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phantasm-echo

“Welcome to your life, there’s no turning back…”

aforlorngazeintoyesterday-deact

oh shit we got december tomorrow…

spirit-box-recording-deactivate

you're lying

aforlorngazeintoyesterday-deact

WE GOT DECEMBER TOMORROW

therootbeersprite

elusivist

Guys 2014 is in two months

tiktoks-for-dead-pope

jadedresearcher

I love this post so much I have done everything in my power to make sure I will never forget it via reblogging it every October 5th, in memory of discovering it for the first time

crystallizedtwilight

People I met for a few moments that live in my head forever.

biocrafthero

Babe are you okay? You reblogged crystallizedtwilight’s Strangers that live with me forever. again

morebird

had to draw my favorite wizard again

This ends up being my party, every time.

may12324

The Main six Baldur's Gate Companions

irreparableteacup

i only like enemies to lovers if it’s gay because i think men who are mean to women don’t deserve to live

my-darling-boy

I was sad until I opened the Sims and made a dog called Chocolate Milk and I think you should look at him

queenofthewasteland

i was sad until i opened tumblr and saw a dog called Chocolate Milk and i think you should look at him

sparrowthemormon

Charlie Kirk is scheduled to speak at UVU. I have the opportunity to do the funniest thing of all time

sparrowthemormon

IT WASN'T ME I PROMISE

chaotic-neutral-knitter

I do love the phrase executive dysfunction bc the image it conjures is of a bunch of people wearing business suits around a long oval conference table arguing with each other to the point where they’re getting into physical fights, but in the background there’s just a big empty whiteboard with a To Do list with one item on it and that item is “take shower”

decaffynated

allthingswhumpyandangsty

MAY YOU NEVER LOSE YOUR HYPERFIXATION

itoldyouthings

reminder to all 14-19 year olds girls. that grown man does not like you. you are a victim

fingerlickinbutch-deactivated20

He doesn’t like you, he likes your naivety and willingness to put up with shit most women his age probably won’t

baby-brunette

"you're mature for your age" "you're so special" "you're so different from other girls" pls run in the other direction!

judai-sm

I don’t actually care if someone thinks this is derailing because it’s important.

This applies to all genders on both sides. Teen boys often get left out of these posts, but they are also preyed upon like this, by men and women and also people who are neither because no one is incapable of being a predator. This post shouldn’t be gendered. You can say it happens to girls more, and it could be true. But it happens to boys and they are less likely to talk about it when they get hurt. Less likely to get support if they do, especially if the older person was a woman. I don’t think we have an accurate statistic on how often it happens to boys because of this.

But regardless. Don’t you think they should be told how to stay safe too?

youngestthunderbird

One of my coworkers told me about a good friend of his, a guy that ‘had a thing’ with an older woman in her mid-twenties that started when he was about fifteen. He talked about how their friend group thought it was cool, how they were a little jealous of him. She was pretty and interested, which is any fifteen year old boy’s dream.

The older they got, though, the weirder it got. She got pregnant by this kid when he was still seventeen. Thankfully he went to the authorities and got custody of the baby when he was an adult, but my coworker kind of laughed it off as kids being stupid. I think he thought I would just dismiss it, which is heartbreaking.

I asked him if it would have been okay if it was a fifteen year old female friend and a twenty five year old guy. He immediately replied that it would NOT have been okay, he and his friends would have beaten the guy up.

The dissonance is real, guys. There’s a kid who was groomed at fifteen and a single dad at nineteen because his friends and family only gave this message to girls. This message matters to everyone- no matter your gender, no matter the gender of the other person- if you are a child and an adult is ‘interested’ in you, RUN AWAY. They don’t have your best interests at heart, and that’s not love at all.

prometheus-rewound

Also to add— this is also a decently sized issue in the gay community. Often, young guys (cis and trans alike btw) will look to older men to try and find community, and then get taken advantage of by their mentors. It’s literally such a thing this age gap/mentor trope is literally everywhere.

To any young queer teens, especially young men (based on my experience), an adult mentor trying to push boundaries is not normal. An adult of any kind trying to pursue a relationship with you, a teenager, is not normal.

I know it can be incredibly hard to be young and queer, but it will get better. There are safe ways to find community I promise you. If an adult tries to convince you that a relationship with them is ‘normal’, or a regular part of being gay, or, similar to what has been said, you are mature enough etc— these are not genuine comments. Inappropriate and dangerous relationships are not normal, and just because they may have seemed normal to your peers or even to the queer adults in your life DOES NOT MEAN you need to follow those steps.

In general, to teens out there please just listen to your gut. Talk to other adults in your life, talk to your friends. And if someone you are in a relationship with (especially if they are an adult) doesn’t want you to talk to these people, you ESPECIALLY should.