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Feriha, the turkish show, is extremely realistic about college life...because like the girl is getting kidnapped, forcibly engaged, then eloped, estranged from her family, a suicide attempt and STILL worried about a late project????
She will be having the WORST day of her life and STILL show up to the university the next day with unwashed hair, messy bun, under eye bags, and hell lotta courage!!!
Hello PS! Hope you are doing well and everything is going okay on your end. First of all, I was to convey my heartfelt thanks to you for this awesome site and your amazing posts that keeps fans like me enthralled and escape from reality. I am interested in knowing your thoughts on why IPKKND became such a smashing hit and why are we so much invested and drawn in to this story? I know you are not too keen on us giving you options so I will just stop with an open ended question ☺️ Thank you somuch
Hi!
Awww, this is so sweet! Thanks :) I’m glad you like the blog!!
IPKKND was made in the era of saas-bahu serials -- serials that were defined by what we now call kitchen politics: issues that women encounter in shared households. They’re relatable and sometimes fun and reassure the audience that their experience is not out of the ordinary.
Into this landscape came IPKKND -- a youth-based romantic drama that focussed as much on the depiction (and to some extent, validation) of lust between the lead characters as it did on True Love. A drama in which the male lead had more to do than stand in the background and provide reactions, a drama in which the female lead had agency (I’ll come back to this).
It’s difficult to see in retrospect but 4Lions broke and subverted many tellywood tropes with IPKKND. I’m not saying that it was the first Bad Boy meets Good Girl story, or that it was the first time we were shown an Angry Young Man with a Heart of Gold. They’d tried much of it with Geet, and Pratigya was being played at around the same time. But the way it told this story changed the landscape of tellywood.
IPKKND balanced everything it wanted to do quite well. It told a story about two families but balanced it with stories about the Alpha and Beta couples. Compared to serials that came before and after it, IPKKND didn’t get lost in its sub-plots, didn’t introduce characters just to forget about them, and was generally a very focussed, enjoyable story until it reached the end of its original story arc. And then it ended. I believe this is one of the most important aspects of its lingering success: that it ended before amnesia or an evil twin had to be introduced to extend the storyline.
IPKKND is one of the most syndicated shows in tellywood. It’s been successful in most of the markets it’s been introduced to. There’s a kind of universal appeal to this story. I think it, again, comes down to balance. Khushi is presented as the Every Woman -- the female audience is encouraged to see themselves in her. But she has a lot of agency.
There’s a tendency in shows to present the female lead as someone things happen to. By this I mean that the female lead is often a bit like a billiard ball -- she goes through life in a set direction and external forces change her trajectory. People are mean to her, they plot against her and misunderstand her, but she doesn’t cause any of it and is always blameless.
Some folks go through life this way -- framing events as though they have little to no agency and things happen to them and around them rather than seeing themselves as actively involved. This framing works for that audience and I definitely see it in much of the interpretation and analysis of this show. It’s present in 99% of the fanfiction written around it.
But IPKKND puts Khushi and Arnav at the front and centre of their story. They make things happen. Their (often bad) decisions and actions cause much of the conflict in the serial. Shyam is just there as a catalyst and as a vehicle for Devi Maiyya’s will -- Arnav and Khushi destroy themselves and their relationships more thoroughly than Shyam could ever dream of doing. (After all, his plans usually fail!!).
So I think this is one of the reasons for its popularity. Whether the audience recognises it or not, it’s IPKKND is framed slightly differently from other serials in the same genre.
Another contributing factor is Arnav -- he straddles the line between Angry Young Man and Abusive Jerk admirably for a tellywood character. There’s something about our social conditioning that tells women that slightly aggressive (and a little angry) men are more desirable (I guess the idea is that they’re strong and they can protect us). But with that comes the expectation that, however much of an ass he is to others, he will be caring and loving towards those he loves. The challenge is to convince him that we belong in that inner circle. IPKKND plays into this with gusto.
The alpha-male lead is caring and protective towards his family, particularly his sister. An atheist, but he keeps a permanent temple in his home for his family. A self-made businessman and workaholic, but he always leaves work to come home if someone needs him. A rich and powerful man, but he rehearses apologies in the mirror. Arnav represents an ideal that is rarely found in reality, but it’s an ideal many of us (unconsciously?) strive for. Khushi certainly does.
She’s almost immediately attracted to the Bad Boy aspects of Arnav. He’s so forbidden, so outside the realm of what she’s expected to be attracted to, that she’s drawn to him. And Khushi isn’t some paragon of goodness either -- there’s an answering darkness in her that makes them perfect for one another. She helps him heal from a trauma and he becomes her anchor.
And while I say all this, we have to recognise that IPKKND is far from perfect. It can be problematic in its normalisation of abusive behaviour and its refusal to examine exactly how and when Khushi went wrong. It places too much emphasis on some things and not enough on others. It does not, in my opinion, depict a relationship we should aspire to -- men like Arnav are more likely to genuinely be abusive than have a heart of gold hidden deep inside and shows like this teach us to keep digging rather than cut loose and find someone else.
But in the end, IPKKND transcends its tropes to become something more. It’s the combination of the story, the clever use of tropes and motifs, the brilliant cinematography, the high production values, the balance of comedy and romance, the balance of family and individual subplots, the amazing casting, and the fantastic acting :)
advice that would have helped me in college:
Go for the decaf option. You're already drinking energy drinks. Don't give your body too much caffeine, as it might cause issues.
On the weekend, get out of bed early and go grocery shopping. Once you're done grocery shopping, go straight back home and meal prep. Wash the produce and put them in serving-sized containers. Make your lunches and dinners for the week. Get it done within the next couple of hours after you shop. Once you're done meal prepping, go back to bed and take a nap.
Unpack all of your things. Get everything out of the boxes. Go through everything that's in your dorm. Donate the things you don't need anymore. The sooner you get your dorm organized in the beginning of the year, the sooner you can get a cleaning schedule/organization system going and the less stress your environment is going to cause.
Learn which places are good to study in before 8am and after 5pm. On a college campus, usually there are plenty of buildings that you can access after 5pm, because colleges need to provide study space. However, learning which places are open before 8am is important too, because you might need to get some early morning studying in without disturbing your roommates.
Learn how to budget. You deserve to have fun and use your academic breaks the way you want. Save up your money, so that you can have spring break to yourself and you can have a solo vacation. Even if budgeting isn't a "big deal" in college, it makes for good practice.
Don't be afraid to talk to professors. They're there to help you. You're there to get an education, and their job is to provide that for you. Get your money's worth.
Be creative with the dining hall options. You can sneak in your own food and combine it with the food you have in your meal. For example, I brought in a rice cake and I used their peanut butter and bananas to make a PB Banana rice cake.
Similarly, bring containers with you to the dining hall. If you like the way they make apple sauce, then put their apple sauce in a container. Bring multiple plates and do a little meal prep. Get food to go.
This is more of a wish than a "habit," but try to establish a good boundary between school and everything else. Set rules for yourself. "If I can't complete at least two of these readings, then I won't go to the club meeting tonight."
This is advice from my own school: Every hour in class means two hours of studying/prep for the class beforehand. For example, if the class is 1 hour 35 minutes long, then that's around 3 hours of studying before the class. It doesn't have to be done all at once, but schedule accordingly.
Go to the school counselor. They may not be the best at dealing with specific mental health problems, but they can be a good place to vent without judgment.
If your professor requires you to submit written reflections of your readings, don't antogonize over it too much. "Eh, it probably sounds stupid but it meets the minimum requirements" is better than no reflection submitted.
Learn as much as you can about the resources your college provides and use as much of them as you can. Whether its health/medical, career, academic, disability accomodations, etc. get your money's worth.
If you want to read more, spending at least 15 minutes or reading at least 10 pages per day is a small amount that adds up over time. One of my regrets is not reading more of the books from the school library, since many of them were on niche subjects and were extremely interesting.
If you suspect that you have a learning disability (e.g. ADHD), research the symptoms and management techniques for them, even if you don't have the resources to get diagnosed and treated. I strongly suspect that I have Inattentive ADHD, but I couldn't seek a diagnosis while in college (or now). Learning study techniques and management strategies for people who have similar struggles would have been very helpful for me, rather than going with generic advice for people who had a more neurotypical brain.
Honor your bedtime. I know that college students like to stay up late and pull all-nighters, but my mental and physical health would have been a lot better if I made my nights as peaceful as possible and went to bed on time. Turn your night routine into a ritual. The hour or two before you go to bed should be to help you get a full night's rest. It's time for you, so be selfish and treat it like it's sacred. You deserve it.
disclaimer: this advice may or may not help you. take what works, and leave what doesn't work. it's okay if the advice given doesn't 100% apply to you.
Inspired by the iconic wanted poster
this magnificent artist ... @sunnnliwx is their @ on most things I believe . please show your support because this is absolutely beautiful .
HELL YES, look how scared they are at the public's reaction, this is amazing
yeah so here's the thing
It *is* "flatly inconsistent with stable democracy," but not in the way WaPo means. Basically these health insurance companies have squashed democratic ways of changing their predatory and loathsome practices. So this happens, and the public reacts this way, because they feel like United Healthcare and other companies have placed themselves above the democratic system and become too powerful to be held accountable by it.
Denying someone the life saving health care they need kills a person, as surely as a bullet does, but people who kill in this way are not considered murderers. But this is wrong, and the public knows it. A knife is no more or less moral of a murder weapon than a gun, which is no more or less moral of a murder weapon than paperwork. Whether you kill someone by pulling a trigger or making a phone call, whether with one big wound or a thousand tiny ones, you still caused someone's death.
Do I agree with murder? No. Am I willing to judge that any human being deserves death? No. Do I think it's absurd to expect widespread indignation and mourning at the death of one rich man when no indignation and no mourning was necessary to honor a thousand poor men killed by the decisions of rich men? Yes. Do I think it's absurd to expect people to condemn this one murderer of one rich man, while also expecting the many murderers of many poor men to be accepted, beloved, and shielded from justice? Yes.
Putting it in a simple metaphor, this guy helped carve a massive monolith that read "HUMAN LIVES HAVE NO VALUE OUTSIDE OF THEIR USE TO YOU. THIS IS THE SUPREME LAW." and now he's dead, shot dead like any common person, and someone is saying "This is so tragic and unacceptable! Human lives have value!" but everybody is distracted and a little put off by the, you know, the huge monolith.
Why do they keep accidentally making him look like the coolest person alive don’t they want us to hate him
"We are very effective. Please raise our budget."
The color composition is exquisite. Just could not have been designed better to elevate him to sainthood. A+ failure to plan, NYPD. Also, I cannot get over how the safety glasses on the lead comically-overarmed choad make him look like a Central Casting item reading "guy who thinks he's a badass but everyone knows he's a fuckup who'll lose his shit and make a high-pitched scream as soon as anything happens".
The visual composition of picture #3 is indistinguishable from classical art. Once again, news photographers are absolutely proving how fantastically good they are at their jobs (and how fantastically artistic they are).
i was supposed to go to bed an hour ago dont tell my mom
my mom says i have to go to bed now which one of u meaners told
who the fudge changed ‘fudgers’ to ‘meaners’
WHO CHANGED IT FROM FUDGERS TO FUDGERS I WILL KISS THE POPSICLE DONT TICKLE ME JAMBOREE
and here we have an artifact of the days when you could edit posts when you reblogged…now we are all Internet Archeologists
world heritage post
One of the many weird things about depression is that it retcons your life. Not only are you lying in bed feeling like a piece of shit and that everything is awful, but you start projecting those feelings back along your own time stream - you start low-key believing you’ve always felt this way, that nothing good has ever happened, or if it has it happened a long time ago.
On January 1st of last year I decided to start keeping a tally of good days and bad days, because I stopped trusting my brain to report on that accurately. I expected to come and look at the tally when I was depressed and go “oh, I had a good day only a few days ago. this hasn’t always been like this.”
What I didn’t expect was that the process of asking myself whether a day had been good or bad would radically shift my perspective on what a bad day was and what a good day was. On the very first day, when I’d achieved nothing and had felt sad and slow all day, I went to put a notch in the Bad Day column before stopping myself:
wait, i thought. has today actually been bad? not bad enough to write it off. i played rummikub online with my partner. i drank some water. i had a long bath. no, today wasn’t a bad day.
And so I put a notch in the Good Day column and went to bed. The next day I did the same thing, and the next day, and the next day. Just the process of going over my day every day meant that I found at least one good thing that happened every day. I had a good meal. I went to the pub and was around people, albeit quietly. I went for a walk. I saw a duck. There were days where truly awful, terrible things happened, but even on those days there was always something - even if the something was a simple as We Were There For Each Other or We Reminisced.
On December 31st I put the final tally down. Not a single day had been so bad that I could justify writing it off as a bad day. The bad day column was completely empty.
I’m still depressed, occasionally deeply, but I think I have more perspective. Depression is a physical feeling, and an emotional feeling, but even without trying *something* comes along every day that makes me glad I’m here despite that feeling.
This sort of thing is coming from the same place as my “write down three things per day that went right” method for getting out of depressive states.
The thing I find depression does is moves your mental “Overton Window” - it makes it so much easier to spot the miserable things, the horrible things, the annoying things, the things which went wrong, and it takes time, effort and above all practice to figure out how to shift your frame of reference back in a less negative direction.
*white knuckling the bathroom sink* do NOT infodump ppl about the fact that the first spn fic was a wincest one and that it was posted mere hours after the pilot and that the founder of ao3 was a wincestie and that the first fic on ao3 was wincest too and that the omegaverse as we know it was created by wincest shippers for jared/jensen fics *pointing at myself in the mirror with a shaky hand* ppl will think you're weird and off-putting you need to control yourself–
it's fundamental fandom history 😤 and honestly the amount of people who think wincest is an aberration in spn fandom and those that think ao3 shouldn't allow "problematic" content and be fully censored should know these things so they can be aware of where these cultural juggernauts started.
not them asking naomi novik AKA ASTOLAT if she was okay with incest fics of her characters when she was the one in the trenches writing wincest fics and founding ao3 so people could have a place to post their works without censorship. that's absolutely hilarious I have to find that post
YES my brother in christ she WROTE THE PROPOSAL !
May. 17th, 2007
An Archive of One's Own
AO3 was created out of collective effort, and she was the one who started it all. It's incredible to see how many of her ideas in this proposal ended up actually happening. So many things we now take for granted were crazy dreams at first
The deep history and why I shake my head at people who were toddlers when ao3 was conceived think that they'll get anywhere with arguments about fandom purity.
Like, there's a ton of shit on ao3 that I don't bother with because it is very much not my thing but I am deeply grateful that ao3 exists as it does because the things I do like, even the super fluffy g rated fics, would be considered just as "bad" by various religions and governments. And if I want to be able to read sweet gay coffeeshop found family or wish fulfillment time travel fixit featuring complex qpp and gay ships, the best guarantee of being able to do so is a place where everything goes. Because my "non-problematic" innocent fluff is absolute perversion according to some people. I know because they yelled at me before I turned off anon comments. And even the country I live in used to require unhappy endings for queer characters if it allowed them at all in many forms of media.
I absolutely avoid the kind of fic that ao3 was founded on and I am still deeply grateful that it exists.
an even less exhaustive list of femme literature
since a made of a list of butch lit, I thought it would be nice to make a list of femme writing by (mostly) femme authors as well. books I've read myself in bold; take the rest with a grain of salt. I'd really appreciate additions, especially of fiction!
fiction:
dykette by jenny fran davis
perfume and pain by anna dorn
trash by dorothy allison
all the pretty girls by chandra mayor
femme confidential by nairne holtz
bottle rocket hearts by zoe whittall
nonfiction:
brazen femme: queering feminity ed chloe brushwood rose and anna camilleri
femme: feminists, lesbians, and bad girls ed laura harris and elizabeth crocker
the femme mystique ed leslea newman
out of the closet and nothing to wear by leslea newman
fierce femmes and notorious liars by kai cheng thom
dirty river by leah lakshmi piepzna-samarasinha
s/he by minnie bruce pratt
naked in the promised land by lillian faderman
a restricted country by joan nestle
rust belt femme by raechel anne jolie
my dangerous desires by amber hollibaugh
odd girls and twilight lovers by lillian faderman
another mother tongue by judy grahn
boots of leather, slippers of gold by elizabeth lapovsky and madeline davis
the persistent desire ed joan nestle
persistence: all way butch and femme ed ivan coyote and zena sharman
articles/essays:
our own words by rosza daniel lang/levitsky in e-flux
high femme camp antics by jenny fran davis in la review of books
with gratitude and struggle by nan alamilla boyd in autostraddle
that time I went on a lesbian cruise and blew up my life by shannon keating in buzzfeed
femme-inism by paula austin in colonize this!
LESS movies about the lgbtq experience MORE movies about people who just happen to be lgbtq. is it really that hard to understand
I don't wanna see another story abt a teenage boy coming out to his parents and closed mouth kissing his boyfriend at prom where's my spy thriller action heist movie w a cast made entirely of dykes and femme gay men you know what I'm fucking talkinf about. I'm tired of The Queer Struggle I struggle every stupid day I know what that's all about and honestly none of the coming out stories are cathartic or whatever to me. I don't care. I wanna see a nonbinary person fight a dragon
they don't even know about thai, japanese, taiwanese, chinese and south korean queer love tv industry thriving..
they don't even know that in 2025 just one thai company will release tv shows on youtube for free where a depressed grocery store owner woman falls in love with her bubbly customer, where 6 women will be in a toxic love hexagon with each other, two gay vampires shows, a show where a cancelled male broadcast host gets back together with his journalist ex, where two men are investigating murders together while fighting sexual tension, where a bunch of high school boys are falling in love at first sight and nothing hurts, an enemies to lovers gay story about fashion majors, a dark horny love triangle between male coworkers, a messy show about a group of men sleeping with each other on a theatre play set, a convicted young man falling love with an amnesiac prince whom he found on a beach, a romantic comedy series about two brothers scamming two rich men into shotgun marrying them to get divorce benefits, horror gay romance where a young man loses memories of his suspicious criminologist ex, a story about two boyfriends who work as primary school teachers, an ensemble show that includes: a group of trans friends looking for love, high school enemies to lovers destined to be together and gang rivals falling for each other. then also cat cafe show where a man who can talk to cats has hots for the new cafe owner, a doctor and a man who can see the future having their love bloom while they are in hiding together, crack story about a guyfailure having a gig of searching for evidence that a flight attendant's captain boyfriend is cheating on him, show where a dramatic mafia heir raised on soap operas falls for the guy who gives him an earful about consent and manners, a magical fortune teller offering a failed athlete to be his assistant, a noble man romancing a translator commoner in 1920s Thailand, and a show where a pastor's young protege fights his feelings for the defiant new boy in their seminary. and only two of those 22 shows have the concept of homophobia exist in them
please for the love of god give us names I only recognize a couple of the shows in the pictures and none of us can know the company unless you tell us please
@jimmyfury absolutely
1-2 KinnPorsche (mafia boss/his bodyguard, evil mafia heir/his hostage)
3 Jack and Joker (mafia, heist and robberies)
4 Spare Me Your Mercy (a story about ethics of euthanasia, doctor/cop)
5-6 The Sign (two special unit officers who are reincarnated from a mythological thai bird deity and a snake dragon)
7 Petrichor (forensic doctor/cop)
8 Uranus2324 (astronaut and her girlfriend)
9 The Loyal Pin (a princess and a noble lady)
10 Mhom Ped Sawan (two concubines of an emperor)
11 Ayaka Is In Love With Hiroko (office lesbians)
12 Old Fashion Cupcake (a 39 year old office worker and his 29 year old assistant going to dessert cafes)
13 Our Dining Table (food feelings show)
14 Anti Reset (android caretaker falls in love with a human)
15 Love Tractor (farmer boy/big city musician)
16 Word of Honor (ancient chinese fantasy assasins)
17 Couple of Mirrors (a socialite/an assassin)
18 Meet You At The Blossom (ancient chinese fantasy, rich brat falls for a crossdressing assassin who he thinks is a young lady)
19 Love for Love's Sake (a man gets thrown inside a video game to help his favourite character)
20 The Spirealm (a man accidentally signs up for a mystical real life vr horror game)
here is a bigger list of summaries, and where and how to watch, have fun if it works out
the company that will make the described earlier tv shows in 2025 is GMMTV and almost everything they make is free on youtube and has subtitles
There are that many??
dude wool is magic it's like I can actually thermoregulate in the cold now what the hell
I bought some 100% wool clothes from thredup (2 sweaters and 2 pairs of pants which I think are like some type of business casual pants that happen to fit loosely on me and they are comfy) and I'm???? Warm???? Without overheating and getting sweaty and dehydrated???? There's still snow on the ground outside and I just came back in and I'm not chilled????
thank you sheep....
why are people pretending that sex is the only axis upon which some people willingly enjoy things that hurt/scare them
BDSM is evil and irrational and nobody is actually into it. now if you’ll excuse me i have to go eat sour candy advertised on the basis that it will hurt my mouth + get on a roller coaster to activate my flight or fight response + read a tragedy that makes me cry + watch a horror movie that will scare me + participate in combat sports for fun and entertainment
boxing is literally just self harm. oh, it isn’t, you say?
why, because people can do what they want with their bodies? because everyone in the ring is consenting? because there are parameters and precautions to keep it from causing the same results as actual violence? because there’s a technique and catharsis involved that some people really enjoy? because even “psychologically healthy” people participate in it? well do i have some news for you about sex!
yes this, but also consider the Cranford Collection
I'm surprised no one brought up Chiltern classics
PLEASE DO NOT USE TIKTOK AS A RESOURCE FOR HELLENIC POLYTHEISM
Tiktok is probably one of THE WORST places to learn about REAL hellenic polytheism because it is rampant with misinformation and most creators are only interested in views and parroting misinformation THEY heard. Yes there are some great and informative creators on there to learn about the hellenic gods but they are far and few in-between.
INSTEAD if you're new to the religion and have no clue where to start researching/learning, here are a few phenomenal creators on here with wonderful and informative posts!
@wisdom-devotee has an amazing guide for starting out in hellenic polytheism
@seasaltdevotion also recently made a fantastic post on resources for starting out
@crazycatsiren has a SUPER long list of resources and research material
@khaire-traveler has possibly the greatest list on subtle deity worship for just about every god
Please actually learn from those of us that truly love and covet this religion and spread information that will truly benefit you.
Athena Subtle Worship: Symbols and Domains
Wisdom:
— 📚 Read greek mythology books
— 📚 Study daily for university
— 📚 Devote my study session to her
— 📚 Learn Chess
— 📚 Research Ancient Civilizations, Especially Ancient Greece
— 📚 Put your education and university above romantic relantionships
Animals
— 🦉Research, support and watch documentaries about owls
— 🦉Become a night owl
— 🦉 Research and Learn about snakes
— 🦉 Have plushies of snakes, owls.
— 🦉 Have a amulet of an owl
— 🦉 Research about owl as a spirit animal
Crafts
—🧵 Learn sewing and knitting
— 🧵 Grow a plant in her honor
— 🧵 Cook with olive oil or create something with it (own essential oils)
War
— 🗡️Learn how your area was used in past wars
— 🗡️ Read dystopian novels of war
— 🗡️ Have a self-defense tool in your bag
Justice
— ⚖️ Learn about the history of women’s rights
— ⚖️ Practice Fairness with yourself and others
— ⚖️ Study the laws and politics of your country.
Misc.
— 🩶 Honor her every 3rd of the month
— 🩶 Put boundaries in relantionship, learn your boundaries
— 🩶 Stand up for yourself
— 🩶 Practice self-confidence
