIs instead of addressing core issues or trying other, less side effect heavy medications defending marginalized people and calling out all bigotry, especially racism and queerphobia stopping stigma against people with disorders like NPD, BPD, HPD, ASPD, POCD, OCD, ZOCD, and Plural people, ect. fighting for mad pride, bodily autonomy, and EVERYONE'S right to be who they are understanding power imbalances and abuse in the therapist's office calling out the DSM for it's ableism, transphobia, racism, ect as well as understanding that it isn't the Final Say of mental illness or what a diagnosis is not pushing a "one size fits all" method to mental health (i.e, talk therapy and medication and if that doesn't work then you're broken go be institutionalized) accepting change, scientific growth, and changing/rebuilding the medical systems in place that have been used to torture mentally ill people (ESPECIALLY BLACK PEOPLE!) for decades, because everyone deserves safety. exposing the long history of abuse in mental health facilities and being against forced institutionalization and "ugly law" rhetoric understanding that "doctor" "psychiatrist" and "therapist" are simply jobs upheld by regular human beings and those human beings can be wonderful or abusive, and wanting a positive change to keep vulnerable people safe and bring advocacy to them.

what it isnt:

saying all medication is harmful and that no one should take meds saying all doctors are literally evil and we don't need them saying that therapy is inherently unhelpful anti-recovery making excuses for mentally ill people that do immoral/awful things saying your diagnosis isn't real or valid saying your trauma isn't real or valid saying neurodivergent people are inherently better or worse wanting to get rid of ALL therapists and doctors

edited for clarity and spelling error lmao

[stelkien]

Also some therapy DOES work, it just can also be harmful when done incorrectly and it's important to be careful of it

[iloveyouclusterb]

yes! for many people therapy is helpful and lifesaving, but for stigmatized people, its traumatizing and hurts them. also, the system is too underfunded to actually enforce proper practices of mental health care or even update various old diagnosis/entries in the DSM/whatever. that, or no one cares or has the interest to do further study.

therapists are just human beings with their own biases. i feel this way towards the physical doctor side of healthcare too.

it boils down to "healthcare companies fuck everyone over but especially the mentally ill/disabled and they hold back progress" and "capitalism evil" lol

[iloveyouclusterb]

pingas for my psychos and freaks... reblog to PINGAS your fellow bpd-ers

[iloveyouclusterb]

ohhh i had a doctor's appointment so i get to be on my meds again :) I'll feel much better after which is nice... i def have POTS though. not fun but we ball.... it's ok i will Survive.. Thrive even...

[iloveyouclusterb]

herobrine has bpd. cuz i said so

[iloveyouclusterb]

have to say, if your response to a post involves the phrase "you people", maybe you arent the most tolerant of people