“You’re just playing the victim!”
In our society, if something traumatic or bad or negative happens to you, you get penalized for “making a big deal” out of it (ie calling it out and admitting you’ve been horribly affected by it) and you get rewarded for hushing it up and acting like it’s not a big deal.
(One of the worst accusations anyone can say to someone who’s survived something horrible is “You’re just playing the victim!” - when all you’re doing is being honest about what happened and how f*cked up you are from it.)
If something bad happens to you, and do you feel like it needs to be shared with others either for your own help or to help others that is the correct way of handling a situation. For the most part when people say people are playing the victim, it means that they are blaming something for something that is completely unrelated. No matter what type of trauma residual scars or whatever are left from your incident, no matter what it might be, you have the responsibility to carry on and live your life. You cannot hide behind the trauma. If you need help, seek help. If you need assistance, seek assistance. but falling into what we call the victimhood mindset, means that you feel entitled two more than you actually are












